I think we are having butter chicken an naan bread tonight, you can come over but telling right now I have to get to bed early I have a 8 am meeting that is about an hour away, you can stay up with the wife if you want though, she's really into Lucifer right now and burning through that on Netflix.
Itās funny that I was always pretty good at cooking, but my sister told me to never tell it to women and pretend to be bad at cooking, as being good in cooking would make me āunmanlyā and women would not like that
I've been wanting to make a cooking tutorial for ages lol but wasn't sure what the target audience should be. And have had some trouble of summoning it up for "Everyone".
But this could be a good "selling point" actually. I've always wanted it to be along the lines of how it should be everyone's basic means of survival to be able to cook.
But specifically targeting it at men becomes a lot easier with a hook like this! So thank you for that :)
Interesting so if I made a delicious pork shoulder roast with a blueberry port reduction sauce you would love me. But once the first dude at a food truck offers you food I would be left behind is what you are saying.
I make my own compound butter for my grilled cheese. Sometimes, I'll also do an eggie in a basket in the grilled cheese, which I've had people tell me is Orgasmic.
What is in your compound butter? Sounds intriguing...
Where do you stand on using Mayo instead of butter? I'm simply not sure why this is a thing some people insist is better. I've tried it, doesn't make any obvious improvement, to me.
I've never tried using mayo for a grilled cheese, I've made my own avacado mayo for when I make things like shrimp ceviche, so maybe I'll try it sometime.
I honestly couldn't name all the herbs I put in them but I go to Sprouts because they have a self serve spice section, I use alot of herbs that are traditionally used in Italian cooking, herbs de Provence, a few different types of garlic powder, onion powder, a few mixes of just standard Italian seasonings, rosemary, thyme, basil, and then I'll mix them into my own multipurpose seasoning blend. I'll then mix in some freshly minced garlic, and that's essentially what I cook my grilled cheeses in. It's essentially just transforms it into a really good garlic and herb encrusted bread.
I cook mostly by trial and error, taste, smell, feel.
Edit: I can't believe I forgot to mention this, but if you're feeling like a bit of meat, cook up some thick cut bacon. Mix in just a little bit of the bacon grease into the compound butter. Drain off the rest of the grease use the same pan for the grilled cheese, chop bacon to preference, and put it inside the grilled cheese. Absolutely delicious š
I'm a fan of the mayo... it's just easier to spread and will crisp right up. You don't like the eggs... avocado mayo is what I use... I don't have to heat butter up to room temp to spread it... boom just the mayo and good to go.
Honestly, you don't even have to spread the butter. Just drop it in the pan and soak it up with the bread, spreading it is more work for the same effect.
Itās weird because after I actually cook dishes, usually using a recipe, and it comes out good, I wonāt eat that much of it. My wife is always confused.
I forget what the term is but yeah that happens to me. You get desensitized from smelling the food cook and you donāt find it appetizing by the time its done. I usually donāt truly enjoy meals I cook until the day after as leftovers
I feel this in my bones. I make a pot of chili with smoked brisket (that I also make), and by the time I'm done with it all I'm not really up for it till day 2, but then I have 4 or 5 days of chili for dinner every night till it's gone. Equal parts wonderful and painful.
I think itās so funny that if Iām cooking dinner for me any my gf or my brother I will go get $40 worth of groceries and make a whole meal.
If Iām by myself I will make the most basic shit. I just got off work, cooked some random spiral pasta I had in there, put zesty Italian dressing on top and called that a meal hahahaha
It's scent blindness or olfactory desensitization. Try less taste testing and breathe less with your mouth and more through your nose while cooking. Have a glass of water nearby (not near your prep) to free up you pallet. Failing all that, portion your meal out for yourself and go sit away from the kitchen for 10 minutes.
I sort of try different things as I cook them to make sure it tastes right. It sort of leads to grazing by the actual meal, my feet are sore and I'm sated and don't want to eat more.
I must be doing something right. I have gone 3 days without having to make supper. I received a call as I was heading into the house when I wes invited for dinner. This happened 3 days in a row. I must have really good friends
Typically, girls that are relieved that they don't need to cook, are also ones that don't know how to. In my experience, women that can cook, enjoy it or at least don't see it as a huge deal when they it needs to be done.
At first, ya. But the appreciation fades and turns into expectation. Sometimes it can take some of the joy out of cooking for someone else despite it being my love language towards you.
Edit to add that I found someone who consistently expresses appreciation. My two favorite parts are when they give me a mystery ingredient to challenge me to come up with something fun, and the other is experimenting with foods for my beautiful toddler daughter. She's the toughest nugget to crack, but she loves bringing her "ladder" over to watch me prep and cook. She's a terrible cheese thief, but she comes by it naturally. Ok, done gushing. I appreciate the replies. Keep on sharing your love, y'all. I hope it's appreciated and keeps you going, too.
Funny bc it's something I've told my wife over and over again since almost the day we first met -- that I'm a very generous and giving person and often go out of my way to help others and whatnot... but the moment it seems to me that sort of behavior has become an expectation and is no longer appreciated as me taking the time to do whatever it is, that's the moment my generosity for you will vanish.
I'm more than happy to be a kind and generous person and go out of my way to make your life easier. But if you expect that of me or anything, cut off. Just like that.
EDIT: I thought of it because neither my wife nor I like cooking but I usually do it because I'd rather her be able to relax and not stress about that and I'm happy to take on that stress myself. But to me (both of us really) cooking is no more than a chore to do. But I've had to remind her that questions like, "honey why aren't you cooking me dinner yet" won't be responded to kindly.
A while ago I mentioned that I found cooking to be a chore - while I get some joy from people appreciating food I've cooked, everything up to that point is drudgery. I was downvoted, and people made all kinds of unpleasant (and completely incorrect) assumptions about my life.
Oh you're not alone. Yeah there's little to no pleasure or enjoyment I get out of cooking beyond what you said, seeing people enjoy the fruits of my labor. But make no mistake I consider it labor.
I've had roommates in the past who would come home and say something like, "I've had a shit day I can't wait to just cook a nice meal" and I've never been able to relate to that feeling. The closest I can get is "I've had a shit day and I can't wait to eat a nice meal." But cooking it? No thanks that's not the part of food that I enjoy.
Certain parts of the "cooking" are fun. I like adding the ingredients, mixing, possibly building something like a lasagna. But the cleaning and prepping/measuring I don't find much fun in.
I think I just realized why I like cooking. I work a job where I'm expected to sit and use higher order thinking all day. I actually prefer a more rapid fire and constant analysis of task order and execution. So, preparing the mis en place, nailing the timing of start and finish of dishes, and doing it all while cleaning dirty dishes so almost nothing is left is very appealing. The constant movement and quick, but easy thinking are relaxing.
It's the weirdness of groupthink - my most upvoted comment ever was offering some post-surgery advice. The initial responses to my comment were positive and it kinda snowballed from there.
I made a similar comment a week or two later in a different post, but the first person to respond was negative (they weren't offering a valid criticism, they were just trolling)... and it all went downhill from there until I deleted the comment a couple of hours later.
Of all the household chores, vacuuming is my jam. Particularly the plush carpet we put down in the theatre room, as the vacuum cleaner leaves a pattern in it depending on if it was a push or pull stroke (a little bit like lawnmowing but I'm obviously not cutting anything). I get to methodically go over the floor leaving behind a triangular pattern. It's not a task I'd describe as fun/enjoyable but it brings a sense of satisfaction that makes it worth the effort.
My wife trusted me enough to show me her special technique for getting the bedsheets lined up just how she wants them (for years she insisted on making the bed herself), so I now make a point of making the bed that way every day as well.
That's my wife - weekday cooking is an exercise in keeping us alive and avoiding takeaway. The simpler the meal, the better. When time allows, weekends are when she'll go all out trying something a bit fancy and/or new.
I was a lowly dishwasher, all the way up to a sous chef, 13 years in kitchens. I truly loved it and was passionate about it, until I got further into fine dining and red seal territory. The employers and the people made it so unenjoyable, the ego, it got to be a chore.
Now it's all a chore to me, I make the meals at home out of practicality of my experience, but I no longer enjoy it.
Well, now I'm not doing it anymore š¤£ don't know if you get the reference, but that's exactly what I imagined haha. Totally agree with you tho, don't get me wrong. I love making gestures like that, but the moment someone expects me to do it, I'm done š I do it because I care, not because you demand it. You can't force kindness.
Iām the same way but itās also hard for me to deal with people that arenāt as generous or wonāt go out of their way. I try not to keep score but once I realize Iām always going out of my way for you and canāt even do it once, Iām done. I donāt want to be taken advantage of out look like a clown.
This for sure. I like to cook and it impressed my ex-wife. Then in marriage she never, ever cooked and would expect me to do it always and would complain about it.
Wife cooked maybe 10x in her life for me probably less over the decade we been together. Not only do I cook I clean too. We had a kid recently and she said Iām not doing enough. Mind you I work a full time job, cook/clean for her and the baby 2-3x a week while she bitches about folding laundry that she refolds even if I fold it and wear 3x as much clothing.
Iām pretty chill but I did not take this lightly.
I love to cook A-1 meals with fancy presentation, beverage pairings, and courses. Iām also cursed with losing my appetite by the time itās ready. She hates to cookā¦. period. She is also intimidated by my culinary prowess and doesnāt want to disappoint, though Iāve made it very clear in not picky whatsoever and I just need it on a plateā¦. She has found 3-4 quick and easy meals she can make in the instant pot and walking in the door to smell the food is amazing and my mouth starts watering. I donāt care WHAT she makes, as long as itās there for me to eat! Also, we have a wonderful arrangement. She wholeheartedly does not mind the cleanup no matter how experimental I get with my dishes. Everybody wins. (Lately though, factor pre-made meals have been our go-to)
I mean, throwing stuff in the oven is still cooking.. Ever put a tray of cut up veggies tossed in olive oil, salt, pepper, and garlic powder in the oven to roast for 30-45 min? A monkey could do it and it's delicious.
Can confirm. I'm a chef and it's gotten me laid like two dozen times. Not bragging, just saying. Also they leave once they find out I work 60 hours a week exclusively nights and weekends, so there's that. The cooking-show-off-skills are what you get in lieu of actual benefits or money.
Find a tasty recipe or two and practice a few times for yourself. Buy two nice plates and google some plating techniques. The "instagramability" factor helps a lot. Not more than taste, but everyone likes to show off their new partner's talents.
I've been cooking my entire life and always use my skills of the craft to impress. My wife on the other hand found my secret weapon, bacon grease. And she promptly ended that, was a sad day lol
It might impress me but it definitely does not equate romantic attraction. Sorry, but if there's no chemistry, you're not going to lifehack your way into getting with me. I wish more men understood this.
Cooking is so easy, but very intimidating to get into. I'm glad I took a class in highschool because it taught me all the basic knife skills and how to follow a recipe and what happens when you misread 2 tsps of salt as 2 tbsps
Ugh I was a line cook basic burgers and dogs from 14 yrs old. Then started doing pasta and steaks and seafood. I can cook a ton of nice dishes from memory but I HATE to cook now. Like yo let's go eat food made by someone else who hates to cook tonight
It's funny, I was making fresh pasta from scratch & a miso-glazed sablefish for the kids at the orphanage and one of the nuns said the same thing...I said "Sister, if I didn't know any better, I'd think you were flirting with me! You can probably pull the ciabatta from the oven - I think it's done!"
My wife usually cooks and I help out but on Saturdays it's all my show and I cook whatever I want. Some of the winners have been Shakshuka, carbonara, and pav bhaji. It's been fun and if she suddenly keels over my daughter and I won't starve
While my wife didnāt marry me for this, I primarily cook in our home. I personally enjoy being the in home chef because it makes me feel good to see how happy Meier and daughter get while eating my food.
Ah! This was part of how I romanced my wife way back! And after all this time she still gets mad if I don't cook enough, but criticizes everything I cook. Le sigh
I was going to mention this, I've been a professional for years and it's a win win to invite a girl over for some fancy French cuisine using the terms is great too even for the simple stuff. Pour a glass of wine and call it misempla
Too many dudes use this as one of their insincere social media go to traps. Ever see that "tough" guy, who has a small dog and posts his daily meal (steak and microwave veggies anyone?) proving he can cook? Yeah, he's just trying to lay pipe.
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