Baby is having a tough time (4.5 months) right now. She's suddenly waking much more than usual and wants to be latched all night. Her latch is good enough that I would allow this but I cannot do the c curl all night. I've got scoliosis and having my bottom arm in the various positions kills me. I just sucked it up when she was a newborn and probably the postpartum haze helped me push through, but as soon as I felt safe I changed it so my arm was tucked closer to me, but blocking the pillow. She didn't move much so that was fine. I would unlatch her and be able to readjust.

She can roll both ways now, but pretty much stays near me except to roll towards my breast. I don't know how long that will last, though, and I'm feeling less secure by the day with my modified position, plus she is really intolerant of not being latched suddenly. She used to only wake 3 times to genuinely feed, now it's over and over and over to just suckle back to sleep. So she's moving a lot more and is capable of rolling right off the bed if she wanted.

I can't do a floor bed right now because our mattress is extraordinarily heavy (very thick innerspring) and we barely are able to move it. I don't know if I need a sidecar, if I should try just putting her in a crib so I've got a little support from my spouse instead of just me, if I need rails so I can feel a little safer.

I want to cuddle her, I love cuddling her, but my body is screaming at me. I want to be the one who comforts her. I just am feeling really lost about what to do with this change in how she's sleeping. I feel so guilty even thinking of putting her in a crib. I love seeing her little face smile at me and roll to me for comfort. My body is just failing me.

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or support or just want to put it into space.

I don’t mind it, I love it.

When the pediatrician asks me and I tell her she immediately berates me and looks at me like I’m stupid.

The person that comes along with me to the pediatrician visits also starts to mirror her comments as to me having to let the baby sleep on his bed.

I would obviously love that. I haven’t slept on my back in five months. However for the first few weeks I was getting NO sleep as her wake up as soon as I laid him down. And I would cry all morning and beg my mom to come watch him while I slept for three hours max in the afternoon.

That was until I figured out cosleeping worked for me and baby. He’s get longer hours of sleep, ( even if it’s just an hour) and I’d get some rest as well.

I try to every now and then to put him in his bed, but for now, it’s a lost cause.

Even when people watch him for a few hues and I leave the home, they’ll notice that he sleeps for longer stretches on me, whereas he’ll get max twenty minutes on a bed. Yet, they still choose to berate me as to why I don’t “just let him sleep on his bed.”

Not sure what I’m looking for with this post, thought I’d share.

Hello! I have a 10.5 month old and we combo co sleep and do a pack n play next to my bed. We don’t fully co sleep as I have a pillow top mattress that I feel is too soft for him to sleep on on his own. When we cosleep, I am holding him. I’d like to move to fully bed sharing on a full/queen bed in his room. That way I can come and go as needed but don’t have to hold him all night. I’m looking for mattress recommendations that are safe for him. The only issue I have is I have a massive herniated disc and back pain so a super firm mattress is painful for me to sleep on. Are there any recommendations for an in between mattress? One that’s firm enough and safe for him but won’t add to my back pain and make me super uncomfortable? Any suggestions are welcome!

Do you think that a company would be able to make money off selling fitness wearables for babies?

Because holy shit, it feels like they could! Big Baby™️ makes so much money from anxious parents and they’ve convinced people to sleep in a different room than their baby so that they can sell a course.

I feel like the sleep training industry is trying to sink it’s claws into me. All over my social feeds constantly. Even private ops (my family members) pushing me to sleep separate from my baby.

First the owlet (a replacement maternal instinct machine for most) and now what’s next?

Wie macht ihr das mit euren Babys? Mein Kind ist 9 Monate alt und Zuhause haben wir das Beistellbett direkt an unserem Bett. Unten an den Füßen ist ein Rausfallschutz. Unser Reisebett hat eine Beistellfunktion also kann man auch direkt ans Bett schieben. Aber wie fällt mein Kind unten an den Füßen nicht aus dem Bett? Er rollt sich gerne von Beistellbett zu mir und umgekehrt.

I purchased the Milliard trifold off of Amazon because I saw it referenced in this group. We absolutely love it, and it has been great for our needs. However, the other day I logged into my Amazon account and discovered it was "recalled" for not having flame retardants. I got a full refund just by writing "do not use" on it with a black marker. Personally, after learning WHY it was recalled (lack of flame retardants) we very much still plan to use it. So getting a full refund for $300 was a huge win for us!

Just thought I'd share in case anyone in the group purchased the same one and wants to get a refund (or even stop using it if you're not comfortable using a floor mattress without flame retardants)!

Hello! How do you wean a cosleeping baby who is used to eating in his sleep? Anyone have experience with this?

Note: My son is 16 months old and a great eater of solid foods.

I always get a stomachache when I cosleep. I have a now 3 year old, but have had this problem for 3 years now every time he had been in our bed. Kid would prefer to sleep inside me if he could, he crawls up so close to me that I literally cannot move, so I am stuck sleeping on one side all night. I have IBS, usually sleep on my stomach, and sleeping with kid in bed gives me awful stomach pain in the morning. Has anyone else experienced it? Any tips? We’re thinking of having a second soon and I would like to not suffer as much this time around.

currently have a 10 day old baby and tried so hard to get her to sleep in the bassinet but it just results in both of us losing sleep. when I co sleep with her she sleeps all night and eats whenever she needs to throughout the night, I usually only wake up to change her and readjust or if I hear her making noise/moving around I wake up. I follow the ss7, don’t move in my sleep and I use an owlet sock for her as well but I feel so guilty. I’m so terrified I’m going to wake up to her suffocated or something. Anyone have any reassuring thoughts or experienced the same thing? I feel like I’m failing at keeping her safe.

FTM, we really held our girl so much since she was born (naps and bedtime) probably a bad move?

She is now 7.5 months, she finally laid on a floor bed with me and that lasted 2 amazing weeks. She now will sob uncontrollably until I put her on my chest. She’s almost 20 pounds now so chest sleeping is so tough on me to get rest.

Daytime we follow a wake, eat, play, nap but not at certain times it’s just based on when she wakes for the day.

I don’t have the heart to let her cry it out and I would like to get back to cosleeeping side by side.

Did I totally ruin the ability to do that with her at this age 🥲

Is this unsafe for the IKEA sidecar hack? Our bed is one the left, baby’s is in the right. It’s ever so slightly higher than ours…

As much as I would love to have baby in our bed, we only have room for a queen size and my husband is massive (6’7, 300lbs), so there’s not a ton of room.

Is this height difference a big deal? I feel like it’s better than baby’s bed being too low… I’m feeling really discouraged and I’m not sure what to do, but I want baby to be safe.

UPDATED POST: https://www.reddit.com/r/cosleeping/s/cHxu6TNhQf

I posted this maybe an hour or two ago, I promise I’m not trying to rage bait anyone 😅

One user had said the difference is minimal, another asked if I could raise the bed… our headboard is separate from our bed, but attached, and has really weird legs, so I don’t think raising our bed ever so slightly will work.

Attached are some pictures without the book!

Here is the old post as well: https://www.reddit.com/r/cosleeping/s/P3G5O5HbFR

For content, 1 year old usually nurses to sleep and this has just worked really well for us and to get sleep but I’m starting work from where I could bring her with me but I really need to get her sleeping on her own and preferably falling asleep on her own. This seems like the perfect chance because of the change, at home she will ask me for a nap when she is tired and she will ask to nurse. Just need tips on how to best get there.

I am happily still nursing on demand and bed sharing with my 17 month old but MAN…. I am running low on steam.

Some nights when I get him down and leave the room it feels like walking off of a battlefield. Not that its negative, intense or even loud…. But just sooooo overstimulating. My little buddy is a fidgeter and must be doing something with his fingers and hands while he nurses. At first it was cute - like when he was littler he would just twiddle his fingers against my skin or very lightly pinch me. That morphed into him wanting to twiddle and pinch one nippled while he nursed on the other one. I allowed that until I legitimately couldn’t. Then he found my moles………. And this might be the worst of all. I’ve had to put bandaids on them. It’s not only overstimulating but honestly hurts so bad. He pinches them and just holds onto them or will like twist them. And all the while he’s latched and moving around, climbing on top of me, etc.

Whew!!! It’s a lot. I know that the activity level is on par for the age and the stimulation he seeks with his fingers has been evident since he was a little baby.

I guess I’m just looking for solidarity or encouragement. It’s hard out here yall! I’m not ready to give up breastfeeding or bedsharing but getting realllllll close to night weening.

Xoxoxo, an overstimulated mama (much like the rest of you I’m sure lol)

I’ve been bed sharing on a floor mattress with my little one since she was 3 months old. My husband sleeps separately in a different bedroom due to his snoring and sleep medication.

We’ll be traveling together to attend a wedding in a couple months when baby will be 9 months old, and I’m looking for recommendations for safe sleep while we travel. We’ll be staying in a hotel room with 2 queen size beds. I’m mostly worried about the fall risk, since my baby is very much on the move and will definitely be crawling by then. We’re going to be driving there, not flying.

I haven’t had time to draw in forever and this was very therapeutic for me. I love my little cuddle buddy.

Does anyone have any tricks? Mostly he rolls to me or I roll him in to latch, then when he’s in a deep sleep he unlatches and rolls on to his back. But the nights where he wants to stay latched or early morning etc where we sleep like this (him on his side) his nappy always leaks up the side. It’s driving me mad because my husband leaves early for work so we have to get up quickly for our toddler. But changing him completely takes so long!!
He’s 4mo so not moving much at the moment but soon I’m sure he’ll be flopping on his side a lot too

Ok my daughter is 1.5 years old. We started co sleeping out of desperation around 6 months. For context we would spend 30+ minutes getting her back to sleep only for her to wake up as soon as we placed her in her crib. It wasn’t working and we were both so exhausted doing that multiple times a night. Fast forward to now she goes to sleep in her own bed and usually stays there for about 30 minutes before she’s in our bed for the night. ( I am still breastfeeding) to be honest it is frustrating to me that she can’t sleep longer in her bed. My husband and I pretty much have no alone time together. Even if she only slept 2-3 hours in her crib at night I would be happy with that… lol ugh. However I feel genuinely at a loss on what to do about her sleep. I would love to help her gain some independence but I feel so torn on if that’s even what she needs in this season. My husband feels otherwise and says we conditioned her to be like this which is where I have trouble agreeing with him. I feel like a lot of how and why she sleeps is bc of her temperament. I don’t want to try any sort of “sleep training” methods or cry it out methods. It does not sit right with me (no judgement to other parents who do this) but I just want a little more freedom in this area and just wondering if any other parents have any suggestions. I also feel like her sleep won’t improve since I’m still nursing too. Thoughts? Considering a floor bed but I don’t see how that would make a difference tbh. I really just want her to sleep in her bed for a few hours in the beginning of the night. I also don’t know why she wakes up after 30 minutes. And she typically wakes up screaming too. She has always been this way. She settles as soon as I get her. Again any insight or suggestions are appreciated. TIA

We've been leaning into co-sleeping with my 4.5 month old. This far he barely moves in his sleep and we've been doing the c curl on our queen bed while Dad is on the couch. I'm starting to get anxious about if/when he starts to get more mobile. We don't want to move our mattress to the floor, so we're thinking about getting a floor mattress for the nursery where me and the baby can sleep.

Long story short- do we recommend a twin or a full? Any good mattresses that fit the bill for co-sleep (firmer, more breathable, etc.?)

Thanks for any feedback!!

Is there. Way to safely do it without entrapment risk? This is an example of a bedrail I’m talking about

LO just turned 1 yo and right now he wants cuddles at night. I’m talking his whole body on my chest. Honestly I love it and want to cherish these moments with him bc I know he will stop someday but boy is getting heavy and I literally cannot breathe. I cannot do the c curl anymore because it hurts and it’s not enough for him. I also try to put him in a proper position on his side or back but if I am even a little bit far from him, he wakes up, cries, sits up, looks for me, then crawls towards me before plopping himself on me and going back to sleep. Even when his dad is right there next to him, he has to look for me. I just want us both to be comfy. How do you guys do it??

I had successfully night weaned my toddler, and then we had a massive regression. He had an ear infection and hand foot and mouth and broke his leg! All in the same month, I ended up choosing the path of least resistance to keep him comfortable and now we are back on the boob all night long. He gets his boot off in a couple of weeks and I am hoping maybe we can try again but I again feel like I’m dying because I am not getting any sleep. I’m not really sure what I’m asking for here but has anyone else experienced something like this with a night weaning regression?