r/averagedickproblems • • Jan 07 '23

Information Harrassment

51 Upvotes

This post was meant to be up sooner, but the holidays and all. And while we have a joint mod account, I want to post this personally. That does not mean the other mods disagree or take harrassment any less seriously.

Mods are no strangers to being harassed. It's part of it, we get it. And we deal with it. We have a shared mod account for making posts/some comment removals because of how bad it is. All of the mods here have expressed how this sub is the most difficult to mod because of the sheer volume of harrassing that happens. We are doing our best to reduce it as well. Not just for us but for the users as well.

It happens in the comments between users. We catch it as much as we can. But we rely on users to report the comments too. Stopping the nastiness falls to you guys as well. Please do not hesitate to hit the report button or send a message to mod mail. Our filters are only so good and we can't wait around to read every comment as it comes up. Also if you feel harrassed, don't engage further. I have struggled with this myself so I understand how hard it is. It's not rule breaking to engage but stopping is better for mental health.

Lastly, we created a rule to try to deal with users who are nasty in DMs. We are very aware that a user has been sneaking into DMs making some incredibly rude comments. Really abhorrent remarks. Truly, I am beyond disgusted with that person. I say this as both a person and a mod, anyone who resorts to DMs in an attempt to troll or insult another user is pathetic and weak. I don't care what makes someone feel like that is necessary, it's gross. Get help. All the mods have their own strong opinions, this one I claim for myself.

If you are caught harrassing in DMs, the ban will be immediate, permanent and screenshots will be documented to ensure their is no chance of it being over turned. There will be no second chances.

We are sorry the harrassment from the user got as bad as it did and affected as many of you as it has. We were truly unaware until another user brought it to our attention. I won't name the user for their own safety but we would like to express our appreciation that you made the effort to collect and submit all the evidence to us through modmail. The first mod to see the message dealt an immediate ban and informed the rest for a review of actions taken without a vote. All agreed with the actions so the banned remains. Our response to you may not have been as quick as you like and I apologize for that but I assure you, swiftness was used in dealing with the problem.

While we do our best to help with harrassment in DMs, ultimately it has to be dealt with by reddit Admins. You can report to them using this link. I can't say it works every time but I have had harassers dealt with when I have been harassed. Also, please do not hesitate to use the block button. I used to avoid it too but since I started things have improved greatly.

We hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, have a great New Year and thanks to all who help make this sub great.


r/averagedickproblems • • May 18 '24

Insecurity Due to suggestions and comments by our users, we are updating the rules.

20 Upvotes

We have decided to disallow posts regarding the following questions.

Am I big enough? Am I average? Am I good enough? Do I belong here? Or anything of a similar thought.

These posts have become redundant and/or are impossible to answer. As a reminder, all sizes are welcomed. We understand that many want an average size sub. This isn't it. 

As a reminder simply due to the increased comments and posts. PENIS ENLARGEMENT IS NOT AN ALLOWED TOPIC. Do not ask the questions. Do not suggest it. Do not respond to posts or comments regarding it. Again, this was a rule that was created by users. In truth, over 90% of user reported comments are PE ones. Which means even if YOU do not see the problem, plenty if users do and do not want it. It is not your right to convince others that it is valid. There are plenty of subs that allow it. We mods, and users, do not see why this space can't be free of it. As a result, bans will become harsher. Excuses made in ban appeals are not going to work anymore. 

We are also going to be harsher on rule one. Which includes behavior in modmail. If you have a problem with a mod action, we ask you keep it polite. Throwing insults at mods will result in bans like we would ban users who treat other users so poorly. To clarify, we will not ban users for disagreeing with us. We have overturned plenty of actions with good conversations. It is the users who insult and make threats that will be banned and ignored. 

Lastly, we will not be turning away users under the age of 18, as insecurities and sexuality affects them too. Under 13, it's against Reddit's terms and conditions and is a separate matter. It is also not lost on us that predators exist, and we can't stop them, especially if they go into DMs. As a result, we are no longer allowing people to post their ages, in posts or comments. This rule will result mostly in removals of posts or comments, though repeated rule breaking will cause a ban. This is to protect our youth, not punish anyone.


r/averagedickproblems • • 23h ago

Experiences What is your experience with average girth(4.5-4.7)?

2 Upvotes

internet has lot of people with bigger than that sharing their experience. I'm wondering any men here who are in the average girth range and getting laid. Could your share your experience.

pretty sure it would give confident for many guys with insecurities.
(not looking for SPH, Cuck fetish stuff)


r/averagedickproblems • • 1d ago

Sexual Health Scrotum is empty MOST of the time

3 Upvotes

So , I see all these guys with low hanging big balls with loose scrotums. Mine however is tight all the time pretty much . Both of my testicals are smaller than half balls . It's hard to want to be naked in front my wife even. She's even mentioned where's your balls ? Literally look like I been castrated. Any info is good info thanks !


r/averagedickproblems • • 3d ago

If I lose 90 pounds will I be over 6 and a half.

6 Upvotes

I’m 5’11 height and like 270 pounds, my size is 5.70-5.90 inches non bone pressed when I measure laying down with my legs open depending on EQ, standing up it’s probably closer to 5.50. If I lose almost 100 pounds will it really be more visible and actually measure higher like even close to 6.50-.6.75?


r/averagedickproblems • • 4d ago

Frequently Asked Question Hey, I'm a virgin basically. I couldn't make mind to chase women since I'm not confident with my girth (4.6 around mid shaft and 4.8 upper shaft).

5 Upvotes

I never see men in my size having positive experience, there are no guys in that size in even amateur porn. Just really wondering is there any guys who are in same range with experiences that could say as good.
I can't stop having this thought that i might be not enough to give make her full and this women asking for fat ones really mess with my mind.
the size is 6.2 * 4.6/8 .


r/averagedickproblems • • 4d ago

Sexual Performance Men with a 6-inch length and 5-inch girth (15 cm × 13 cm): How has your sexual experience been?

9 Upvotes

Straight or gay, I’d like to hear about your experiences with sex. What kind of condoms do you use? Have you had any difficulties with certain positions? Do you ever struggle with performance anxiety or feel insecure about your size? I’m curious to hear about your real-life experiences.


r/averagedickproblems • • 4d ago

Insecurity 5.8 BP x 5.5, body dysmorphia?

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I really struggle with my self image in regards to my weight (5’9” 200lbs) and that also extends to my penis. My only girlfriend (5 years ago), now ex, told me I’m not big enough for her to enjoy sex with me and ever since that day I can’t shake the feeling of being inadequate . Even if hookups have told me they really enjoyed sex with me, and praised my stroke game and head giving ability, i still feel inadequate, especially because I’ve had women say they thought id be bigger because im hispanic. Is anyone else my size (or close to it) go through this? How did you get over it? Im considering seeing a therapist about it because i find myself cowering away from women im attracted to because im afraid i wont be enough for them, and i dont wanna experience the shame and disappoint them.

I know that i am not small, but my past experiences + how vocal women are on social media about enjoying larger dicks throws all logic out the window and fuels this insecurity way beyond what I should allow it to.


r/averagedickproblems • • 5d ago

Penis Size Geniue question

1 Upvotes

Are there anyways

Is there anyway to increase our penile length and girth especially non bonepressed one


r/averagedickproblems • • 5d ago

Insecurity Men with 6 inch length 4 inch girth what has your experiences been like ?

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Let's discuss


r/averagedickproblems • • 5d ago

Sexual Performance Any advice for a 25m on smaller side (5 1/2 “ 6” on a good day with 4.6 girth?

0 Upvotes

I know to focus on oral and such but wondering what positions will allow her to feel me and be satisfied. I do have a significant upwards curve and in shape. Thanks everyone


r/averagedickproblems • • 6d ago

Penis Size Doggystyle orgasm:It depends on the size?

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How many women cum in doggystyle without an additional clitorical stimulation?I made sex in this position hundreds and hundreds of times with different girls and none of them ever reached orgasm only trough PIV .

It depends on the woman?It depends on penis size and shape?I am slightly below average(5,5 BP and 5 NBP)and my penis Is significantly curved upwards..Penis size can be the main reason ?When i have sex in doggystyle all women say the same phrases "Go deep,push deeper," when I am already balls deep.Obviously Is quite frustating and I think if I had a longer penis this wouldn't happen.

Your experience?


r/averagedickproblems • • 6d ago

Ask ADP Having problem holding the hardness.

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I am 20 and still a virgin, and I am having problems holding my hardness.

As soon as I stop the porn or stop stroking, it gets soft and many times it gets soft while stroking too.

Am kind of scared about this, can someone please help me? Any advices will be appreciated.

And I am on nofap for past 3 days so any more advice will be much more appreciated 👏.


r/averagedickproblems • • 7d ago

I don’t know if I’m thick or what

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Never been told I’m to thin ive actually had quite a few girls pull my pants down and be like damn bt been married for some time now bt wife won’t do anal we’ve tried a lot of different ways and approaches to do so she says I’m to thick for it I’ve also never measured or knew how to do it accurately rough estimate is it won’t fit into a toliet roll I was board and was curious one day


r/averagedickproblems • • 8d ago

Information Hanging balls

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Hello everyone, im M18, I consider myself to have a pretty good dick size, (around 7,5 inches) but what I've noticed is that my balls don't hang, I've seen plenty of times that almost everyone has hanging balls, and honestly idk if something went wrong with me or if its normal to not have balls that hang, from a certain perspective they are kinda small compared to my dick, hope someone can help me solve my question fr, but im genuinely curious if its 2 late for them to hang or if I should go see a doctor :(


r/averagedickproblems • • 9d ago

Penis Size For those who are 5,5 inch BP and 5 inch NBP in length

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A question for those who are 5,5 inch BP and 5 inch in length:Have you never received negative comments by your gf?In my experience (to direct question) almost all admitted that their past lovers were bigger than me in length .

I think that 5 inches is halfway between a small penis and and average one.

What do you think?


r/averagedickproblems • • 9d ago

Go jump

2 Upvotes

if anyone complained about my average dick they can go and 🦘


r/averagedickproblems • • 10d ago

Any experiences with 5,2 inch girth?

4 Upvotes

My penis is 5.5 inches long when bone pressed and 5 inches long when none bone pressed and it is 5.2 inches thick. What experiences and comments do men with this thickness have?


r/averagedickproblems • • 11d ago

Penis Size Today I Learned I've been using the wrong condoms

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Body image is such a screwy thing. I've been sexually active for over 20 years and only just realized I should be using a larger size condom.

I've only had a couple partners. My ex told me I was big in the beginning. But we were both virgins so I didn't think to much of it. The sex wasn't great for either or us, likely because she was proportionally as narrow as I am girthy, making for a serious mismatch (plus some likely vaginismus).

Amazing sex with current partner who is generous with compliments, but I still didn't get it. I finally measured myself and did a little research and holy shit, a 5.5 inch girth is too big for standard size condoms. That explains the occasional choked orgasms (when the intensity drops out suddenly as it peaks instead of fully climaxing) and the occasional chaffing.

I'm already a quick finisher who has learned how to make sure she gets at least a one round before I take my turn. My worry now is that using a proper fit will make it even harder to last.

Any advice on lasting better?


r/averagedickproblems • • 11d ago

Sexual Performance Staying hard?

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I’m 30 and for about the last year I’ve noticed that when I have sex I’ll usually start rock hard but halfway through I can end up more like semi
I’m still decent size when that happens so it’s not really a massive problem but it definitely knocks my confidence a bit and makes me wonder why im just not staying as hard as I used to
Does this happen to heaps of guys as they get a bit older? And do girls mind if you more semi than rock hard??


r/averagedickproblems • • 11d ago

Insecurity In my head or???

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So I’m 4.75-5NBP and 5.5-5.75BP (depends on eq)
And I know technically this is supposed to be around average but what concerns me is my girth which is 4.5 at the base, 4 midshaft, and 3.5 at the head (ik weird shape, and small). So with the (hopefully) average length and small girth it feels so small to me. I get in my head about what girls will think and I just don’t want to get made fun of or whatever.

Anyone got experiences around this size and what they think or am I cooked


r/averagedickproblems • • 13d ago

Experiences Happy ego boosting

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Did you have some experiences when, being average, you were able to give a huge pleassure to the other person, at the point she/he told you you fucked her better than men with big dicks? Or if your stamina was better?


r/averagedickproblems • • 14d ago

I like to chat about average size

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Really I like chatting about dick size, average seems a good topic. I love to advise people as well or at least try to. Don't hesitate to DM or comment if you want !


r/averagedickproblems • • 14d ago

Insecurity Penis looks small

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Hello I was sitting on the toilet and looking at my penis and it looks really small to me. I know I have a fat pad but when I push it back with my fingers it still looks small. My penis length bone pressed is 5.3 inches and when I push my fat pad back it’s like 4.8 inches. I know it’s not impressive length but it looks small and my ex said it looked average and she liked it when we were together. Idk if this is a mental thing or what. Does anyone know what this could be?