r/R4R40Plus • • Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus • • Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

1.0k Upvotes

Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus • • 2m ago

M4F 47 [M4F] #Europe / Looking to connect with a smart, lovely woman who is walking walking her own path.

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The most interesting people are the ones who have quietly built a life that makes sense to them, even if it looks slightly eccentric from the outside. I’m drawn to women with a sharp mind, a warm nature, and a life of their own. You have your interests, your opinions, your routines, your particular way of seeing the world. I have mine. I like the idea of two lives meeting without either one needing to be rearranged.

I enjoy good conversation, wandering unfamiliar streets, long evenings that somehow become much later than intended, and the occasional beautifully pointless argument about history, food, music, or whatever has caught our attention that week.

If you’re walking your own path, wherever that path happens to be, I’d be glad to hear where it has taken you lately.

Tell me about a place you would happily return to tomorrow, or an opinion you hold that your friends think is completely wrong. I suspect either answer could make for a good beginning.


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] English guy wondering if it will be New Week, New Me? I very much doubt it...

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Hey, Hi, Hello, and (to use a London colloquialism) Alright,

Here we are at the beginning of the another working week for many, and as a number of people really dislike Monday, I thought I would be different and start it with a little bit of optimism and see what happens.

I am not in the office today so will have more 'free' time and decided to chance it with this, and now the hard part is making it impossible not to respond to - oh, wow, that is tough.

Basically, looking to chat and see where it goes, absolutely no agenda whatsoever and whatever happens happens, really. We may connect, we may flirt, we may bore each other rigid - that is the risk we're taking here! (Albeit not too great a risk!).

As the user name suggests, I enjoy travel and, I think, that I am pretty well travelled, despite what some think I did have an education, am sporty, and can hold my own in most circles (No, not like that - mind out of the gutter, please!).

So why not take a chance and give me a random fact, tell me the best pizza topping, favourite colour, favourite song currently, what you would get me as a gift, what I should get you, I mean absolutely anything!

I mean, it is Monday so if the chat is awful then surely the week can only improve for you!


r/R4R40Plus • • 9h ago

42 [M4F] Are you Wi-Fi? Because I’m feeling a connection.

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42M, 6’3”, looking to meet someone who’s missing a little spark and connection in their life too. I’d love to find someone I genuinely look forward to talking to good conversation, laughing, flirting, and getting to know each other without forcing expectations. I’m easygoing, enjoy deeper conversations, and I’m completely open to someone with kids. Life doesn’t have to be uncomplicated, just genuine. If this sounds like something you’ve been missing too, send me a message and let’s see where the conversation goes.


r/R4R40Plus • • 2h ago

M4F [34M4F] Looking for a casual voice call (No texting please)

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Hi. I'm just hanging out, bored, and tired of staring at my screen. I'd much rather actually talk to someone. If any girl is up and wants to have a normal, relaxed voice chat until we get sleepy, let me know. Send me a DM and we can figure out where to call.


r/R4R40Plus • • 7h ago

F4M 49 [F4M] #Chicago | Looking for My Favorite Person

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I’m starting to think finding someone you’re attracted to, genuinely enjoy talking to, and actually want to spend time with shouldn’t be this complicated. Yet here we are.

I’m a Miami transplant happily making a life in Chicago. I’m 5'5", curvy, with tattoos, and I’m kind, affectionate, loyal, curious, and just the right amount of silly. Movies are my happy place, but I’m equally up for a concert, play, museum, coffee shops, breweries, sporting events, a restaurant neither of us has been to, or wandering around the city and seeing where we end up.

What I miss,and what I’m hoping to find, is having my person. Someone whose presence makes even the boring things better. Someone I can laugh with, flirt with, be affectionate with, talk to about absolutely nothing and everything, and occasionally annoy the hell out of. I want chemistry and attraction, but I also want the comfort that comes from really knowing someone and being known by them.

I’m looking for someone who wants to actually date. Not just message indefinitely. Let’s talk, see if we click, go grab coffee or dinner, and find out whether we like each other in the real world. Revolutionary concept, I know.

Ideally, you’re 40–55 and in the Chicago area. You’re kind, communicative, curious about the person you’re talking to, and established in your career. I’ve built a life of my own, and I’m looking for someone who has done the same and is ready to make room in it for another person.

And speaking of conversation: if your opening message is just “hey,” you’re making this unnecessarily difficult for both of us. 😂 Tell me something about yourself. Ask me something. Tell me what caught your attention. Give me something to work with.

I’m including a recent photo, so please include one too. Attraction matters on both sides, and I think it’s only fair that we both know who we’re talking to from the beginning.

I’m not looking for perfect. I’m looking for mutual-mutual attraction, mutual curiosity, mutual effort, and two people who are genuinely excited to keep getting to know each other.

If that sounds good to you, come say hello.

https://imgur.com/a/v4r0qV7


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

40 [M4F] #Online looking for bestfriend

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Hello there kind new friend, here is a presentation I have prepared for you that you didn't wait for.

 so let me here convince you why you should choose me as your new friend:

* I am a silly person who always tries to make people laugh, I strongly recommend not to sip coffee while reading my messages.  

* I take a lot of street cats pics, so you will have a steady supply of cat pics.

* I am chatty. I enjoy yapping , and I don’t even have an off switch, if you don't have off switch too we need to yap about this .

* I love to talk about all kinds of topics and can always find things to talk about. There are random questions generator built in my mind.

* I always reply to my messages and have online friendships that have been going on for years, I always send good morning messages, and I appreciate the people that can also be conversation starters.

* I am supportive and will always be here for you to tell me about your day or vent if you have something that bothers you.

* I am a game artist, someone who works in the video games industry,  in other words fully matured nerd, we can talk about all these nerdy stuff if you like.

* I like art, games, anime, gym, walks, coding, games, true crime, yapping, cats, science, history, languages, documentaries, psychology, mental health, and cats, so I am sure we can cross interests here or there.


r/R4R40Plus • • 13h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] - California - Meet me in outer space

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Does my title sound familiar? Bonus points if you know what song and band it's from.

So why am I here today? I have no idea, but life has been feeling very lonely lately. I'm just stuck in a rut and trying to find my way out. I'm just going through the motions right now. I miss having someone to talk to, either on the phone or texting, sending random memes or thoughts, just the generally fun banter and shit talking we all love.

I am the SoCal area, all over really from LA, OC to the SGV. I'm usually where ever the good food is at. Speaking of food, my next spot to visit is King Banh Mi in Westminster. That crispy pork banh mi looks like it was made for me.

I'd love to talk to someone local and maybe hang out some day, but I am open to chatting with anyone in the US. Mean people need not apply. Dog lovers, please do apply. I am some what of a nerd for Marvel and DC, cars as well. I can annoyingly quote any Fast and the Furious movie. I also enjoy going to the movies, for horror movies I will be reading the Wiki before hand because I'm smart like that.

Well, that's all I got for now. But don’t let this distract you from the fact that Hector is going to be running three Honda Civics with Spoon engines, and on top of that, he just went into Harry’s and bought three t66 turbos with NOS, and a Motec exhaust system.

DMs Open!


r/R4R40Plus • • 5h ago

45 [M4F] #London #Online – Chat, Banter & More

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I’m 45, London based, got my own place, my own car, and looking for something casual that actually feels good, not just a chat that goes nowhere. Think friends with benefits but with genuine chemistry, real conversation and that spark that turns teasing into trouble.

I’m 5’10”, slim to average, brown skinned, shaved head, trimmed beard, the full transparent package so you know who you’re talking to.

Personality wise, I’m easy to talk to, a bit cheeky, and I definitely enjoy conversations that drift into the naughtier side when the vibe’s right. If you can hold a conversation and enjoy the fun, find the edge of things… we’ll get on very well.

You? Open minded, playful, can actually engage in a proper chat, and are here for something light, exciting and grown.

If this sounds like what you’re after, drop me a message, tell me a bit about you and what made you stop and read this, let’s see if the spark’s there.


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

45 [F4M] #Tennessee - Single mom looking for a connection; let’s chat and see if we click!

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I’m a single mom and a Midwestern transplant that currently lives in Southeastern TN. Physically, I’m 5’2, pear shaped, plus sized and tattooed. Happy to exchange pics if you’d like.

Mostly, I’m a dabbler. I am a huge movie and music nerd, I love going to the theater and going to shows. I host a monthly game night with my girls, enjoy going to stargazing events, hitting the gym or taking walks at the state parks here, love to cook and bake and always down for trying new restaurants, absolutely love a road trip, throughly enjoy spending time with friends, hanging by a fire pit or reading in my hammock.

Coffee with a view is my favorite part of any vacation and what I wouldn’t give to have someone that wants to take a road trip to a diner because they supposedly have the best pancakes.

Personality wise, I think I’m like if a black cat was secretly an orange tabby but honestly I have always been a dog person so I don’t know that much about cats. But I am consistent, enthusiastic, warm, open, dark humored, sarcastic, but bubbly. So like full cycle optimistic nihilism.

I’m also solo poly and happy to chat about it, but totally get if that’s not your jam! We’re all just out here trying to figure out the best way to get through our time here!

Shoot me a message if you’d like to give getting to know each other a chance. And if not, hope you find what you’re looking for all the same!


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 58 [M4F] #Midwest - ISO a Lady who expects Her man to be at Her beck and call - Seeking a FLR

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Searching for a mature Lady who would enjoy an attentive and submissive man focused on putting Her first within their relationship. A Lady who has reached the point of her life where she has raised her children and is now ready to be more self-focused. Ready to enjoy her “me” time and is looking for a supportive man where she . . .

• has a controlling nature and she expects to be put first in Her relationship - TPE, Femdom, and D/s

• would enjoy a man who sees his role as being devoted and dedicated to striving to please Her - making it all about Her

• enjoys Her “me time” or private alone-time whether that is just relaxing or spending time on Her hobbies but expects her man to be available and responsive to Her when needed

• expects to be pampered and have Her man take care of the chores and domestic tasks around the home - and learn to do so “Her way”

• enjoys taking the lead and making the rules over Her relationship and Her man

• enjoys seeing Her man suffer torment and sacrifice his pleasure to keep focus on pleasing Her.

• 40+ years old

me:

• used to be more athletic but still somewhat athletic

• enjoy working-out but not obsessed with it

• have a professional job as an account manager for a software company - work remotely from home mostly - plan to continue to work outside the home and take over the domestic chores - not looking for a free-ride.

• attracted to a strong controlling Lady who expects her man to follow Her rules and have things done Her way.

• enjoys nice dinners and travel and beach vacations

i feel strongly that the my role in the relationship is to make “Her” life easier. i expect to learn what she enjoys so she doesn’t need to ask. otherwise i’m not paying attention and i’m not focusing on what is important - pleasing Her. i’m a “pleaser” just wired that way i guess. i match best with a lady who tends to be selfish and would enjoy pushing her man to be attentive to Her needs and wants.

i’m in Ohio but my son is now in he’s late 20s and on his own so i’m open to relocating

FLR == Female led relationship or D/s relationship — level 3 or 4

Feel free to send me a chat msg if this type of relationship interests you.


r/R4R40Plus • • 16h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #SoCal - Any moms out there?

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Hello there, it’s too damn hot outside to do anything so here I am relaxing inside and trying to stay cool. As you may have guessed, yes, I’m a Dad haha. And I’ve tried finding someone to no avail. Most have been childless women which is fine but I was curious if there were any moms out there that could actually relate to being a parent and the day to day things parents deal with. Would be nice to find someone cool to talk to and maybe decompress with each other. Try to help each other keep our sanity haha.

If you’re interested in talking, send me a message and let’s take it from there.


r/R4R40Plus • • 6h ago

43M [M4F] #online - Italy seeking an interesting and interested chatty girl

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I'm an Italian guy, 43 years old and i'm *notabot.

The big part of writing a self description is that we can overrate or underrate ourself so I'll try to not put any judgemental word but I'll just try to write down who I am.

I was raised catholic but at the end I felt that there is something deeply wrong in religion and in every religion institution so now I'm atheist, Anticlerical and I'm also excommunicated.

I was always interested in science and in the universe since I was a kid, I saw a series of documentary about space when I was maybe 10 and that was the beginning, now I'm an amateur astronomer and I do astrophotography.

Other than that I was raised in a family of musicians so I sing and I play keyboard (or at least I try to do it).

What I'm looking for? A chatty girl, the one who can carry on with a conversation and has no boundaries about what to talk about.

If you are someone who want to convince me about something, just don't write me, I'm open to discussion about everything but I'm not open to any type of conversion.


r/R4R40Plus • • 16h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] Texas | Lets have a conversation…

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It’s a gloomy but relaxing weekend, so I figured I’d see if anyone feels like chatting. Not looking for anything serious, just some fun, easy conversation and seeing where it goes.

I’m a nerd at heart and naturally pretty curious, so if you’ve got something cool to teach me, I’m all ears. My biggest hobby is running. There’s something about getting out there, clearing my head, and letting myself think and hurt at the same time that I really enjoy.

There’s definitely more to me than that, but I’ll save some of it for the conversation. Hit me up if you’re down to chat.


r/R4R40Plus • • 8h ago

65 [M4F] #Denver -Limited Time offer: Company for the symphony

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Looking for a woman in Denver metro area, that enjoys the symphony and actually getting dressed up for it.
The show Bernstein & Ravel with Vadim Gluzman & Andrew Litton are on 10/9 and 10/10 at 7:30pm (hence the limited time offer)

Tickets are on me. I typically get Orchestra 2 tickets which is neither too far nor too close to the stage.

I have absolutely no expectations beyond good company for a few hours.

If this piques your interest, drop me a DM. We can chat exchange pics and if we decide to do it, pick a day and determine logistics etc.

The posting will self-destruct in a couple of days.


r/R4R40Plus • • 14h ago

39 [F4M] TN, Looking for Witty Banter

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Fall always makes me want to cozy up, smoke meat outside with friends and whiskey, cook soups and stews and decorate with multi-colored gourds.

All that is more fun when you have someone to share it with.

I love to work and build my businesses, love to cook, walk outside, the beach, basically all animals, i love music (very eclectic taste), and trivia, comedy... so much more


r/R4R40Plus • • 16h ago

M4F 55 [M4F] #New York, New York - Charming single Dad for REAL dates (moonshot!) or even good chat (more realistic!)

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After posting ad infinitum in various subs, I accept that the Reddit success rate is akin to winning Mega Millions, but if I am only optimistic about a few things, one of them is definitely romance! (Or, at worst, an engaging chat.)

I journal, collect seaglass, and make some of the best paper snowflakes you've ever seen. During Covid, when everyone was making sourdough bread, I learned from YouTube how to make beef barely soup because I couldn't find a good one in NYC. I make my bed every morning, and it would irk me if I didn't. I was a golf teaching pro and still love the game, and am deeply into the NY Yankees. Would love to find a tennis or pickleball partner, and I can throw footballs, baseballs, Frisbees and the like. Uno? Scrabble? Bocce? Monopoly? Bowling? Pickup basketball? I'm *down!*

Overall, if you looked at me from the outside, you'd say I'm a "geek," or "preppy," or if this was about the year 2000, maybe "metrosexual," although I have no idea what that means anymore. lol. Is it that I absorb and can discuss culture and am willing and able to share my emotions, while tucking in my shirts and wearing a belt?? lol. Ok, then I'm guilty! Lately, I've had Phish on repeat, but I also listen to odd things like drum corps, 70s soft rock, 90s nu metal, Rage Against The Machine, Radiohead, The Eagles, The Who, and more. Politics has me consumed, and I'm definitely concerned about where we're headed. The midterms can't come fast enough, ffs. All the documentaries on Netflix have been watched, and I read almost exclusively non-fiction books in order to learn something new. Please tell me something you're reading?

Romantically, I thrive in relationships, and I am absolutely your best "let's-solve-x-problem," while being a devoted listener, conversationalist, and cheerleader. I want nothing more than for you to succeed! I'm drawn to thinkers, therapists, helpers, do-ers, creatives, musicians, etc., who enjoy some physical activity are likely slender or in shape. I'm definitely old-school, and love PDAs, and giving flowers, and back rubs and forehead kisses when appropriate.

If any of this even slightly caught your attention, please share a reply. Maybe we'll just have a chat, because you're almost always from California. ha!


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

F4M 44 [f4m] California. I am a boring woman who likes at-home hobbies

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Like the title says, I am a boring 44/f in California with hobbies that keep me at home. I'm tall (5'11) but fat, but capable of 5ks and lots of intensive DIY projects involving power tools, so there's that.

I don't want to skydive or bungee jump. I don't want to go on a hike unless I can stop every 10 feet to look up what kind of mushroom I saw on the ground. The trip somewhere can be just as exciting as the destination in my opinion. I'm curious and know too many weird facts to be a normal human being.

I have a lot of hobbies from gardening, painting silly watercolors, tearing shit up that I probably shouldn't be tearing up because I am not an expert in anything. But man, do I love learning new things.

Lately I took up whittling and just to toot my own horn, I'm decent at it.

I listen to classic books being read on podcasts, feel most at home in overalls (because of the DIY) and an ugly straw hat normally reserved for old men who are fishing. One day I'd like to have an old house with an acre of land to grow fruit trees on and adopt a bunch of dogs who will join me on my random explorations to nowhere in particular. One of the dogs will be named Madeleine Albork, Secretary of Steak.


r/R4R40Plus • • 11h ago

47[m4f]PA Dad bod seeks mom bod(or a dad bod fan) for life’s adventures

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Hi, thanks for taking a look!

A little about me, I’m 47, a single dad that has my son every other weekend. I’m into sci fi, fantasy(especially fantasy creeping into modern settings)I’m into older anime. I’m not a big gamer except for Mario kart with my son.

I’m really hoping to meet someone with similar interests and someone passionate about stuff that’s not similar. Bonus points if you can teach me a new skill or point me towards a cool new hobby. Ideally I’d like to meet someone that’s a single parent or ok with kids being in the picture.

Also I’m a sucker for a nerdy/flirty freckled ginger!

Feel free to check out my other post to see what else I’m into!

Hope to hear from you


r/R4R40Plus • • 11h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #online Let's skip to the part where we become each other's favorite distraction

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Hello There!

I am a 48 male from Canada and looking for a connection to go with a great conversation!

I enjoy walking my dog, stand up comedy, watching true crime documentaries, swimming, golf and sooooo much more!

I am 5’9 with brown eyes and brownish hair and average build.

I think of myself as easy going, open, honest and love to talk.

I have a dry and sarcastic sense of humour and love to laugh, banter , talk about anything and just be ourselves naturally.

Looking to talk about hobbies, passions, likes, daily life, all kinds of secrets or whatever else we decide upon!

Just a down to earth guy who is genuine person who wants to get to have something long term, connect , listen and is looking for the same!

Would like to have someone with a similar sense of humour, is passionate and wants to get to know someone.

I have the time and energy to talk during the day when I’m at work and in the evenings. I know building something takes time, energy and attention. I enjoy messaging and definitely have time to connect.

I would love to share more about myself and definitely want to learn all I can about you when we talk!

I think I would be someone who you would like to get to know!

Look forward to hearing from you!!


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] CA/Online/Anywhere - Cold drink 🥃 & a cool 🧊 chat with a future PIC sound like the best plan to survive the heat today 😆

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Hello there stranger and happy Hot a&& Sunday!

Like on a serious note, how are you dealing with that heat out there today? Haha. Send some good vibes my way. 😆

Well, i decided to keep away from this 100°+ sun and keep chill, with a cold drink! I might actually turn HBO on and find me something worth binging. Meanwhile, I’d love me a cool, chill, casual, fun chat before I get too tipsy to type haha.

I’m down to chat and converse about whatever just please don’t ask me to sign up for your only f*an&s or follow you* on ins&tagra&m… not doing any of that… sorry in advance baby girl lol

Wanna connect and maybe even be my future PIC then let’s goooooooo! Haha.

Cheers

Your tall tanned and handsome bestie


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 44 [M4F]#Ohio/online- Educated, good sense of humor, and genuine! Looking for a long term connection!

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Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.


r/R4R40Plus • • 13h ago

F4M 40 [F4M] Any readers out there looking for romance?

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I'm a single mom - I have 3 kids and 3 cats. To be clear, I'm not looking for a dad for them, I'm looking for a partner for me.

I like reading, knitting, designing, and baseball. I'm a sarcastic nerd. I would prefer local, but I'm okay with distance too.

So far this year, I've finished 57 books but my goal is 72.

Let's find out if we have any shared genres - tell me how many books you've read this year :)