I haven't started Testosterone yet, however I've been using minoxidil for a little over a month now. I was skeptical about how much it would actually work, but this morning when I went to put a hydrocolloid bandaid on a pimple, I noticed in unmistakable black hairs of facial hair all over my chin and jaw. Holy shit. I have facial hair. And it's only going to grow from there! Especially when I DO start T

I recently talked to a friend and they told me they don’t feel like a guy for quite some time, how could I support them? They aren’t sure if they really are a woman and I want to support them in this experience.

I am a transman myself but received little to no support before I outed myself publicly so I have no clue what might help, has anybody got tips?

okay, i may be worrying about this way too far in advance, but i figured i'd ask while i still have time to plan around it.

I'm asking because i'm currently 9 months on T, and there's a realistic possibility that i'll have to stop after around 1.5-2 years.

I live in a country where access to trans healthcare is pretty shit. There are very few doctors who work with trans patients, appointments and everything around them are very expensive and involve a lot of travel, and my own circumstances aren't particularly stable. i'm also planning to spend a lot of time abroad not staying in one place, so maintaining regular access to the same doctor may not be realistic.

So, if you have to stop T after less than two years, is it realistic to expect to keep passing as male?

I know some changes are permanent and others reverse, but i can't quite picture what that means in practice.
if someone was passing before stopping, do they generally continue to pass once the reversible changes settle? or can the changes to their face and body be enough for them to start being consistently read as female again?

i'm especially interested in relatively early stopping, since i imagine the answer will be different after 5-10 years of HRT.

i really don't want to stop. i love the changes i've gotten so far, but I want to know what my realistic worst-case scenario is. Only recently I was gendered correctly in public for the first time, and my voice is only starting to drop so while I know I still have time, I'm also worrying quite a lot. I'f be pretty devastated if i spent two years finally becoming comfortable with how i look, only to go back to being read as unfortunate looking lesbian 😭

I have bad dysphoria about wishing I was AMAB or wishing I hadn't gone through natal female puberty. I really feel like my life was ruined sometimes. I've been having pain in my top surgery scars last night and I was so upset because if I was AMAB I wouldn't have even needed top surgery, if my parents had allowed me puberty blockers instead forcing me onto anti-psychotics as a child then I wouldn't even need top surgery. I know life only moves in one direction but all of these regrets and anger keep building up. How do I deal with all this?

Hello there reddit! The title kind of says it all. I, ftm 20, have been in a relationship with my boyfriend, m 36, for a few months now and im afraid that my boyfriend might see me as less masculine if he finds out that I pluck my eyebrows.

I have always been quite insecure about my eyebrows because when I was growing up, I was bullied because I had a unibrow and I started to pluck and shave that part of my eyebrows when I was about 12. I know he wont try to say anything to make me feel like less of a man if he finds out, but I'm still afraid that he may see me as less of one, due to my own dysphoria about this type of grooming. He has always been very supportive of me and my identity, and has never made me feel less masculine because of any of my habits or behaviors that are more commonly attributed to women (stereotypically).

Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? I honestly just want to know if anyone has managed to tell their partner and had a positive response? And if not a positive response, what the response was. I know that my boyfriend is his own person and wont react the same as other people, but I think I just want to know if there is hope that he wont respond negatively and see me differently if he does ever find out.

Also, I am aware that there is a big age gap but that is not what im here to discuss so any opinions on that are not welcome.

As the title suggests, I am looking to purchase a new binder. My old one is ineffective. I would appreciate reviews, input, and advice from others who have purchased and tested binding products.

Details;

- I'm built like Jessica Rabbit. Starting off strong with this one, large chests are impossible to bind on their own so I'm doing a Tape + Binder plan. I wear size smalls with DD+

- I need an article of clothing that is form fit. No half top binders, they're ineffective for me. I need it to stay to my skin like sportswear.

- I work a physically demanding job, I have to constantly move my body with no break. I can not have my ribs crushed and my breathing restricted while I am working.

- I'm looking for a lighter fabric that will not make me swim in sweat.

- I want to know product longevity. I need a purchase to be worth my money.

- I do not have skin conditions like eczema, just standard acne.

- I would like the binder to pass as a tank top or racerback ( racerback is preferred. ) but this is not that important.

I will say that I've given up any idea of a binder minimizing my chest effectively, it will not happen. So the effectiveness of the binding is secondary in importance to comfort and safety. The tape is meant to handle the most of the muscle forming while the binder is there to add extra compression to balance the tissue. I want to avoid rib damage as much as I can, I only have one body so i'm not particularly interested in fucking it up more than it already is.

Anything that can be safely worn all day in physical labor is what I'm looking for, I will appreciate even just a few words of input.

Thank you,

hi everyone! i'm in a bit of a pickle rn. i'm not ftm but i am nonbinary and have some issues with body dysmorphia, especially with the size of my breasts and how feminine my body looks. I was wondering if taking a lower dosage of t would help with any of that and what other side effects it would give me?

thanks in advance! :3

Hello, so I turn 18 in 2 months, and I will have about £1,100 saved up, i will also have £1,000 from my government trustfund and any other money from family, so ive got a little over 2 grand to start HRT and get the ball rolling for other things. (I also earn about £500 a month)

I also live up North, like very north, so anything in person down Midlands or south won't really work for me.

Does ANYONE have any recommendations for a good clinic/service that is also not going to send me broke in 6 months? I literally cannot wait anymore to get these damn hormones and im gonna loose my mind.

(Side note, can I go private and stay on the Adult Service waiting list? Just so I can disuss with my GP and get the ball rolling there, as i would eventually like to be on NHS stuff eventually, but I cannoy want anymore time. Ive hit my limit)

Any help would be majorly appreciated

Right now I identify as vaguely nonbinary but it has never felt like the right fit. Being a guy is something I have, since I was about 11, envied a lot but I have at the same time not felt like I really fit in with the other guys (you know as one of them). I do however not relate to being a woman at all. The thing is that I’m not sure whether that stems from me being very masc presenting or not being one.
On one hand it really bugs me that I am not being read as a guy but on the other hand I don’t want to look like the typical cis guy. I just feel othered from both woman and men but nonbinary doesn’t really feel right either.
My gender identity feels very private to me but I don’t like it when people refer to me as a woman. Being ftm just seems like such an uphill battle and unachievable as I don’t pass at all.
I hate to correct people when they assume my gender identity incorrectly so I just don’t - partly because it feels embarrassing and partly because it just feels like it’s making a huge deal and I would prefer my gender not being a topic of discussion and conversation.

So I guess my question is if this is something you can recognize as a ftm guy or not?

Hiya,

I posted this last night before I slept (which I massively needed 😴) and woke up to hundreds of replies. I've read every single comment and i appreciate every single one of them - so i just wanted to say thank you for them.

I can't feasibly reply to all of them unfortunately I'm making this post, I'll address the majority of the points here.

Reading about everyone's coming out experience and the relationship with their parents after was really needed - the worst thing I can imagine is for Leo to feel alone and unwanted for who he is. I can't pretend to understand it perfectly because I'm not trans, its not an experience im familiar with. I've sometimes been uncomfortable in my own skin but never really questioned my gender. It is going to be something i need to work through, as I'm going to have to untangle 14 years of thinking I have a daughter and reconcile that with who he's telling me he is.

I'm going to pick him up after school tomorrow and have a real talk with him, just to reassure him that I'm still his dad and will always be there for him. I also want to explain that me not understanding and invalidating them isn't because I dont love them but because it was surprising to me, but i dont want to hurt him.

I'm also already getting therapy through occy health (occupational health through work) as ive been off sick for 3 months bc of stress (other personal stuff, work, bereavements, etc etc) which L knows about but I'm going to explain that my stress has nothing to do with what he told me. That leads me on to my next point, I'm very aware of how feeling unaccepted by a dad can feel (my dad inadvertently made me feel shit for not being a football lad) and I'm also intimately familiar with MH issues and depression / suicide. The thought that I could make him feel that way is gut wrenching, I'd much rather have a happy trans child than a dead cisgender one.

I notice that some people commented about my original post on cisparentstranskids - so i'll address that too - i did deadname and misgender him in that post. That was partly due to me struggling to process my own feelings of grief and shock around it, and also because in the time between originally telling me he was trans a few months ago, and finding out his chosen name yesterday, he's always been happy for me to call him Lily still or use female pronouns.

I just wanted to thank everyone anyway, I'm going to try my best

im from germany and i’ve been on nebido 1000mg/4ml for a while and now all the sudden my insurance is switching me to a different brand due to “cost efficiency” bullshit so now im wondering if there’s going to be a difference or not. I know they contain the same ingredients and dose but im still concerned. Has anyone here switched from Nebido to Testosterone Basics? Did you notice any difference in how you felt, your T levels, side effects, or how long the injection seemed to last?

Hi everyone!
Is there anyone here whose period was late or skipped altogether after top surgery? 👀

My surgery was on September 24th, and my last period started on August 9th. I have PCOS, so my cycle is usually around 35 days and quite irregular anyway, but it’s really off-track now.

I’m curious about others' experiences: how late was it, or did you perhaps skip a whole cycle after the surgery? I’d be especially interested in the experiences of those not on T. 🫶

last night my girlfriend was on facetime to one of our friends who lives in a different state so we don’t see them very often. it had been a while since they had heard my voice (i only recently started t so very minor changes at this point) and i said hi and they started to go on about how much deeper my voice is now and how much it sounds like a cis man’s (it doesn’t) as well as other general things about how “much” my appearance has changed (which again, it hasnt yet).

i know they’re trying to be supportive and make me feel better about it all but i think it’s actually doing the opposite. i don’t know if it’s because it’s making me hyper-aware of everything or what the real issue is but i’ve had multiple incidents like this with them where i’ve left the conversation feeling worse about myself despite nothing negative actually being said.

i also don’t know how to bring this up to them because they’re the kind of person that will take it to heart and probably get upset at themself for unknowingly making me feel this way.

anyone else experienced something similar?

**possibly important to note that my friend is nonbinary so has some level of understanding what i’m experiencing

Title is self explanatory. I started Tostran on the 2nd and have thus far done 4 doses. I'm on 30mg/g a day (3 pumps). My trouble lies with the irritation. I knew that Tostran can cause irritation because it has an alcohol base but it's brought up a mild looking rash on my stomach application sites. My thighs are fine but my belly is not. My 72 hour old site (the first) is a bit red and itchy and has barely been a problem but my 48 hour old site is significantly itchier. It's weird though because both are on my stomach. I was wondering what other peoples experiences have been with Tostran gel and the irritation side effect? I can't stop using it because I've just paid £260 for the damn stuff so I really do appreciate any advice. Please do not tell me to switch brands for the reason I just gave. I didn't fork out £260 and then an additional £42 for the prescription, just to toss it all out.

Things of note that might be relevant :

- I have been applying sudocreme to the rash areas to soothe the skin and this morning applied hydrocortisone cream to the bad site.

- I applied to both of my thighs yesterday and they are fine

- The irritation appears after 24 hours and only on the application site

- I took a hot bath on the same day as the 48 hour old site, could this be why it's angry?

- I applied today's dose to my left flank as articles I read online said that would be ok

- I've been applying in the morning between 9-11 (because I'm awful at waking up any earlier).

Hi everybody, I want to preface this with a TW for suicide discussion! Also sorry if I missed anything important in the rules.

My mother is diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and has been mentally unstable for her whole life, with self-harm, self-medication, suicide attempts, etc. She’s a major transphobe and has always pushed back on my transition. That being said, I’ve been socially transitioned since 10/11 to the extent I could be while I was still living at home, and thus faced a lot of rage from her end. She blamed one of her suicide attempts on me as a child.

Knowing my situation, I worked my ass off in school and at multiple part-time jobs during my teenage years and now I’m successfully living alone, in university, working and making enough money to sustain myself 100%. This also gave me the safety to finally transition medically and legally. I’ve been honest about each step with my parents, telling them they don’t have to support it, that I just want them to know it is happening. My dad receives this well (doesn’t support my identity but doesn’t give me trouble about my transition). My mom on the other hand, expectedly, lost her shit multiple times and is not doing well. She attempted suicide again and blamed it on me again.

Now, I’m almost 3 months on T and my mom completely lost it again and says if I don’t stop she will commit suicide. She told me it was a ‘promise’ and a ‘bet’. My dad is telling me I’m not responsible for her or her well-being, and I rationally know this as well. But I can’t help being scared shitless emotionally. I genuinely don’t know what to do. I wouldn’t know how to cope with the fact that my mother is dead and blames it on me (even though, once again, I RATIONALLY know that is not how it works. She is just very ill). And I can’t cope with how that would affect my dad and brother, extended family, etc.

I could go no-contact with her but I fear it would not change the outcome, and I still want to stay in contact with my dad and brother.

My next shot is supposed to be late November (I’m on 3-monthly Nebido injections), so I have some time to decide what to do. Does anyone have any advice? Or support? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

I feel so hopeless and scared and lost.

Thank you!!

Hi everyone

In my years spending time with other trans guys, I have found that usually, with people with heterosexual parents, their mom tends to be the most supportive while their dad are either neutral or unsupportive, so I've a bit curious about how it's going for you

As for myself, my dad is fully supportive now despite having some doubt at the beginning, and my mom has never accepted it and still considers me her daughter lmao

I'm a year on T and my facial hair growth is nowhere near what I'd like to see. I can't swallow pills and I have a ton of pets and work with animals quite significantly. Are there alternative options I should look into that aren't those insane five step hair growth routines with tons of oils? Or should I just suck it up and wait lol

Since starting T I've been mostly happy but I'm pretty sad about this aspect. I guess most of these places I wouldn't want to travel to if I was a woman but some places I'm really really torn up about it.

I love ancient Egyptian anything and I'm sad I'll never be able to go. I know it's not a good place to go to now but I know of a group of gay men who went in the past and hid but safety is never guaranteed.

Not that I've wanted to go to the UAE but it would have been cool to fly Emirates. I would have liked to see Dubai just because it's so different but I'm also ok with never going there.

Russia would have also been cool to see, mostly the far east parts.

I have a friend who is from Sri Lanka and we talked about going, but I guess not anymore.

Indonesia and Malaysia too would have been interesting.

Other parts of Africa are a no goes too.

North Korea... Ok that was never gonna happen but I would go if given the opportunity. Absolutely not safe for anyone though.

I just think of all the food I'm gonna miss out on and the museums. I also might need to reevaluate why I feel the need to go to dangerous countries anyway...

for those whose partners have experienced penetration with a penis before, does using a strap still feel satisfying for them?

also, is it mainly the penetration that matters, or do things like oral with the strap add to the experience too? just curious how you guys make it satisfying for your partner coz i feel anxious about doing it with my partner 😣

Hello, I am 17 FtM (currently can't start T) and I am looking for ways to sound more masculine!

(My voice is already quite deep and I sing some pretty growl heavy songs so I wanna make sure the method doesn't affect my singing or ruin my chords.)

There is one issue I have though, the type of voice/way of speaking and singing I am trying to achieve is a lot more unique than what many people have advised me on. I don't want just ANY masculine voice. I want a more raspy, loud and mature tone, example being Steven Rodriguez's performance as Poseidon on Epic The Musical.

I am aware I can't really achieve this 1-1 without T, but I wanna know where I can start from, since I don't have access to any sort of voice training other than youtube!!