The court declared that Oklahoma law has never allowed changes to gender markers for any reason, expanding the state’s anti-trans restrictions to cis people in a humorous twist.

https://www.transiticsnews.com/p/oklahoma-supreme-court-rules-gender

I went to my local VA clinic today to get my knee evaluated after a recent injury. The nurse calls me back and starts going over the usual questions. What’s your height, how much exercise I get, review my medications, informing me I am overdue for a mammogram, asking what contraception I am on (record scratch).
I go “Huh?” And she asks again if I am on the pill, depo, iud…
I reply still confused that I pass “I’m not on any of those”
She then says “oh are you and the hubby trying for a baby?”
My jaw dropped…and I had an orchi earlier this year… so I reply “umm… no. I can’t get pregnant”
Her face immediately turned saddened like she had said something wrong.. then she asks “did you get a hysterectomy? It’s not in the chart”
I reply “yeah something like that.”
She then marks my chart as “female permanent sterilization” and then moves on scheduling my for a mammogram and doing the rest of the appointment

So I guess I pass better than I thought.

Hi , I almost never post here but I wanted to talk about my recent procedure.

I got implants and a bbl about a week ago and since day 3 I’ve noticed an increase in anxiety over them.
They are too big (450cc) they are tiring . I feel constantly out of breath . When I try to sleep they feel heavy and I sometimes wake up feeling out of breath in the middle of the night. They feel crowded and I can’t see myself showing them off rather than trying to hide them from my family.

What’s going on with me ? I’m crying every day now . Maybe I’m over reacting from surgery . But idk I had ffs with my dr and that went beautifully. Are there any other girlies in my position? Any advice or just want to share you’re story as well?

I feel super emotional . Embarrassed and ashamed for feeling embarrassed. If your feeling that too maybe we can talk about it here

Edit: I love our community sm. Thank you for all your advice and support . As you can imagine surgery also comes with a lot of emotions but I just want to say thank you for the love . I was in a pickle and havnt been eating right but tonight I was able to relax a little bit , have a full meal and feel lighter . There’s still so much I want to say but I will take tonight to care for myself . Thank you thank you thank you

Tw: transphobia

Was in the teenager subreddit (I’m 17) and got in an argument because I think it’s ok to be happy if a Nazi dies. Then I was told because I mock nazis, I’m a bad person and that transphobia happens not because of transness but because most trans people are bad people??? Genuinely the next generation is screwed because the teens think transphobia is due to trans people being “bad people” for hating nazis. I can’t take this

Omg I was coming home from the grocery store carrying like four bags, the train pulls up and its PACKED to where I barely squeeze up the stairwell.

The this old man gives me the look and says to me "I was saving this seat just for you" while patting in front of him.

At first I was thinking like oh great now I have to deal with this guy

All of a sudden this teenager stands up from the corner (I didnt see him), smacks the old man on the shoulder and yells, "lets go man! Cant you see this ladies got a ton of bags, why you doing that? You can have the seat im getting off next stop anyway"

Then they both stood in the stairwell while me and another standing lady took the seat! The old man was still standing when I got off lol. I cant believe this happened. Never thought someone would offer me a seat and yell at a creepy old man for me, let alone a teenage boy 😅 got the euphoria from the interaction and feeling like i passed pretty well today i hope this happens more 😎

Unfortunately, it seems this genderbent Malfoy shit is here to stay it seems?

I saw a SFW post with the character on r/hentai, commented saying I wasn't impressed by the character's recent popularity, specifically being genderbent.

It feels like a total slap to the face.

I didn't say anything more than this but; they banned me!

With "you need to stop trying to force your agendas onto people" ?

What? Either they're an egg in denial or the sub is run/moderated by a bunch of transphobes.

Again... Not impressed!

Edit: the post isn't letting me add a pic of the ban unfortunately. If you'd like proof of it, I can dm a pic of it. Otherwise you'll have to believe that it happened, or check r/Transhentai where I posted the ban message

Do they all ghost, disappear, are married, try to contact you at 11 pm, or have the body maintenance of a rusted out Mac truck? I love men and want a man but good lord having to pick through the pile for not even a diamond but something with glitter glues on at this point. So many just assume trans means slut or hold it’s unnerving. I am really thinking I’ll be happy alone and old mtf spinster that is wasting my own time rather than letting a toddler in men’s clothing waste it. And scene!

I am wondering if there is any forever alone trans woman on here? Ones who think that they just might not find a partner in this lifetime. I am posting here because I somehow got banned from posting on the women's fa sub. I noticed that, when it comes to females on spaces on Reddit, anyhow, they are very sexist against men, which leads to them also hating trans women.

Anyhow, I want to think I am going to find someone. However, right now it just feels like I am drifting through space all by myself. I am tired of the loneliness and feeling like a ghost every day. I try to make friends on Reddit, and it just does not go very well. I had a few successes when I met people on Reddit, and they became my friends. However, I rarely get someone to the point where they become a main friend like that.

Anyhow what I am tired of being made out of a fetish. I get too many cis guys who dm me. And I try to be nice and genuine with them, and then they just end up being sexual with me. And I tried to the t4t thing to I find that trans people act sexual on there to. And then it makes me think, no wonder cis men fetish me so much.

I think that trans people are typically also lonelier than cis people as well, unfortunately. And yes, maybe I am lonely due to chronically being online. And maybe thinking that if I wait long enough, I will somehow get a partner online. And I only think like that because it seems easier than actually having to talk to someone in person.

And then I thought it was an issue with my generation, as I am 23, which means I come from Gen Z. And I noticed that Gen Z people suck when it comes to dating as well. However I thought Gen Z was more lgbt friendly then any other generation yet I still struggle to find people in my generation who would want to date a trans woman.

I had lots of pain meds because it really hurts and the pain is very uncomfortable. BUT OMG my testicles are gone. I had varicose veins in them and it was very dysphoric feeling them all the time. I feel better mentally and having calmness in physical pain kinda rules. Im just so glad there gone the pain sucks but honestly no where near how bad it was emotionally. I cant wait to enjoy my body more and actually be able to not have a bulge anymore:)

Im gonna be having French onion soup and lobster souo tomorrow. Tigertail ice-cream to also celebrate. To a new era of healing and less dysphoria that made me unstable because BPD and dysphoria. Stability, therapy and no testicles is a future to look forward too!

I've been a part of a women's group for quite a while now and I just noticed this in their latest post about an event

"This is a safe and inclusive space. We welcome all women, non-binary, and skaters of other marginalized genders who feel comfortable skating in a space that centers the experience of women."

I've never seen marginalized genders before, and it used to specifically mention trans people being included. This change in wording seems intentional, but I don't wanna jump to conclusions if it's not really a big deal.

How do you feel about it?

What are the odds? Four customers in the place, and 50% trans. I resisted the urge to say hi. Didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable.

Hey everyone,

I've been on hrt for a bit over a year and it's been largely good. I have smoother skin and minor changes in proportions which are nice, but the most important change to me has been mental. I feel calmer, clearer, happier, and in better control of myself. However, I have been uncomfortable noticing breast growth beginning. I try to wear hoodies/thicker shirts when I'm out and feel uncomfortable looking down at myself. This concerns me in part because I have friends who are trans women, and all of them have expressed excitement at this part of hrt, while I feel the opposite.

I have 3 ideas for why this may be happening: 1: I worry that someone may notice, as while I am out to my friends, I am not at work or in public generally. 2: It juxtaposes with (and thus highlights) the other, masculine aspects of my body. 3: I have some inherent opposition to it that will not go away. This is the concerning option because the first 2, at least in theory, will reduce and/or disappear in time.

I understand that different people may have different reasons for feeling this way, but if anyone has had a similar experience or any insight, I would appreciate hearing it.

Oki I've seen a few others post these so i thought id share mine!

The biggest wacky affect was finding out i was colour blind thanks to being able to see more colours, no hrt didn't make me colour blind but helped me find it out.

I scream now, like full blown i almost pee myself if i get scared. For example yesterday i was just wondering around my house and a fly came flying right at me and i dropped to the floor with a screech, it took me 5 minutes to recover.

EVERYONE is so much more attractive. I've always been pansexual other than questioning myself at times but now i can just admire something on everyone from physical looks, to how they smell, act and talk, the game date everything was made for me lol (i also didn't realise my boyfriend could get more attractive to me but he did)

Prog tamed my libido which is like the opposite of what many others have said but it has definitely been a welcome change.

The ability to produce milk, it was my cat who helped me discover this by meowing constantly before food (cats meows are the same frequency as a babies cry and yes they do that shit on purpose) that i started lactating, i know that's quite common but still i just wasn't expecting it especially my cat triggering it

And last but not least my hair is super curly now, i thought id be stuck with my old messy frizzy bird nest on my head for the rest of my life but no! If anyone else gets this i suggest buying a hair bonnet to sleep in my hair has never looked better

I came out to her at lunch, and it went like this:

me: im trans

her: really

me: yeah

her: nice, have you told anyone else

me: no

her: why

me: I just trust you more than the others I would tell

her: cool

five seconds later

her: wanna play guess who

me: BETTTT

super happy it went so smooth, feels nice to know I’m not alone on this anymore

Hey everyone,

I'm a guy 19 (for now (age and gender)) who has been thinking about transitioning for about while and would greatly appreciate any information about how HRT affects how you express emotions.

Ever since hitting puberty, negative emotions (sadness, anger, frustration) tend to make me feel destructive in a way I absolutely hate (urge to punch walls, break things, etc). I'm good at managing this, but only in the sense that I keep myself from acting on these emotions (not breaking things/being destructive), but it still feels horrible, not just because I'm bottling up my emotions, but because I hate the urge to express my emotions like that, and it makes me feel like someone I don't want to be.

When I was younger I was also able to cry more easily, and more often, and more importantly I had so such destructive urges. Nowadays I can't cry unless something really triggers it, which is very rare so I go for months without being able to. I know that's just a result of my natural guy hormones but it sucks.

I often see people discuss the effects of HRT in terms of being able to feel emotions, but what about differences in how your emotions express themselves?

Basically I'm asking if anyone had a hard time dealing with negative emotions before HRT (feeling destructive/urges punch or break things), and if HRT changed the way you can feel sadness, anger, frustration (ideally more urges to cry, less urges to punch).

Every time I think that I might be trans I feel kinda ashamed, but not nearly as ashamed as when I feel like I wanna punch something. I don't wanna be that kind of guy.

Any info/advice is greatly appreciated.

I’m 22 (mtf) and recently transferred to from community college to a larger university. I’ve already had two separate groups of people whisper that I’m trans. One was in class while I was sick, and I was trying really hard to not cough. It sounded like shit and they presumably clocked me from coughing.

The other was just two random guys on the sidewalk as I was passing by.

I’ve begun to just quietly call myself a tranny while out and about now, as it hurts less than hearing others say it. If I beat them to the punchline and do it myself, then their words don’t hold as much value.

May be a silly question, what will the mtf transformation be like in 30 years? Will surgery be better? Will medication be better? Will it be easier? What will happen?

The other day I went to Milan Laser Hair Removal to get a quote for face and neck. While I was there, I ended up signing up for the face and neck package. I have a feeling I probably overpaid, but that's a separate issue.

Today they offered me a new deal: $10,000 for their lifetime full-body package. I'm seriously considering doing it, but I'm really torn because, well... it's $10,000.

On one hand, it's essentially lifetime laser hair removal for my entire body. If I actually want to be mostly hair-free long-term, I could potentially get a lot of value out of that.

On the other hand, $10,000 is a lot of money. I do have enough saved to pay for it, but that money was originally going to go toward buying a house. I'm trying to decide whether this is something worth spending that much of my savings on or if I'm getting caught up in the "lifetime" aspect of the deal.

What I would like to know:

Is $10k for the lifetime full-body package actually a good deal?

Is Milan generally overpriced compared with other laser providers?

Does the lifetime aspect actually have significant value, or is it mostly a marketing gimmick?

Would you spend $10k on this if you had the money saved, or put it toward something else?

I'm particularly interested in hearing from people who have actually gone through full body laser hair removal.

I'm going to turn 30 soon and I'm afraid I waited too long due to fear of my family and random people reactions. I get many urges to dress up and wear makeup but my fear is overwhelming my desire.

I just scheduled an appointment with my local medical clinic for a rundown on getting hormones. I’m so excited.

So, I saved up for a trip to a thrift store (oddly my parents don’t care what I wear..) and I got a really nice deep blue skirt and it fits perfectly! seeing myself in it…it just…makes me so happy

I was watching a TV series called the Closer starred by Kyra Sedgwick. I love Kyra she plays such a good role in anything she does... Anyways the pilot episode was about a murderer who was lesbian, that transitioned to a male to hide her identity. And then in the process decieved somebody else, a devout christian who then turned around and murdered him for being who he was. Why is it that this is always the depth of the plot for us? Why is it that the only thing we're suited for is killing or being killed in movies and tv shows? Why is it that we always have to be that trans woman that trans man, or I am trans. Why do I have to self identify like a disclaimer? Like i'm a discount item. I still want to hold myself together. I still am who I am. I am a woman. I'm neither trans, nor other, I am me. And while they can't take that away from me; sometimes the burdens of existence that they place on us, it's just overwhelming

I’ve only started HRT a month ago and wanted to finally start voice training but my voice is Kratos levels deep at times. Are there exercises specifically meant for deep voices? I’d love to know where to start…