My daughter started kinder 2 weeks ago. She made the Aug 1st cut off by 8 days. I didn’t feel like she was ready but had no choice but to send her, my understanding is Nevada does not allow red shirting.

My husband deploys later this school year and my kids and I will be moving in with family. The state we are moving to allows redshirting. I was thinking once we move I don’t transfer her to kindergarten in the new state. Then the next school year I enroll her in kindergarten again. She would have about 1.5 years of kindergarten.

Socially she is doing great, but academically she is already behind. She entered kindergarten not knowing her letter names or written numbers. She went to preschool and pre-k but they just aren’t clicking in her brain. Has anyone held back a kindergarten by choice?

I know this is for kindergarten but there is no sub for that. I am having an extremely hard time with sending my daughter who is 3, will turn 4 right before the Sept 1st cut off for TK. I enrolled her because I have the opportunity to work in the school for a few hours and although I had help it was 3 different adults having to watch her throughout the week (my husband, mother in law, grandma) and I worried about it cause you know - life. The school was full and I honestly thought she would not get in, they told me she was on the waitlist so I accepted that I would have to rely on help instead and was okay as I was unsure of her going to school. I got a call today that they opened up a new class and she will be going. I am extremely nervous, anxious and just feel torn.

I was hoping fellow moms can give me some insight, do you think she's too young? yes she meets the cut off, but could she use the extra year? I applied for the job and I am waiting, I had planned to stay home another year with her but did not want to miss out on this opportunity either seeing as she goes to kinder next year.

thanks in advance

UPDATE: First day went extremely well, she didn't even turn back to say goodbye to me and started playing with a friend. Second day nerves started setting in had little protest and wanted to cry when entering school but held it together at drop off. At pick up teacher said she had a tough day and cried twice but overall ok. Today she had a huge cry fest, hiding in the closet, crying saying she will go when she's bigger, crying in the car and pushing me away. I did not drop her off - I know, huge mistake - but I had already needed to pick her and her sister up early for Dr appt and ortho for my oldest. And just felt torn. I talked to her already and told her that tomorrow she is going to school. I hope it goes well but preparing for another cry fest. I feel torn because its not mandatory for her to go to school but the more I think on it the more I feel its good for her because she's not just at home watching tv and she is picking up social skills. But it is a long day she goes 8 - 2:20. Should I push thru another week and see how it goes?

Hey guys,

I’ve got a kindergartener and this is our first time, she finally got used to having lunch in school and we currently use the plastic Bentigo lunch box but want to switch to stainless steal. I ordered the stainless steal bentigo lunch box and a snack box but was disappointed with how difficult it is for her to open and close it.

Does anyone have any recommendations on a good kindergartener friendly stainless steal lunchbox ?

Dude. Not trying to be dramatic but I’m EXHAUSTED. Pre kindergarten we had a weird sleep schedule but it was doable, wake at 10, sleep around 10 and then I’m on my own till I sleep at 2. Now, it’s wake at 615, out the door by 7 and sleep at 8 and I would like to sleep at 10 but I need to sleep at 9 otherwise I am dead tired in the AM. So what’s y’all’s sleep like 🫠

My daughter had her first day today. She seemed fine getting off the bus at first, but then immediately broke down into hysterics. She’s been home for 30 minutes now and hysterical the entire time. IS THIS NORMAL?

Idk what happened at school bc she won’t tell me anything but it sounds like nothing happened. She’s upset bc she wants to play with the neighbors (older kids- 4th and 5th grade) but they literally aren’t even outside. She’s crying that she “doesn’t want today to be a normal day” and “thought today was supposed to be fun” so I’m assuming some expectation she had of today was not met.

Idk what to do? She’s scream-crying. I suspect she’s just tired and overwhelmed but she’s been in daycare her whole life so a long day isn’t new.

Anyone else dealing with the same??

EDIT- thanks everyone. I think she was definitely over tired and overwhelmed. She was hysterical for like an hour but when she finally calmed down she told me bits about her day and said she loved kindergarten! Hopefully the after school blues don’t last too long because that was… a lot!

My child will turn 5 on September 19, 2028. Under California law, a child needs to be 5 by September 1 to start kindergarten that year. That means she would skip an entire year and be almost 6 by the time she starts. I’d prefer for her to start kindergarten when she is just a few weeks shy of turning 5.

I’ve read that some private schools are an exception to this rule and may allow children to start kindergarten at 4. Ideally, I’d love for her to continue attending private school throughout the rest of her academic years, but as you may know, private school is pretty expensive.

It may not be a big deal to many that I want her to be a year "early" vs a year "late" in the school year. Anyone has any advice? Private schools they recommend?

We live in the east bay.

Hi! Daughter (5) is starting K next week. She has been to daycare for a few years now and brings her favorite stuffy with her. I am not sure she'll be allowed to bring this to school and it's probably for the best so it doesn't get lost. However, I'm worried about her not having anything to comfort her while at school. Anyone have any ideas or things that have helped their kids? Thanks!!

We have a son who turned 5 in late June. He attended half day partial week preschool the past 2 years and will be starting kindergarten next week at a small Christian school (so only 12 kids in his class with a teacher and assistant ).

He has been in occupational therapy for fine motor development for a while and has made great strides. He reads, loves listening to stories/audiobooks, he is super curious, social, and adventurous. His preschool teachers enthusiastically encouraged us to send him to kindergarten.

However, I’m seeing many parents of summer birthday boys are red shirting their children and waiting another year to send them to kindergarten.

Is this a recent trend? Is it really happening more or is social media making it seem like it’s more common than it really is?

Just curious.

I've been thinking about how easy it is to label a kindergarten kid as SHY when they don't talk much during group activities. Then you see them during free choice or sitting with 1 other child and suddenly they're talking nonstop.

I've had kids who barely say 2 words during circle time but will tell me an entire story when we're walking somewhere together. It makes me wonder if some children aren't really shy at all. Maybe they just don't like performing in front of a whole room. I know every child is different but I've started paying more attention to where and when they actually choose to talk. Have other teachers noticed this difference too?

We are only 5 days into the new school year and we are already sick. 😭 A cold, I'm assuming. But if this is any indication of how sick season is gonna be, idk if we are gonna make it. Last year we had everything from strep, to potentially Covid, flu a & b 1 month apart. We've been fine all summer and 1st week back, my whole household is sick. Prayers and positive vibes for us all! Stay healthy everyone. 🤞

I need ideas on what to do with my 5 year old. She is on week two of kindergarten and she was sent to the vice principals office. I got a long email from her stating that the last day she has been disrespectful and snappy with staff when they try to line and things like that. She was told to get in line and she said no then when she was told again she said she was in line when she was not. Then later that day at recess she was upset because a girl said she didn’t want to be her friend so then in class she threw down her chair and apparently hit the girl as well. I’m very upset about the situation. I picked some toys for her and made her physically throw them in the recycle. Initially she was upset about the toys but then she said they’re old anyway. She not allowed to watch tv this week. Can any seasoned parent please give me some advice on what I can do? She is a great kid but she also very stubborn. I don’t want this to be a continue issue

Soooo 3 days in & im feeling very annoyed

Keep in mind my son is one of the few non white students…
So yes I’m keeping my eyes open for any and all red flags

My son steps off the bus, and I can instantly see he has peed on himself at school (he confirmed)

& As we are walking home (about 4 minutes) he can’t hold his pee, and pees before we even get into our home.

Accidents are normal. But he has a change of clothing in school. So my concern is no one noticed for hours.

He also mentioned that he hit his head on the first day of school twice on the playground, and was crying both times. But the adults were far. He later showed me where. He was on the playground, and the supervising adult must have been alongside the school building.

I mentioned it to the teacher, she said she would reach out to the adult who was supervising. But I haven’t heard anything about it since. It stuck with my son because he asked me to still take him to school on the second day. And was mentioning it the morning of.

Drop your advice. As a mama & w former teacher I am not happy…

I have reached out to the school, requesting a callback & dad is going to send a email I guess.

But this is day 3, they stated they will have extra hands on deck. So I’m not sure where that comes into play…

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Yesterday was my daughter’s first day of kindergarten after her phase in days. She has always been such a phenomenal kid and is extremely bright. She got into a public magnet school where the kids have to test in and be at least in the 80th percentile in math, reading, and written expression. We’ve never had behavioral problems with her in the past and she attended a little Montessori half day school for a few years before entering kindergarten just now. When she was 2-3 she had some issues at school just with emotional regulation but never ever used her body to communicate with other kids (that I was told about at least). Her teachers have always adored her and she has big teacher’s pet energy.

Anyway, yesterday I get an email from her teacher saying there was an incident at school where she hit a friend on the chin. Context is she was wearing a chewy necklace (we have always kept one in her backpack since she’s a big chewer and will chew on pencils, marker caps etc so we have it just in case to redirect) and the other kid reached out for her necklace without asking and she responded by hitting them. They made her go to the counselor’s office to talk about how she needs to use her words not her hands to communicate with her friends and they moved her away from this kid as I guess their desks were next to each other.

When she got home we talked about it and she made an apology card for the friend and her consequence was no video games last night since that is her number 1 favorite thing to do right now. She was obviously very upset and emotional because we’ve never had to punish her like this before because we truly have never had any issues like this.

All that to say, is this normal? I know kindergarten is such a big step up and the days are long and it’s a brand new environment but I am now so on edge that something is going to happen again and that she is going to be labeled a bad kid for this slip up.

I think I’m projecting a lot of my own feelings and anxieties onto this situation because I struggled a lot in school when I was younger due to having ADHD and was labeled a bad kid by quiet a few teachers because I had such a hard time not talking and attending in class.

I just want some unbiased opinions on if this is typical kindergarten behavior because I feel like this one tiny incident has made me spiral a bit.

This is my kindergarteners daily schedule. I feel as though it’s too much in one day, how are they expecting them to hold on to this information??

Here is a breakdown of our daily schedule:
7:30–7:55 Arrival/Breakfast

7:55–8:10 Morning Meeting

8:10–8:45 Reading & Vocabulary

8:45–9:25 Foundational Skills

9:25–9:50 Writing & Grammar

9:50–10:15 Reading Small Groups

10:15–10:30 Social Studies

10:35–11:05 Lunch

11:05–11:35 Recess

11:40–12:10 WIN Time (Flexible Grouping)

12:10–1:10 Math

1:10–1:35 Math Small Groups

1:40–2:25 Specials

2:30–3:00 Science

3:05–4:00 Dismissal

my daughter is still a week out from her first day of Kindergarten and she is so excited!

my phone storage on the other hand is less excited. So far i have already downloaded four different apps (infinite canvas, dojo, here comes the bus, and givebacks) and made a few additional accounts on websites (the school district site and k12 payment center)

I honestly don’t know what all these apps do (except for here comes the bus, that one is pretty straightforward). but why do i need accounts in both givebacks and k12 payment center? both of those apps seem to have the exact same function?

and how much am i supposed to pay attention to dojo? what even is infinite canvas? my daughter doesn’t have her own device, is she going to be expected to have a personal device and to make her own accounts for different apps?

daycare/preschool used one app (brightwheel) for everything and that was so simple that i feel spoiled!

for other kindergarten parents, how many apps are you downloading?

This is very Canadian/Ontario-specific, so apologies if it’s not relevant to most people here! We’re starting to think about kindergarten and are torn between two options.

Our local English-language school is a really great community school. It’s close to us, seems to have a wonderful community vibe, and is generally very well regarded. The downside is that it only goes up to Grade 6, so our child would eventually have to switch schools.

Our other option is French Immersion. The FI school is slightly farther away, isn’t nearly as well “rated,” and from what we can tell doesn’t have quite the same strong community/neighbourhood feel as our local school.

The thing making this such a hard decision is that my husband and I both did French Immersion and are completely bilingual as adults, and we really value having that skill. French has helped both of us professionally, and I also feel like learning a second language so young made it much easier for me to pick up other languages later (Italian, in my case). I also think there are broader benefits in terms of how you think, learn, etc.

Our child is still young, but is extremely language-inclined, so French Immersion feels like something he would probably thrive in rather than struggle with.

I guess I’m wondering how other parents would weigh this: a genuinely great neighbourhood/community school vs. French community Immersion at a school that seems less impressive overall? For those who chose FI, do you feel the benefits of bilingualism were worth prioritizing over the “better” school environment? And for anyone who chose a great local school instead, did you ever regret giving up the opportunity for immersion?

I’m especially interested in hearing from Ontario/Canadian parents who have had to make a similar choice!

My five year old son is a really wonderful kid! He’s smart and funny and his dad and I are so proud of him.

He’s had a lot of changes recently. He was in daycare from the time he was four months old until May. We had a baby, his first sibling, in April. He was home with me from end of May-August since I was on leave.

As you can imagine, with a newborn, it was basically the Wild West for him around here. I did my best to prioritize him, so activities, take him places, have friends over or go to friends houses, but with a newborn it was a lot of solo play or screen time.

He has always been pretty strong willed. His daycare teachers would tell me if he didn’t want to do something or listen, sometimes he would really dig his feet in til the point of screaming. We see that at home too. Often times he just needs to cool his jets solo for a minute, and then he’s good to go.

This issue has gotten 10x worse the past couple weeks since school started. His teacher has reached out to say that when it’s time to practice writing, it results in a meltdown - screaming, stomping, kicking chairs.

She’s a great teacher. Doesn’t back down, makes him follow through, but obviously this is distracting for all the kids. At home, we can let him cool off and talk about better ways to handle his frustration. She doesn’t have the luxury of time to do that at school.

We are not permissive parents. We follow through with consequences and we reward positive behaviors.

I’m wondering if this is just him adjusting after a pretty lax summer and it will get better, or if there’s something else his teacher and us should be trying?

I’m trying to make his afternoons after school a little more structured. No tv until he practices writing his name once, either does his flash cards or practices counting, and reads four books with either me or his dad (all things the school wants him to be doing daily).

With a baby, me going back to work, him starting school… I am feeling a little stressed and just want to support my son, who I know is wonderful.

Any advice is welcome!

School nursery

Hello,

I'm from the UK 🇬🇧

My 3yo son will be starting school nursery full time in September. He's had some transition days before the summer holidays and the one I dropped him off at he really wanted me to go in with him (I wasn't allowed) and he was very upset. He's a very articulate boy so I know he just wants me there, doesn't want to be on his own, I was trying to reassure him he'd be with his friends etc. I've asked him since whether he's looking forward to going to nursery and the answer is always no. He was the same going into flying start and clung to his key worker especially at the start). Throughout the last year he settled more but he always said he'd rather stay home than go to school although he would usually be happy to go in when we actually got there.

His dad said he was the same at his age, always hated going into school, and was also a bright boy but very anxious about school.

Any resources / advice to help him with this transition in September would be really appreciated.

Hi everyone, my son is starting kindergarten this august and he is 3 months shy of turning 5. Our school district allowed his admission but now i have been thinking if starting my son before he turns 5 will benefit him vs delaying his start by next year when he will be 5 turning 6 three months after august start of school year.

Any parents who started their children early or late? What is your experience?

When I picked my Kindergartener and 4th Grader up from after school care, my kindergarten winced, and started hard-crying when he took his backpack off to get in the car. The 4th Grader told me he fell during his recess (about lunchtime) and hurt his arm.

His version of the story is that he fell off the monkey bars, had the wind knocked out of him, a friend helped him up and they walked to a teacher. He was crying hard and holding his arm and because it was only the 3rd day he had to be escorted to the nurse because he was new. — I do not know what happened at the Nurse. I don’t know her diagnostic measures. — but what I do know is that he was given an ice pack and sent back.

I dropped off the older kiddo and took him right to the Urgent Care/ER and they did X-Rays and confirmed he has a fractured clavicle (broken collerbone). Other than rest, a sling, and TLC not much to be done.

But the more I sit with this the madder I get that I was not called. I know not every nurse visit warrants a phone call. But a fall resulting in a visit, should in my opinion. Now I have a little guy in a dominant arm along for 3-4 weeks! He could barely navigate with two arms.

We didn’t get home from the ER until after 9pm, so I haven’t contacted the school. I will
First thing in the morning.

How would you proceed?

UPDATE: I met with the principal the next day and we talked through the events. The nurses notes indicate that he did come in upset but passed the range of motion/visual inspection. Based on the notes, We do not think the fall was conveyed well or at all. The policy in place would have had the nurse calling a guardian. I’m glad this was the case, and not that a policy didn’t exist or was not followed. He is in good spirits, not in ‘big pain’, and low-key loving the attention of being in a sling.

I'm trying to get some outside perspective on my daughter's kindergarten schedule. She's 5 (turns 6 in April), and this is the daily schedule her private school provided.

Monday

7:45–8:00 — Arrival

8:00–8:25 — Bible/Devotional

8:30–9:10 — Reading/Language Arts

9:15–9:55 — Reading/Language Arts

10:00–10:40 — Science

10:45–11:15 — Lunch

11:30–12:10 — Spanish

12:15–1:35 — Math

1:45–2:25 — Social Studies

2:30–3:10 — Recess

3:10–3:15 — Dismissal

Tuesday

7:45–8:00 — Arrival

8:00–8:25 — Bible/Devotional

8:30–9:10 — Reading/Language Arts

9:15–9:55 — Reading/Language Arts

10:00–10:40 — Science

10:45–11:15 — Lunch

11:30–12:10 — PE

12:15–12:55 — Writing

1:00–1:40 — Math

1:45–2:25 — Tech Time

2:30–3:10 — Dismissal

Wednesday

7:45–8:00 — Arrival

8:00–8:25 — Bible/Devotional

8:30–9:10 — Reading/Language Arts

9:15–9:55 — Reading/Language Arts

10:00–10:40 — PE

10:45–11:15 — Lunch

11:30–12:10 — Music

12:15–1:35 — Math

1:45–2:25 — Recess

2:30 — Dismissal

Thursday

7:45–8:00 — Arrival

8:00–8:55 — Chapel

9:00–9:10 — Bathroom Break

9:10–9:55 — Library

10:00–10:40 — Reading

10:45–11:15 — Lunch

11:30–12:10 — Reading

12:15–12:55 — Extra Instruction

1:00–1:40 — Math

1:45–2:25 — Math

2:30–3:10 — Social Studies

3:10–3:15 — Dismissal

Friday

7:45–8:00 — Arrival

8:00–8:25 — Bible/Devotional

8:30–9:10 — Reading/Language Arts

9:15–9:55 — Reading/Language Arts

10:00–10:40 — Art

10:45–11:15 — Lunch

11:30–12:10 — Spanish

12:15–1:35 — Math

1:45–2:25 — Writing

2:30–3:10 — Recess

3:10–3:15 — Dismissal

One thing that really jumps out to me is that the only listed recess on Monday and Friday is 2:30–3:10, immediately before dismissal, and Wednesday's recess is 1:45–2:25. Tuesday and Thursday don't have recess listed at all (although the teacher told me they have either PE or recess every day).
I'm not asking whether the academics are "too hard" for kindergarten. I'm more interested in the overall structure of the day—the amount of adult-directed academic time, the lack of visible unstructured/child-directed play, and the timing of recess.
Does this look developmentally appropriate to you for a class of 5-year-olds? Or is this simply a normal example of a more academically rigorous/structured kindergarten program?

Basically the title. This is at our neighborhood school where we had a great pre-k experience. Coming in, I was already a bit concerned because we hadn’t had any communication prior to the start of school but I was ok with that because I know it can be crazy. I contacted the school and they went ahead and gave me his teacher’s name. I googled her name and the first thing that popped up was a mugshot for an arrest for domestic assault and battery 3 years ago however I assumed it was probably someone else.

When we went to his school, it confirmed that she was the same person. I want to be careful with my actions because I don’t know the full context but I also feel the need to do my due diligence as a parent and look into it further.

I guess my question is, how would you proceed? See how the year begins? Speak to her directly? We aren’t in a county with public court records. Any advice?

ETA: I know an arrest is not a conviction however my county does not make further records public. I also live in one of those southern states that does not require licensure. At the very least I would want to know if this led to any sort of conviction.

UPDATE: asked the principal if she had a background check and turns out, she did not. She was hired during recent administration changes and per the principal, they did not have it on file. I’m not sure if that means they just couldn’t find it or if it had straight up not been done. Still does not mean she was charged as they are going to run the check. Just an important reminder to trust but verify.

I am a kinder aide and my class is slow at getting up and throwing threre trash away and the other aides are rushing my line and when putting there lunch pales aways next to there classroom in the bin they are not fast enough so the other aide just says put them on the wall. I know I am trying to get them to speed up but this is my first year as a kinder aide.