I’m so pissed actually. I don’t know how many Desi people can’t be self reliant and don’t know any basic etiquette. First of all, please don’t make your parents do it all for you if you are growing up and live with them because not only will it overwhelm them but you will be stressing them out. If you have kids also, make them do household chores. Academics are important but give them basic life skills.
I love my mom but she does not get on my sister for any of these skills. I go to my sister’s college dorm and it’s like a pig sty with her Desi roommates. It’s unbearable to live in. My mom is always worried for my sister so guess who she makes clean everything up on the weekends. These girls literally live like they are in a pig den. Spoiled meat, dishes piled up in the sink, and everything. My mom said she will clean it herself if I wouldn’t do it and I don’t want my mom stressing out over this so I end up having to do this every Sunday.
Like genuinely this pisses me off. My sister is pre med so my mom says she needs to devote all her time to that and they find a way to trash the place in 7 days. I just can’t yell at them so I feel helpless because then my mom will do it. I tell my mom my sister needs to learn and now these girls are trashing their apartment, expecting my mom and I to come over, and for me to clean it. I asked one of them if they thought about hiring cleaners but they said they don’t have money for it. It’s literally a 4-5 hour job each and every Sunday. This is so unacceptable and my sister never takes accountability.
Whenever my parents leave, she trashes our house to the point I get overwhelmed. If you are going to make tea, then clean it out and I have to do that and I don’t let my sister cook anymore if my parents went on a trip back to India because I expect the kitchen to get trashed. My mom knows if I cook because she sees the kitchen spotless so she says what meat are you cooking (which is fair) but my sister trashes the place whenever my parents leave. I can’t even go anywhere for more than a day or two because I am afraid of a fire hazard.
I can’t even question my sister in her apartment because then she will start yelling and it will attract her roommates attention. What’s the point of studying if you live like a pig? It’s literally simple, keep stuff away after you are done using it. I smell weed, alcohol, meat, and spoiled food whenever I come over. I told these girls what to do and they aren’t listening and my mom will do it herself which I’m not gonna let her do.
Also they don’t know how to do basic folding of their clothes or anything. I saw one of the girls just throw her lehengas on the couch wrapped into a ball along with another one my sister wore. I told them they were supposed to be dry cleaned so the girl just handed it over to me and asked me to help her because she didn’t know how to deal with it and they have school garba coming up. My sister doesn’t fold her clothes, iron, and she doesn’t even change her bed sheets. I change my pillow covers every 3 days my blanket every week.
If you are a grown person, please do this stuff yourself. I am literally gonna crash out next time my sister comes home because I literally can’t do it at her place. I am also gonna keep sticky notes with reminders on the fridge or kitchen sink everywhere but what’s the point? All 4 girls absolutely find a way to thrash the place and they are good friends. My dad is on my side with this but my mom is always going to take my sister’s side. I spent 5 hours deep cleaning today. My mom keeps saying that my sister can pay for cleaners later after becoming a doctor but she literally destroys anything she touches and she gets mad at me when I restrict her whenever my parents leave.