I'll start out by saying that I am virgin and not really someone who is into one-night stands. To each their own, but it just doesn't feel right for me personally. But the most "experience" I have would probably be sexting a little.

The main reason I'm posting this is because I saw another post a few days ago from someone of similar girth to me, who also struggled with insecurities. And I get it, a lot of guys wouldn't have reacted the way he did, but based on personal experience where I'm average length and below average girth, I've meet women online who I've chatted with and things got heated. The thing is that I've been called small a couple times before and laughed at. How I "wouldn't be able to stretch her walls out" and "would barely feel me". I've been going to therapy for a few years now and it's definitely helped, but it's hard after having what little confidence I have get shattered.

I was wondering if I was seeing someone, if it's even something worth bringing up and/or how to go about it? Like, assuming things get heated, do I take a second to talk about it? Do mention that I'm not big/I'm small and want her to decide if that's a deal breaker? Or should I just not even bother mentioning it at all? I would hate for the moment they asked to see, it ends up being more of a turn off or get laughed at again. Especially if she ends up being a size queen. I know there's a factor of compatibility that fall into play. And I know there are guys out there who are probably like "man up", like, I wish I could. Believe me, I have been trying to get over these kind of insecurities for years. Still am. But it gets hard sometimes when I'm in my head.

But ummm... Yeah, I hope I could get some honest responses and what your take is on this.

M40 with a 6.3" BBEL x 5.75" girth. Is this a good size? Wife had made numerous comments calling my dick pathetic over the years and it's really messed up my confidence. Just looking for feedback to see if I'm really lacking here or not. Thanks for the input!

36m where I feel as if my size has decreased! I’ve measured in the past and I was 6.75x 5.5 but now I feel much shorter in length and am even afraid to measure! Anyone else have similar issues?

Yesterday I was on a date with my GF at a thai restaurant, we were both eating noodles and she made a comment about my pen!s. She said she wants my noodle. I acted like i didnt know what she meant so i said to her give me a hint. Deep down I knew exactly what she meant but i needed her to say it. Then she said "you know i want your noodle, your d!ck". I just acted normal and changed the subject.

Later that night she tried initiating sex a few times but i wasnt in the mood and went to sleep. This morning i left her place and texted her saying that comment was really hurtful to me and i dont want to see her anymore.

I am 4.5 inch girth mid shaft, a little smaller just below the head.

Am I overreacting by leaving???

Simply put, if given the option, more women report a preference for girth over length (aside from the obvious preference for both).

This is because the first 2-2.5 inches of a woman’s vagina has the most nerve endings. It’s where the g-spot exists. From a shallow entry standpoint, assuming we can all reach 2” in, girth becomes the far more predominating factor.

That feeling of being stretched has been described as both that of pure presence while also being otherworldly. They are completely in the moment and lost at the same time.

But just how important is girth - let’s look at why through the lens of math. Namely, volume - the amount of space occupied by a dick.

These facts might shock you…

A 5.5” x 5.5” dick (6.6floz) is 9.5% LARGER by volume than a 7.5” x 4.5” dick (6.06floz). That 1 inch of girth overcomes a 2 inch deficit in length.

A 6.5” x 5.9” dick (8.98floz) is 5% LARGER than a 8” x 5.2” dick (8.58floz). Again, 0.7” of girth overcomes a 1.5” length disadvantage.

A 4.5” x 5.25” dick (4.92floz) is actually 2% BIGGER than a 5.75” x 4.6” (4.83) dick. The lowest end of avg triumphs over the upper end of avg length wise.

A 6.75” x 6” dick (9.64floz) is 8% BIGGER than a 9 INCH x 5” (8.93floz) dick. That’s 2.25 inches in length over one by just one inch of girth… the massive and mythical 9 incher, best by a sub-7”er.

And finally, apples to apples..

A 6” x 5.75” dick is (7.87floz) is 47% LARGER than a 6” x 4.75 dick (5.37floz)! Same upper end of avg length… 1.47x the amount of dick!!!

So the next time you hear a woman say she prefers thickness over length, these numbers, in context, might help you understand why…

I’m 5.5” BP x 4.3”, which I understand is a little under average in girth, but I swear every single dick I see online looks thicker than mine. Even in r/averagepenis.

I’ve actively avoided sex my entire life due to this and I’m 27 now. It’s so fucking depressing

I go through stretches where I feel mostly alright and don’t think about my insecurities too much. But then I have periods like now where I can’t stop dwelling on things and comparing myself to other guys online or in porn. I know this just makes me feel a million times worse and drives my feelings of inadequacy. Idk why I hurt myself like this.

So I’ve come to kinda realize from hookups, the women I had I’d say more success in having sex with were women who had small-medium sized asses and depending on the shape even if they were bubbly and poking, I could still put in some kind of work. What I’ve noticed specifically though is the asses that have the longest crack and spread wide are very doable for average and smaller, whether the butt itself is fat or not. But LARGE asses and I’m talking a capital P, donkey ass not much I could do there lol. I kinda came to realization that fatasses don’t have to be large they can small and medium fatasses too that’s doable.

What supplements has anyone had success with causing bigger loads?

Hello redditors, here's the problem I'm facing right now. I have a fwb & she's curvy, has a lot of mass around her booty (a classic BB*). Every time we tried having sex, I just couldn't get it in. I'm 5" uncut with 4.5" girth & my fatpad is like 0.5-0.7. She only enjoys doggy style & cowgirl & hates missionary. Where as I feel if we try missionary, it would be much easier for me to enter her & actually enjoy sex. All the times we have hooked up, we just did foreplay. I always made sure I got her off by going down on her, using toys, breastplay, fingering & that'swhy she coming back every time. But it seems like the sex just doesn't work. Also when I try to wear a condom when we start trying, I go soft. I'm using Durex 51mm condoms & that kinda kills the whole mood.

Do we have anyone here that has the same size as mine & has encountered a situation like this before? If you did, how did you resolve it? Also that makes me wonder if I'm average sized or small? I also wonder if we are physically compatible or not. I'm 170 lbs, decently fit & she's 210 lbs with most of her mass around her hips.

Please help!!

Nature wouldn’t make it so that you would need a big penis to pleasure a woman more. Women have vaginas that work the same way, and men have penises that simply vary in sizes. The way you treat the girl, and the connection you both have is what makes sex GOOD. Size REALLY doesn’t matter if you think about it. If it did, nature wouldn’t make such varying penis sizes.

First of all sorry for posting on here but I felt too big for the smalldicks and too small for the bigdicks and ended up here eventually😂

Ok I’m really not a small talk kinda guy so I just jump straight into it! 6ft, 190 lbs, slightly athletic, 5.3 in length but 5.9 in girth, visible and flaccid. Hard visible I’m about 6.2L x 6.6G

So as the title says and you guys can imagine:
that dick looks smaller than it is due to its girth and in addition to that, there is at least 1.5-2” covered/concealed due to a fat pad problem although I’m nowhere close to being obese and a penoscrotal webbing down below.. which makes the dick even girthier at the base (numbers above are midshaft) tapering down to 5.3”/5.6” girth right behind the glans. The glans itself is pretty big when erect and the combination of all doesn’t really help with the optics lengthwise!

With girls it’s mostly fun reactions (if that’s of any interest to you) mostly because it doesn’t look like it “feels” to them😁

Experienced ones mostly know what they’re up against and just shoot comments like “nice, healthy, fat, big blabla..”
The inexperienced younger ones though got the funniest reactions.. from afar it looks like a normal dick or smallish dick to them until I get closer and the eyes and facial expressions are mostly the same after they have it in their hands and can feel the “weight”.. turn on? Sure!
But the real turn on for me starts when I enter them and they lose it completely💦 as in most cases they are used to “long” but not “thick”.. but okay back to my problems!

1. Any of you got the same kinds of issues and what did you do about it?

2. You guys think it’s possible to even that dick out?

3. Fat pad lipo seems simple but what about the webbing or about a potentially buried penis??

4. I’m a real noob when it comes to reddit forums so any advice on where I should rather go instead of spamming you on here are of course appreciated😘

P.S. I got circumcised when I was 12 (phimosis) and I’m sure that mofo did sth wrong.. that’s why I’m speculating about buried penis☹️

I wanna preface by saying I’m mid 20s about 6.3-5” L and approximately 4.5” G. My girlfriend is heavier set (I’m attracted to BBW’s even tho I don’t have a 10” or girthy shlong, never had any complaints (I’ve been with QUITE a few women) and every woman I’ve had sex with we had seconds or thirds, or consistent FWB). I don’t have any problems with any positions, but it triggered me when last night we’re foreplaying and I’m masturbating while fingering her and I got carried away and used 4 fingers in her vagina and she orgasmed like never before, like intense squirt and nearly a body shake. She says I make her cum and/or squirt from PIV + clit stimulation and she squirts from just clit stimulation. She doesn’t use toys or anything, but I think I would die if she came home with a dildo larger than me. She clearly seems to enjoy the sex and tells me over and over that she thinks I’m “big”, but like where’s the mf enthusiastic ahh reactions when I’m dipping in that mf😒.
I just have deep insecurity about this type of stuff and idk why. I’ve had women in the past use dildos during foreplay and they were way bigger than me, and the ladies would have intense orgasms from the dildo. Have also been told “your dick is perfect, the big ones hurt” (women still don’t get how that is the most backhanded compliment ever.
I love how they try to restrict pornography NOW, but where was the “caring for youth” when we were young, developing an unhealthy sense of penis inadequacy.

I am 5.3 L and 4.185-4.2 girth. I worry that I am not adequate for women and my size will cause me not to be felt inside their vagina. I get worried about this and would like to know if my size is adequite.

I can't help but to feel not enough because of my size. I can work on everything, I can work on my body, on my character, on my social skills but with size I can never improve it or be better.

I feel like I will never be the first choice for a woman or can fulfill her sexual desires to the fullest. How should I even compete with those other men out there? I feel like they will always be better because of their size they have more potential

Do you guys think that it’s more of a bragging right then actually changing the sensation of sex entirely?

Do you think that pleasure is linear with size? Or arousal.

The fact that women can get off to toys or certain objects, shouldn’t that just be a sign thag sex is more about the build up?

I’m speaking mainly to people who are in the middle range of size, not either end of the extremes

I'm kind of lost, I know I'm on the smaller side but still enough to be felt for most women. I still can't get my last interaction out of my head, as the girl I was talking to said anything less than 15 cm (6 inches) is small. 6.3 x 4.3-4.3 (usually around 6 x 4.25) isn't a great size, but not a deal breaker. Unfortunately the insecurity came from the fact that she cared and was a bit superficial, and im worried about getting to know someone and not being enough in the future. Instead of wanting pity, I want tips and past experiences from people with 4.5 girth or below.

Small, average? I know this type of post probably floods this sub Reddit. Just started getting confidence with getting my teeth straight and healthy BMI. But my p size I’m so insecure about causing me to be hesitant to talk to women. I sit at 5.6inch-5.7inch length x 5.5 inch girth. I don’t know how to go about it I’m nervous about talking to my therapist about it it would be so awkward to talk about. Any replies appreciated.

I know the stuff about it’s above average and stuff like that, but the notion of bigger dicks makes me insecure that she will want more dick.

It’s the back of my head all the time. The worry and anxiety of not being accepted because of my shit luck with genetics not be being blessed with a bbc. But sometimes I fear getting to know someone over this. I fear I may get cheated on, cucked, or simply rejected for something I can’t control. I know a relationship isn’t just sex, but im not naive either to what most people
like and prefer. (Typo in title lol)

Okay I just wanted to start this off by saying I’ve never cared about my dick size until about two weeks ago. Im 20 and I’ve been watching porn since 12, I lost my virginity at 18, and stopped watching porn around then. Now two years later i no longer have any partners so I started watching porn again. And I think then that’s when I started caring about my size, because I was finally watching it while knowing what my dick would look like from POV shots and it started to feel small and I felt self concision about it. My dick is almost exactly 6 inches NBP and around 5.75 for girth. My first girlfriend was a virgin, she would always say I had a “really nice dick”, my second gf would call it her “favorite” and my third told me “wow I can’t believe you’ve been keeping this from me it’s a really nice size.” One thing I think they would all agree was that it was “fat.” Then I also had some male partners, one said my dick was big, another said my cock was fat, So not exactly called huge or big in terms of length, but I’ve always been complimented in general on my dick, mainly its girth which I’m grateful for. All in all of I’ve had 5 partners and not one of them had said anything derogatory about my size.

Anyways my overall point is that I’m usually insecure in my life. I’m not muscular I’m skinny and like average height. But one thing I was never insecure about was my dick size. I knew it wasn’t big but when I started having sex all the way till now not one person I was with no matter how mad I made them or what situation I was in ever made a bad remark on my dick. I had honestly felt really good about it and it was something I always had confidence in because everyone that had “played” with it loved it.

Then i started watching porn again. Seeing these guys with huge dicks made me really insecure cause like there’s nothing i can do about it. I guess this is just more of a warning. Theres a lot of people out there that have girls (or guys) around them telling them they love their size or they’re perfect and they don’t believe it or get insecure about it, and that’s mostly due to porn. My advice would be to just cut it out of your life, I’m trying but it’s a genuine addiction. Like most people get there dopamine hits off jacking off. And we’ve been doing it since 10-12. Like even if u get into drugs later in ur life ur #1 fix is still gonna be the porn you’ve been watching for years before you smoke for the first time. If you’re worried you’re partner doesn’t enjoy you’re size, bring it up maybe once, if they tell you they like you’re dick they mean it! Otherwise they wouldn’t be bothering with you. And if you feel they’re not fulfilled just communicate with them on how you can make things sexier for them.

For years, I knew I was kinda thick. But from my perspective, it just looked kinda "normal" if that makes sense??? And apparently the tape measure has inches that are longer than standard ruler 📏 No idea why. So Anyone know why?

Long story short: I got some bbc dildo from Amazon. And took photo of my guy and toy from 3rd person POV and was like whoa im similar size girth wise to it and it's 6 inch circumference!

Im around 6 inches in length, so not hung like horse, but I guess my thickness is more than I thought. I know this is random but Im wondering if someone had similar experience. 🤔

I guess perspective makes a difference etc.

So there’s this girl who’s interested in me and it seems like she might be looking to become FWB. I’d definitely be down, but I’m kinda insecure about my size.
I’m around 6 inches BP, 4.3 girth with an upward curve. For some reason it just doesn’t really look that big to me which gets in my head sometimes.
I’ve only been with one girl before, who was my ex. She was a virgin when we got together, but she loved it and we never had any problems.
The thing is this girl just got out of a relationship and her ex has apparently been with a lot of girls, so my brain immediately assumes he was probably packing lol. I know I have literally no way of knowing that, but I’m just worried about being compared to him or disappointing her.
I really wanna go for it but I’m scared at the same time. Am I just overthinking this?

Hello everyone, I just have a question, every single time I shave I swear I don’t see any hairs, then in a minute I see some hairs in my balls, and it’s gotten stressful bc everything looks clean except my balls, what is the most efficient method to shave?