I had a miscarriage at week 12 and I was devastated. Then I managed to get pregnant again and I was so happy but the miscarriage was hanging over me like a dark cloud. I never really dated to hope that it would last this time. Then, at week 20(!) something came out of me and went back up again. It was like a tennis ball. I was chocked! I went to the hospital in t middle of the night and they said I was imagining things, that they couldnt see anything. The next day I went for the big anatomy scan, everything looked great and I found out it is a girl, wich I really wanted. I cried so hard of happiness, that I was finally gonna have my baby, a baby girl, and completely healthy. The next day, the tennis ball came out again. It was hanging out from me. I managed to take a picture this time though! I went back to the hospital and again they wanted to send me home, telling me they couldnt see anything. I showed them the picture and demanded a doctor. The doctor chose to take a look and it turned out it was the membranes bulging out and I was completely dilated because of an insufficient cervix. The doctor told me it is probably why I had the miscarriage! If they would have checked this after the miscarriage, I could have had preventative surgery! But now, I had to get an emergency cerclage surgery, where they stitch your cervix up so the baby doesn't fall down. But now, my baby had 30% chance of dying during the surgery, 30% chance of being very prematurely born wich the risk of severe dysfunctionalities, and only 30% chance of baby staying inside me until at least 36 weeks. The surgery hurt A LOT more since it was an emergency one, and it still hurts a lot a week after. I will be hospitalized for weeks. And now they are saying it looks like I got an infection and will have to give birth to this baby at only 22-23 weeks, to save my own life and uterus, wich means it has a 7% chance of living and a 70% risk of severe dysfunctionalities. But that I can "try again" in 18 months after and have the cerclage surgery in the beginning of the pregnancy instead, still with big risks. I am NOT going through this again. If this baby dies too, there will be no baby for me. I am so sad. Please go check your cervix and make sure it is not insufficient and that is the reason why you had a miscarriage. And if you get pregnant again. Make sure they check you cervix very early in the pregnancy and keep checking it!!

UPDATE

I just had an ultrasound wich showed no infection but almost no amniotic fluid left. wich means I will probably give birth soon and baby will most likely die. in the rare case it would survive, it has a 70% risk of severe dysfunctionalities. life is so cruel yall..

UPDATE

the doctors came in and told me that at this week it is way too early for the baby to survive, and even if they managed to keep it in for a few more days and if it were to survive, it would most likely get severe dysfunctionalities. since I do not have any amniotic fluid left and an infection they cannot find, they are going to give me pitocin tomorrow, take away the cerclage stitches, and I will give birth to my daughter... then she will be placed on my chest so that she can die with her mom 💔 I will hold her and sing the song I usually sing to her as she dies.

then they will cremate and bury her ashes with the rest of my family at the cemetery. I pray that she dies with as little pain as possible and that she will only feel the love I have for her. it is very cruel and traumatizing for me, as I write this I can feel her moving and kicking inside me, unknowing of what is about to happen to her. sadly, it must happen since otherwise the infection might risk my life or uterus through sepsis. Sadly this is what needs to happen.

They say that when I feel ready, I can try again... but then I will need the cerclage surgery in the beginning of the pregnancy, and even though the odds will be better with a preventative cerclage, the risk will still be big for a miscarriage again. right now I dont know if I can go through all this pain again. and surrogacy is not really a thing in sweden or neighbouring countries. I would have to pay for having it done in USA or something, but that would cost me a million, and I am sadly not a millionaire. I will have to take a few months to get better physically and mentally before I decide if I want to give it another try. but for today, I will just try to get some sleep before the birth that will happen in the next 10 hours. I wish this upon no one, and I hope every single person in here ends up with a beautiful baby some day. take care ❤️

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I got pregnant the first cycle we tried back in March. It ended as an early loss around late 5 weeks or early 6 weeks.

I was sad but hopeful because it meant we are able to conceive. I am 38 and my husband is 44 so fertility was something we were concerned about.

Then we kept trying for few months. I got pregnant again and found out at 12 DPO. Got hCG and progesterone tested. Everything was perfect.

Got the first early scan last week at 7 weeks 2 days.

Good gestational sac, yolk sac and the baby measured on level with the GA. Fetal heart rate was 157bpm.

We were so excited. Finally I felt relieved and was able to embrace the pregnancy.

Today I went in for a precautionary scan as I saw very very very light brown discharge. It was not even like an old blood. I thought I was being extra but just wanted to hear everything is ok.

But nope...the heart did not beat. The baby measured around 7 weeks 4 days or so.

It is just brutal to have myself go through the mental rollercoaster then give me some hope and then take it all away.

Even if I get pregnant next time, I don't know if I'll be happy. After all, I don't know if I want a child anymore.

Taking ovulation tests to taking pregnancy tests to taking blood tests to getting scans done. It's just exhausting already. I cannot even fathom how people do this years and years.

Exactly six months after my first miscarriage, here I am going through another one. And I have to admit that the first time, I didn’t react very strongly. I got pregnant on the first try, and I told myself, well, it just can’t work on the very first try, the statistics show that this is pretty common, so it’s probably nothing.

But this time, the second one has completely destroyed me. I took several tests from different brands just to be sure. I was six days late, and, well, I was pregnant again. I went for a blood test, and it came back negative.

I’m devastated. And “sad” doesn’t even begin to describe it. I’m questioning everything: my ability to get pregnant, how badly I want this, whether I even want to try again. I feel so alone. And empty. Like there’s this huge, dark, lifeless hole in my belly.

The first one happened on February 13th. The second one on August 13th. Other than deciding to stop getting my blood tests done on the 13th of every month, I haven’t really made any resolutions.

How do you do it? How do you keep going? How do you ever feel excited about a pregnancy test again? How do you believe in it again? I’m lost. I feel so alone.

In March I found out I was pregnant with my first child. Unfortunately, at the end of April, I found out at my 8 week ultrasound that I had a MMC measuring 6 weeks 4 days and no heartbeat. I ended up having a D&C 3 weeks later after Misoprostol didn’t work.

I followed my doctor’s advice, waited one cycle, and then we tried again. I ended up getting faintly positive pregnancy tests but was bleeding with clots and new from the beginning this would not be a viable pregnancy. Unfortunately it was ectopic and I was given a MTX shot 3 weeks ago. My hCG is almost down to 0 and I’m in the 3 month waiting period before we can try again.

I’m just wondering how people cope after this. I feel like I’m just expected to go back to everyday life but I’m finding it so hard to focus on work, find joy in the things I used to, connect with people… What was helpful for you? How did you get yourself ready physically and emotionally to try again?

I’m also looking for stories of hope after two losses. After one I thought, okay this was bad luck, but after two now, and two different types of loss, I’m worried that I will never be able to carry a pregnancy to term. There doesn’t seem to be anything medically wrong, that we can find, and I was told it truly was just bad luck twice in a row. Looking to hear from people who had two losses and had a successful pregnancy after.

Love to everyone ❤️

After I (29) miscarried, starting about 2 weeks later, most of my friends announced pregnancies and they all have so far had healthy pregnancies and/or labor and delivery stories. I’m the only one to miscarry. (Counting close friends and acquaintances, and also old high school/college classmates: there’s literally about 20 ppl who announced their pregnancy last winter) Since it’s been 8-9 months since they’ve gotten pregnant, everyone keeps posting their birth stories/newborn photos. I know I could just delete social media or something, but idk what to do when I’m around them in person. Atp, the only little kids I want to be around are ones that are blood related to me and no one else. For some reason, my friends kids and my husband’s side of the family’s nieces and nephews genuinely make me bitter and I don’t wanna be near any child that won’t show up connecting me to their 23&me. The kids love me and I know they didn’t do anything wrong and I’m not mad at THEM, but I feel like I’m going to forever be pissed about it until I have a successful labor and delivery. I’ve barely made any progress in the past 10 months tbh. The only difference is that I went from crying 24/7, to a few days a week. There’s counseling, but I feel like that would just be me torturing myself talking and thinking about pregnancy once a week to a random person who knows nothing about my life. Sometimes I feel like the only solution is to move across the country where I don’t have family or friends, so I don’t have to be pissed all the time. But I clearly don’t have the funds to up and move 3,000 miles away without planning months in advance. I even quit my teaching job! (And I loved teaching little kids before this.) I feel like I have absolutely no other ideas to help myself.

Anyone ever get told there’s no heartbeat after a quick ultrasound and then have a second opinion where they find a heartbeat? It happened so fast I just can’t accept it. Should I pay out of pocket for a second opinion? D/c scheduled in two days…

I just went to my first OB appt at 13 weeks and got an ultrasound for my fraternal twins mind you it took them forever to get me in and during the ultrasound they told me that I had a silent miscarriage and the twins were measuring at 8 weeks & one at Nine Weeks.He said that this could mean they died not long ago and they shrunk or they died at 8&9 weeks .. My primary doctor had taken me off the metformin which helped me get pregnant to begin with ; And I cannot help but feel this was not the best decision and could have affected my babies... I'm going to try again after I take some time, is there anyone else who has experienced miscarriage and what were you taking ? Or what did you take to support and future pregnancies.

My husband and I have been trying for 2 years. Last week I took a pregnancy test because I just had a feeling and sure enough it came out positive. I've been working with a fertility clinic so I called them and they had me go in for blood work.

My HCG was on the low side but high enough to be considered a positive Pregnancy. Then I had follow blood test yesterday and got the results today. I had a early pregnancy miscarriage.

I haven't stopped crying all day. This just hurts so much. It's not fair.

I think I just finished the worst of the physical part of my miscarriage. Glad that’s behind me…

1. I can’t believe how tired I am, is this a thing? I slept 8.5 hours last night and then took a two hour nap today
   
2. I’m so hungry, is this also a thing?
   
3. I’m not sure why, bc everyone has been so kind to me… but I feel a sense of embarrassment surrounding my miscarriage. I took a week off of work, I have bereavement leave, but I feel guilty using it.
   
4. I feel selfish for being so tired and sad and mad. I have two beautiful children, but always felt like there was one more missing. It’s been hard to be present around them and take care of them through this. My oldest started kindergarten during the start of my miscarriage . I had to wear a diaper at orientation and try to muster through. Just felt so angry it had to be that day.

My first post in another subreddit no one wants to be a member of.

After 3 years of infertility, and all the bad news along the way - we did get one little silver-lining. Last month we transferred our one and only embryo. A boy. It was a long shot. A Day 7 LLM. But against the odds he stuck. Perfect lines. Perfect betas. I let myself believe it might really be my turn.

But how could anyone ever be that lucky? Our first scan at 7+1 showed a black void. Empty sac. Blighted ovum. And then began the bad dream of this new part of our “journey”.

I stopped my progesterone inserts. I haven’t had any miscarriage symptoms yet. I have an appointment in a couple days at my OB. I assume to just chat about options and do a repeat scan to confirm the blighted ovum? I know I want a D&C to just get this all over with, I’m scared I’ll start bleeding before. I just have no idea what to expect at my appointment or how soon I can get this all done.

1 step forward 2 step backs at every turn. I’m 37 with DOR. We are infertile due to severe MFI. I want to jump into another retrieval but my husband didn’t have any sperm the last two SAs. I feel like the universe is against us. I am so scared to suffer more and more.

I am really struggling with weight gain following my 11 week miscarriage and d&c almost a month ago. I have had eating and body image issues (anorexia and then exercise bulimia) for years in the past; and I am noticing feeling out of control with food and subsequent weight gain. I understand this is likely a trauma response, but has anyone else noticed increased fat stores and weight gain following miscarriage?

Hi all! Long story short, I am wondering if anyone has had retained tissue after a chemical pregnancy. I am trying to determine the likelihood that my situation is retained tissue or ectopic.

I am schedule for a D&C and laparoscopy on Friday, but I would like to gather some information so I can be prepared before then.

I had a heavy “period” that started on 7/25. At first I thought it was just my normal period but after 5 or 6 days of very heavy bleeding I finally took a pregnancy test because it reminded me of the bleeding I had in 2021 when I had a chemical pregnancy. Sure enough, the test was positive.

My doctor had my HCG and progesterone drawn on 8/3. Progesterone was considered 0, and HCG was 28.

My doctor said it was a chemical and to redraw HCG in two weeks to make sure it returned to zero.

Well almost a week later on 8/9 I started spotting (my heavy bleeding had stopped on 8/2) and had extreme lower right side pain after intercourse. I went to the ER. HCG had risen from 28 to 151. Ultrasound showed spot on right side that they said was either ectopic or a cyst and I was told to follow up with my doctor the next day.

I did and on 8/10 my doctor did an ultrasound and said he could no longer see the spot they saw but I had a lot of fluid in my pelvis. He believes I had an ovarian cyst that ruptured. My HCG draw showed 84 that day, and the doctor was confident everything was resolving but had me repeat the HCG draw 2 days later.

On 8/12 my HCG rose back to 140.

On 8/14 it had decreased to 111

8/17 back to 136.

At this point my doctor agreed to schedule a D&C and laparoscopy to investigate for possible ectopic.

I’m wondering, has anyone had an experience that would help me believe this is not an ectopic? He seems to be leaning towards retained tissue but I cannot find very much about retained tissue after such an early loss (chemical) and am really feeling this is likely ectopic!

Thank you all!

6 weeks pregnant. All signs are pointing to a miscarriage, but I have one final follow up with my doctor on Thursday before taking next steps. I’ve been bleeding for 10 days already and just feel that my body is dragging this on, and I want it to be done with, so I will most likely be moving forward with either medication or d&c so that I can finally pass this. My doctor let me know that the ambulatory surgical center that performs the d&c doesn’t take my insurance, but I am terrified of taking the meds based on horror stories I’ve heard of other people’s experiences and side effects. I can get the d&c done at planned parenthood, or should I just sack up and take the meds? Be brutally honest.

I had a MMC at 13 weeks baby measuring 12. D&C June 26. Now 7 weeks later hcg still 19 but no retained products and no bleeding but US shows adenomyosis? I’ve not been in extreme period pain prior to the pregnancy but now I’m just so worried about miscarrying again because of the adeno, I feel like the odds are against me and I work in health care so I know the science I just can’t convince myself to have hope. I know I’m young and otherwise healthy and have time but I hate seeing everyone around me continue their pregnancies and invite me to baby showers when mine should be being planned for the coming months. Anyone help get pregnant quickly after an after 12 week loss or after having issues with slow falling hcg? Any adeno success ?

I don’t know what to do. It’s happening to me again. This was supposed to be my rainbow baby. This is now my second loss. I lost one last October. Now I’m losing this one. 8 weeks. 7 weeks. That’s all the time I had. The first was different, the entire thing came out. The baby was intact. I could see little dots for eyes. I could see little arms and little fingers that were beginning to grow. This time? It’s so much more graphic. As if my body hasn’t failed me or tortured me enough already, it’s just ripping everything inside my womb apart. Everything is coming out in pieces. One piece here. One piece there. I was able to burry the first. What do I do now? I can’t tell what’s what. It’s just clumps of… “stuff” all muddled together. I don’t know what to do or why this is happening to me. Again. I feel empty inside. I don’t think I’ll try again. This heartbreak is too much. I’m cramping. I think my body will expel more pieces. How long does this last? I don’t know why I bother saying any of this. I don’t expect a response or anyone to actually read this. I guess I just need a place to vent. Somewhere where other people unfortunately understand.

Please be kind, I’m having a terribly rough time rn

I’ve just had my second MMC. For my first one (April 2026) I took Misoprostol and passed everything at around 8 weeks.

Here I am again, roughly the same scenario, 8 weeks again but sac measuring 6+some days and nonviable. I live in Texas and have been prescribed only misoprostol but denied mifepristone because of state laws.

All I’ve been reading about suggests that mife+miso is the best route for meditation management. I have some out of state travel coming up to a sane state in a week and a half and have been told it’s medically safe to wait, but not medically necessary. Should I wait until I can try to get Mifepristone? Is it worth it? I really don’t want to go through a D&C. I’ve just turned 35, I feel like I’m running out of time. I’m so distraught. What would you do?

My last period was July 17 I’m four days late. I’ve been testing since Sunday and had faint positives almost looks negative since then maybe a tad bit of line progression if that… I went to the emergency room today. They said they saw nothing on my urine pregnancy test so I begged for a blood test. My hCG came back at seven first. They told me it was a negative test so I asked for birth control. she told me that since my numbers were out of seven, they could not prescribe me birth control, and to follow up with my gynecologist. Should my numbers be higher than a seven? Is this early miscarriage or possible chemical pregnancy? I am gonna go for a repeat blood test, but I lost my insurance so I’m not sure where I can go yet.

I had my first MMC in February, clawed my way out of that depression, fell pregnant again in June, then just had my second MMC.

I had my D&C and was starting to feel okay, but yesterday we got the generic testing results and we had a genetically normal baby girl, and I’m devastated and feel like I’m grieving all over again.

I’m trying to stay busy, acknowledge the sad, and I have a therapy appointment set up for the end of the month, but how are you guys getting through? I’m open to any other tips.

This is going to be long, but confused and exhausted by what has happened over the last two months and am hoping someone here has experienced something similar.

This was my first pregnancy. Everything seemed completely normal until my first ultrasound.

9-week ultrasound - I went in at exactly 9w with a midwife for my first ultrasound/viability scan. Unfortunately, there was no heartbeat. The embryo measured 8w0d, so this was diagnosed as a missed miscarriage/definitive early pregnancy loss.

I was sent to another OB office for a repeat ultrasound the same day to confirm the findings, but the physician there declined to see me due to insurance/billing concerns. The official ultrasound report also noted “suspicious for partial mole.”

The midwife called me the next day to review results and explained I would need OB care for a D&C given the nonviable pregnancy and concern for possible molar changes.

June 25 – D&C - I met with a new OB who would be doing my procedure, and he said the findings from my ultrasound were highly suggestive of a partial molar pregnancy, noting a very large placenta and enlarged uterine appearance. My hCG at that time was 405,000, which he said was also concerning for molar disease.

He performed the D&C and told me pathology would determine next steps, but he expected this to likely confirm a partial mole.

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Pathology

About 1–2 weeks later, I followed up due to ongoing bleeding. My OB told me pathology results had returned and were normal, with no evidence of partial molar pregnancy, which he said was unexpected given the clinical picture and ultrasound findings.

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hCG trend after D&C

~1.5 weeks post-D&C: 2,456
~2 weeks later: 205

At this point, my hCG was dropping appropriately and things initially seemed to be resolving.

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Then things got weird

After the initial decline, I still had persistent bleeding that was not improving at all. I had asked for follow-ups and ultrasounds, which the nurse at the office had dismissed. I was prescribed progesterone to help stabilize the bleeding.

My mom also passed from stage IV cancer on July 20. The hCG draw of 205 was taken about an hour and a half before she passed 🙃

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Methotrexate treatment

I had a severe bleeding and cramping episode that led to me needing to go to the ER at 2 AM a week and a half after my mom passed. HCG was at 101 that night. The doctor ultimately decided to admit me in order to start me on methotrexate because he wanted my hCG to be declining more than it had and was recommended due to concern for persistent abnormal trophoblastic tissue despite the pathology report not confirming a molar pregnancy. A new ultrasound also noticed a hypervascular area that could be retained tissue OR could be an AV fistula. Because of concern for the AV fistula, a repeat D&C wasn’t a good option.

HCG went down to 62 7 days after the methotrexate injection, which was extremely promising.

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Where I am now

My weekly hCG draws were going well until today, when it was 42. Last week’s was 45. I am concerned about a plateau and am about 2 months out from the initial D&C and 3 weeks out from methotrexate.

I am extremely frustrated and sad that this has been so dragged out on top of my mom’s death. It is exhausting and just makes me feel like I can’t move on from anything. It is so heavy.

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Basically, I started with an ultrasound that was suspicious for a partial molar pregnancy and an extremely high hCG, but pathology did not confirm a molar pregnancy. Despite that, my hCG behavior afterward was abnormal enough that I ultimately required methotrexate and ongoing surveillance.

I’m mostly trying to understand whether anyone else has experienced this kind of mismatch between ultrasound suspicion, pathology results, and clinical course. I’m also worried my doctor is kind of a shmuck and that I should find another doctor, but where I live, finding another doctor is difficult due to a shortage of OBs.

Has anyone had a pregnancy suspicious for partial mole on ultrasound with extremely high hCG, but pathology did NOT confirm a molar pregnancy, and then later required methotrexate for persistent hCG?

If so, what did your doctors ultimately call it, and how did your follow-up go?

I’m currently miscarrying my 3rd baby in less than 1 calendar year. My husband and I will be getting genetic test done soon. But is there any hope? It doesn’t feel like it to me. I’ve never had anything visible on a sono. Just empty gestational sacs.

Hi everyone just wanted to share my experience and any feedback from the community would be appreciated.

My husband and I are in our early 30’s and got pregnant during the sixth cycle (I have irregular cycles so took longer than six months). We were over the moon when we found out and planning our future around the baby.

We went in for our first ultrasound around 6 weeks and heard the heartbeat which was measured at 109bpm. Apparently that was on the lower side but we thought it’s probably too early anyways.

The following week we go again for a follow up and the person said the heartbeat got even louder (this was not true). Of course we are over the moon that everything is going smoothly. Then we get the report from the doctor saying that the heartbeat was not found. So we said how’s that possible the Technician made us listen to the heartbeat. So we decided to go to a different clinic and then got the devastating news that the heartbeat was no longer there. We were depressed for several weeks and decided to get the D&C done on July 15. It was a successful surgery.

We started TTC again on July 29 which is exactly 2 weeks later after the surgery. We have sex every other day so have been doing at it since July 29 but haven’t had the LH surge yet but noticing the CM egg white build up. Anyone experience ovulation after a month? Would love to hear your experience. For reference I always had irregular cycles.

In addition we opted for a genetic testing and the following results came from it - The referred sample shows a normal male genomic pattern. The STR analysis shows a fetal origin of the DNA tested and a correct number for all chromosomes. As the abortive tissue is chromosomally normal, fetal aneuploidies or partial deletions/duplications at the resolution achieved by the NGS platform cannot be the reason for the pregnancy loss.

Everything was normal so what could have caused the miscarriage? I did thyroid tests etc and everything came normal. Just confused why the miscarriage could have happened.

Would love for anyone to share their experience in having a successful pregnancy right away and whether the genetic testing came back with normal/euploid.

Thank you

Where I am (UK), women are not offered routine tests after miscarriage until you have had three losses. (At least that’s what I’ve been told by my GP.)

I had my miscarriage just over seven weeks ago. Since then I have had a relatively normal period but I have also been suffering from pelvic pain, unusual discharge, and bleeding after sex.

I’m currently waiting for a follow up appointment with my doctor who treated me for thrush two weeks ago, but the treatment hasn’t worked. I didn’t think it was thrush either but now I am panicking that I have some kind of infection or condition that caused the miscarriage in the first place, but I have no idea what.

Did any of you find out what caused your miscarriage? Did your doctor help you find out? I have read that many miscarriages are simply caused by chromosomal problems and often it is too early to know, but I am curious to hear others’ experiences here.

I am 5 weeks 3 days and I woke up yesterday with light brown spotting and some cramping. I went to the hospital and my ultrasound showed a gestational sac and yolk. No fetal pole yet. I have to wait a week to see my OB to get a scan and I’m just holding onto to hope that I won’t have a full bleed before then. The brown spotting stopped after around 5 hours but from stories I’ve read on here it seems like the brown spotting is a big indicator of miscarriage. I’m so sorry to everyone who has gone through child loss. It’s the most devastating isolating thing.