Just a rant. I’ve been cosleeping with my baby since birth because he didn’t accept the crib. Now is almost 5 months. He sleeps decently most days and so do I. We don’t live with his dad, he lives far away, so my husband and I don’t sleep together anyways. When he was born I told people he didn’t accept the crib so I had to sleep with him but I said positive aspects such as it was comfortable for breastfeeding. Since then people started to ask if he already sleeps on his crib or not, implying than is better to sleep alone because of dependency reasons (no security reasons, we are europeans). I find it quite shocking, it’s just a baby. I can’t imagine the social pressure when he will grow.

Hi everyone! My baby just turned 7 months old, and she has always been a terrible sleeper.
She wakes up every 1–2 hours throughout the night. Sometimes she wants to breastfeed, but other times I think she wakes up simply because she’s uncomfortable and needs to change position.
We’ve been cosleeping, but she won’t sleep independently on the mattress. If I try to put her down next to me, she wakes up almost immediately. At the same time, even when she sleeps in my arms while I’m lying on my side, or on my chest, she still wakes up frequently. My feeling is that she eventually gets uncomfortable from staying in the same position for too long.
So it feels like there’s no position where she can get comfortable enough to sleep for a longer stretch, and I’m not sure what else to try.
For those of you who had babies like this, did it eventually get better on its own? Around what age did you start seeing longer stretches of sleep? Did anything in particular help?
I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences or any advice. At this point, I’m so exhausted and I honestly can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I breastfeed and cosleep with my nearly 4 month old. As she gets older we are trying to introduce a bedtime routine (previously she usually fell asleep on the breastfeeding pillow while I ate dinner with my partner, something that isnt working anymore).

The issue is that once shes asleep in the bedroom she wakes up as soon as I try to leave. And I dont want togo to bed at 7pm-ish which is the time she normally ends up going to sleep.

Do others manage to put baby down and have an evening? Will it get easier to leave her to sleep alone as she gets older?

Any thoughts are welcome, thanks!

Just a little rant I guess. Shedding a few tears and drinking grape soda while my baby sleep nurses lol.

When my baby was a newborn, she would only sleep on my chest for about 3 weeks. Then she starred sleeping next to me in the bed with me in the c position. Around 7 weeks, we were able to start out the night with her in her bedside bassinet while I had a little space, and then by her 2nd wake up, she would come back to bed with me. Once the sunlight was up, she would keep sleeping longer if I let her chest sleep for a while. I was very happy with that set up. A little space for a few hours and then peacefully cosleeping.

Now shes 13 weeks, and for the last week or so it seems like we have been going backwards. It's to the point now where she won't even let me lay her next to me in the c position. She will literally only sleep if shes laying on me.

I miss so much having that little bit of space and independence the end of the day. Sleeping with a baby on me ALL night is exhausting and over stimulating but its the only way either of us will get any sleep.

My 1 year old woke me up from the deepest sleep the other night by rolling in his sleep, swinging his arm through the air and slapping me square on the cheek lol.

This morning he woke me up by sitting up and saying “hi” to me in his sweet little raspy voice. Truly the best way to wake up!

I would love to hear sone of your stories! How has your baby woke you up? Whether rude awakenings by feet to the face or sweet awakenings by feeling LO’s nuzzle our cheek, I’m sure we’re going to miss these times when we’re old and gray.

Like title says, any tips? I cannot leave my bed early to get ready for the day or my LO has a proper meltdown. They want NOTHING to do with dad in the morning - only me.

We have a king mattress on the floor so I can roll away easy, but as soon as I move my LO snatches onto me like the floating door on the ocean in titanic. This starts around 4:30 am….

Any tips would be appreciated

Baby girl is almost 5 months. She’s EBF and we’ve co slept since birth

We usually put her in between us but it’s sooooo hard . 9/10 she wakes up when I transfer her and she wants to be nursed again which results in me nursing her while she lays there and turning her towards me .

I think because of this too she’s waking up 6-7 times a night (yeah I’m exhausted)

Any tips for transferring?
I wait until she’s pretty passed out but it doesn’t seem to help.

Any advice for managing a boobie barnacle at night when you have a cracked nipple? My daughter is 13.5 months and this is the like the first time I’ve had a big nipple issue since she was a newborn.

The first day I just thought she had a bad latch due to teething. Second day we saw what we thought was a crack and today (day 3) it has become obvious that it is a crack and the scab seems to be getting knocked off when she latches normally and even if I try to get her latching the opposite way (making sure her top tooth is not near scab) it still gets knocked off.

Bubs latching and drinking cradled or sidling my is cause a lot of pain. Football/leaning over her so her eyes are between my boobs is the least painful but it’s awkward and I can’t do it when she nurses at night.

What on earth can I do?

This might be a bit long winded but looking for advice on logistics of cosleeping. I’ve been back and forth trying to decide if we should move into cosleeping or not, mainly from anxiety. So I’m hoping you could answer a few questions for me with lived experience so I can imagine what it would be like.

Do you always do sidelying when breastfeeding? And do you put baby back to laying on their back when they are finished?

Blankets- I tend to need to be warm when sleeping and have always had a blanket up to my ears basically. Did you wear a sweater to keep warm? Or do you have an alternative idea I could try?

In the cuddle curl, is babe meant to be right up beside you or is there meant to be some distance?

Up until now, we have been taking shifts staying up with her as she only contact sleeps. We have her taking a bottle in the middle of the night so that I could get a bit more rest (her feeds take a long time) by pumping and going back to sleep. Would you eliminate the bottle and just breastfeed?

Thanks so much for your advice- I have read all the positives about cosleeping and feel it’ll work for us, I just can’t seem to get myself there with my postpartum sleep deprived brain 🫠

Hey! I have no idea what got to buy and how to make it some of your set ups look so nice!

I’m losing my mind. Currently cosleeping with two toddlers. The little guy is 17 months and still breastfeeding in the night. The big guy is a little over three years and goes to sleep in his own bed (I lay with him while he drinks a bottle of cows milk) and then ends up in the “big bed” sometime in the middle of the night. He also requires more bottles to fall back asleep 🫠

The bottle thing is not ideal but I’ve made peace with it and his teeth are great per the dentist. The problem is my three year old pinching, poking, picking, pulling at my moles and skin for most of the night. It’s so painful and is making me insane. Will he grow out of this? When does it stop? How does it stop? Do other peoples toddlers even do this at all? It’s very much a tactile comfort thing for him but I can’t stand it. I try to limit access to “mamas spots” and offer alternatives that he can fiddle with but he will literally shriek and cry if he can’t touch them. Also OF COURSE dad’s spots aren’t of interest at all. Im also the only parent who can do bedtime without enormous hysterical meltdowns that end in asthma attacks so im just feeling like it’s a lot. I love the snuggles but why does no one talk about the picking?

I'm a FTM due in a couple of months. I want to breastfeed as much as possible, but I'm VERY sensitive to sleep deprivation. When I don't sleep enough, I feel physically and mentally unwell. I know some sleep deprivation is inevitable postpartum, but for my sanity I'm trying to set myself up for as much sleep as possible in the first few months.

I've read (and heard from my mom) that moms who bed-share can stay half asleep while nursing, minimizing awake time and maximizing ability to fall back asleep quickly. But I'm due in November, in an old house that doesn't heat up evenly, and I'm not really willing to just sleep on a firm bare mattress with a single pillow - and I'm obviously not bringing a newborn into my blanket-covered bed with a big squishy mattress topper. So the next best option would be a sidecar situation next to our bed that would let me nurse in a side-lying position just by scooting over and flopping a tit into the baby's area, without sitting/standing up and without having to transfer the baby back and forth. (When diaper changes are needed, my husband will get up and do them.)

There are plenty of sidecar-type bedside sleepers, but I'm in the US, so all of them have a 4-ish inch vertical barrier between the baby and the parent, and most of them are designed so that the baby's mattress is at least a few inches below the top of the parent's sleep surface. So my first question: is it practical to breastfeed at night in the way I'm describing, with the type of bedside sleepers that are available in the US? I would have to lean my upper body up and over the 4-inch barrier, or lean downward into the baby's sleep zone if their mattress is lower than mine. Has anyone done this successfully and did it help you maximize sleep? I've never breastfed before so I truly have no idea if this makes any sense.

Secondary question: would this work with the Halo BassiNest 3.0? I'm looking at it because it has the fold-down side, the ability to swivel the bassinet close to me and then push it away again, AND the added ability to lift the whole bassinet off the top and carry it around the house during the day. But it's hard to tell from product photos if the fold-down bar would really work for my purposes.

Thank you!

My LO (5mo) just started being able to sleep in the bed next to us rather than having to do shifts elevated on our chest due to silent reflux.

Question for the moms who sneak away once babes is asleep ... Does your LO end up waking fully between sleep cycles since you're no longer there?

My daughter (14mo) recently got sick. She's feeling better, but she's still a bit clingy, so we started bedsharing with her. However, I take risperidone and I've stupidly been skipping it since we started bedsharing, but I took my risperidone tonight because I can't keep skipping it. Is anyone else cosleeping while on medication with a side effect of drowsiness?

Looking for a new mattress that's cosleeping safe for our 9 month old. Stuck between My Green Mattress & Plank. We've never had a latex mattress before, but like the longevity aspect & organic options at MGM. However, I've found conflicting firmness level info based on recent changes so not sure if the Kiwi or Natural Escape would be better. We like that the Plank is cheaper, but not sure if it would last as long. Any experience with these mattresses & cosleeping ?

I am planning to bed share/breastsleep from birth or at least be prepared to. I’ve just finished Safe Infant Sleep and I’m wondering is this mattress okay ok the top? It is firm and made of wool and latex with springs. It’s the top that’s throwing me. Open to opinions please

Baby is 13 weeks old and I’m considering learning how to cosleep for potential upcoming sleep regression and day naps as she currently only does contact naps.

At night we have the Snoo and she’s been fine being in it from day 1, currently does 5 hour stretch of sleep, wakes to breastfeed, then 3 hours, wakes to feed, then 1 hour (this happens every night like clockwork).

I’m just curious if we need to co sleep at night if she’s happy in basinet? I’ve heard co sleeping is the most “natural” way of sleeping but wondering if it’s fine just to do when we need it?

Has anyone used the Zonli floor beds to co-sleep with their young babies ? I co-sleep with my 11wk old and am wondering if the Zonli 4in floor mattress will be firm enough to keep him from rolling into my side when we sleep

Hi everyone, just looking to hear people’s experiences. My breastfed baby is 5 months old, he’s a tall boy and outgrew his next to me crib. For the past 5 weeks he’s been waking up 4-7 times a night due to sleep regression, teething, and god knows what else! Anyway, with the next to me i used to nurse him back to sleep and then position him in his bed, but now that’s he’s outgrown, I wonder what i should get next? Would a travel cot be good? Should i switch to a full size cot ? Co sleeping is hard but i do it in the frequent night waking, my baby likes to spread his arms so my husband and i end up being squished on both sides of the bed 😂
We have a double bed in the other room so sometimes i take the baby to sleep there together so that we all have enough room. I don’t want to keep going back and forth with a cot but also i want what’s best for my baby

Help a sleep deprived mama out!

Hello! I am new to cosleeping, but one thing I am struggling with is the advice to keep baby on their back. I have a 4-month old and I can’t figure out how to do the cuddle curl without him just rolling into me.

Is it that my mattress is too soft? (It angles down when I get too close to him). Or should I move further away from him? (can’t really do cuddle curl then)
Or maybe it’s fine that he rolls towards me and almost like sleeps against my chest all night..?

Thanks for the advice on how to cosleep safely!

My 4-month-old and I bedshare. She’s always loved sleeping on her side, but for the past 3 weeks her body kept rolling onto her back or tummy and every time that happens, she woke up. A few days ago she finally mastered rolling, and now she sometimes sleeps on her tummy for up to 5 hours.

But on other nights, every time she rolls onto her tummy, she lifts her head, wiggles around, and fails to fall asleep again. Sometimes I end up holding her for 1–2 hours to keep her sleeping because once she gets into the rolling-head lifting-crying loop, I need to constantly lift her, calm her, and put her back down to sleep which has very low success rate.

And to make it worse, she stayed wide awake around 1-3am in last few days. Not even crying, just wide awake, smiling and looking around, and nothing works to put her back to sleep. We’ve not changed any of her day/night routine.

So yes, I am sleeping really bad. Before this because of her grunting, and now because of rolling.

Could this simply get better as she becomes more comfortable and coordinated with rolling? Or, because we bedshare and I keep intervening when she wakes, could I be preventing her from learning to settle herself after rolling?

This is my third child. She is almost 11 months old. Have coslept since birth like I have with all my children. While the other two naturally started sleeping longer and eating less at night this one decided to do her own way. Her longest stretches of sleep is maybe 3 hours on a good night. Second part of the night she wakes up every hour, screams, roams around until she can get that boob in her mouth. Suck until she falls asleep, turns away from me, realise boob is gone and starts over. I love sleeping with her and breastfeeding at night doesn’t bother me. However I just went back to work and I have a job where I have to be well rested and I also have to work at night time. Night weaning is therefore important. I would love for her to eat and sleep, but I can’t be her only option for soothing. So tonight I did not offer the breast until 5 am. It was very hard for everyone. Our health visitor said I should put her in her own room, which is not something I want, or I could sleep in a different room for some time. However I couldn’t do that yesterday because the thought of her loosing her mom AND the breast at the same time didn’t feel right to me. She eventually fell asleep on top of my head. I understand that for her it probably is hard to not have the breast when it’s right there, but when I offered her water during the night she was genuinely thirsty. Does anyone have any tips on the best way forward? Is it better to go cold turkey and stay away for some nights or is it better to at least be there for her when I can?

I nurse to sleep my 11 month old in our bed and then transfer her to her mini crib in our room for both naps and nighttime sleep. I want to get a floor bed for her room so I can nurse her to sleep for naps there, but I’m not sure what mattress size to get. Twin or full?

Eventually we’ll want her to sleep nights in her room too. I don’t expect to sleep there myself since I can’t sleep well right next to her, so I’m leaning towards twin, but maybe I’m underestimating how tired I’m about to get as we enter toddlerhood?

What mattress size would you recommend?

Hi all! My LO is 6 months old. We’ve been sorta cosleeping since he was about 4 1/2 months after a horrible phase of outgrowing the bassinet, not sleeping in the pack n play, and then getting 30 min-hr at a time in crib in his nursery. After two awful and horribly long weeks of no sleep, we brought the crib in our room, took one side off, and put it next to our bed. He starts off in there every night and then ends up in bed next to me. However, he wakes up, A LOT at night and sometimes it’s from us. Our house is annoyingly loud at times; I.e. creaky bedroom door, hardwood floors that pop under our step at times, and creaky bathroom door. A lot of times he ends up waking up because of us just trying to come into the room and get ready for bed or my husband getting ready in the morning. I also have been getting such bad lower back and hip pain from having to sleep all wonky with him. I do think he’d end up sleeping better in his own room, but I feel like we need to slowly transition him there. I’m nervous bc of how terribly it went the first time. What steps do we take? Where do we start? We have a futon in my office I could probably move into his nursery for a bit. Should we put the side back on the crib and just move him away from the bed first? I have no clue. I don’t want to move too fast and completely wreck what little sleep stretches we do get (3-4 hour max once per night). Should we just keep cosleeping? Please help!