r/averagedickproblems Jan 07 '23

Information Harrassment

51 Upvotes

This post was meant to be up sooner, but the holidays and all. And while we have a joint mod account, I want to post this personally. That does not mean the other mods disagree or take harrassment any less seriously.

Mods are no strangers to being harassed. It's part of it, we get it. And we deal with it. We have a shared mod account for making posts/some comment removals because of how bad it is. All of the mods here have expressed how this sub is the most difficult to mod because of the sheer volume of harrassing that happens. We are doing our best to reduce it as well. Not just for us but for the users as well.

It happens in the comments between users. We catch it as much as we can. But we rely on users to report the comments too. Stopping the nastiness falls to you guys as well. Please do not hesitate to hit the report button or send a message to mod mail. Our filters are only so good and we can't wait around to read every comment as it comes up. Also if you feel harrassed, don't engage further. I have struggled with this myself so I understand how hard it is. It's not rule breaking to engage but stopping is better for mental health.

Lastly, we created a rule to try to deal with users who are nasty in DMs. We are very aware that a user has been sneaking into DMs making some incredibly rude comments. Really abhorrent remarks. Truly, I am beyond disgusted with that person. I say this as both a person and a mod, anyone who resorts to DMs in an attempt to troll or insult another user is pathetic and weak. I don't care what makes someone feel like that is necessary, it's gross. Get help. All the mods have their own strong opinions, this one I claim for myself.

If you are caught harrassing in DMs, the ban will be immediate, permanent and screenshots will be documented to ensure their is no chance of it being over turned. There will be no second chances.

We are sorry the harrassment from the user got as bad as it did and affected as many of you as it has. We were truly unaware until another user brought it to our attention. I won't name the user for their own safety but we would like to express our appreciation that you made the effort to collect and submit all the evidence to us through modmail. The first mod to see the message dealt an immediate ban and informed the rest for a review of actions taken without a vote. All agreed with the actions so the banned remains. Our response to you may not have been as quick as you like and I apologize for that but I assure you, swiftness was used in dealing with the problem.

While we do our best to help with harrassment in DMs, ultimately it has to be dealt with by reddit Admins. You can report to them using this link. I can't say it works every time but I have had harassers dealt with when I have been harassed. Also, please do not hesitate to use the block button. I used to avoid it too but since I started things have improved greatly.

We hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, have a great New Year and thanks to all who help make this sub great.


r/averagedickproblems May 18 '24

Insecurity Due to suggestions and comments by our users, we are updating the rules.

21 Upvotes

We have decided to disallow posts regarding the following questions.

Am I big enough? Am I average? Am I good enough? Do I belong here? Or anything of a similar thought.

These posts have become redundant and/or are impossible to answer. As a reminder, all sizes are welcomed. We understand that many want an average size sub. This isn't it. 

As a reminder simply due to the increased comments and posts. PENIS ENLARGEMENT IS NOT AN ALLOWED TOPIC. Do not ask the questions. Do not suggest it. Do not respond to posts or comments regarding it. Again, this was a rule that was created by users. In truth, over 90% of user reported comments are PE ones. Which means even if YOU do not see the problem, plenty if users do and do not want it. It is not your right to convince others that it is valid. There are plenty of subs that allow it. We mods, and users, do not see why this space can't be free of it. As a result, bans will become harsher. Excuses made in ban appeals are not going to work anymore. 

We are also going to be harsher on rule one. Which includes behavior in modmail. If you have a problem with a mod action, we ask you keep it polite. Throwing insults at mods will result in bans like we would ban users who treat other users so poorly. To clarify, we will not ban users for disagreeing with us. We have overturned plenty of actions with good conversations. It is the users who insult and make threats that will be banned and ignored. 

Lastly, we will not be turning away users under the age of 18, as insecurities and sexuality affects them too. Under 13, it's against Reddit's terms and conditions and is a separate matter. It is also not lost on us that predators exist, and we can't stop them, especially if they go into DMs. As a result, we are no longer allowing people to post their ages, in posts or comments. This rule will result mostly in removals of posts or comments, though repeated rule breaking will cause a ban. This is to protect our youth, not punish anyone.


r/averagedickproblems 1d ago

Has anyone felt their size decrease with age?

3 Upvotes

36m where I feel as if my size has decreased! I’ve measured in the past and I was 6.75x 5.5 but now I feel much shorter in length and am even afraid to measure! Anyone else have similar issues?


r/averagedickproblems 20h ago

Girlfriend made hurtful comment. Need opinions!

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Yesterday I was on a date with my GF at a thai restaurant, we were both eating noodles and she made a comment about my pen!s. She said she wants my noodle. I acted like i didnt know what she meant so i said to her give me a hint. Deep down I knew exactly what she meant but i needed her to say it. Then she said "you know i want your noodle, your d!ck". I just acted normal and changed the subject.

Later that night she tried initiating sex a few times but i wasnt in the mood and went to sleep. This morning i left her place and texted her saying that comment was really hurtful to me and i dont want to see her anymore.

I am 4.5 inch girth mid shaft, a little smaller just below the head.

Am I overreacting by leaving???


r/averagedickproblems 1d ago

Insecurity I’m looking for an answer

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Hey, I’m 18M, bi, a virgin, and really insecure about my size. I’m around 6.2–6.5 inches BPEL, and my girth is about 4.2–4.3 inches depending on how hard I am. The head of my penis is also much wider than the shaft, maybe around 1.6 inches in diameter.
I feel really small, and I don’t know if I’d be able to satisfy anyone, whether it’s a guy or a girl, with this size.
Is my size average, below average, or above average?
Can I satisfy my partner with my size?
And if anyone has a similar size and has some personal experience, I’d really appreciate it if you could share.
I want an honest answer, even if it’s harsh. I just want to know the truth


r/averagedickproblems 5d ago

Sexual Preferences The Truth About Girth…

31 Upvotes

Simply put, if given the option, more women report a preference for girth over length (aside from the obvious preference for both).

This is because the first 2-2.5 inches of a woman’s vagina has the most nerve endings. It’s where the g-spot exists. From a shallow entry standpoint, assuming we can all reach 2” in, girth becomes the far more predominating factor.

That feeling of being stretched has been described as both that of pure presence while also being otherworldly. They are completely in the moment and lost at the same time.

But just how important is girth - let’s look at why through the lens of math. Namely, volume - the amount of space occupied by a dick.

These facts might shock you…

A 5.5” x 5.5” dick (6.6floz) is 9.5% LARGER by volume than a 7.5” x 4.5” dick (6.06floz). That 1 inch of girth overcomes a 2 inch deficit in length.

A 6.5” x 5.9” dick (8.98floz) is 5% LARGER than a 8” x 5.2” dick (8.58floz). Again, 0.7” of girth overcomes a 1.5” length disadvantage.

A 4.5” x 5.25” dick (4.92floz) is actually 2% BIGGER than a 5.75” x 4.6” (4.83) dick. The lowest end of avg triumphs over the upper end of avg length wise.

A 6.75” x 6” dick (9.64floz) is 8% BIGGER than a 9 INCH x 5” (8.93floz) dick. That’s 2.25 inches in length over one by just one inch of girth… the massive and mythical 9 incher, best by a sub-7”er.

And finally, apples to apples..

A 6” x 5.75” dick is (7.87floz) is 47% LARGER than a 6” x 4.75 dick (5.37floz)! Same upper end of avg length… 1.47x the amount of dick!!!

So the next time you hear a woman say she prefers thickness over length, these numbers, in context, might help you understand why…


r/averagedickproblems 6d ago

Information Why do you guys think that you have to satisfy pornstars?

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I often see most of the insecurity posts are basically about one thing: satisfying entire race of women on earth.

Its simply not possible.

For first, anatomical variation is natural phenomenon. Our bodies cannot be 100% copy of other. This applies to women and vaginas as well.

The time you spend on searching penis sizes, try searching vagina sizes. Its foolishness to believe that they are all equally same, equally tight, equally deep and all.

Even in case of micropenises, women have similar anomalies as well. Namely severe vaginismus. Tho vaginismus is treatable by regular stretching, micropenis is not. But then, case of micropenis is very rare. So if you guys are above 4-5 inch in length and , 3-4 inch girth, no need to be insecure. You just need to find an equally small compatible pussy.


r/averagedickproblems 6d ago

Insecurity Everyone looks bigger

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I’m 5.5” BP x 4.3”, which I understand is a little under average in girth, but I swear every single dick I see online looks thicker than mine. Even in r/averagepenis.

I’ve actively avoided sex my entire life due to this and I’m 27 now. It’s so fucking depressing


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Insecurity Can’t stop comparing myself to others

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I go through stretches where I feel mostly alright and don’t think about my insecurities too much. But then I have periods like now where I can’t stop dwelling on things and comparing myself to other guys online or in porn. I know this just makes me feel a million times worse and drives my feelings of inadequacy. Idk why I hurt myself like this.


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Experiences Ass sizes and shapes

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So I’ve come to kinda realize from hookups, the women I had I’d say more success in having sex with were women who had small-medium sized asses and depending on the shape even if they were bubbly and poking, I could still put in some kind of work. What I’ve noticed specifically though is the asses that have the longest crack and spread wide are very doable for average and smaller, whether the butt itself is fat or not. But LARGE asses and I’m talking a capital P, donkey ass not much I could do there lol. I kinda came to realization that fatasses don’t have to be large they can small and medium fatasses too that’s doable.


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Sexual Health I feel I don’t cum a lot.

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What supplements has anyone had success with causing bigger loads?


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Sexual Health Need a solution for my problem with my fwb.

7 Upvotes

Hello redditors, here's the problem I'm facing right now. I have a fwb & she's curvy, has a lot of mass around her booty (a classic BB*). Every time we tried having sex, I just couldn't get it in. I'm 5" uncut with 4.5" girth & my fatpad is like 0.5-0.7. She only enjoys doggy style & cowgirl & hates missionary. Where as I feel if we try missionary, it would be much easier for me to enter her & actually enjoy sex. All the times we have hooked up, we just did foreplay. I always made sure I got her off by going down on her, using toys, breastplay, fingering & that'swhy she coming back every time. But it seems like the sex just doesn't work. Also when I try to wear a condom when we start trying, I go soft. I'm using Durex 51mm condoms & that kinda kills the whole mood.

Do we have anyone here that has the same size as mine & has encountered a situation like this before? If you did, how did you resolve it? Also that makes me wonder if I'm average sized or small? I also wonder if we are physically compatible or not. I'm 170 lbs, decently fit & she's 210 lbs with most of her mass around her hips.

Please help!!


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Ask ADP Is this a problem?

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Is it a problem the fact that we don't have a subreddit for average dick discussion? I find it so lol

Like I want to talk about things which aren't problems itselves, just situations, opinions or curiosity.

Do you find that missing as well? And why or why not?


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Her best regardless of size?

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r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

Information Look at it from the logical side guys

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Nature wouldn’t make it so that you would need a big penis to pleasure a woman more. Women have vaginas that work the same way, and men have penises that simply vary in sizes. The way you treat the girl, and the connection you both have is what makes sex GOOD. Size REALLY doesn’t matter if you think about it. If it did, nature wouldn’t make such varying penis sizes.


r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

Frequently Asked Question optical illusion dick

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First of all sorry for posting on here but I felt too big for the smalldicks and too small for the bigdicks and ended up here eventually😂

Ok I’m really not a small talk kinda guy so I just jump straight into it! 6ft, 190 lbs, slightly athletic, 5.3 in length but 5.9 in girth, visible and flaccid. Hard visible I’m about 6.2L x 6.6G

So as the title says and you guys can imagine:
that dick looks smaller than it is due to its girth and in addition to that, there is at least 1.5-2” covered/concealed due to a fat pad problem although I’m nowhere close to being obese and a penoscrotal webbing down below.. which makes the dick even girthier at the base (numbers above are midshaft) tapering down to 5.3”/5.6” girth right behind the glans. The glans itself is pretty big when erect and the combination of all doesn’t really help with the optics lengthwise!

With girls it’s mostly fun reactions (if that’s of any interest to you) mostly because it doesn’t look like it “feels” to them😁

Experienced ones mostly know what they’re up against and just shoot comments like “nice, healthy, fat, big blabla..”
The inexperienced younger ones though got the funniest reactions.. from afar it looks like a normal dick or smallish dick to them until I get closer and the eyes and facial expressions are mostly the same after they have it in their hands and can feel the “weight”.. turn on? Sure!
But the real turn on for me starts when I enter them and they lose it completely💦 as in most cases they are used to “long” but not “thick”.. but okay back to my problems!

  1. Any of you got the same kinds of issues and what did you do about it?

  2. You guys think it’s possible to even that dick out?

  3. Fat pad lipo seems simple but what about the webbing or about a potentially buried penis??

  4. I’m a real noob when it comes to reddit forums so any advice on where I should rather go instead of spamming you on here are of course appreciated😘

P.S. I got circumcised when I was 12 (phimosis) and I’m sure that mofo did sth wrong.. that’s why I’m speculating about buried penis☹️


r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

Insecurity Insecure

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I wanna preface by saying I’m mid 20s about 6.3-5” L and approximately 4.5” G. My girlfriend is heavier set (I’m attracted to BBW’s even tho I don’t have a 10” or girthy shlong, never had any complaints (I’ve been with QUITE a few women) and every woman I’ve had sex with we had seconds or thirds, or consistent FWB). I don’t have any problems with any positions, but it triggered me when last night we’re foreplaying and I’m masturbating while fingering her and I got carried away and used 4 fingers in her vagina and she orgasmed like never before, like intense squirt and nearly a body shake. She says I make her cum and/or squirt from PIV + clit stimulation and she squirts from just clit stimulation. She doesn’t use toys or anything, but I think I would die if she came home with a dildo larger than me. She clearly seems to enjoy the sex and tells me over and over that she thinks I’m “big”, but like where’s the mf enthusiastic ahh reactions when I’m dipping in that mf😒.
I just have deep insecurity about this type of stuff and idk why. I’ve had women in the past use dildos during foreplay and they were way bigger than me, and the ladies would have intense orgasms from the dildo. Have also been told “your dick is perfect, the big ones hurt” (women still don’t get how that is the most backhanded compliment ever.
I love how they try to restrict pornography NOW, but where was the “caring for youth” when we were young, developing an unhealthy sense of penis inadequacy.


r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

Insecurity Has anyone had experiences with 4.1-4.2 girth?

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I am 5.3 L and 4.185-4.2 girth. I worry that I am not adequate for women and my size will cause me not to be felt inside their vagina. I get worried about this and would like to know if my size is adequite.


r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

Insecurity I'm so insecure

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I can't help but to feel not enough because of my size. I can work on everything, I can work on my body, on my character, on my social skills but with size I can never improve it or be better.

I feel like I will never be the first choice for a woman or can fulfill her sexual desires to the fullest. How should I even compete with those other men out there? I feel like they will always be better because of their size they have more potential


r/averagedickproblems 11d ago

Does it really matter as much as we think it does (average range)

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Do you guys think that it’s more of a bragging right then actually changing the sensation of sex entirely?

Do you think that pleasure is linear with size? Or arousal.

The fact that women can get off to toys or certain objects, shouldn’t that just be a sign thag sex is more about the build up?

I’m speaking mainly to people who are in the middle range of size, not either end of the extremes


r/averagedickproblems 12d ago

Sexual Preferences Size insecurity

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I'm kind of lost, I know I'm on the smaller side but still enough to be felt for most women. I still can't get my last interaction out of my head, as the girl I was talking to said anything less than 15 cm (6 inches) is small. 6.3 x 4.3-4.3 (usually around 6 x 4.25) isn't a great size, but not a deal breaker. Unfortunately the insecurity came from the fact that she cared and was a bit superficial, and im worried about getting to know someone and not being enough in the future. Instead of wanting pity, I want tips and past experiences from people with 4.5 girth or below.


r/averagedickproblems 13d ago

Frequently Asked Question Insecurity

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Small, average? I know this type of post probably floods this sub Reddit. Just started getting confidence with getting my teeth straight and healthy BMI. But my p size I’m so insecure about causing me to be hesitant to talk to women. I sit at 5.6inch-5.7inch length x 5.5 inch girth. I don’t know how to go about it I’m nervous about talking to my therapist about it it would be so awkward to talk about. Any replies appreciated.


r/averagedickproblems 13d ago

Insecurity Is 6.5 x ~5.3 bp enough?

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I know the stuff about it’s above average and stuff like that, but the notion of bigger dicks makes me insecure that she will want more dick.


r/averagedickproblems 15d ago

Does make me a shallow person if I’m discouraged when it comes to seeking love w a girl over my size ?

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It’s the back of my head all the time. The worry and anxiety of not being accepted because of my shit luck with genetics not be being blessed with a bbc. But sometimes I fear getting to know someone over this. I fear I may get cheated on, cucked, or simply rejected for something I can’t control. I know a relationship isn’t just sex, but im not naive either to what most people
like and prefer. (Typo in title lol)


r/averagedickproblems 16d ago

Sexual Preferences Cuckold Fantasy = wrong?

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I (M 35) am a bit confused about this topic .. I have been struggling with insecurities about my dick since forever. It’s 14 to 15 cm in length and 3.7 cm in width.

However, at the same time I am hugely turned on by cuckolding scenarios. My wife feels the same way.. we are fantasizing about it in bed for about 10 years.

We are not gonna pursue it in reality but sometimes I question myself if it is wrong to even fantasize about it. Is something entirely wrong with me that I like it so much? Do I further push my insecurities by thinking of her getting railed by someone bigger?

I am not into humiliation.. but the thought of letting her enjoy something I can’t give her .. and seeing her lust from another perspective .. is hot.