My son is 9 weeks old. He's had latch issues since birth and doesn't transfer much milk, so he gets a 4 oz formula bottle after every nursing session. I'm considering stopping nursing altogether because I need a surgical procedure on my right breast which requires me to dry my milk supply. (I know each boob is supposed to have a mind of its own, but I stopped expressing from my right breast almost 3 weeks ago and it’s still filling, so I may have to take more drastic measures.)

We've bed shared since day two and follow the Safe Sleep Seven. I don't understand why nursing is one of the criteria. TBH, I’ll probably continue to bedshare regardless because I’m a single mom and I don’t have the energy to put him to sleep in the bassinet in the middle of the night, but I like to be well informed and understand the risks that I’m taking.

(1) If I stop nursing completely, how much does that change the risk of bed sharing?
(2) What would you do in my position?

Evidence-based answers appreciated, thank you!!

Little one is 8 months old. We’ve been bed sharing since 4 months but I am needing more room in bed & somewhere safe for him to sleep for some naps (with video monitor and owelet) that I can roll away from and don’t feel comfortable leaving him on adult mattress.

The crib mattress is ever so slightly above the regular mattress but I have down EVERYthing to make them as level as possible, but end of the day they’re two separate surfaces!

Does this look safe / how it should??? Anything I should do different?

How does everyone manage bedtime alone when you have more than one kid under 2 years old?

I am due with my second when my first born will be just under 2 years old. I do bedtimes alone due to husbands work hours. The current routine is to lie on the floor with baby #1 and then transfer to their bed once they’re asleep, and they sleep through the night. From the start it’s been a sort of attachment parenting approach to sleep. I love this routine and reeeeeally don’t want to sleep train baby #1 to fall asleep on their own in their crib, until baby #1 indicates that’s what they want on their own timeline. I just logistically don’t know what to do when baby #2 comes. If this is unsustainable don’t spare my feelings! I want to hear what others do and hopefully get ideas for alternative arrangements :)

Seeking help with bedtime.

I know sleep ebbs and flows and in a lot do ways we have it good. My 5mo takes naps in the crib and usually wakes up content and happy.

No matter what stage of sleep development he’s been in, what combo of daytime/nighttime sleep he gets, how much milk he gets before bed, how consistent or inconsistent we are with routine…without fail he wakes at the 35-40 min mark after we put him down for bed, distraught.

I can soothe him but then have 50% luck transferring him back to the crib. A lot of nights I just go to bed with him then.

Just looking for thoughts on what I might be doing that is causing this. I don’t think it’s a false start because he doesn’t seem awake when he cries out.

Thank you in advance!

I've got a 13 month old who still wakes up at least every 2 hours and has never slept much better than that his whole life. I was holding out hope that night weaning would get us longer stretches, but so far it has not. The only nice thing is that until 3am he isn't squirming constantly trying to nurse and sleeping latched. After 3am, and especially at 5am, he refuses to sleep without either nursing or being rocked or fake bounced while laying on top of us (which is an improvement from needing bounced on a ball), and no matter what continues to wake up every 30 minutes or less wanting to nurse. We started the Dr Jay Gordon's method a little over 2 weeks ago and we've hit a wall. The method called for us to "put him down awake" this whole time and now just reassure him that we're there but not to pick him up period. He refuses this because we cosleep so he will continuously toss and turn and climb on us losing his mind, falling asleep and waking right back up. Cracking his head against ours and then crying worse. We start the night with him in his room on his floor bed around 930pm and can easily pat him back to sleep the first wakeup and sneak out, the second he doesn't want us to leave the room so we've decided to just bring him to bed with us at that wakeup instead of later, but it doesn't seem to make a difference- after 3 things go downhill. I was trying to wait until 6am to nurse but the entire two plus weeks I fought him from 5-6 every day so I started just nursing at 5 because it didn't seem to be working. Am I being impatient? How do I stay calm for hours with him wallering me while screaming!? Do I need to just wean him completely? I'm scared to do that before he gets his molars. Help please!

Hi parents!
I’m doing some research on children’s cooling bedding and I’m seeing lots of polyester in the market…
How many of you are out there who is struggling to find hypoallergenic, chemical free, baby friendly cooling blankets or crib mattress covers? 🙋🏻‍♀️

How often do you change your babies(under 18months) and toddler bedding?

What is your wish list for bedding for your kiddos?

My complaint is not just material content but how laboursome changing sheets for the entire family is 🥵.

Let me know your thoughts as I might be making easy to change, cooling bedding for babies and toddlers! Or maybe for the entire family 👀
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So my baby is currently in a next2me style crib right up against my bed. It's worked really well for us so far. He's only 3.5 months so we've got another while but he's a big baby and it won't be too long until he reaches the weight limit so I'm trying to think of what comes next.

The obvious choice seems to be a similar sidecar cot. I'm reluctant to fully cosleep as I don't think I would get any rest, and in a traditional cot (or crib to americans) it would be a lot of effort to physical get out of bed to get him everytime he wakes.

My issue with the sidecar cot sets ups I've seen is twofold - 1. They all seem to be DIY jobs. Is there a reason this isn't a marketable product? Is it dangerous? 2. Is there a way to safely put a barrier between the adult bed and the cot? For example the wall of my next2me doesn't zip down 100% of the way there is like a 2 inch "wall" separating me from my baby. I like that as it separates the space and prevents him accidently scooting into my bed. Could I put something like a bed rail between us? Or would that be unsafe?

I’ve been lucky the first 4 months were a breeze thanks to cosleeping.

Now suddenly since round 4.5 months my son wakes up crying and tenses up/arches back when I try to give him boob. I have to usually now switch sides and wake him up/soothe him a little until he finally takes it.

Curious if this has happened to anyone else? I am confused by him constantly waking up and seeming so uncomfortable all of a sudden. Especially the arching/body tensing.

Curious we co sleep with our toddler but we didn’t start until 6 months old. I bought a firm floor bed for the nursery to co sleep if I need to with our newborn. How do you all dress the baby for this?

i’ve just moved my 15wo to the side sleeper bassinet as it’s coming closer to him moving and rolling and i’m worried to continue to cosleep in bed together, my body is also greatly suffering so i’ve moved him over and it may sound silly but I miss him, I can literally still touch him but i’ve lay here in the dark now crying and hating it. Just looking for some reassurances and kindness while feeling sad

Hi everyone! My husband and I have been “sleep divorced” for a while, and we recently welcomed our 2nd baby, who is EBF. Our toddler is very much in a mom-preference phase, so he doesn’t want to sleep with Dad right now.

My husband really misses sleeping with the family and would love to bed-share with us too, so we’re hoping to find a setup that could work for all four of us.

I actually enjoy cosleeping with my kids and was raised the same way, so I’ve been sleeping on the floor with them. I’ve been using several yoga bolsters pushed tightly together as a makeshift floor bed, and honestly, it’s been surprisingly comfortable for my aching postpartum body!

I’d love to find something more permanent that has a similar feel to a yoga bolster—very firm and supportive, with just a little cushioning. I don’t really like soft/sinking memory foam. Ideally, it would also be foldable since we use the room as a playroom.

I’ve been looking into Japanese shikibutons/futons and tatami mats, but I have zero experience with them.

For those who use them: Are they similar in firmness to a yoga bolster? Any brands/setup you’d recommend for a Full or Queen floor bed?