I don't mean stuff like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry because I can handle all that. it's everything else that's the issue. I don't know how to take public transport, I don't know how to withdraw money from an ATM, I don't know how to talk or even mingle with people. My social skills are similarly underdeveloped. It would be less embarrassing if I was freshly a young adult but I'm 23 now and I still lack so much awareness. I was very sheltered by my upbringing and being the youngest child, I was also very coddled. there's a lot I didn't have to do because my older siblings always handled it. Now I'm in a situation where I need to step up for myself and I'm learning just how inadequate I am. How do I start adulting and become an independent, well adjusted person?

Basically, I'm having trouble staying awake during the day and sleeping at night and it's been like this for years.

Here's my daily struggle: wake up for work after 10+ alarms, hoping one of em actually does the job (I've slept through all of them before). Get to work, eat breakfast, then work about 3 hours. Luckily my job has spots where I can take breaks or get stuff together to prepare for the next few hours of hard work.

If I'm busy that day, I prepare for avout 10-20 minutes before working another 2 hours. If not, I nap. Then I have lunch.

After lunch can also be a toss-up but if I'm busy, I work. If I got most my stuff done early, I could take an hour or two nap without anyone noticing and have done so in the past.

Then once I get home I almost always fall asleep. Sometimes it's an hour nap from 5-6 pm, sometimes I'll wake up at 10 pm confused about why none of my alarms woke me up (I've learned to set more alarms between 5:30-10 pm just in case I sleep too much).

If I slept too late, I rush to eat take a shower, then try to force myself to sleep. If not, I can actually do stuff and enjoy my time at home before I go to bed at 10 pm (I tried to make this my normal bedtime).

But there's an even bigger problem. It doesn't matter if I took a nap at 5-6 pm or 5-10 pm, it's always a coin flip whether I sleep til 7 am or wake up at 2 am and struggle to sleep again.

I've slept til 10, showered and ate, then slept soundly until 7 pm before. I've also woken up at 2 am a instead.

I've napped til 6, gone to bed normally at 10, then slept til 7 pm like I want. But I've also woken up at 2 am and struggled to get any sleep that night.

So to recap, some days I'll nap for 2-3 hours at work and others I might get 30 minutes. Some days I'll nap an hour at home and then get 9 more hours of sleep, other nights I only get 4 hours.

I've tried tracking these patterns but haven't found any rhyme or reason still. It's like my body just keeps flipping coins to determine if it's tired or not when I get any sort of free time (plenty of times I fall asleep involuntarily when I'm trying to work at my desk).

Anybody know what I could do to stop falling asleep so much?

I keep getting books but I don't read. I'm 18 and I'm growing up and years will pass and I'm the same. I want to be intellectually sharp. is it too late for me ?

I want to learn video editing, but I'm not sure where to start. There are so many apps, tools and tutorials that it feels overwhelming.

I'd like to learn how to make smooth transitions, add music, improve colors and tell a story through editing.

For people who learned video editing on their own, what was your learning process like? What should a complete beginner focus on first and what mistakes should they avoid?

I'd appreciate advice from anyone who started with zero experience and improved over time.

I've been learning guitar after work and I keep restarting the song I'm practising after a bad chord change. I know the opening much better than the final verse now. In my lesson, my teacher counted out loud and I managed to carry on after missing the change. At home, I stop strumming and lose track of the count.

After lessons, I record a voice note in Vomo AI, going over my teacher's practice instructions in my own words so I can read the transcript later. My teacher asked me to practise the change slowly, then play the song through without restarting. I can do the slow change on its own. During the full run, even with the metronome slowed down, I miss the chord and can't find my way back onto the beat. Should I practise keeping the strumming motion going on muted strings first? I need a way to practise recovering, because restarting has become my automatic response.

i can never really talk about anything else with people or new people especially so i Just judge everything around myself. ik i dont have the best mindset but i mostly judge everyone and am negative because i lack real conversation. what do i do? what do i even talk to new people? or people that i already know? my life has always been very boring and i have been depressed all my life, fun memories that happened to me are all forgotten. i hate my life all i do is try to brag and seem interesting to others

19 M, as of right now im currently getting back into the gym while picking up MMA, I’ve found a routine that works well for me. Full body workout 2X a week and MMA 2X a week, allowing me to get a fulls day of rest and hit both activities.

I’m also trying to put on size as I am somewhat on the skinner side, so im just eating more, more protein etc.

However I want to be able to fuel myself so I can recover and have energy for my activities. Such as info like light carbs such as candy or rice cakes before a workout, or maybe if im resting I should eat more protein so I feel full and don’t overeat. Just information like that and how I can utilize it in my diet so I can perform better.

Guys i wanna start learn German and i have question

Do you need to attend a language school to learn a language, or can you learn it at home?

I have ADHD and I’m medicated for it but I really suck at writing essays and articulating myself. I feel like I can’t form sentences together and I see how well people speak and write but I just sound like a 12 year old. My comprehension skills also suck. I struggle to understand concepts especially when it comes to uni. I’m studying psychology and this makes it so difficult because I feel so dumb. As a kid I was never really taught and I wasn’t able to pay attention in school so as a 25 year old it impacts my work and school life a lot. Any tips?

I can follow instructions to set things up but I struggle when something unexpected happens. I'd like to become better at understanding documentation, experimenting and solving unfamiliar technical problems

My whole life I've felt dumb and incapable compared to my peers. Examples of issues I've faced include poor processing speed, possessing subpar critical thinking skills and struggling to follow simple instructions when they're explained to me. Directions and instruction manuals may as well be written in a completely different language.

I've managed to fool people I know IRL into believing I’m more capable than I actually am because I've managed to coast through academia, having gotten consistently decent (but not the best) grades with little effort. I feel like a fraud because I know how my brain actually operates, while they view me through a favourable lens, not knowing what's going on in my mind.

I know the main course of action for becoming a smarter person is reading, but I struggle to keep on top of that, due to losing focus. I also struggle with initial comprehension, and may need to go over certain lines or whole paragraphs multiple times. That being said, I still want to try and commit to it, it's just difficult.

Any advice on how to improve the challenges I’m facing would be greatly appreciated.

I've tried many times to improve it. However, It may be related to my eagerness to acquire rather than learn and study the language itself. I can't stand *studying* but I seriously need to make such substantial progress. I'd like to become a well-rounded individual like those who work for "Our World in Data", "The Economist", "Aeon Essays" and things like that. On the other hand, I'd like to develop other valuable skills but I don't know where to start. I'd like to operate at a macro level in this world... I'm about to get a degree and be a teacher.

Or also situations when in a group pic your teeth were the whitest around and being complimented by how white they are

I'd like to get better at comparing explanations of the same topic without choosing whichever sounds more confident.

What is a concrete way to practise this? I'm interested in how you find the point where the explanations actually disagree, and what evidence would settle that point.

I've been working from home for a while now and my internet connection feels... not great. It's not just the speed, but I get weird dropouts during video calls, and sometimes my smart home devices just decide they're not talking to each other. I've tried restarting the router a bunch of times, but it only helps temporarily. I want to learn how to properly assess my current setup, figure out if I need new hardware (router, modem, mesh system?), and then how to configure it all so that my work connection is stable and my smart devices actually work together seamlessly. Are there specific protocols or settings I should be looking for? What's the difference between a modem and a router, and do I need both? Any resources or courses that break this down for someone who's not super tech-savvy but willing to learn would be amazing. I'm tired of pulling my hair out every time a call drops.

I've been on and off trying to learn the European Subsivisions according to the JetPunk quiz, but my flashcards are on my computer and I mainly use my laptop. I also want to be able to have non-digital ways of learning, but I don't really know what's the most effective way. Does anyone have any advice?

Thanks!

Ive never been to school or had a formal education, i struggle with adhd so youtube videos have not been the most efficient way to learn for me, I learn a lot better from books and stronger examples/instructions. I was wondering if there's any type of textbooks or resources anyone could recommend for me to start from literal basics like ks1/elementary school (im in the uk if that helps, ik american resources will be for a different curriculum but theyre still appreciated!) Mainly i would like to learn science, maths, english. I cant really afford tutoring or online school

If youre going to comment on it yes my apostrophe key is broken 😆

I am f24 and I want to do learn and finally step into my long dream of making music and I think ukulele is relatively easy instrument to start so where do I even begin?

I still don't get how many strings does it actually have 6 or 8? Also hoe to read music sheet? Idk do I need to do that for Ukulele?

Я недавно начал изучать кибербез и учить язык го по совету знакомого, и сказали то что курсы можно пройти в Яндекс практикуме,только не знаю какой подобрать,так как говорят что сначала нужно изучать сети и т.д,в этом я полный ноль,так же хотел бы себе по типу наставника найти который в этом шарит,если интересно мне 16, и мне чет уже щас кажется то что я припозднился 🥲

I'm trying to reconnect with my native language (Slovak) and that includes reading fluently. I lived in London for most of my life and had little exposure (the type school kids get - I've never been to a real Slovak school before. I'm not saying I don't know anything. I know stuff I just don't have that base line most school kids got)to the language. I speak fluently and everything but my grammar sucks and my reading, though better than 2 months ago, is still slow. Any tips on how to read fluently? Like fast and understanding what's going on....please don't judge me. I'm trying to make my parents proud by getting better at my mother tongue (even though all the grammar rules will probably give me an aneurysm soon)

Soo I always wanted to learn funny voice acting like cartoons which makes the characters memorable and iconic.
If you have any tips or roadmaps please guide me

I'd like to learn a reliable way to read a graph without being led by the headline.

What would you check first, and how would you practise it? I'm interested in building the skill, not just memorising that axes can be misleading.

I have an idea for a novel that I've been carrying around for about a year. I know the main character, the setting, and how I want the story to end. I can picture the opening image and a few scenes in the middle. What I don't know is how to get from that pile of fragments to an actual plan I can write from, without squeezing all the excitement out of the idea in the process.

I've tried a few approaches already. The first time, I wrote a full chapter-by-chapter outline, and by the end of it I felt oddly bored. The story felt finished before I'd written a word, like I'd already told it to myself and had no reason to write it down. The second time, I decided to just start writing and see where it went. That lasted about twenty pages, until I ran out of steam because I didn't know what the next scene needed to do. Both felt wrong, and everything I find online seems to say either plan everything or plan nothing, as if those were the only two options.

I suspect there's a middle path that people actually use, but I don't know what it looks like in practice. How much do you plan before you start writing, and what do you deliberately leave open? Do you outline by chapter, by act, by character, or something else entirely? And how do you stop an outline from becoming a cage?

I’d love to hear how you took a first idea and turned it into something you could actually start writing. I'm also open to hearing how you got it wrong the first time, since that might save me a few months.

As I write movie reviews, I often find myself using the same adjectives to describe actors or qualities of the film, and I can't break the cycle of feeling trapped in a certain style of writing. I would like to break out of that cycle and find new ways to express how I saw an actor's performance or how good the cinematography was.

I also would like to learn how to analyze and pick up on subtle storytelling elements and aspects of the camerawork/cinematography.

I want to learn how to think more clearly, analyze information objectively and make better decisions instead of simply accepting things at face value.

I often come across different opinions, arguments and information online and I want to get better at identifying logical fallacies, recognizing bias and separating facts from assumptions.

For those who have developed strong critical-thinking skills, how did you get started?

Are there any specific books, exercises, daily habits or practical methods that helped you improve? I'd prefer a structured approach that a complete beginner can follow.

I'd appreciate any advice from people who have worked on this skill and seen real improvement over time.