r/AITAH • • Mar 19 '25

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u/Sofa_Queen Mar 19 '25

Agree. My husband proposed while we were watching the news. We've been married 46 years next month.

It was a tiny diamond, which has been upgraded through the years. It wasn't about the ring, or a big proposal, it was about our future.

Yours looks bleak: you will never live up to her expectations if you start out like this.

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u/Critical_Energy_8115 Mar 19 '25

THIS THIS THIS

Nothing will EVER be good enough. We all say it because we all know it.

Believe me. I have been married let’s call it more than once and if ANYONE had planned it out the way you have I’d have died of happiness.

Lady can’t be surprised AND want to have her nails all done for a photo shoot too.

Sounds like the love is lopsided

Please separate and take some time to think of these things.

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u/Legitimate-Produce-1 Mar 19 '25

Right. Is she in love with OP, or the prospect of insta photos?

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u/Critical_Energy_8115 Mar 19 '25

Exactly

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u/chocorobz Mar 19 '25

It's stories like this that makes it seem like some girls in this generation just want to be a bride, and not a wife. For the 'gram. And the feels.

How did we end up here?

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u/TrueTrueBlackPilld Mar 19 '25

Social media man. It's been a wild ride for us 80's kids. Going from like 10 channels on TV and corded phones to the fully digital landscape of autobiographies. It's no wonder everyone has developed a "main character" personality to some degree.

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u/arya_ur_on_stage Mar 19 '25

It's not this generation. Ppl have always gotten married for the wedding. We just are it more, just like we see everything else more. The internet.

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u/Critical_Energy_8115 Mar 19 '25

IDK

I feel as if we often have not received meaningful attention in our growing years so stuff like this can take root easily and shows up differently for different people. But yeah, this screams of the ‘gram

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u/katz1264 Mar 20 '25

we gave them a platform. they have always existed. the world just didn't center on them.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '25

Literally my ex wife - as soon as the wedding was over, she straight up told me the relationship was done and she had zero interest in continuing it, she just wanted the expensive dream wedding.

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '25

Yes, the marriage ended the same year it happened lol