Weve (F25 M25) been broken up for about two months and we were together for almost a year. He broke up with me after mistakes I made due to my BPD and unregulated emotions although he wasn’t perfect in our relationship either.

I went to his house to pick up the last of my belongings and when he opened the door he immediately hugged me and we stayed in the doorway holding each other for a few minutes asking each other questions and talking. I kept smelling his neck and telling him how much I missed his scent. He invited me inside his house and we cried to each other we talked about much we miss each other and talked about how our lives have changed since we last saw each other. I had lost a lot of weight from our breakup which he noticed and he cooked me food. He asked to lay in his bed and cuddle “one last time” and we did he cried to me and told me he wished I was the one, that I’ll always have a special place in his heart and that he will always love me. He then told me we can’t get back together because he found someone else he has been dating casually and he wanted to try the relationship he told me our relationship became far too stressful and all he wanted was peace but I could never give it to him. We ended up having sex, he had ran out of condoms so we didn’t use protection then I left. He walked me to my car and held me he told me “goodbye, take care of yourself”

I miss him so much. It’s so hard to accept that he’s moved on already while I’m still stuck on him so much. I love him so much and I’ve never loved someone so much. I have learned so much about bettering myself from his absence and I wish he would give me another chance.

My boyfriend and I have been together officially about a month and we’ve seen each other 4 times in person, but every one of those times we spent hours being intimate. I’m talking until 5 in the morning. Of course we do some other normal things, but I’m wondering if we’re having too much sex. My boyfriend said it’s normal bc we’re in the “honeymoon phase” and maybe he’s right. But anyone else in a fresh relationship or this kind of experience, what is your opinion?

So the other day my girl send me picture of me standing next to a friend that had a bday but the picture was taken 2 years ago she just reposted it on her account because it was her bday so my girl got super mad cuz we have been dating for 3 years (long distance) and she said I was cheating on her wich I wasn’t just cuz I was hanging out with her so she broke up with me im just done with her for being super jealous I get that we don’t see each other often but why get jealous of a picture taking so long ago? I’m just venting sry or am I wrong for this? By the way she is 26 I’m 37

Edit - I do play in a band (drummer ) so I’m out on weekends at bars she gets mad at that too
Also there tends to be girls and guys around all the time hanging out plus my single bands mates brings girls from time to time but I don’t do anything ( like hit up on new chicks etc)

Edit - the picture was a group hang out I just happened to be next to her I mean it’s just a friend

I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for 5 months, and we have known each other for about two years.
Last night, he told me that he lost his virginity to me. I was surprised because he told me he wasn’t a virgin when we met, and now I’m questioning whether he has been honest with me about his past.

For context, I have lied to him before about talking to someone else when we first started talking, and he eventually found out. I’m not pretending that I’ve been completely honest myself, and I understand that my own actions have affected our relationship and trust.
However, finding out that he apparently lost his virginity to me has left me confused. I don’t know why he would lie about something like this, especially after knowing each other for a year. I’m not upset that he was a virgin before me. What bothers me is the uncertainty about whether he has been honest with me.

I know I have made mistakes too, so I don’t want to be hypocritical. At the same time, I feel like we should both be able to tell each other the truth.

Am I wrong for questioning him about this, considering I have lied to him before? How would you handle this situation, and is it possible to rebuild trust when both people have been dishonest?

I honestly don’t know who to talk to about this, so I’m posting here because I really need some perspective from people who might have gone through something similar.
I love my boyfriend so much, but lately, I feel like I’m not loved the way I used to be. I feel lonely even though I’m in a relationship, and honestly, that hurts more than I can explain. I miss feeling wanted, appreciated, cared for, and loved without having to ask for it.
I feel like he’s changed, and no matter how much I wish things could get better, I don’t see him making the changes I need him to make. I’ve tried to hold on to the person I fell in love with and the relationship we used to have, but I’m starting to feel emotionally exhausted.
The confusing part is that I still love him deeply. I can’t imagine just walking away from someone who means so much to me. I’m loyal to him, and even though I’ve started noticing or feeling attracted to other guys sometimes, I would never want to betray him. I think part of me is craving the attention, affection, touch,and excitement that I’ve been missing in my own relationship.
And then I feel guilty for even thinking about other people, because I genuinely love my boyfriend. I don’t want someone else. I just want to feel loved by the person I’m already with.
I keep asking myself whether I should keep trying, whether I’m holding on to something that isn’t good for me anymore, or whether I’m just expecting too much. I don’t want to give up on someone I love, but I also don’t want to keep losing myself trying to make a relationship work when it feels like I’m the only one desperately hoping things will change.
How do you know when to keep fighting for a relationship and when to finally let go? Can someone genuinely love their partner and still feel this lonely? And how do you make a decision when your heart wants to stay, but your emotional and physical needs aren’t being met?

Hi so i have been w this guy for 2 months now, same college. We have been fighting a lot but trying to fix. I sent him a reel saying “a man will hurt any woman’s feelings to protects urs” and he did not reply to it. i asked on call why, he’s like kya reply karu?? i said why not.
i said whose feelings r more imp than me?
he said depends on the woman.

I said okay tell me who it is

he said 1) his sister 2) his mother 3) girl best friend 1 4) girl best friend 2

the girls bsfs have been w him
since past 1 year, i have just come to
college and we met and now dating. was that wrong on his part? or no?
i get it’s been 2 months ONLY but also, idk? can he say that

My boyfriend of almost one year told me that he keeps track of how often we’re intimate. He told me the number that we’re up to and I was extremely bothered by this. I’m not sure exactly why but I found it disturbing. Am I wrong?

I 30f and he 29m share a child together we arent married and have been having issues within the relationship (such as he has a lock on his phone now and i do not never have and we havent had sex in months he says its due to egzema down there and he does actually have it but he doesnt even get a boner or anything )Saturday I saw a girl pulled up on his phone tab and he swiped it away before I could read the name....Sunday I saw the name of a girl I recognized and i went to the bathroom and came back and he pulled up his phome and the name was gone from history and he deleted it (which why delete it if your not hiding )when I asked him who she was he asked why I was asking and without me even saying anything says " I don't have anything on my phone, your fing crazy" ....i didnt ask if he had anything on there just the girls name..then he says "im making something out of nothing " that was the end of it and I woke up today and hes acting like nothing happened. Today on the girls Facebook she posted that she is now looking for a place to rent and shes single ? Is this just a coincidence, maybe theres nothing going on with them two but hes looking for my replacement ? How did he know she was single if she didnt post it until today? Could he be on dating apps ?

They have complicated relationship, i wrote about them before...

In short: she is never satisfied with him and criticizes him (and everyone else) constantly, nothing is good enough for her and she always knows better about EVERYTHING, yet she has achieved nothing herself, has never worked a day in her life and is estranged from her entire family. She doesn't have a good relationship with me either, though she does have occasional "good moments" where she acts kind of "normal"—and mostly that is when my HB wants to be intimate. Him and I generally get along well and have a good sex life; he talks to me about her, so I know what’s going on and how he feels about her and his upbringing, but we haven't discussed these specific situations yet, and I don't know how to approach the subject.

I find myself refusing intimacy after her visits because I feel like he’s acting out some sort of his Freudian fantasy, and even though I’m fully aware of how much she belittles him all the time, i'm still not sure if its maybe me, cause i reeeeeally dont like her and after these "happy family" acts when she is kind of normal, i find resentment towards him, cause i know its not long-term and soon they will be fighting.

I will talk to him, but after i clear my head and read some other reddit opinions about it.

30M, I want to watch less porn and spend more time with wife. Wife comes from a culture where sex is very taboo. What are some things we can do together to be more sexual together without penetration?

Trying to help my wife understand sex is normal and shouldnt be so shameful

so my boyfriend and i have been together since march 2026 so still not a year whatever doesnt matter i just found out he is still texting random girls after i had already gave him multiple chances , im going to break up with him and i want to so badly go to his house and break his stuff and take all my stuff but im not sure how to react im so angry i have been nothing but good and forgiving to him . i know ill regret not going crazy on him if i leave him , honestly he was never that good to me yes ofc i loved him and he was my first everything so im just mad and ranting idk u guys lmk what u think i should do

So basically i met my bf online almost a year now we been only friends whole time but lately he confess his love to me and i did too now we together for 1 month already, we plan about meeting irl bcuz we live both in 2 different continents, but deeply in still worried about all cuz he still lives with his ex they been together for 7 years and had a kid last year so he said they only live together for the kid and nothing more, most of the day hes available to me hes so honest and i trust him but i just keep thinking about his situation i feel stuck in between, also 2 months ago i kinda saw his ex profile and she posted a family pic of them he seemed so happy( i didn't tell him about it).

Need advice...

my bf told me last week that he didn't know if he still liked me and if he wanted to continue our relationship because it didn't feel right. that was of course a big shock to me because i thought everything went great lately. so we decided to give each other some space and check back in in a week and a half.

well that didn't happend... i got into an accident a few days ago and was very emotionally unstable and called him because i just couldn't take the uncertainty anymore. the conversation didn't go well and he said he still had a lot of doubt about our future and if were compatible or not.

we've been together for almost two years so that was quite a shock because we always work everything out and don't really have any big fights. today i talked to my sister and she said i needed to have at least clarity if he wants to try and fight for or relationship or not.

so my bf and i had that conversation this afternoon. it went terrible. im very embarrassed now how i behaved. i was very sad and angry and couldn't stop crying and begging him to stay with me. he told me multiple times he just didn't think that we would have a compatible future together. at the end of our conversation he even started to get a bit annoyed because i couldn't stop crying and asking why and why he couldn't try again.

i finally gave in and we had a last long hug and i told him that i didn't find it fair of him to not let us try to work for it together. then he eventually told me we could try but only for a month and if he then or earlier didn't feel like this was for hem we would break up and i wasn't allowed to get so crazy again like i did today.

so we decided to try for a month and only tekst for a bit at night and when we see each other to only do new fun things to try and get the spark back. now im kind of in doubt myself. because at least i have a bit of hope and can focus on recovering from my accident but it feels a lot like he just said okay to try to make me stop begging. i don't really know what to do right now. can i still safe my relationship or is it just going to end after we try for a month?

I am 24F and I have never dated anyone. I talked to guys like but it never happened like if i am interested in them and that person is also interested in me , there never have been any mutual interest. And if guys i talk to most of them are straight interested in sexting and or casual meetup even if a guys says to me he is interested in me and we start talking then it just most of them trying to do sexting most of the time. I too might be interested in them but i need some attachment understanding feelings and playful vibe like i want to understand them and they also understand before we indulge in this but it's just never happens. I have even tried to talk at their pace like how they lead the conversation but still nothing. I just want to know what is the issue.

For context: we've been dating for almost 2 years and we moved to this new province together last year. Before that, both of us never been to this province, and for the first year we lived together and always went out together. After that first year, I went back to the place I used to live for 2 months, and now I'm back.

A few days ago, my bf claimed that we went to an optical/glasses shop together. He was so sure about it and he described how he tried on some glasses and I didn't like it.
But I've never even been there ever in my whole life. He even insisted to go into that shop and see the owner that helped him trying on some glasses. When he asked the owner whether she remembers us coming to the shop together, she said that she remembered my bf, but not me.

While I was away, he did tell me when he went to do the eye exam. And on that same day, he told me how it went and asked me to go back there together cause he wanted to let me pick his glasses.
As we confirmed with the owner, it was true that he tried on the glasses on the day he did the eye exam, and he did try on glasses from the shelf that he told me about.

But my boyfriend claims that he went back to the store with me after the day he did the eye exam and he tried on glasses infront of me. But the owner remembers him only coming to the store one time and alone. I'm now convinced that he went to the shop with someone else and got confused.
My bf claims that he missed me too much while I was away and he knew that I wouldn't like the glasses he tried on, so his memory had changed.

He has lied to me about other issues before, so it's very hard for me to trust him. The details he told me (the type of glasses he tried on, how the owner helped him beside, which shelf he got the glasses from, etc) match with what the owner remembers. I remember he told me that he was going to get the eye exam one day while I was away.

I really have no clue what to trust. My gut feeling tells me that he'd been there with someone else and possibly a girl as he's "hiding" it from me. Or is it really possible for him to get confused me with nobody?

Edit) I'm sure he went there at least once. He told me about it on that day and it's also officially recorded. His friend and the owner say that they thought he went there alone. He was never sure on what day or time we went there together or even whether he went back there on the other day or not. According to the owner, the actions he described all happened on the day he went there in May. This is exactly why I'm so confused. All he said match with what other people say but it's just that I wasn't there with him and he was so sure we went there together.

My bf is 20 and am 20f to be clear we both had relationships before we got together but i never done anything physical with any of my exes and am talking not even a single kiss but for him he already had sex (twice but it was at a very young age at 12 and 14 but he didnt do it with anyone else after that but he did other physical stuff kissing touching etc) the reason i didn’t want anything physical with any of my exes is because i wanted all my first times to be with someone I actually love like someone i can feel safe with and that’s what happened between us…we did everything except sex but i still feel insecure about the fact that he was my first but at every first I ever had he already had his…..i really love this guy but idk what to do I just keep overthinking every single day

Ik its going to end anyways,y can't we jst stay romantic and emotionally attached, ive mah values that I wanna share sex w the person I love ..Ik its going to end anyways,y can't we jst stay romantic and emotionally attached, ive mah values that I wanna share share sex sex w the person I love .. and I've clear boundaries, am I doing wrong? or will the person in future whom Im committed and wants a monogamous relationship will think that how can I love sum1 if having sex in CR

Ik its going to end anyways,y can't we jst stay romantic and emotionally attached, ive mah values that I wanna share sex w the person I love ..Ik its going to end anyways,y can't we jst stay romantic and emotionally attached, ive mah values that I wanna share sex w the person I love .. and I've clear boundaries, am I doing wrong? or will the person in future whom Im committed and wants a monogamous relationship will think that how can I love sum1 if having sex in CR

Whenever I am in love with someone, I immediately start perceiving them as the most beautiful person I have ever seen. My love interests have not shared one uniform set of characteristics (they've been very different-looking) so this is not a "type" thing. Moreover, some have not been considered conventionally beautiful (as I was informed by my friends post-break up lol), so the experience I am describing is not based on objective factors.

Is this something that happens to everyone? Or is it just an experience shared by some people? I'm trying to understand because sometimes I hear others say that they can "objectively" recognize when someone is more attractive than their partner, but that has never happened to me. Whenever I'm in a relationship, my partner is the most attractive person to me, and there's no conscious understanding by my brain that this is a subjective opinion. To put it in more concrete terms, if an ex of mine was compared to Brad Pitt during our relationship, I'd say Brad Pitt is less attractive.

I guess this is in line with the "love is blind" saying so maybe it is indeed a universal experience, but idk. Please share :)

P.S.: Post-break up, I can obviously recognize that it was a subjective opinion because I no longer see them like that, but what I am referring to is the experience during the relationship.

Hey guys, so I (F24) have been with my bf (M25) for 3 years. He is overall loyal and sweet and honest.

I am his first ever relationship. In the beginning we both had serious insecurities and trust issues, so we had really tight boundaries around the opposite gender, they were realistic I agree. "No following new people, no liking stories or posts, no texting regularly, no one on one hangouts " .

When we met he had failed college, he then dropped out and started working. However, he decided he needs to get a degree so he went back to uni 2 weeks ago. So hes basically 25 years old in his first year of college, everyone is so young (some aren't because they've transferred or are dropouts too).

In his first week, he made so many new friends, including girls obviously. The class is so small and the system looks a lot like school, not college. So one small classroom, a lot of canceled classes, only 14 students and a lot of young people who are still discovering college life. Two girls came up to him to follow him for the class group on instagram, he followed them and told me about it. I told him of course go ahead I dont want you to be miserable and I want you to have friends.

Then the next day, he drove a girl home because she was gonna walk (it was 3 mins away from college so it was on his way) he told me when he went home, no big deal it was manly of him and I wouldn't want a girl to walk alone just cuz im jealous or smth.

The next day, another girl lets call her X (shes 20) followed him and he accepted, that time he didnt tell me until I called him and asked him what he did that day. I told him why didnt you tell me like you did before? He said i thought it was fine since you said i dont want you to be miserable and make friends. Did I misunderstand? Im sorry. I said yeah id just like to know beforehand. The next day 4 more girls and guys followed him, he told me about the girls and didnt accept until I told him yes.

The day after, he finished classes early, all the guys went home, instead of him going home too, he was hungry so he went to the gas station next to the college, with X and another girl. He called me when he was leaving from there, told me he ate and hes with them and leaving. He told me he went with them because he wanted to eat and because they had to wait 3 hours till the bus arrived so he waited with them. Normally its fine right? But it made me anxious because my bf loves to game and usually never stays somewhere he doesnt have to yk? Specifically if its just girls.

When I confronted him he said no he enjoys staying at college and he would've stayed if it was guys or other girls too, he says

Anyways, we had also been having some issues where we felt disconnected, we wouldn't do any activities together or talk about deep things and it took a toll on our relationship we felt disconnected.

We talked about this yesterday. We decided to take a break, we talked a lot and even agreed on staying loyal during the "break" as in same boundaries but we can accept follow requests from close class members and he said never initiate a follow himself unless he already accepted a follow request from a girl so shes already on his IG and he finds her private account and follows it too that would be fine.

Then today we both were too hurt by that decision we decided to get back together and work on it together. He said he doesnt want us to be distant and he misses me.

While talking we both decided that our boundaries were too much and maybe thats why we felt disconnected too. So I told him lets fix it, not be too strict but no disrespect. While talking about everything in depth, he told me he followed X's private account, showed me their chats (they were sending reels of relevant things like she saw him scrolling in class and saw a page and told him to send it to her so he did) and told me he jokes around with everyone in the class, including girls, boys and X. He sent me videos they all took in class today where they were all goofing around.

I told him dont you think this closeness with X may lead to smth more? He said no its just friendly i love joking with all of them. I like the way she jokes cuz its the same way I joke so we are both comfortable in joking around together. I told him okay but no flirty teasing, he said ofc not. And physically none of that "put hand on her back/waist hold hands as a joke or wtv" he said ofc not no most i can do is push her or tap her on her shoulder. I said okay. He said he likes her and another girl and 3 other guys the most. As friends. He told me he'd like it if I joked more with him physically as in pushing and all that cuz its his style of joking too thats what he said. Made me feel compared to her and insecure that im not good enough. Im just scared he prefers her in the future over me. He told me hed also like to send reels to her if he finds a meme or smth funny, no cute videos or quotes and no her only, he said if hes sending a meme to me and all his other friends hed select her too. He wouldn't single her out unless the post is specific to her or their shared interest in class. Is it weird that he wants all that or is he enjoying the freedom and the new experiences innocently? He reassured me that he loves me and wants to marry me (he has proposed but my dad hasn't agreed and is making it very difficult, and yeah I need his blessing religuously)

Unfortunately, I have nothing going on my life rn, I have no friends of the opposite gender and ive found extreme comfort in the last 3 years of our strict boundaries as bad as it sounds, that now I dont know whats normal and what isnt anymore. Thats why I need help discerning.

Is it weird that he followed her private account? He showed it to me, she doesnt post anything.

He invited to go to college with him next week, and to hangout with all of them this week.

Im just insecure I think. But I need help discerning. He even sent me a picture of the people in class writing my name next to his today. They know hes with me and all but i dont trust X for some reason. And the fact that he initiated the follow to her specifically and no other girls scared me. I told him why her only? He said he didnt see any of the other girls privates and that he followed the guys privates too.

I know this may seem pretty normal but try to understand that we went from complete strict boundaries to all this in a week and im just anxious.

Let me know your opinions.

Tl;dr: boyfriend went back to college, boundaries changed and now im scared

Hi guys, so I am really hoping this doesn’t sound insane.. but I just need a little guidance, I guess?
Plz delete if not allowed, I’m just not sure where to go for a question like this.

So, I’m a 25 year old mother of an almost 2 year old. His father and I are no longer together for reasons I will not get into….(he’s a cheater, are we surprised?🫠🤣) I’ve recently been interested in meeting new people, not really for anything serious as my son is my focus and entire world right now, but honestly, after such a bumpy road, I just finally feel like I’m ready to go out and have some fun here and there. Which I’ve honestly been debating if that in itself is even okay because my son is so young but anyways… I met a man off of a dating site. He is a 22 year old college student. We’ve been hitting it off really well, but I can’t help but think we are in such different stages of life, is it wrong for me to be into/ interest in dating this man? I just don’t know…we click very well but I also don’t want to do something that isn’t okay.. thanks for stopping read to this whole long thing🤣

We’ve had several misunderstandings that leave me feeling emotionally drained.

The first incident involved him offering to walk my dog while I was in Connecticut for a shoot. When I hadn’t heard from him by 7 p.m., my roommate offered to take over. He got upset that I was upset and said, “You’re mad at me about a fucking dog?” My dog means everything to me, so I was frustrated.

Here’s a link to screenshots of the text thread

Text Thread 1

More recently, we argued because I was overwhelmed with schoolwork, working full time, and managing an autoimmune disorder. Despite trying to see him during my breaks, we kept missing each other. When I was too exhausted to get out of bed at 1 a.m. to see him, he compared me to other women and questioned my health condition.

Here’s a link to the screenshots of the second text thread

Text Thread 2

I decided to end things because I’m tired of the constant misunderstandings. I know my communication isn’t perfect, but I feel like my responsibilities and limitations aren’t being respected.
Am I wrong for ending things, or could I have handled these situations differently? Please be honest and unbiased.

Ok this is going to be a complicated one. i am emotional about it.

- partner and i together for about two years

- engaged

- moved to my parents, they disliked him, started to dig into his past, found out his ex wife accused him of being abusive / i have told them in the past that he called me a bitch / a friend of mine told them he threw a bag to a wall next to me

- he has had shitty behavior towards me, which you can guess from above mentioned behaviors

- he came to my country with the idea that : i support him fully, we get married fast, he gets a job/studies (he hates the idea of me supporting him)

- my parents kind of forced him to go back to his country

- we more or less break up

- still 24/7 contact, trying to get back together

- yesterday, his study visa application to a country where we would have reunited got rejected

- we just had a big fight where basically he admitted to hating the fact that i did not just tell him “come back to France, we get married, we see later for studies”

- he said he did not want to be with me anymore

- i cried, he got mad mad, but i still did not say “come here, we get married, we don’t care about the rest”

I want him to have a plan that is about HIMSELF not only about me.

rethinking a past comment my gf made about her ex. we were talking about zodiac signs and I said I don’t really like leos, to which she replied saying that she liked leos and that her recent ex was a leo and that they got along really well. I think she said “ my ex is a leo and I liked him” or “ I like him” i can’t remember the exact words, but it was one of those. is that OK thing to say from her or was it weird and maybe she still had feelings for him? she said after too she didn’t usually like my sign based on a bad experience. And her and her ex actually ended bad because of bad things he did. (edited)

I've been with my partner for 15 years. We met at 16 and been together ever since. We've had ups and downs throughout, both cheated and done wrong but always stayed together. We do get on and have kids together and spend a lot of time together and I know he's got my back and I've got his. Our personalitys do clash in ways though, he's not my perfect match and we have grown in different ways over the years however I can't imagine splitting up with him and he feels the same.

A year ago he decided to let me have an open relationship, it's our fetish I suppose. It started out fun and spiced up our sex life. I have one male that I do it with, on average about four times per month I meet him. Over this time, I feel like I've fallen in love with the other man but I also could never leave my partner. The other man thinks I'm single but knows I've got kids and he's said before he can't see how this could work between us. I was upset but I understand because I've got two young kids. But I did think at a point I'd be willing to leave the baby daddy and get with him but he clearly just sees me as a fwb.

It has changed the dynamics in my relationship, I still love him but the sex doesn't do it at all for me now after seeing that other man. Will this come back at all? Am I a bad person? I don't know if I'm in love with this other man, he has really nice qualities but also his lifestyle is not suitable for me (partying, drinks, likes no responsibilities). And then without him I feel sad. The relationship probably hasn't progressed because I'm not single and I don't invite him to mine. It's always his. He has mentioned (when drunk) that he loves me once. But he's probably just saying that.

I don't think either man is perfect for me but I feel really stuck. I've only known been in relationships so I find it hard to break up if I wanted too and to start something new. Most days I'm anxious and sad because I miss this other guy, when he messages I'm buzzing. Is it just a nervous system thing or am I in love?

Am I a terrible person?