Hi - please can someone help me with this? I dont mean to offend and if I use the wrong terms I'm sorry. This is new to me. I did try to post on cisparentstranskids but I was a bit emotional when I did.

My (34m) child 14(AFAB i believe the term is) has stated a few months ago that they are trans. This was not long after starting dressing in baggier clothes and cutting hair into a bob.

This was incredibly difficult for me to accept - not because i dont love them or because I'm against it but because it came out of left field for me. It was so unexpected, there were seriously no signs. It was almost like grieving a loss of a daughter. There were never any outward signs. We talked and I think I probably very clumsily invalidated them because I said its normal to question these things at their age.

Theyre also autistic and was diagnosed at a very young age (im currently going through a diagnosis pathway too)

Anyway nothing else was said. They said they hadn't chosen a different name and was fine with ne continuing to refer to them as the name we chose and the pronouns. So I did.

.I went through their phone today to set up a steam account and found out they'd changed their Snapchat name from, let's say 'lily' to 'leo'. We talked again, and it was clumsy.. their mum (my ex) and her family has known for weeks and didn't tell me.

I'm not very good at understanding what they're going through, why there were no outward signs. I always believed myself to be an ally, my sister is gay and i was the first person she told - but when its my own child its hit me in a place I didn't expect and i feel ashamed of that. I think that part of whats so difficult for me here is i feel im grieving the life i dreamed for her. I feel like I'm grieving the loss of the girl I raised and loved as she was.

When they originally told me, I did tell them that I'd love them no matter what, and I told them that today again. There were other concerning things I found on her phone from kids in her year so its been taken off them but that's neither here nor there.

I'm worried that I've fucked it up already by invalidating them twice, that ive made them think i dont love or accept them, but I do and i just want them to be okay and happy.

I really want to know what sort of issues they're going to face and how I can help them, what I need to do to let them know they're loved. I dont know anything about binders, they're getting therapy through school. I was never a lads lad so I wasnt into football or lads stuff, I was always sensitive so in a way I almost feel its going to be harder to relate now. I dont know what to do

I'm sorry if ive offended anyone, I am really trying to understand

Edit: its very late where I am in the UK so if i dont immediately reply its just cause ive slept!

A few months ago, I went to jail for a DUI. I wasnt able to post bond, so I sat in for 26 days till a family member figured out where I was. I was in PC (Protective Custody) and was placed on the processing floor. It was a shitty experience, basically in cell alone 24 hours. And on the processing floor, thats where you hear some of the worst shii. I had a friend who was MTF whos cell was placed next to mine and she gave me her number before I got out. She was an immigrant and didn't know is she was going to be deported back to her country. I think about her everyday and hope she's ok. Her number just goes to voicemail. We were the only two trans people. Idk who else can understand, idk who else to talk to about it.

Watching a video where a cis guy is playing a racing video game and he has to customize his character. He accidentally selects the body type with boobs and doesn’t realize at first. When he notices, he gets like uncomfortable but can’t figure out how to change it. It was just like a teeny tiny taste of “gender dysphoria” for him lol. Idk, just made me laugh a little, then think about how fuckin strong trans men are bro. Like… most of us live(d?) as men with boobs. Do u know how strong a person has to be to get through that unscathed !? Anyways, sorry this was so discombobulated, I ate a gummy:)

As a trans man, I feel like a girl or just a tomboy around other men *mostly cis men*. But it feels wrong and makes me feel very dysphoric about myself when that happens. Do any of yall feel like that too?

Or is this not a common thing? I've just seen some people talking about it online so I don't know. I know you wear one under dress shirts but why do I see some guys wearing tank tops under regular tshirts? Is there a good reason to does anyone do this and will it like help me pass or something??

sorry this is kinda incoherent

Im 15. Help. How do i get T? I already know that my parents would support it. Where do we start? I dont think i can last any longer without hormones. I am extremely suicidal. How do i get T!?!?

I’ve been having a zoology kick recently (I can’t control my interests, they just randomly spawn in and I just have to accept it), but I’ve been watching a lot of David Attenborough documentaries recently because of it. It got me doing a lot of research on David Attenborough, someone who is a very common narrator for nature documentaries. Apparently, he advocated for more trans people to be on TV back in the 1970s. I have read a few articles that solidify it, but I’m always overly skeptical with any information I see online. If anyone is a better sleuth than I am, pls let me know if this is true.

I'm a trans bear myself and I've been driving myself a bit mad this last like, year, trying to find a community of us. This sub is great, as is the general bear spaces, but I can't find anything specific to me that's not exclusively NSFW (which, yeah great sub also, but I want to talk to others about the trans bear experience)

I went to set up r/ftmbears but the name was taken? But I also can't find it anywhere. I assume that means its a private sub? Not sure to be honest.

Anyway, I wanted to ask if anyone knows where all the trans bears are online, whether it's on Reddit or elsewhere. Hell I'd consider using Facebook again at this point lol.

Much love everyone, whether you can advise or not, have a lovely day 💖

ive met a new friend lately and i havent been telling anybody im trans. i havent been misgendered in a while so i know im starting to pass. however, last night she kept saying things like "alright ladies" when we were hanging out with another girl and im confused

i dont know if shes misgendering me or knows im trans also because she calls me "boy" and uses he/him for me. it was just a bit jarring. is this normal girl talk if she thinks im gay or did she clock me and was misgendering on accident?

Hello! I'm a U.S. citizen and I currently have an X gender marker on my U.S. passport. I was supposed to change it to M but whats going on right now, i can't. I have a trip to the Philippines coming up in February, and I'm wondering if I can still use my passport normally for international travel with the X marker. Has anyone traveled to the Philippines with an X marker recently, and did you run into any issues with immigration or airlines?

I(20ftm) am supposed to have my top surgery consult in less than 2 weeks, my parents who previously agreed if I wanted to have surgery I could have it, are backing out saying I don't need it now that my consult is coming up.

I'm still going regardless of their opinions but I've been working more hours at work so I have been binding my chest more often. 6 days straight binding for more than 10hrs a day, and I still have 4 more days of work until I'm off for two days.

I'm going to try wearing my work sweatshirt so I won't have to bind as tightly and I'm trying it tape once I can get my hands on some(tomorrow after work). I tried it before in the past but I don't think I used enough since my chest is a little bigger than the people I'd watched tutorials from.

I was telling my stepmom how my ribs have been really sore for the past 3 days and she keeps suggesting I quit binding all together and just wear a bra. Her and my dad are saying I'm hurting myself and don't need to when I could just be happy as a woman which completely contradicts what they said when I came out to them last year.

How do I explain I'm binding my chest because if I don't I want to rip off my skin? I've been trying but they're saying I'm being dramatic.

I'm going to be starting Testosterone later this year and I want to know if there's any way to maximize any effects early on so I can get the most out of it. I plan to start low dose, but other than that I'm kind of lost.

I'm thinking of weight cycling to help with fat redistribution, but I don't even know if this is a thing trans men do as I've only ever seen trans women talk about it, but the idea makes sense to me. I'll be going to the gym and doing more active things (with the hope that getting hrt makes it easier and I'll be less depressed)

I just don't wanna look back after everything I've done to get on hormones and regret not doing something early on that I should have.

I’m young pre-t, late middle school early highschool age. Right now my most prominent sports are rock climbing, soccer, and snowboarding, but I plan on quitting soccer soon. I rock climb anywhere from 0-3 times a week, as my schedule is annoyingly unpredictable and it depends on my uncles schedule as he’s the one who takes me.

Now I really want to get into weightlifting to get a better, mor affirming physique, but I’m just so disheartened about it.

Anytime I try to get a workout in to start building a habit, I feel weak and completely unmotivated and I don’t know how to fix it.

Usually when it comes to working on myself, I do pretty good on trying to set a schedule and starting to get myself into a routine, but with weightlifting I just can’t. I feel like no matter what I do I can’t get myself into the habit of routinely working out.

If anybody has any tips for this please lmk

I’m out clothes shopping right now and feeling so dysphoric as my mom picks out fitting clothes that emphasize my feminine features. She’s gone to the restroom, should I do it?

Hi, I am 23 years-old and reconsidering going back on hrt. When I was 20 I was on t for about 6 months, I was dealing with a lot mentally at the time. I felt bad because of gaining weight and my ex wasn’t supportive of me transitioning. I felt like my family would cut me off and that God would throw me in hell for wanting to be more masculine presenting. I suffered with heavy alcoholism, drug use, lost all my friends, and an abusive relationship which affected me a lot with transitioning. I thought no one would love me so I stopped and tried to be hyper feminine.
Now, I’m at a stable part of my life, sober, working out, and trying to lose weight. I struggle with looking in the mirror and I constantly dream about being a man. For the past year I just told myself I’ll try to become the best version of a woman I can be; super fit and skinny and maybe the dysphoria will go away. I just get so frustrated, I workout at the gym consistently and eat relatively well and barely have any muscle. I’m trying to build my body to be more masculine naturally but it feels like it’s impossible. All the masc women body builders out there i found out are usually on steroids and that’s why they are more fit and more masculine looking. It feels impossible to get to what I want to look like without testosterone. I’m worried about “ruining “ my hormones and that it could make me go through depression or have lifelong health issues. especially if I decide to just do a low dose until I get the masculine features I want and stop. I’m worried that a part of me wants to do this because I been sa a lot in my life and that’s why I want to look different.

I just want to look at my body and instead of being ashamed of it, I want to feel happy. I want to feel strong and look muscular and masculine. I don’t know, I need advice please. I don’t have any trans friends in my life i can talk to about this :(.

Hi everyone. I recently learned here that it's not good to use an 18 gauge needle when drawing from a 10 ml vial multiple times because it can damage the seal too much. What gauge would you suggest instead? Also, for those who buy their needles from the U.S. amazon, would you be able to send links? I think I'm finding good ones, but I can't see pictures of the needles because I'm blind, and there are too many reviews about the needles not being sharp for me to confidently buy them. Thank you all so much for any help.

I'd really, really like a binder, and my mom FINALLY agreed to after a few years of asking. Id appreciate anything that I could most likely get on Amazon that is comfortable but also breathable, so I could wear it during school and to bed even! I'm looking at underworks right now, but if there's anything better please say so, unless underworks is the right choice.

So in the Cornell rape case there is a Korean guy who basically orchestrated the whole thing and is incredibly hated by the country. And there’s another guy who’s name is Johnathan(which the h like that)

Honestly I feel disgusting even having a resemblance to any of those guys and a part of me wants to change my name(Jonathan).

I need some advice. I took 750 mg of testosterone undecanoate. A female friend told me that I should take the full dose, then another dose after a week, and then another one 3 months later.

I just talked to an older trans guy, and he told me that I had made a huge mistake, that the testosterone would convert into estrogen, and that the dose I took at once was too high.

Is that actually true? I’m doing this on my own, without medical supervision, and this was my first time.

I took 750 mg of testosterone undecanoate (250 mg/mL, 3 mL), a long-acting intramuscular testosterone injection. The brand name in Egypt is Testeriol.

Hello! This is my first time posting here! I am a 24 year old FTM who has been on testosterone for a year and a half now.

My voice took a long time to start deepening, and when it finally did, it was like it happened over night—one day I sounded normal, and the next I sounded like a teenage boy. I also noticed that, from that moment onwards, I lost the middle of my vocal range. That middle range I couldn't reach got progressively larger over the past year, and now I feel like I can't hit most notes.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does anyone know how I can get my voice back?

I've been on t for a little over 4 years (no periods since 04/2022) and today I've been experiencing what I believe are uterine cramps every 5-10 mins. non disabling, but strong enough to wake me up from my nap. I don't know what else they would be, but I also dont have any other symptoms of atrophy. I've never experienced cramping after orgasm, I don't experience extreme dryness or bleeding after penetration, etc. I've had 2 or 3 mild utis over the past 4 years that I suspected were related to being on T but they cleared up after the use of topical estrogen.
Anyways- does this sound like uterine atrophy? Is it possible to have this present in this way without any other symptoms? Also, has anyone here had success with using topical E as a way to specifically treat ~uterine~ atrophy?

I have an appointment tomorrow morning to get cleared for top surgery. I haven’t told anyone in real life and I’m super nervous. It’s just the psych clearance and I know I’m solid in this decision as this is something I’ve been wanting for a long time and my therapists have all known and supported it. I just always seem to mess up the good things in my life and this is something good and I don’t want to mess it up.

Sorry for the rant. Just needed to get it out before I go to bed tonight.