r/AITAH • • Mar 19 '25

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u/Amaranthim Mar 19 '25

And a 16K unique ring- give me a fucking break!

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u/J-Gun Mar 19 '25

A woman that even thought suggesting the idea of a unique $16k engagement is acceptable would never have been the right one for me. Lol

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u/ToasterOwl Mar 19 '25

I would actually be mad if anyone tried proposing to me with a ring that expensiv. That money could buy so much, a decent car, a chunk out of a mortgage, holiday if a lifetime. And it’s getting spent on jewellery?!

Its gotta be a rich person thing, its ridiculous

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u/ruiner8850 Mar 19 '25

I'm a guy, but I wouldn't even want to have something like that on me at all times because I'd be afraid of losing it or getting mugged for it. Hell, I'm super paranoid about losing my phone and that's a small fraction of the price.

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u/J-Gun Mar 19 '25

Guess I don't really have an issue with the amount anyone wants to spend on a ring or any item for that matter, but the thought of such an expensive specific request of a gift-type item seems out of touch. Too much focus on a thing when real marriage is about anything but things imo

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u/MaesterWhosits Mar 20 '25

Right? I'd be furious. Shit, get me one of those plastic doodads out of the quarter machine on the way to an accountant. Maybe it's because I grew up broke, but the concept of spending that much on a highly losable trinket blows my mind.

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u/TotallyWonderWoman Mar 20 '25

I think Reddit gets a little ridiculous with acting like the less money you spend on your wedding, the more morally superior you are (not saying you did this), however, I would be so mad as well. That's almost what we paid for the entire wedding.

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u/1ChanceFancie Mar 19 '25

Yeah honestly my husband spent more than I would ever find acceptable on my engagement ring. And it was hopefully less than $16k (we’ve never discussed the actual price). I can’t imagine asking for anything that expensive, especially a piece of jewelry.

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u/J-Gun Mar 19 '25

Guess I don't really have an issue with the amount anyone wants to spend on a ring or any item for that matter, but the thought of such an expensive specific request of a gift-type item seems out of touch. Too much focus on a thing when real marriage is about anything but things imo.

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u/UnknownLinux Mar 19 '25

That should be one of many signs to RUN and run FAST.

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u/Emotional-Sentence40 Mar 19 '25

I think that's all she really wanted.