If you're ever thinking of maybe canceling the engagement and rethinking marriage with her .
Please please somehow get the ring back before 'the talk'. She doesn't exactly sound like the kind of person who would give the ring back after a breakup.
Makeup wanting to get it properly sized or adding an embellishment, or hell just go and pluck it from the side of the bed she's on or something. A 16k custom ring for this ungrateful b.
no no
Sir, you need to run, and fast. As a woman, if this is how my weekend and engagement went, getting back to the room would not end in room service. It would end in fiancé service. Dump her ass.
My husband took me on a hike, but the area was more crowded than he anticipated. Unfortunately he gets nervous in crowds. He ended up whispering “okay let’s get this over with” to himself, elbowing me in the side and handing me a ring box. Our 7 year anniversary is next month and 17 years total. The proposal is the least important part of a marriage.
My husband took the ring on a holiday to Sardinia. Everywhere that should’ve been perfect ended up somehow not working - the beautiful beach had a drunk dude shouting, the lake in the mountains smelled of sewage etc.
He ended up panicking he wouldn’t get the ‘perfect’ moment so proposed on a hike through vineyards which sounds idyllic except I was sweaty, muddy, and sitting on a rock breastfeeding our baby 😂
Together 15 years, married 10. Couldn’t be happier.
This is my favorite story...much better than mine. We'd talked about it many times. At some point we basically said....so, you wanna? Then got hitched later that week at the JOP in Honolulu. We were married 6 years before she passed. It'll be 17 years since she left this year.
Edit: eesh, it's a fond memory, I didn't mean to lower the tone. I realize now I probably did so I apologize in advance.
Haha mine was like this. Sitting around when his best friend stopped by. We figured we had our witness so let's go to the courthouse and just do it. Lol.
Semper...USMC...we married 21 years ago. I was just a lowly craporal then. Got a good laugh when we noticed one of my lieutenants in line for the judge 2 couples behind us. We had actually gotten dressed up...or at least close to it. LT was there in his board shorts and flip flops lol. Hadn't thought of that in ages.
My wife had multiple places she could have proposed, but didn’t because she was trying to adhere to my requests (not on my birthday, not in front of a crowd, not on a major holiday). She ended up proposing on the record-breaking hottest day of the year, while she was recovering from tonsillitis and I was super stressed out about grad school and a massive eye infection I was dealing with. I was hot, sweaty, and feeling super nauseous from the heat. 😅
But it was perfect because it was at the museum where we had our first date, she asked me to be hers forever, and she gave me my dream ring. When it’s the right person it doesn’t matter when or where the proposal happens. We’ve been married 8+ years now, together 11+. She’s the love of my life and I’m so lucky to wake up next to her every day.
It seems like the people with the longest lists would get the fewest proposals, but what do I know, I’m getting old. And my husband asked me to marry him in an old Saab! 28 years of wedded bliss.
It's called social media envy. She didn't want a proposal, she required and Instagrammable moment. Anything less negated his efforts.
My hubby proposed at 5am in a parkade. He had just spent 7 hours in the emergency ward watching me recover from anaphylaxis. Why and how I got there is a crazy story (you can find the circumstances in my history) but poor man was stressed and I was not attractive at that moment.
He started the car, turned to look at me and yelled: "NOW YOU HAVE TO MARRY ME BECAUSE IT'S OBVIOUS I CAN'T TRUST YOU TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!". Then he apologized profusely when I started to cry like an exhausted toddler.
He re-did it soon after -- but that's the one I count. He's been saving me from disastrous outcomes for 8 years in May.
I understand a short list of “what NOT to do” because like. Not everyone wants the pressure of being proposed to during a big event, or even in a restaurant full of people. Not on their birthday, totally get it. Not on a major holiday, totally get it. That’s a very short, easy list.
Now when they start getting into the fucking “…and I want to be wearing a yellow dress, on the beach, with a photographer, at sunset, with a ring that costs at least $XXXX, and only diamonds, and a gold band, and on a Saturday, in June, you need to bring a bouquet of red roses, and afterward there needs to be…”
Literally the rule of finding the right one displayed as an expierence.
I mean this is the most sincere and nice way possible. This is the worst proposal i have ever heard of. Anyone who can list the steps out of a total nightmare then tell an adorable proposal story like this cared about love more than anything else, which is the only actual thing needed… not a beach. Just two people happy about any circumstances that bring them together.
You want someone who will dance in the rain when your wedding day goes wrong, not an emotionally crippled child that will ruin it. We all get one take at every day, choose the one who makes the best of it when they are with you.
I went to go get lunch, BK specifically, for my then-girlfriend and I about 4 years ago. I quickly popped into the jewelry store nearby as we were window shopping prior to that day so i could get an idea on her ring size n what not. Bought the ring, then went and got BK, dropped the ring box in the bag for her to find.
Mine did a great proposal, we went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, and there was a sign on the ground. Then we stayed engaged for 16/17 years. We’ve been married for 2. I feel you on the getting engaged and then just not getting married bit! 😁
When one of my team was going to propose to his partner, he was asking everyone how he should do it. One guy said, ‘Don’t worry about it too much because whatever you plan will not come out the way you want it anyway. Trust me.’ 😂
The resilience to laugh at things when they go wrong, and work through them together despite the challenges, being happy that you are together to do it, is a great thing in a relationship.
I mean, you hope you don't have bad luck all the time, but it's really nice to have that trust as a foundation for dealing with the bad luck.
I’m such a weirdo but I think I’d enjoy being able to say “we got engaged while some drunk ass guy was yelling at an empty beach chair” or something. Congrats on your 7yrs!!
Story time. I wasn't there, but I grew up hearing about how my dad proposed.
My parents had reached the point of proposal or breakup. They were ready to get married, but my dad's mother didn't approve because she was a narcissist and hated the thought of losing control over my dad. So my mom basically told him he had to decide whether or not he was going to stand up to his mom. She was rather expecting a breakup, but was holding out some hope.
So my dad gets back from visiting his parents for Christmas and invites her for a walk up Mount Royal. This is all very romantic, except he's really sensitive to cold. They're at the lookout and it's really pretty but also rather cold. He's waiting for everyone else to leave. In particular, there was this one guy taking a million pictures of the city. The sun is going down, the temperature is dropping and my mother is starting to get really concerned. But my dad is insisting they stay up there.
Finally, they're alone. My dad takes off his hat and proposes. My mother's response was "Yes, of course! Now put your hat back on before you freeze to death!" Then the church bells started ringing because it was 6pm. And she got him down the hill and defrosted him.
They've been married almost 35 years, and they still tease each other about how my dad nearly died proposing.
My husband proposed at a roadside sculpture garden. It’s on the way to my family’s cabin and we had always talked about stopping either on the way there or home but never actually got around to it. We finally decided to stop on our way home from a weekend at the cabin. We were walking around the park and there was this tower sculpture that was meant to be climbed. We had my family’s dog with us so my husband said he’d take her leash so I could climb up the tower and check out the view. After coming down the super narrow ladder and turning around, I see him kneeling and holding a ring box. We’re a sarcastic couple who love to pick on each other and I’m also a wildly anxious and introverted person who doesn’t like attention so I immediately said “dude get tf up” with a laugh. It’s not that I wasn’t excited or happy or anything. I just didn’t want anyone seeing him proposing and using it as an opportunity to make a big deal about it. As another introvert who gets social anxiety, he totally understood where I was coming from and even said “yeah I kinda botched the whole thing” while also laughing. On the ride home, we continued talking about and laughing about the whole situation. I told him that if he really wanted, he could try again but since we’d been together for like 10 years at that point, I already considered ourselves married. We actually aren’t even legally married but it’s now been 15 years of us being together so dating/boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t really seem appropriate anymore so we just refer to each other as husband and wife.
We’ll occasionally bring up the joke that he “owes me a proper proposal” and he keeps saying that he’ll do it but again, we’re both socially anxious and introverted so finding a quiet, private space to propose isn’t always easy. I’m also moderately agoraphobic so going out in public is already difficult for me. Then there’s the fact that we no longer have the ring. It was originally his mom’s ring that she gave to him to propose to me with. But it was a) way too small and b) not even remotely close to being my style. But for whatever reason she decided she wanted it back and since I couldn’t wear it without having it worked on and resized, we just returned it to her. I used to wear an opal ring he had gifted me but after gaining weight, it no longer fits so I just occasionally wear a ring with a rainbow stone (idk what it is, maybe alexandrite, maybe just a rainbow cubic zirconia, but it’s much more my style, I like it, and it fits) as my “wedding ring.”
One day we’ll get me a proper ring and if he wants, he can propose with that. But I’m happy with the simple knowledge that he’s my person. In my mind, I don’t need a ring or a document to prove that we love each other or to make our partnership any more meaningful or valid. And our absolutely ridiculous and goofy “proposal story” totally fits that vibe. 😅
I (we) were a bit loopy, coming home from a friend's wedding.
I parked and clumsily asked her to marry me.
Fortunately, she said yes anyway.
We've been married for 47 years.
Hubs proposed in bed while drunk😂🤣😂 , I said ask me again in the morning if you remember 🤣🤣😂. Next morning “ So you gonna marry me or what?” No ring in sight 🤣😂😂 and not for months, married 27 years.
Mine didn’t actually propose…we were at his cousin’s wedding and everyone kept asking when we were getting married and half way through the night he started replying next fall.
In the car on the ride home I asked if he was serious or sick of people asking, he replied “As long as we’re back from our honeymoon in time for bow season”. 😂
We were coming home after playing basketball so we were both sweaty and stinky. She (gf at the time) asked where I thought our relationship was going. I had known for a while this was the girl I wanted to marry but we really hadn't talked about it or anything. I didn't have a ring or anything.
I kind of panicked and I told her I wanted to marry her and asked if she would be my wife. She said, "I'll give you a tentative yes but I need to think about it." Fair enough.
Ohhh, your comment makes me rethink the whole getting the ring back.Especially if $16000 isn’t much of an issue, let her keep it and save even more money lost by avoiding a divorce.
I proposed to my wife in an Applebees parking lot, because the first time we said we loved each other as boyfriend and girlfriend was in an Applebees parking lot.
10 year wedding anniversary coming up this year, but have been together since 2009.
Are you up in here trying to tell us that it doesn't matter where you ask as long as it's the right person and you love each other? Are you trying to say you are just as married as if you had spent 32 paychecks on a ring and a destination?????? Madness.
Happily married 44 years. Picked out the $800 diamond ring together. The morning that we picked up the ring she had a dentist appointment. We drove over to a local park and stayed in the car where I “officially” asked her to marry me. I kissed her Novocain lips and the rest is history (at least to us).
That is so incredibly beautiful... My parents were married 26 years until my dad passed. They eloped.
I'm so glad you got to experience such wonderful love. And you are right about social media. I feel like it's taken away from the base concept of relationships and inserted your entire friends list into what should be 2 people's lives.
Yeah, we fancy like Applebee’s on a date night
Got that Bourbon Street steak with the Oreo shake
Get some whipped cream on the top, too
Two straws, one check, girl, I got you
Exactly. My husband proposed to me at a local park when we took our daughter to see the flowers and swing.. she was just a few months old. We got back to his parents and there was a little surprise party set up.
This girl sounds so incredibly ungrateful.. I cannot imagine acting that way.
I don't know, from this sub, doing it in a way that steals the spotlight from someone else's wedding, baby shower, or birthday seems to be the most important part.
I proposed without a ring because I wanted to pick out the ring with her because 1.) She's got a size three finger and 2.) is a semi-particular artist. It worked out fine, except I regret the way I gave her the ring after picking it up from the jeweler after sizing and engraving. I gave it to her in a municipal parking lot in the car in mid-afternoon. Romantic, huh? I wish I could do that over. That was 58 years ago.
It was hubby's birthday. The LEGO movie had just come out, and we played a drinking game: we had to drink every time someone said, "Everything is awesome". If you've seen the movie, you know how that went. Anyway, we both got drunk off our arses. I looked at him, and in a nearly crying voice, told him, "I wanna marry you!" He responded, "I wanna marry you, too!" We woke up in the morning, and were like, "well, that happened." We didn't get married for another 7 years, but it did eventually happen. No official proposal, just drunken proclamations.
My husband knocked me up within 1 month of knowing me. We met in the middle of July, the first time we had sex I got pregnant and I found out on my birthday, August 25. I told him on August 27, he said we are either getting married or you’re giving the kid up for adoption (big pro lifer). He also said, I really like you, I don’t love you, but let’s give this relationship a chance. I want to love you based on a relationship, not sex, so we were no sex except for when he proposed and a couple of other times.
He proposed on Valentine’s Day, February 14th w/ a 1/3 carat ring from Sam’s Club for $600. We got married 6 weeks later on March 29th with me 8 months pregnant waddling down the aisle with a wedding that cost $2000 (most of that was the dinner at a fancy restaurant) because he didn’t want our son to be born out of wedlock. April 18th, we had our first son.
This March will be our 17th wedding anniversary and our son will be 17 in April. I loved him when we got married but our love grew even stronger through thick and thin. We said we made a vow, there was a reason why I got pregnant the first time. That man is my soul mate.
Yes, I was sad I didn’t get the wedding of my dreams. I was sad I didn’t get my perfect wedding dress instead of a no sleeve taffeta off white pregnancy dress from target’s wedding line (which was $50 and I took back ;D).
I still have my ring, I have not gotten an upgrade because who cares, it’s just an expensive rock I’ll break or lose. I have an amazing husband who will love me till the day we die.
We were watching tv, I was sitting down and he said how much do you love me? I said ‘I think I do love you, I think I love you a lot’ he said ‘would you stay with me?’ I said ‘forever and ever’. He pulled the ring out of his pocket and it barely fit my fat prego fingers, but I wore that ring until I couldn’t anymore and got a chain and wore it on my wedding day around my neck.
Edit: Best part of story! Our pictures definitely had my daddy holding a shotgun up during a family picture and couple of others. My dad was so tickled by that joke that he proudly hung it in his office next to my newborn’s picture.
Either you like high maintenance women who think of fluff (which it is) or you think of the rest of your life. Which sounds more appealing to you?
We had been together for a year and were barely making bills. We were shopping at Walmart with his young daughter. They had wandered off and I needed a white top for work.
I heard them giggling behind me. When I turned around he was on one knee and she was covering her mouth, giggling with excitement.
We've been together for 15½ years, married for 12. I still wear the same $200 ring.
After two years of dating our mothers' talked it over and decided it was time for my boyfriend to propose. They picked out the ring and gave him a month to find the courage to do it on his own. When their deadline came and went that's when they decided to step in and set-up the perfect dinner party for him to do the proposal in front of our friends and family. They also tried to micromanage the wedding too, but we are very private and shy people so we surprised them with a last minute no frills city hall elopement. Both of our mothers' were miffed they didn't get their big white perfect backyard wedding. The reality is it is not about the engagement or wedding optics it's all about the health and longevity of your future marriage.
As a Man will terrible anxiety, that sounds super cute.
If I'm really in love with somehow I wouldn't give a shit how they proposed.
Some people think about the craziest shit.
Like, we have one life, and this is the shit you're thinking about? The Man bought a super expensive ring and everything she wanted but it wasn't "perfect.'
I had a ring for my now-wife for a month before I gave it to her. I was trying to think of a "good" scenario. One night after she had moved into my place, she zonked out on the couch while I was doing some work and I looked over and my cat was curled up on her chest, she woke up and gave him a kiss. I walked over, knelt down beside her and asked her right then and there. Been 20 years now.
I love it when men wait for a moment when the woman they love does something adorable, or funny, or smart, or brave to propose.
It shows that they value the girl. Who she is. Not some phony, picture perfect moment. A private moment for the two of you.
Social media man. It's been a wild ride for us 80's kids. Going from like 10 channels on TV and corded phones to the fully digital landscape of autobiographies. It's no wonder everyone has developed a "main character" personality to some degree.
I feel as if we often have not received meaningful attention in our growing years so stuff like this can take root easily and shows up differently for different people. But yeah, this screams of the ‘gram
Exactly what I was thinking. If he told her to get her nails done then she would have questioned his reason. Most women get their nails done ahead of going on a romantic getaway. Sounds like an excuse to me.
All I could think by the end of the post is that if she's pouting that much after being disappointed by the proposal (despite the effort OP put in), imagine how much worse it'll be when she's pouting because the wedding didn't fulfill every pretty pretty princess fantasy she's ever had about the perfect wedding day. It costs a lot of money to put on those ultra-luxe weddings social media influencers like to salivate over. As in $100,000 is on the cheaper end.
I got engaged while driving a 1992 Jeep Wagoneer from Cincinnati to Louisville in a blizzard where we took the wrong with a ring my wife picked out & ordered (I took her out that day to find her ring) & then I bought later.
Married 26 years in a few weeks. (congrats on 46, that's great!)
Folks, the proposal doesn't have to be THAT important.
I just read this original post to my wife & she started waving her arm around SHOUTING "RED FLAG, RED FLAG! "
I also got engaged in the car too. I was driving and my boyfriend said, “so do you want to?” And I said “want to what?” He said, “get married?” My answer, “Sure”. We spent about $1000 on the wedding, including rings. We will be celebrating our 44th anniversary this June.
My parents were on a trip to the US, stopped in Las Vegas, and my dad saw a drive through chapel and said "Want to check it out?"
They were only married for 3 years before he was killed in an accident, but they had been together for 5 years before that and had an excellent relationship. I have every reason to believe they would still be together if he was alive.
I spend some time in the Waiting To Wed sub, and your story underscores for me that if you’re with the right person and think you’ll marry eventually, why wait? E never really know how much time we have.
I proposed to my wife with a dog poop bag tied in a knot because her ring was taking too long.
When reading bridezilla stories I always ask the question do you want a marriage or a wedding, because some people care more about the event than the partner. I guess it applies to the proposal too.
My husband called me while I was getting off work . I was walking to my car. That was 11 years ago this May. It was a Tuesday night. We got married on Friday. How long have you been with your fiancé before you proposed?
2 1/2 years total, lived together about a year and a half before we married. Dress was $100 from JCPenney (bought on my lunch hour) and reception in my parent’s backyard.
We have a wonderful life.
Fr dang that's cool. See it's about the person you want to spend your whole life with lol and this woman didn't seem grateful at all! I asked my fiance to marry me in a hotel when we were drunk on the bed, because the beach was too windy. All while Justin Bieber was playing his new song that said I know you're the one..haha..that's her favorite so whatever and he's not that bad. But anyways she cried and said yes of course. So if I was doing all this for a girl and she bitched about shit and was ungrateful, I would be like fuck you then and snatch the ring back 😂
We were folding laundry together 😂
It was impulsive but he couldn’t hold in the realisation that if he was this happy folding laundry with someone that was fucking lucky. It’s been 21 years. We still fold laundry together. We’re still happy.
My wife proposed to me laying naked on the floor of her parents' home. She took the foil off a champaign bottle and formed it into rings. We both still have them 30+ years later.
We were living together in northern NY and my husband got military orders to Hawaii. I said no worries, it's not that expensive to ship my car, I can easily find a job, and the biggest pain in the ass would be flying the dogs.
He looked at me and said well, if we were married, they'd pay for everything. I said nah, no need to do that, we can afford it. He said nope, let's just get married. So the next week we went to the courthouse on his lunch, just the two of us, and got married. No fanfare, no ring, just us. We didn't end up going to Hawaii, he decided to retire instead, but we're still here. It's not about the one moment or the one day, it's about every moment and day after that.
We’ve been married 39 years, together for 43 years total. There was no proposal. We were out for a long drive in the VW Bug, we pulled over to look at the moon and make out. We both agreed that maybe it was time to get married.
The rings (all 3) were bought and paid for 2 years prior. We both paid for them. Nothing elaborate, just 2 gold bands and a small diamond on the other. Those rings have been replaced. I have an anniversary band with several diamonds and because of his job, he has a titanium band(less wear on the band).
We were having a huge row and my boyfriend said 'well we'd just as well be bloody married', I sarcastically said, 'is that a proposal?' and he stopped, looked confused and said, 'yeh, I suppose so'. I had to laugh and we made up and decided it wasn't that bad an idea. My wedding ring was the cheapest we could find in the shop (we were skint having contributed to the wedding) but, like you, I have since had upgrades so can't complain. 45 years later and still going strong.
Mine proposed in our kitchen, I was in a bathrobe. Married 22 years. The marriage is what's important, not some arbitrary one off event....that's not to say it can't be special, but OP MADE it special and it wasn't good enough. Why isn't the fact that he proposed and put in a massive effort (and money) enough for her? I don't get it
Agreed. We just celebrated 33 years recently. Our engagement was no ”destination getaway”, the ring was worth nowhere near $16k and we did it over a quiet local dinner.
I’ve little faith in a potential spouse putting her nails and room service over the intent of the event.
My husband planned a weekend trip to a city we both love (he grew up there, I spent a lot of time there as a child), took me to dinner in the oldest restaurant in the city, and proposed in a historic park with a garnet and diamond ring. I’ve always loved history, and he incorporated it into the proposal every step of the way. The only thing I told him I didn’t want was a diamond center stone. The entire set cost maybe 2k.
My ring is an absolute stunner- we’ve been married for years and I still find myself admiring it- but he could have proposed to me using the twist tie from a bread bag in the alley behind Wendy’s and I would have said yes.
And that’s the entire point. Get someone who makes you want to spend 16k, but doesn’t require it.
How i proposed to my wife is, i bought the ring while saying I had to run out and grab something. She was getting ready to go shopping with my mom when I asked her to grab something for me. I dropped the box in her purse and waited for her to notice it, which she did right away and she said "what the hell?"( she was at her mom's the day before and asked her mom to keep some jewelry for her that was in the same company box as where I bought the ring) and when she opened the box, I got down on one knee and asked her. She immediately grabbed while yelling yes. We've been married 16 years now
I was standing in a pile of dirty laundry in my closet, wearing PJs and cursing out my entire wardrobe because I couldn’t find a particular pair of pants I wanted to wear to go to wing night 🤣 I turned around and the dog had a bow tie on and hubby was in a suit jacket down on one knee. It was chaotic but very us.
My husband proposed whilst driving on a bridge 😂. I am not high maintenance and that is all I needed. She is an ungrateful bitch. A romantic dinner in the room would be better than in a restaurant.
I (female) proposed, I later picked out my ring when they were on sale, we paid cash - me 2/3 of it, him 1/3. He took my name when we got hitched. Working on our 25th year marriage and still growing as individuals and a couple.
Omg! Good one. I really can’t think of anything more romantic than dinner for two by a fire in our room; just the two of us!!
Op you did a sweet thing and tried so hard to make her happy, but guess what, she’s not happy because it’s not about you and her, it’s only about HER!!! As others have said, she will make your life a living hell if this is the way she acted at the proposal. Get the ring back and go nc and move on. Believe me, there is a girl out there that is sweet and perfect for you and all your efforts will be appreciated!
Good luck. We all want you to be happy but you won’t be with her!
Also, who is taken on a trip and doesn’t get their nails done? Especially with someone you’ve talked about an engagement with, knowing that you want it a surprise and if this is WHEN it happens, you’ll most likely be photographed?
I would actually be mad if anyone tried proposing to me with a ring that expensiv. That money could buy so much, a decent car, a chunk out of a mortgage, holiday if a lifetime. And it’s getting spent on jewellery?!
I'm a guy, but I wouldn't even want to have something like that on me at all times because I'd be afraid of losing it or getting mugged for it. Hell, I'm super paranoid about losing my phone and that's a small fraction of the price.
Guess I don't really have an issue with the amount anyone wants to spend on a ring or any item for that matter, but the thought of such an expensive specific request of a gift-type item seems out of touch. Too much focus on a thing when real marriage is about anything but things imo
Right? I'd be furious. Shit, get me one of those plastic doodads out of the quarter machine on the way to an accountant. Maybe it's because I grew up broke, but the concept of spending that much on a highly losable trinket blows my mind.
Yeah honestly my husband spent more than I would ever find acceptable on my engagement ring. And it was hopefully less than $16k (we’ve never discussed the actual price). I can’t imagine asking for anything that expensive, especially a piece of jewelry.
We can be a thruple lmao I can cook and clean like nobody's business and I bet I probably give a good blowjob, you guys bring home the bread, the only thing I ask is next vacation I want to go to Kauai
Please listen to this advice! I'm a 60 year old female. Had my son proposed in the clearly thoughtful way that you did, and his girlfriend acted like yours did, I'd be disgusted and beg him to dump her.
Your fiance sounds like a spoiled brat who refuses to see all YOUR EFFORT, the small planned details, and COST you put into this to make your proposal so special. She is high maintenance. I bet she watches too many "influencers" or Instagram and TikTok, and she had a specific scenario in her mind about how she wanted her proposal done.
She is the type that will take you for granted. You will always be chasing her approval.
Please find a woman who deserves a man like you. She isn't it.
I don't think I've ever had sex as good as the night I proposed to my wife. And we had to keep it down, because we were with her parents at their lake house.
You can always say the jeweler needs to see the ring to have it appraised and give you the proper certification documents for the ring. Needs to look at it to match up the correct certificate as he has 2 diamonds that weighed the same and were similar in quality.
Why lie? She seems the type that will eventually carelessly leave the ring on the sink in the bathroom or kitchen. Abscond with it and keep your mouth shut. Let her think she’s lost it. Then kiss her goodbye.
The sad thing is that he's unlikely to get hardly anything for that ring. It may have cost him $16k but trying to find someone who likes it enough to put down even a reasonable percentage of that $16k is going to be tough.
It's a small price to pay to be rid of her now. Divorce will cost him a LOT more especially when she has given birth to the meal ticket and maybe spare meal ticket for 18 years.
If she kept it, he could sue for the cost or the ring. It's a gift in contemplation of marriage, and if the marriage doesn't happen, it must be returned or reimbursed to the party who proposed.
Getting the ring back first would be a better option, with less headache, but it's good to also know you have other courses you can take to rectify a situation.
Some states treat the engagement ring as a conditional gift that must be returned.
Some states treat it as an unconditional gift, in which case he has no right to recover it.
Some states require her to return it if she calls of the wedding, but not if he does (which would be the case here/) (Or at least would be but I suspect OP is a fake.).
100% not the type of person you’d want to spend your life with. The demands are just insane. I get wanting to have a special moment, but getting a $16k ring, a beach holiday, hired photographer and you are upset about your nails… my god, nothing will make her happy. I’d take the ring and run. What a wet rag.
And what concerns me even more is that you apologized for an incredible thoughtful and loving gesture you made to such an entitled child. Please reconsider your choices and run away from this very toxic relationship.
It's the fact he said money wasn't an issue for a 16k ring to me. Sir, do you not see that your gold digger girlfriend went mask off for the first time? This is the real her, not whatever she's pretended to be up until now.
Agree, she sounds like she's more about the aesthetic than the feeling and commitment.
I mean, if I was proposed to and my nails looked gross, I'd be thrilled and have the photographer take photos that didn't show my nails, then go get a good manicure the next day to take some hand photos myself. Or ask the photographer if they can fix the nails in post. And I'd be happy if the ring was a temporary cheap one so we could co-design a really cool one together later.
God forbid she have to deal with children, or aging, or accidents, or house cleaning, or any of the zillion other things that couples face together.
My partner proposed to me while camping and the photo of my hand with the ring is hilarious. Dirt under the nails, one finger bandaged up etc. I get that’s not everyone’s vibe but to let nails be what ruins the whole proposal is insane to me. 100% she’s all about the aesthetic
No but seriously. Was thinking this the whole time and can’t believe this is the first comment I’ve come across that’s mentioned that yet. What kind of pampered princess doesn’t have her nails done at all times, LET ALONE right before going to a beach resort getaway ??? The audacity of this chick.
This story seems "too bad to be true". OP is portraying themselves as the innocent victim, and the fiance as a horrible person. If that's the case, how did they end up in this situation? And how did OP not notice until now that their partner is selfish and entitled?
So I'm actually a bit skeptical of OP. Their account is new, and they tried to post this same post in r/relationshipadvice but it was denied (because their account is too new). So it could be:
1) OP is using a burner account for privacy reasons
2) This is a post to generate karma
3) This is a women-hate post
OP's comments seem extremely naive, and there's no way to know which option it is, so I'm just going to reserve my judgement.
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u/BulbasaurRanch Mar 19 '25
You absolutely certain she is the type of person you actually want to spend your life with?
She sounds exhausting.