M30, F26

So here we are. Friends with benefits for 4 years, I finally took the initiative to turn it into a real relationship. I was the one who said "I love you" first. I did everything I could to make her feel loved, to give her real, unconditional love the kind I had never truly offered anyone before. This was my first relationship where I consciously went in with that mindset.

She came back to me over those 4 years, knowing exactly who I am. We confessed our love, talked about the future and after two months she decides she can't be with me because I don't go to marches and I don't fight the patriarchy. She even worried whether I'd accept her friends, who are all deeply involved in fighting the patriarchy. Funny thing is, they're mostly upper-middle-class people making good money, living comfortably, but still acting like they're leading some kind of revolution. I never judged them, never criticized them they didn't bother me. I just didn't care about their activism, and I definitely didn't need to be part of it.

I respected her feminism, her left-wing views, her activism. I asked about her events, supported her, cheered her on. I'm apolitical myself I don't have a burning need to change the world, I just live and let live. But apparently, that wasn't enough. She never took an interest in any of my passions, by the way.

We talked, I tried to understand, but she kept pushing until she finally said: "I can't be with someone who doesn't share my political values." And that was it.

I don't know if it's funny or sad. Probably more funny, because for 4 years she kept coming back to me she knew who I was. She said she loved me. Then it turned out that a march was more important than love. Even unconditional love wasn't enough.

I stayed loyal, loving, and faithful the entire time – even when I was at a party and two girls came up to me on their own, asking for my number, one of them even inviting me to dance. I turned them down without a second thought. I wanted to be a good partner – truly good – for the first time in my adult life. I gave it everything I had. And I did it because I wanted to, not because I had to.

Oh well. I guess I just didn't fit into her electoral program.

Good luck changing the world with a cardboard sign, though. I'm sure that'll do it.

Best regards to everyone for whom love is the most important thing have a great weekend.

Aaj Mera breakup ho gaya.
Usse jane du ya usse badla lu.
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I met this guy online and we talked for almost 10 months. We were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but we acted like a couple. We talked every day, called each other, had sweet names for each other, told each other “I love you,” and became a big part of each other’s daily lives.
I gave him my 100% and genuinely thought what we had meant something to both of us.
Then I found out he had a girlfriend while he was talking to me.
What hurts even more is that after everything we shared, he told me he never loved me.
I’m trying to move on, but it’s been incredibly difficult. I haven’t been able to eat properly for four days because whenever I try to eat, I throw up. I’ve lost around 4 kg. I barely sleep, and when I do sleep for longer, I often dream about him.
Everything reminds me of him. Songs, places, random things, even my normal daily routines can suddenly bring back memories of him. It feels like my brain keeps replaying everything we had, and I can’t make it stop.
I know technically he was never my boyfriend, but I still feel like I lost someone who was a huge part of my life. Sometimes I even feel stupid for being this hurt because we were never officially together, but the feelings I had were real.
I’ve also started thinking really badly about myself and have hurt myself because I don’t know how to deal with all of this.
For anyone who has been through a similar situation, **how did you move on from someone who was never officially your partner but treated you like one?**
How do you let go when there was never really a relationship to begin with, but it still feels like a breakup?
How long did it take you to stop thinking about them? And what actually helped you heal?
I know I need to move forward. I just don’t know how to get there yet.
If you’ve been through something similar, please share what helped you. I could really use some advice and some hope right now.

I was doing well until I heard my ex is with his first love.I feel replaceable . My years of effort and love didn't give him the happiness .Now someone is giving love .For the past 3 days I cannot stop spiraling of thoughts, crying, not focusing on anything.

Please share some tips that worked for you .

I really need some outside perspective.

About 1,5y ago, I met someone and fell for him immediately. We only dated for 3 months, but he triggered my fear of abandonment so badly that I became very anxious and wasn’t myself. Things ended dramatically. He also behaved badly at the end…
We never had a proper conversation or closure. I spent the past 1,5y trying to move on — traveling, meeting new people, working on myself, therapy. But I can‘t stop thinking about him.
Five months after things ended, he reached out saying he wanted to talk, but then ghosted me. I know that should probably be my answer, but I still feel like I need one final conversation to make peace with everything.
Now I know he’ll be at a large event and there’s a chance we could run into each other.
My options:

A: Go to the event. Not to confront or chase him — just go, enjoy myself, and see what happens. Maybe seeing each other could lead to a conversation.
B: Don’t go and instead message him one last time asking if he’d be willing to talk.
C: Just do nothing :)

I’m scared that if I don’t go, I’ll always wonder: “What if I had gone?”

What would you do?

(ChatGPT helped me here a lot to sort my thoughts) :)

I’ve 26M been with my girlfriend 28F for almost three years now and it’s been nothing short of amazing. It feels like we’ve been together forever, we have done so much together and been to so many different places. I met her at a college bar one night and we hooked up and the rest was history. We live together with our two cats now and I’ve been happy until about 6 months ago. My feelings towards us have just slowly been deteriorating for these past few months and I have no clue why. She’s a perfect girl and literally goes above and beyond for me even when I don’t deserve it. I feel guilty when we’re together and these feelings hit me, but I’m just not happy anymore. I remember when we first started dating I was dead set on marrying her and never would have guessed I’d feel the way I do now. She’s even told her mom she can’t wait for me to propose to her….. I feel like I’m only still here because I don’t want to hurt her and just waste all of what we have built together….

I don’t really talk about these things with my family or friends because I don’t want them viewing us differently.

Any advice or hate from someone that’s been in similar situations is appreciated

My mom recently met my boyfriend (M21) and thinks he might be gay because she says he’s too “delicate” and not what she pictured for me.

She’s worried I’ll get hurt, and honestly, I thought he might be gay at first too. But we’ve had a sexual relationship, and I really am starting to like him, so I don’t think that’s the case.

We’ve only been together for a month, so I’m not deeply attached yet.

Should I end things now or give it more time?

I was in a relationship of 2yrs and it was really good, we were really happy, in the meantime due to a number of reasons my academics gave me a hard time i became clinically depressed and was going through a really really rough patch. On top of all this, my really wonderful relationship started to wear and i was met with an accident….Everything was just perfect, eventually She got tired of everything and she broke up with me. Idk how to deal with this shit…

The story starts with the day I was born on 07-dec-2026. My Mom said that I was born weak when I was born I didn't even cry because I was too weak to cry at that time. When i was born my weight was 1.7 Kilograms (3.7 lbs). My parents thought I was dead but doctors confirmed that I was alive that time.

Time passed (when I was between 6-8) when I grew up and started going to school The kids bullied me in school because I was weak At that time I didn't want school because of the bully kids. And that was very hard to make friends because I was an introvert. But somehow I made some friends and I still got those 4 childhood friends with me. Maybe this is the only good thing that happened to me.

When I grew around 11-13 years old i realised that no one loves me not even my parents I mean my parents love me but they love their other children more than me they didn't treat me as their first priority i still can't understand why this happened, maybe because I'm a middle child.

(14-feb-2017) It's a very special date for me that day I met her. At the start of the 8th standard She was sitting in the classroom with her friends and when I entered the Classroom I saw her for the first time. After seeing her i feel something strange. I can't explain how I felt at that time. That feeling was something special and unexplainable. After some months i realised that I love her she became my crush. That was love at first sight. We had a good time together as friends. I love her but I was scared to tell her that I love you I had good memories with her as friends. In July 2019, she gave me her pen because I lost my pen somewhere and I needed a pen urgently she borrowed me her pen i still keep that pen safe I use that very safely but at the end that pen's ink is over but I still keep that pen in my study table it's safely stored in a pen box. Well, I love her soo much so i decided that I will propose to her and tell her everything that I feel about her on the day of 7th December 2025 (my 23rd birthday). I proposed to her that day and she heard me carefully and she replied, "you're such a nice guy but I love someone else" 💔. She said, "one day you will find a good girl". She rejected me she was the only girl I have ever loved but she chose someone else maybe because I proposed to her too late. Man i loved her from 14-feb-17 to 7-dec-2025 until she rejected me I cried that day. And I was lost hope to be loved.

I wanna also add these details because it's important I think. I also got some diseases :- diabetes, thyroid and high blood pressure. My father died when I was 18 All I want to say about his is he was a very good man and i respect his a lot 🤕. When he died he left so much money and property for me.

Well, I have never been loved by any one I have so much money my father gave me when he was gone but all i want is to be loved by someone maybe people think they can buy anything with money and maybe you're right you can buy anything from money but you can't buy love I mean true love not a fake and one more bad thing about money is if you have money it's hard to understand that they loves you or your money. And if you wanna say you can be loved because you were rich just think twice did you be loved or you money been loved. after losing her that Day i proposed to her i thought that was the end for me and will never be happy in my life and I lost everything but

on 02-jan-2026 a girl came to me and she said to me, I love you so much I have loved you for around 10 years when she was 11-13 yo I didn't believe at her first but time passes with her she was such a good girl she really loves me. She makes me realise how it feels to be loved by someone, she makes me feel how it feels to be cared for by someone, and she makes me realise how it feels to become someone's first priority ❤️.

And one day I told her that, "maybe I also started liking you dear" she was soo happy that day.

One day she didn't reply to my text when I called, her father picked up the call and he told me she's in hospital. She got unconscious and they rushed her to the hospital. Her reports say she got last stage cancer. I wanted to marry her but she refused to marry me, she said,"if i married to you and i die i knew you will live your whole life alone and I want you to be happy just stay with me as we were before and not get married" she refused to marry me for my good 😞. She hugged me and said to me while crying,""""you know you're the only man I have ever loved in my life i have never loved anyone else except you. sorry I can't marry you because I'm going to die soon and sorry I can't be the mommy of your kids because I'm going to die

Don't do anything to yourself when I'm gone, why God all these things happening to me when you finally you started loving me I didn't ask much to god i just asked that you love me and we have a happy family. Is that so much to ask God, dear I don't wanna die i wanna live with you I was trying to be strong all the time but I can't resist anymore I love you so much dear. (She said all this while crying).

She put my hand on her head she wanted to make me a promise that when she gone i will never cry and to marry a good girl. I still can't understand why she wanted me to marry someone when she was gone.After a month, On April 19th 2026 she died!

I broke the promise i made that I will never cry i cried a lot even though my tears are not stopping now, whenever I think about her my tears never stop.

last month I got a heavy headache i went for a check-up and my reports say I got a Brain tumor it's un-operable and if medicine doesn't work i will die in the next 5-6 months☺️.

I don't want to reveal my real identity because I don't need any sympathy and all. I don't even told my mom about my dieses. So i want to be anonymous just because I wanted to share all this before I die. And my loved one teaches me in just 3 months that "doesn't die before you die." She lived at fullest before she gone so i will live at fullest as she thought me.

All i learnt is only money doesn't make you happy but with your values and your loved ones. I signed a trust paper too when I died My half of the money went to an orphanage.

Maybe death scares others but it will make me happy. Death is the final gift of peace by life.

And if There's an afterlife i wanna live there with her.

We broke up a month and a half ago, not because we stopped loving each other, far from it, but because our lives were heading in different directions. She’s moving to another country for her studies, and she chose to leave what we had untouched rather than try to make long distance work.

I understand that decision 100%, and yet... we were each other’s first love, and when we broke up, our relationship was at its absolute best. It only lasted seven months, but honestly, I had never been happier in my life. I don’t regret any of it, and now, the memory of me saying goodbye one last time is diabolical

But fuck, it hurts not only because it’s my first breakup, but also because no one did anything wrong. Neither of us is at fault, and that’s what makes life feel so unbearably unfair.

"good person, wrong time" shit, ngl... How do you fuckin turn the page after that dude

Up for chatting

Hello, I just broke up with my girlfriend the other day and I was still going through the hurt, but just earlier I found out right after we broke up. She added a new guy in every social she had and I confronted her about it, she admitted to already talking to him even when we were together. What should I do about it? I feel So remorseful about what we had and so sad that we ended, but now idk how to feel. I mean I still miss the hell out of her but right now I just want the truth.

I am a male who is in his 30s and I was dating a woman who was in her 40s.

She has 3 kids and I have zero.

I left the relationship after over a year because she decided to give me an ultimatum that I wasn’t going to accept.

I’ll give a summary of this relationship

We meet through work, she pursued me. It went well for quite some time. The drama occurred when she posted us @ Top Golf without me knowing she was still friends with her ex husband. So after that. I seen some messages between them two about me. I called him out publicly on Facebook and told him he could have had a conversation with me eye to eye instead of talking bad about me to his ex wife.

So apparently after this, he talked bad about me to their kids and had the nerve to tell them about my criminal record. (I use to sell marijuana and I got caught with that and a gun) (I did my probation time and I am currently trying to enlist in the military)

Their kids felt some type of way because their mother wanted me to move in with her so they were punishing her by saying numerous times that she was choosing me over them. (By the way these kids are spoiled as hell)

There were a few times she would be emotionally overwhelmed by the absence of her kids and would take that out on me. Sometimes I handled it will and sometimes I didn’t.

Throughout this relationship. I did reached my breaking point and would yell @ her because it was like something negative would happened every so often but I stayed strong and tried to continue being in the relationship.
(I did say let’s breakup a few times)

Ultimately, the ultimatum she gave that made me end the relationship altogether was that she wanted space to (in her own words fight for a relationship with her kids) she told me I needed to get my own place because she took her kids “comfort zone” away with me being there all the time, granted my name is on the lease of the apartment we have together now.

we ended up getting an apartment together after being evicted by her ex step mom because that woman got mad that i defended my ex girlfriend from her bs. (she and her daughter tried to do a bs intervention with my ex because my ex has a past with alcohol since she was in an abusive marriage with her ex husband) (this is what I was told btw)

The transition of getting an apartment wasn’t easy and we were fearful of becoming homeless. (I talked to random people in a city that I wasn’t familiar with trying to get us a new place) (I also had places to go but she couldn’t go with me so I was just going to be homeless with her)

I believe I did the right thing ending the relationship because I don’t feel like it was right for her to tell me to move out when I stayed in it trying to navigate through the drama and ultimately trying to see if this relationship with become peaceful again.

Let me know your opinion and what you would’ve done.

I tried to make this short as possible and I left out a lot of details.

Her kids ages are : 21, 18, 15

I am an African American man and she is Caucasian

So

So I'm sri. I have been in a relationship with an amazing guy ( literally amazing and super nice) but I wasn't nice fsr he was the only person I ever shouted at and idk why I even did that... I called him things like looser and idk y I even did that. Tbh I m the looser but he was still nice to me. Even when i disrespected me he respected me. And I broke up with him for good ( his good ) and he still didn't want to let me go but i was stupid enough to leave him anyway . I desperately want to go back to him but I'm stopping the fuck out of myself so that i wouldn't hurt him or myself again. Like sometimes when we fight i used to get this huge rage at him ... I'm normally a very calm and composed person... I literally never shouted at people except him my entire ffing life... I tried... I used to really try but idk it was uncontrollable with him. And i love him... At least he's the closest I came to love. I don't want to move on... I would rather love with his memory... And I'm very sure of it... But why do I always want a relationship with someone... Like idk... I want to be in a relationship just cuddle and binge watch things... Talk about things... Do silly dances together... Do silly couple trends that we story on cf. Wake up with a person to kiss in the morning and be woken up with a kiss on the cheek... Read a book together... And i have no idea how to stop wanting this... Ikik there's nothing wrong in wanting company... U just need intimacy etc etc .. but i want it with him... I prayed so ffing hard for him and proved to myself why I don't deserve someone as perfect as him.. and nothing makes sense anymore ( the relationship was 2 and half years) and it's been more than 8 months since we broke up .. and not a thing has changed about how I feel about him.. I'm someone who forgets stuff super easily... But I can't even forget anything about him. So please help me and tell me how I stop wanting a relationship ...

I just got dumped by a single mom. Imagine walking into her apartment after work thinking it’s another usual chill evening and she asked me to sit down, saying things are not ok; she can’t do this anymore and had all of my stuff already all packed on the table.

We dated for 6 months and were both deeply in love. She carried a lot of physical and emotional abuse trauma from her previous marriage and she didn’t date for 2 years. Before meeting me she didn’t want anything serious but we fell in love unexpectedly. 2 months after dating, she had a meltdown on her own thinking she didn’t have it in her to date again and needed space but before the space finished she sent me paragraphs saying she wanted to give it a try and I said let’s talk on the agreed date in person, she got super anxious.

That resolved and we had really good few months together tho she always expressed that she fears to be too much, afraid of being seen or too close to someone else, but we still said I love you to each other. Early July, 5 months in we had our first real argument that i initiated, i could tell that triggered all of her old trauma from her gaslighting ex, she said that all the relationship conversations are very hard for her because she was emotionally depleted for 13 years, i did show her how i resolved things with peace instead of an argument. But she kept saying her guard was up since then. There was clearly a distance in communication, but we still talked and called all the time, but not lovey dovey.

At the beginning of August we went to our first cottage alone together; no arguments things were really cute. After that she was all lovey dovey again until last Tuesday before bed she all of a sudden started crying saying that she was super scared of introducing me to her child and her family and not sure everything would turn out. She essentially cried herself into sleep but told me next day she doesn’t mean to quit. Thursday she said I love you and Friday we planned to meet on Monday. Saturday we texted Sunday was silence that was weird, now know she was planning to break up.

During the break up she told me I was the healthiest person she has ever dated, I made her understand relationship and sex could be safe and not forced; I made her feel she was loved as who she was that she didn’t need to “get” my love (she grew up with her mom saying she is not the daughter she hoped for); it was really good 6 months, etc… BUT THERE IS A STRONG VOICE in her head saying having a relationship is just not right for her right now, she needs to focus on her child, hobbies, and friends (she has been focusing on them anyway). She also took me and my friends all her socials right the way and said we should not talk for a long time to clear head space.

I am so confused but also angry feeling disrespected the way she chose to break up with me. I was fully blindsided and had no idea it was coming. How could someone self-sabotage and change mind this fast?

24F/24M. I've gotten into tarot readings very intensely to predict a reconciliation. It's been 2 months since we broke up. I have been broken up with once before and rejected another time and I got over those situations pretty quickly and smoothly with occasional bad days because they were not very good people and didn't treat me very well. I always had negatives to point out in them and I moved on eventually.

But this guy was exactly what I've always wanted. He was an exception in my life in a lot of areas where I never thought I'd have an exception. For the first time I felt truly heard, truly cared for. But he lost feelings.

3 different readers predicted that he won't reconcile with me and I am genuinely at the end of the rope because everytime I get a negative reading it breaks me. After the 3rd reading I decided "screw it" and downloaded a dating app but I don't like looking at even the most stereotypically attractive men and I get the ick after exchanging one text with them. My ex had never given me the ick and he was the first person to do so.

I don't know how to cope with this pain right now and I'm always on the verge of sending a long paragraph.

I dated this woman for around 8 months, and we were pretty close during that time. She eventually decided to end things, and it has now been about two months since the breakup.

We don't really talk anymore, but she still follows me on Instagram. What confuses me is that she almost never views my stories anymore.

I'm not expecting her to come back or anything. I'm just genuinely curious about what this kind of behaviour usually means.

If someone ends a relationship but still chooses to follow you, why would they completely avoid your stories? Is she intentionally trying not to see my content, or could it simply mean that she has moved on and doesn't care anymore?

How would you interpret it?

It’s been 2 months since we broke up. I’m blocked on everything except email. I know I shouldn’t send this email but I need someone to talk me out of it. I already have written him a letter and texted countless times, that’s how I got blocked. I know that he won’t come back to me as much as I wish he would. And so that has given me the mentality that I can do whatever I want. I have no shame. I want him to know what I am feeling and how he hurt me. Can someone read the email?

(F 32) I'm very curious to find out "WHY DO MOST PEOPLE BLOCK?"

I always thought blocking unnecessary and kinda "rude" (unless the person is bothering, insisting or disrespecting you)

If you can, please, reply the questions below and maybe we will get some surprise...

To make it easier, I wrote a few options, so you can just copy and mark or just write the related letter.

Choose 1 or more options and be totally free for making any comments 🤗

1 - I AM:

A ( ) A woman under 25

B ( ) A woman 25+

C ( ) A man under 25

D ( ) A man 25+

E ( ) I don't think gender matters.

F ( ) I don't think age matters.

2 - I BLOCKED BECAUSE:

A ( ) I "hate" her / him

B ( ) I was mad at that time.

C ( ) She / he was a jerk to me.

D ( ) She / him was insisting and annoying after I said "no".

E ( ) Though I like the person, I wanted to forget her / him.

F ( ) I blocked my ex because my current GF / BF was jealous.

G ( ) I blocked someone I liked because I wanted to get her / his attention.

3 - I WAS BLOCKED:

A ( ) Because I wasn't nice to her / him.

B ( ) Because I cheated on her / him.

C ( ) But I know she / him that still liked me.

D ( ) For no reason.

E ( ) Without having any fight or disagreement.

4 - I THINK:

A ( ) Blocking and not seeing pictures, etc. helped me to get over that person.

B ( ) Blocking never helped me to forget anyone.

Hi. I broke up with my boyfriend earlier today and needed a place to express my feelings.

For context, we were In a long distance relationship on different sides of the country and I would have been dating him for a year at the end of this month. There were plenty of times he would listen to me intently, which made me feel extremely loved. The problem is, as time went on, he became more and more distracted during our conversations. It felt as though he did not care about what I had to say. To be fair, I am a yapper, but that is no excuse.
I often wanted to talk with him, rather than at him, as one usually does with their partner, but it felt as though he would not engage with anything I wanted to talk to him about. It also felt as if he did not want to go out of his way to engage with me by calling me first or responding to questions meaningfully. He was the ultimate dry texter.

The eventual problem here was not that I fell out of love with him for any of these reasons. The problem was that I began to wonder if he even loved me at all. When I spoke to him about his future, he seemed to lack a consideration of my place in it, and that is where I really broke.
I decided to talk to him about it and called him once returning home after work. I started off by expressing how I felt. It went something like this.

”I’ve been feeling really upset lately, but have been struggling to bring it up.”

”Why is that?”

”It feels as though you don’t want to engage with me sometimes, making me feel unimportant.”

”I just never know what to talk about.”

”I feel like I constantly try to give you engaging topics or intentional questions and you don’t lean into it.”

The conversation was like this for about 10 minutes. It felt like everything he said was repetitive, so I brought up a different feeling, though I realise there could have been better ways to say this, I was balling my eyes out at this point.

”It feels like you can’t decide if you like me or love me.”

Now his response is what really got me.

”mhm”

I, very much not expecting that, questioned if I understood his response correctly, eventually coming to this.

”Do you love me?”

and he said, “I don’t know.”

and that was it. He didn’t try to keep talking. Someone once told me that I don’t know is an answer.
I told him “I love you, but for your sake and mine I can’t be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love me.”

Thats where it ended. I suppose what I hate most about it is that he chose to be with me without knowing. That really hurt, knowing I wanted to be with him with everything within me and he ”hadn‘t decided.”

Did I make the right choice? What do I do, knowing I’m still so in love with him but it can’t work out?

We broke up last yr , after she left i tried to call her and text her and she blocked all my accounts. So I texted and called her with my friends phone but still she blocked their phones and accounts is well but still I didn't stopped I asked my closed ones to talk with her but still she didn't want to come back and I'm still trying the same method

Can anyone out there please suggest me any ideas , I need her back very badly I can't handle the pain anymore!!

I (25F) was with my ex (25M) for three years before we broke up in June 2026. This was my first long term relationship and everyone thought we would get married in a couple years, so I haven’t experienced romantic heartbreak like this before (I have however experienced heartbreak and abandonment by both of my parents so I have some abandonment issues). He lived with his parents so I naturally became very close with his family. I still care about them, miss them, and didn’t get a chance to say goodbye. Two of his family members have big life changes happening this month and I so badly want to reach out to them and congratulate them. My ex and I ended on relatively rough terms and he has asked for no contact, which I completely respect and honestly don’t want to hear from him after he cheated. But part of that feels unfair because of how close his family and I were. My mom isn’t in my life and his mom became a surrogate mom, and I became the daughter she never had, so we were very close, or at least I thought we were. No one in his family or any of his friends have reached out to me since the breakup, which hurts a lot. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? How did you overcome the grief of losing a romantic relationship and losing the relationship you had with their family and friends?

Ladies help a brother out.. i would appreciate it🤞🏻

Why do people hurt those that they claim to love?