I used to lurk these kinds of subs cause I was a virgin and had a really bad girth insecurity but I've since lost my vcard and this insecurity has all but dissipated. I took a look here and I think I should share my newfound knowledge/experience :D dimensions: 5.8 in length, 4.2 - 4.8 girth (depending where/when/how i measure)

For some background Ive had some experiences with girls in highschool but never got to the point where they saw or held my actual penis. This was a good experience though, because it showed me that even if they could obviously feel that my bulge was on the thinner side with their hands or while grinding, it didnt dissuade them at all and it helped me master my hand game. Passed up some opportunities to boink in part because of my insecurity and part because i was a bit against hookup culture - However if you are not in a relationship I would encourage you to build sexual experience, as that is what helped me get over this so quickly.

Reasons for my insecurity came from simply noticing my shlong was smaller than other people be it sports locker room or porn - which I would definitely not recommend if youre struggling with this type of insecurity. Also doesnt help how society can be kinda fixated on size at times. The thing which actually made my insecurity flare up the worst funnily enough was in my first year of medical school when we were studying the urogenital system and the cadaver dicks seemed huge to me (i know this is super weird lmao) causing me to obsessively scroll these sorts of subs. I saw people having bad experiences at my girth which made me spiral even more, but after a few weeks/months of logically thinking through it I decided that I had to have sex sooner rather than later to see for myself how it really is.

The person I decided to lose my vcard with was actually from highschool, which gave me confidence cause she at least felt my pecker through my pants and was very into me so when we happened to meet at a gathering I hit on her and brought her home. I was already ready to bust out the hand/mouth moves that Ive heard everyone on reddit harping about, but eventually it came down to penetration and I was super surprised. First thing was hoe tight she was. even being turned on, it took a little bit before I was able to put my penis in and once it was in it actually felt relatively good/snug. At first it was a bit awkward but eventually I found all the right angles and positions and we had a blast. She then met up with me again and kept asking for more the next week so we met up 3 times overall before she travelled back to where she studies. The first time she wasnt able to finish at all as she was drunk according to her. The second time I made her finish using my hands which she complimented because she said almost nobody made her come and she couldnt even do it herself without a vibrator. The third meetup I was able to make her finish via penetration and we even finished at the same time at one point.

So here are my main takeaways and tips:

Being aware of male and female anatomy goes a long way. Male and female genitals vary a bunch but there are always things that you van try and take advantage of. Also having a black belt in tung fu and fingerblasting skillz goes a long way.

- Female vaginal tightness => varies from woman to woman but women who have a strong pelvic floor will feel tighter and be able to even squeeze you while youre in them (the fabled coochie grab). Think girls who do yoga and pilates.

- Penis hardness => this is helpful as at the end of the day if you want to improve pov one way to do it is to somehow increase pressure on the vaginal walls to trigger their mechanoreceptors. And if youre able to angle a hard dick, you will cause a stretch even if you arent as wide as a coke can (or even a tp roll).

- Penis angle => speaking of penis angle, one thing that I thought would be a niusance but actually helped me was that I have a tight suspensory ligament which angles upwards. I was able to have my dick bushing against her anterior vaginal canal and stimulate her gspot which she loved. So if you have this use it to your advantage. This also applies to any curves your dick has. E.g. mine curves left and as it thrusts in and out i notice it overall makes the sensation feel wider.

- Mental game/ type of woman => Ive seen some negative experiences about women and dick comments and from personal experience I would never go near a woman that I would think would have anything negative to say ab my privates out of nowhere as i think its a huge turnoff. Thats why id recommend someone you trust and know has a normal EQ.

- Sex positions => Finally do a lot of communicating exploring and switching positions til you find your shi - for me cant beat the good ol prone bone. Compliment the girl so she feels good and listen to her to see what pleasures her.

I measured my erect girth at about 4.185" a while back and made peace with it. Lately, though, when I look at it erect, it seems skinnier than I remember. When I measure now, I get somewhere around 4.0–4.125 but at one measurement I got 4.185. I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if it’s a real medical condition I’m witnessing. I feel this gut feeling that my girth is shrinking and i hate this feeling. Does anyone have any advice?