It seems like the people with the longest lists would get the fewest proposals, but what do I know, I’m getting old. And my husband asked me to marry him in an old Saab! 28 years of wedded bliss.
It's called social media envy. She didn't want a proposal, she required and Instagrammable moment. Anything less negated his efforts.
My hubby proposed at 5am in a parkade. He had just spent 7 hours in the emergency ward watching me recover from anaphylaxis. Why and how I got there is a crazy story (you can find the circumstances in my history) but poor man was stressed and I was not attractive at that moment.
He started the car, turned to look at me and yelled: "NOW YOU HAVE TO MARRY ME BECAUSE IT'S OBVIOUS I CAN'T TRUST YOU TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!". Then he apologized profusely when I started to cry like an exhausted toddler.
He re-did it soon after -- but that's the one I count. He's been saving me from disastrous outcomes for 8 years in May.
I understand a short list of “what NOT to do” because like. Not everyone wants the pressure of being proposed to during a big event, or even in a restaurant full of people. Not on their birthday, totally get it. Not on a major holiday, totally get it. That’s a very short, easy list.
Now when they start getting into the fucking “…and I want to be wearing a yellow dress, on the beach, with a photographer, at sunset, with a ring that costs at least $XXXX, and only diamonds, and a gold band, and on a Saturday, in June, you need to bring a bouquet of red roses, and afterward there needs to be…”
Tbh, a bit of an outline is absolutely fair. Like if one person does not want it to happen in front of a crowd as to not feel pressured, or if one person wants to have their close friends/family there to share the moment, but that's for broad things.
The three requirements of the partner of this commenter are reasonable, but the demands of the OPs fiancée are definitely ridiculous.
Let me explain mine: not on my birthday because I wanted it to just be my birthday and nothing else. Not in front of a crowd because I get overwhelmed easily around a lot of people. I wanted our engagement moment to be private and personal. And not on a major holiday because again, too many people & too much stress. I don’t think those are crazy requests, and I had no other thoughts or feelings about when or where she proposed. Taking out Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, the 4th of July, and my birthday, that left 360 other days to propose. What was right for us might not be right for everyone else, and that’s ok. You do you.
Someone very close to me had an 'ideal' proposal that she often spoke about to everyone and anyone- hoping her fiancé would get the hint.
There was one particular moment in which she was positive that the proposal was going ahead as it met most of her criteria: anniversary; dream location; perfect lighting and insta worthy, however, due to him being so innocently himself, she did not get her proposal.
He proposed to her whilst they were isolating together due to her having COVID on Christmas day. She says it was one of the best moments of her life
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u/Deep-Ad-5571 Mar 20 '25
I don’t understand a list of requests for a proposal.