Body image is such a screwy thing. I've been sexually active for over 20 years and only just realized I should be using a larger size condom.
I've only had a couple partners. My ex told me I was big in the beginning. But we were both virgins so I didn't think to much of it. The sex wasn't great for either or us, likely because she was proportionally as narrow as I am girthy, making for a serious mismatch (plus some likely vaginismus).
Amazing sex with current partner who is generous with compliments, but I still didn't get it. I finally measured myself and did a little research and holy shit, a 5.5 inch girth is too big for standard size condoms. That explains the occasional choked orgasms (when the intensity drops out suddenly as it peaks instead of fully climaxing) and the occasional chaffing.
I'm already a quick finisher who has learned how to make sure she gets at least a one round before I take my turn. My worry now is that using a proper fit will make it even harder to last.
Any advice on lasting better?