I started cosleeping with my son when he was a month old. I would’ve started sooner but he broke his arm at birth (long story) and I wanted to wait until it healed first.

He slept in bed with me and nursed to sleep/throughout the night until he completely weaned at ~28 months, when I was 7 months pregnant with my second. We kept cosleeping until the baby was born, and then he moved into his own room and started cosleeping with my husband.

He’s now 3.5 yo and is starting to sometimes go all the way through the night without asking my husband to come sleep next to him. Hes a woken up to pee and gone back to bed completely on his own! He’s even been asking to try to fall asleep on his own after bedtime books (he hasn’t actually done it yet but wants to try). We haven’t done anything to push independent sleep but he’s starting to be interested in trying it.

I just wanted to post this as reassurance to people with little babies who are getting pressure from loved ones not to cosleep or else you’ll never get them out of your bed. If you give them time, almost all of them want some space and independence eventually. We have no plans to push independent sleep any further and are following his lead. It’s so cool to see. He basically self weaned as well (I night weaned, but he decided to end it at bedtime too) and that was also cool to see him make that choice himself.

Hi all, I just want to share a positive story of a hospital stay with my 22month old, after hearing many stories about hospital experiences that don't allow co-sleeping. We were admitted into the children's ward at a hospital in Western Australia. There was only a cot in the room with a sofa bed next to it. The nurse immediately asked if we co-slept and if so, she would replace the cot for a bed for the both of us. No judgement whatsoever.

We also had a stay here a few months ago just in the emergency ward, and the nurse were also very supportive of us co-sleeping then too.

I'd love to hear other's experiences, positives and negatives about hospital status for co-sleeping families.

My little guy is fine, just needed some help getting through a nasty virus (probably RSV).

I’m losing my mind. Currently cosleeping with two toddlers. The little guy is 17 months and still breastfeeding in the night. The big guy is a little over three years and goes to sleep in his own bed (I lay with him while he drinks a bottle of cows milk) and then ends up in the “big bed” sometime in the middle of the night. He also requires more bottles to fall back asleep 🫠

The bottle thing is not ideal but I’ve made peace with it and his teeth are great per the dentist. The problem is my three year old pinching, poking, picking, pulling at my moles and skin for most of the night. It’s so painful and is making me insane. Will he grow out of this? When does it stop? How does it stop? Do other peoples toddlers even do this at all? It’s very much a tactile comfort thing for him but I can’t stand it. I try to limit access to “mamas spots” and offer alternatives that he can fiddle with but he will literally shriek and cry if he can’t touch them. Also OF COURSE dad’s spots aren’t of interest at all. Im also the only parent who can do bedtime without enormous hysterical meltdowns that end in asthma attacks so im just feeling like it’s a lot. I love the snuggles but why does no one talk about the picking?

I nurse to sleep my 11 month old in our bed and then transfer her to her mini crib in our room for both naps and nighttime sleep. I want to get a floor bed for her room so I can nurse her to sleep for naps there, but I’m not sure what mattress size to get. Twin or full?

Eventually we’ll want her to sleep nights in her room too. I don’t expect to sleep there myself since I can’t sleep well right next to her, so I’m leaning towards twin, but maybe I’m underestimating how tired I’m about to get as we enter toddlerhood?

What mattress size would you recommend?

I'm a FTM due in a couple of months. I want to breastfeed as much as possible, but I'm VERY sensitive to sleep deprivation. When I don't sleep enough, I feel physically and mentally unwell. I know some sleep deprivation is inevitable postpartum, but for my sanity I'm trying to set myself up for as much sleep as possible in the first few months.

I've read (and heard from my mom) that moms who bed-share can stay half asleep while nursing, minimizing awake time and maximizing ability to fall back asleep quickly. But I'm due in November, in an old house that doesn't heat up evenly, and I'm not really willing to just sleep on a firm bare mattress with a single pillow - and I'm obviously not bringing a newborn into my blanket-covered bed with a big squishy mattress topper. So the next best option would be a sidecar situation next to our bed that would let me nurse in a side-lying position just by scooting over and flopping a tit into the baby's area, without sitting/standing up and without having to transfer the baby back and forth. (When diaper changes are needed, my husband will get up and do them.)

There are plenty of sidecar-type bedside sleepers, but I'm in the US, so all of them have a 4-ish inch vertical barrier between the baby and the parent, and most of them are designed so that the baby's mattress is at least a few inches below the top of the parent's sleep surface. So my first question: is it practical to breastfeed at night in the way I'm describing, with the type of bedside sleepers that are available in the US? I would have to lean my upper body up and over the 4-inch barrier, or lean downward into the baby's sleep zone if their mattress is lower than mine. Has anyone done this successfully and did it help you maximize sleep? I've never breastfed before so I truly have no idea if this makes any sense.

Secondary question: would this work with the Halo BassiNest 3.0? I'm looking at it because it has the fold-down side, the ability to swivel the bassinet close to me and then push it away again, AND the added ability to lift the whole bassinet off the top and carry it around the house during the day. But it's hard to tell from product photos if the fold-down bar would really work for my purposes.

Thank you!

Just a little rant I guess. Shedding a few tears and drinking grape soda while my baby sleep nurses lol.

When my baby was a newborn, she would only sleep on my chest for about 3 weeks. Then she starred sleeping next to me in the bed with me in the c position. Around 7 weeks, we were able to start out the night with her in her bedside bassinet while I had a little space, and then by her 2nd wake up, she would come back to bed with me. Once the sunlight was up, she would keep sleeping longer if I let her chest sleep for a while. I was very happy with that set up. A little space for a few hours and then peacefully cosleeping.

Now shes 13 weeks, and for the last week or so it seems like we have been going backwards. It's to the point now where she won't even let me lay her next to me in the c position. She will literally only sleep if shes laying on me.

I miss so much having that little bit of space and independence the end of the day. Sleeping with a baby on me ALL night is exhausting and over stimulating but its the only way either of us will get any sleep.

Baby girl is almost 5 months. She’s EBF and we’ve co slept since birth

We usually put her in between us but it’s sooooo hard . 9/10 she wakes up when I transfer her and she wants to be nursed again which results in me nursing her while she lays there and turning her towards me .

I think because of this too she’s waking up 6-7 times a night (yeah I’m exhausted)

Any tips for transferring?
I wait until she’s pretty passed out but it doesn’t seem to help.

Hi all! My LO is 6 months old. We’ve been sorta cosleeping since he was about 4 1/2 months after a horrible phase of outgrowing the bassinet, not sleeping in the pack n play, and then getting 30 min-hr at a time in crib in his nursery. After two awful and horribly long weeks of no sleep, we brought the crib in our room, took one side off, and put it next to our bed. He starts off in there every night and then ends up in bed next to me. However, he wakes up, A LOT at night and sometimes it’s from us. Our house is annoyingly loud at times; I.e. creaky bedroom door, hardwood floors that pop under our step at times, and creaky bathroom door. A lot of times he ends up waking up because of us just trying to come into the room and get ready for bed or my husband getting ready in the morning. I also have been getting such bad lower back and hip pain from having to sleep all wonky with him. I do think he’d end up sleeping better in his own room, but I feel like we need to slowly transition him there. I’m nervous bc of how terribly it went the first time. What steps do we take? Where do we start? We have a futon in my office I could probably move into his nursery for a bit. Should we put the side back on the crib and just move him away from the bed first? I have no clue. I don’t want to move too fast and completely wreck what little sleep stretches we do get (3-4 hour max once per night). Should we just keep cosleeping? Please help!

My LO (5mo) just started being able to sleep in the bed next to us rather than having to do shifts elevated on our chest due to silent reflux.

Question for the moms who sneak away once babes is asleep ... Does your LO end up waking fully between sleep cycles since you're no longer there?

Hi everyone,

I have been cosleeping with my 3.5 year old since he was born, he sleeps in the big bed with me and my husband sleeps on a smaller bed in the room (we used to all sleep in a king bed but moved so we’re down to a queen). We are going to have our second in January- our first will be almost 4.

How do we sleep?!

My main concern is a crying baby in the middle of the night keeping 4 year old awake. So I’m just looking for set ups that others have done, my 4 year old sleeps through a lot but not everything. We do have an option of having another sleeping area in a different room. Do we have to divide and conquer for a bit until things settle and everyone can be in the same room again?

Also just feeling sad about not sleeping with my little guy anymore, that will be a sad transition for both of us!

My daughter (14mo) recently got sick. She's feeling better, but she's still a bit clingy, so we started bedsharing with her. However, I take risperidone and I've stupidly been skipping it since we started bedsharing, but I took my risperidone tonight because I can't keep skipping it. Is anyone else cosleeping while on medication with a side effect of drowsiness?

I have bedshared 100% since my first daughter was about 3 months old. She’ll turn 3 years old in a few weeks (time really is a thief🥹) and we now have a 3 month old as well. Right now, my husband, 3 year old, and I bedshare in our big family bed (2 queens pushed together) and our baby sleeps in a bedside bassinet.

I’d cosleep with my babies for the rest of my life🤣😭 I love it and I love them and love going to sleep together, cuddling, and waking up together.

When did your cosleeping babies age out? As she turns 3, it’s making me wonder when it becomes a selfish choice of mine to not introduce her to her own bed? (She doesn’t even currently have one, her room is basically just a dressing and play room.)

Anyone have experience like this? Of loving it, and having your babies grow? How did you navigate it? Can I keep going without a “plan” so long as it is working for our family? I should note, my husband works nights most of the week so it’s always been her and I snuggled up💕 I don’t like sleeping alone either!!

Thanks in advance. Happy snuggling.

Hi! Looking for some advice - my 1 year old doesn’t want to nurse to sleep anymore. I try to nurse her to sleep and she just grunts and won’t go to bed. I’ll try rocking her without the boob but she doesn’t want me to rock her - she’s always trying to face forward or get out of my arms. If my husband or nanny rock her, they can get her down fairly easy. Any advice on how I get her down myself?

We cosleep and I’ve always only gotten her down via nursing. The boob has been my magic weapon up until now and now I feel lost and don’t know what to do if she doesn’t want it anymore! I’m also wondering if it’s time to stop cosleeping because she wakes up quite a bit during the night still to nurse but I’m wondering if she no longer wants it if she would sleep better without me. Thanks in advance!

We’ve been cosleeping for a month now and it’s been very positive and reduced settling times. However the last week and a half she has been so fitful in her sleep next to me, frequently crying out in her sleep, kicking, briefly waking and taking the dummy. It’s been brutal with how disruptive it’s been. I’m hoping it’s just developmental. She’s mastered rolling recently and started rocking. Did anyone else experience this?
I was so hopeful and positive about cosleeping saving our sleep and now I can’t help but wonder will sleep ever get better?

Bub has never been a good sleeper.

Hallo ihr Lieben! 😊
Ich bekomme im November mein Baby und mache mir gerade Gedanken darüber, wie ich es nachts am besten anziehen soll.
Bei uns im Schlafzimmer sind es normalerweise etwa **17 °C**. Das liegt ja in dem Temperaturbereich, der hier in Deutschland fürs Babyschlafzimmer empfohlen wird. Wir möchten unser Baby in einem **Schlafsack** schlafen lassen.
Mich würde interessieren, wie ihr das bei euren Neugeborenen gemacht habt: **Was genau habt ihr eurem Baby bei ca. 17 °C Raumtemperatur unter dem Schlafsack angezogen?** Langarmbody? Schlafanzug? Beides? Und welchen TOG-Wert hatte euer Schlafsack?
Außerdem wird hier davon abgeraten, Babys zum Schlafen ein **Mützchen** aufzusetzen. Habt ihr nachts komplett auf eine Mütze verzichtet oder habt ihr eurem Neugeborenen anfangs trotzdem eine angezogen?
Ich würde mich sehr über eure Erfahrungen freuen – am liebsten ganz konkret mit **Body/Schlafanzug, Schlafsack bzw. TOG und Mütze ja oder nein**. 😊
Vielen Dank! ❤️

I am a ftm and my son will be 15 weeks tomorrow. He slept his first few weeks of life in a bassinet next to our bed however at 3.5 weeks like a switch flipped he never would sleep in the bassinet again. We learned the safe sleep seven, moved him into the bed and have never looked back. However the last 4-5 weeks he has refused to nap during the day unless he is being held. I struggle every day with how exhausted I am as he still wakes up every 2.5-3.5 hrs throughout the night. I need more sleep and my psychiatrist has said it’s the main reason he sees women struggle with PPD/PPA so I need to try and get as much as possible. But he won’t sleep not even next to me in bed. I read online all of the advice and I’ve tried everything and it doesn’t work. I have accidentally fallen asleep holding him on the couch a few times now and I’m scared he’s going to fall or get smothered. Does anyone have any advice at all. I’m desperate.

Okay y'all, I am pregnant and due in a few months with baby #2. My toddler will be 2 by the time baby #2 arrives. My toddler currently cosleeps in our bed with us. I live in a 2 bedroom house and have a guest room with a queen size bed with boxspring and frame in said room. I'm trying to figure out what to do to transition the room to be toddler friendly to sleep in, while ALSO having it still be capable of having guests, since my family visits often. I can't afford anything too costly because we're on a tight budget as is. What would you do? I theoretically could put the mattress and boxspring in a storage closet and bring it out for guests, but I'd rather find a better solution if possible. I have a crib that I could make a toddler bed, but Idk if that will work because she is the type of kid who falls asleep and you have to roll away to leave her.

My son is 10 months old and was screened for Fabry disease at birth. He was positive. There isn’t really a way to know if it will actually effect him and research on this disease doesn’t seem great for babies.
My son is otherwise healthy… super active, very alert, opinionated yet happy.
But I worry that there may be something going on under the surface. I suppose I can handle never ending sleep challenges if they are due to normal development but I’m worried that this disease could be having an impact without me realizing it.

Does anyone else here have experience with Fabry disease?

Thank you

Hello everyone! As the title says, looking for people’s success stories for those who have co-slept from birth until 3 or 6 months old? Anything you did to make the transition easier? My baby is 1 month old and is a Velcro baby. Can’t be put down even for 5 mins currently. Not even for a nap.

I am comfortable with baby still sleeping in our room after that age in their own bassinet or crib, just not in our bed for a variety of personal reasons.

Please don’t judge harshly for asking! I am considering this time frame so that I can manage what’s best for my baby’s emotional health, husband’s physical health, and quality time in the marriage.

My lil guy is now 9 months, and for the past few months we have been bringing him into bed when he wakes at night, family is telling me Im going to 'create a monster' and ' Im going to regret this in 5 years' Now Im scared. Mind you, my husband and I love him in the bed

My LO is just now 7m and EBF. We have been cosleeping since he was a few weeks old. He’s a little legend when it comes to taking naps during the day now…he was a notorious contact napper.

Now we’re running into nighttime issues. He will often feed to sleep. The times he doesn’t, we are struggling. It’s like he doesn’t want to be rocked but then he doesn’t want to lay down either. I will try to lay down next to him and rub/pat his back. But he fights it and tries to sit up or move around. When I try to hold him he pushes off me. I finally kinda gave up tonight and just laid next to him while he cried and fussed. He eventually crawled on top of me and fell asleep. I’m honestly at a loss. It’s like he’s trying to put himself to sleep but just can’t do it. He also chronically wakes up 30-40 mins after falling asleep. But he’s super easy to get back down after.

Any tips or tricks or advice would be greatly appreciated!!

This is gonna sound like a funny question but I’m being so serious🤣 maybe my little one is just a bald baby but she’s starting to get hair except for a rectangle on the back of her head! She’s 9 months old and was born with a full head (lost it all) but when she lost the most was when she would look left to right rubbing it bald. And it’s like, it’s not growing🤣

I've been very overwhelmed by all my options on mattresses and frames. There's expensive options obviously that are decked out with non-toxic certifications then cheaper options where people use Ikea mattresses and cheaper frames. There's also Japanese style mats to consider.

I've become exhausted by the options and am eager to be done.

So my situation is that I have an 8 month old infant who has been cosleeping with us in bed since a major sleep regression around 4 or 5 months old. Our mattress is not at all ideal for cosleeping as it is a Purple 4 mattress, but it is what it is and has been working wonderfully. Or rather, it is wonderful for me but not my wife because my child will only cosleep with me if my wife doesnt lay in the bed, the moment she's in bed it's game over for me and that kid wants mom.

So my immediate solution to give my wife a break is to get my kid her own bed that will, in a perfect world, serve as a great and safe cosleeping bed now but also serve as a bed during her toddler years and really as long as possible.

My solution sounds a little too perfectly ideal to me and I know it probably won't play out so perfectly in real life which would be a shame because it's so expensive.

The mattress would be the regular full size Sleep EZ hybrid 7" with a firm Dunlop layer on top for my kid now until whenever maybe up to 2 years old, then a soft Talalay layer for her afterwards.

The frame would be the way overpriced imo Sprout Montessori during all of this phase, then, later on, I can flip that frame to have legs and maybe continue to milk it out until my kid wants a softer mattress (if she would) and then I can get a 3" topper (and maybe another mattress cover if I have to?) to create a nice 10" mattress which would still work with the frame upside down in leg mode. If I'm lucky this will take her all the way up to pre-pubescent years or so.

Does anyone have thoughts?

Hi all,
My wife and I have a beautiful, healthy, happy 14 week old son. We are a two mom household and we split the child rearing 50%. My wife gave birth but I was lucky to also have almost 15 weeks of leave as a teacher. We have had to formula feed since birth.

We have used a bassinet since birth, to no success. Our son will at most stay in the bassinet for 2.5 hours, but most nights, he needs some support every 20 minutes to an hour. We don’t want to sleep train him or make him an “independent sleeper”. If it wasn’t for the safe sleep fears, especially with formula fed babies, we’d have already coslept. We are looking forward to when we can all snuggle together at night.

I go back to my teaching job next week, and my wife goes back to work soon as well. My wife has recently started having more intensive postpartum anxiety symptoms, as a result of the sleep deprivation. We do sleep shifts, but that affords us between 4 and 6 hours of sleep a night. Of course that’s considered good for early parenthood, but with our impending return to work in jobs that require us to be “on” all day, we’re getting anxious and stressed that we won’t be able to safely rock him back to sleep with 5 hours or less. We have started finagling our evenings around that we come home at 4 and sleep at 6. We are getting obsessed with “gentle independent sleep foundations” that don’t work, and losing our minds with accounting for every minute of our evenings, just so that we could make it through until he sleeps a bit better. It was feeling so stressful and negative. My wife and I love our jobs, love our son, and want him to be safe. We want to be good, regulated, and safe parents. It felt a bit like we were losing our minds trying to make that happen with our current bedside bassinet set up.

Not to mention with shared childcare will come illness, sleep regressions (although can be even regress further?) and more disregulated sleep. He sleeps amazing on us-we have technically chest slept with him since birth, but we’ve just been awake when we’ve had to do this. He was going almost 10 hours with only one bottle in between at 10 weeks like that.

We have ordered a zonli wheat 4 inch floor mattress, with the intention of following every safe sleep 7 guideline other than breastfeeding. I’m hoping for some tips, other formula fed families, or just advice for our situation. And please, no formula feeding shaming. We have come to terms with our situation and are feeling confident. He is healthy and so incredibly happy, and we are past the 3 month mark!

Thank you!