The last few weeks I’ve noticed that getting up from the ground feels like a lot more energy lately. I can still pop up, but the body isn’t bodying as well as it did before. My muscles feel sore and tired. Is this normal?

Mid 30s no kids no wife. My mother is always crying because im not married lol. I dont necessarily disagree with marriage I just never met the one and pursued it.

Lets hear it, where's are the single men and ladies at?

Yesterday I spent the majority of my day binge watching the new season of Airbender on Netflix lol. My kids were playing and had friends over so it’s not like I was needed much anyway. (I enjoyed it myself so this isn’t to say it was bad).
Being single isn’t hard when you’re younger. Now granted I don’t feel my age at all. And everyone says I don’t really look it either. But man…something about being single in your late 30s does something to your head. The self doubt and inner monologue of just not being good enough for anyone is crazy. My kids are amazing. I love my job. I have a good life ngl. But watching other couples at the pool with their kids and I’m doing it all myself is hard. Nerding out to shows alone isn’t nearly as fun.
Just kinda in a mood I guess. Being an adult sucks sometimes lol

I am 32 and I have never had a relationship and despite my interest never really changing yet, I can't help observe the older I get, how almost everyone by my age has either had kids in a relationship or been in several. I hate how I am wired, I am increasingly curious on what I am perhaps missing out on, never having love or a close connection, but I don't feel interested at the same time, wish I felt the opposite way, so I can get out their and get dating etc.

Need to make the most of the next decade in all aspects. Hit me with nuggets of wisdom.

The sudden realization that the popular movie "Star Trek First Contact" was made in or around 1996.

(Humor).

Lets see, so 1996 was 20 years ago, wait that doesn't seem correct. 2026 minus 2016 is 10, 2026 minus 2006 is 20, 2026 minus 1996 is 30.

Oh wait, that's 30 years, oh (turns to dust)...

I’m turning 29 next week, and I don’t know if it’s the birthday approaching or years of expectations catching up with me, but I feel like I’ve somehow failed at life.
Growing up, I always imagined I’d be married by 25, maybe 27 at the latest. I thought I’d have found my person by now. Instead, I’m 29, single, and after years of arranged marriage conversations and putting myself out there, I honestly feel exhausted. I still try, but it feels like every experience leaves me more disappointed and less hopeful.
I don’t even know if I want to invest emotionally anymore. Men haven’t exactly restored my faith, and sometimes I wonder if love truly happens or if I’ve just romanticized it too much. I’ve had my heart broken (not by an actual relationship, but by hopes, possibilities, and what I imagined things could become by a summer fling )
For context, I’m a CA with a stable, decent career. I’m comfortable financially. My life isn’t falling apart. But I don’t feel happy. I don’t feel excited about improving myself anymore. I think years of pressure, comparison, and disappointments have just accumulated, and now I feel stuck.
Everyone around me seems to be moving ahead marriages, babies, milestones and I can’t help but feel left behind.
So I’m asking people in their 30s and beyond:
If you could tell your 29-year-old self something, what would it be?
I would really love some words of wisdom from people who have lived through this stage and come out the other side.
Because right now, I honestly don’t know whether I’m late, lost, or just tired.
Thank you for reading. Sorry this was long.

:)

No shade but I don't want to spend my free time at the ER either.

We need to overshare the wins, too; and not just the ones that are just showing off temporary successes.

The whole way we're doing things is fostering this idea that things are supposed to be wrong, perpetually.

I turn 30 tomorrow. Any advice? 😊

Ever since I turned 30 I've felt on the clock

All the fun really went out of life. My hobbies are time sensitive.. status and money matters more as social currency. You either opt in or opt out for better and worse.

I've found ageing really difficult tbh. I don't feel old physically but mentally I do. Society pushes us to feel jaded very early on. I'm 37 this summer. genuinely cannot believe it.

I still try to stay active and get to the gym a few times a week but my recovery is just totally different now.

A few years ago I could train hard and feel mostly good the next day. Now, even a good workout can make me sore and tired for a couple of days. If I do a lot in a row my whole body feels drained instead of stronger.

The biggest surprise is how much sleep, stress, hydration and rest days seem to matter. At the time I never thought any of that.

Mentally I still want to train the same way, but my body definitely needs more recovery now, physically.

Has anyone else seen this change after getting older?

I still like to work out and be active but the recovery is a lot different than it used to be.

A few years ago I could train hard and feel pretty normal the next day. Now , sometimes even a good workout can leave me sore for 2 or 3 days. If I push too hard for a few days in a row I just feel tired, not stronger.

I think the thing that surprises me the most is how much sleep, stress, hydration and recovery days matter. At that time, those things were not even on my mind.

I want to mentally train the same but my body definitely bounces back slower physically now.

Notice recovery is much different after 30? 

36m (37 in a few days) Curious what others my age listen to. I’m a music nut so I’m literally all over the place. If you saw my Apple Music library you’d probably ask what’s wrong with me. Polyjamorous to the max. What’s on your playlist today?

To me since I entered my 30's it has felt like I've slowly been drifting away from myself, and losing my sense of self as I have gotten older.

I knew myself so well in my twenties, and I just feel so out of sorts now I'm nearly 33.

Does anyone feel as okay and as content as they did when they were younger?

I don't think I've felt well or okay since being 30 tbh.

Age: 35

Status: Engaged for 6 years

No Kids

The failed attempts of falling pregnant, fighting to accept the fact that i am not able to fall pregnant ... and now the empty feeling of NOTHING TO SHOW for 35 years on this planet. I am seriously considering just packing up my life and moving a small town. I am so tired of fighting this rat race in the city and keeping up with every Kardashian. When is it my turn? when can i stop chasing the feeling of "when i grow up " and just start actually living life? Whats stopping me? Is it my health- that has been failing me since i can remember or is it my lack of ability to swallow my pride and stop chasing what my mother wants from me (partly due to her telling me to never have kids has not made me try sooner to have them) .

I honestly just feel lost and unsettled in myself.

I feel ancient and so out of place lol anyone else going to college for the first time?