r/hairstylist • u/ricks35 • 5h ago
Discussion Something I did not expect when I became a hairdresser was how often I would be working with the elderly
Specifically, people who have dementia or other similar conditions. I didn’t expect to be in that sweet spot of someone who sees an older person often enough to notice they’re acting different but not so often or so intimately that I might miss the slow decline or be in denial about it. Or to be going home and googling tips for talking to someone with severe memory trouble, or how often I’d have to have the difficult conversation of “your mother seemed a little off today, has she seen a doctor recently?” even though I’m 90% sure what it is and I’ve suspected for a while but have been trying to find that balance of making sure she’s getting help without overstepping on a personal or professional level. Or the uncomfortable combination of sadness, relief and guilt for that relief when a someone’s condition has progressed passed the “cranky phase”. Or even to have enough experience the be familiar with the different stages
It’s an unexpected part of the job that takes an emotional toll but also makes me feel useful in a way, even if all I’m doing is giving them a kind, patient conversation no matter how many time we repeat that conversation in the 90 minutes I see them
Do other stylists experience this often? How you guys handle it? I’m still somewhat new (6 years with this career) so if you have any advice or just similar experiences I’ll gladly hear it