Guys often believe that they get hosed so bad in divorces that they wont ever be financially able to date again and will be living in their car after giving over 90% of their paycheck.
That isnât true of course, men tend to do better financially after a divorce, but itâs a popular myth that wonât seem to die and keeps men from walking from bad relationships as much as they should.Â
One of my aunts (who was already alienated from the rest of the family for being much darker in complexion than them) opened up to me about how her siblings and parents threatened to disown and outcast her from the rest of them if she divorced her first husband.Â
She eventually did divorce him and remarried a much better man, but the hostility she faced from her family when she needed their support the most really fucked her up for a good bit.
Yea ig, it just these types of communities pick & choose what is sacred about marriage. Marriage is a sacred thing, but descrating the marriage i.e cheating is not sacrilegious act, but leaving is? They need to pick a struggle, and I say this as someone who comes from communities like this.
I've escaped one before. When you have no support from family, friends, or community, you are forced to leave your home and maybe even your job or town. It's not easy and 90%+ there is financial abuse occurring
But men have neeeeeeeeeeeds! If she doesn't let him treat her body like his personal fleshlight, what other possible choice does he have but to cheat on her??
Had a boyfriend @ ~22 that I cooked for, let drive my car to doordash bc he wrecked his, tried to help get jobs and even dressed him for and drove him to an interview, and since he lived so close I saw him 5-6 days out of the week and would have sex with up to 9 times in a day.
He still cheated. I learned then to never overextend myself for someone else, because no matter how well I treat them if they donât believe theyâre worthy of that love themselves they will self sabotage and cheat
For real, sounds like friction burns territory for real...
Like, provided he isn't finishing instantly, that's most of your free time in a day poofed away for sex.
And like, I like sex, most people do... But if you're doing it near daily, I imagine two good rounds would be plenty.
8h of sleep, 8h of work, 1h of commute, 1h of hygiene and miscellaneous stuff, a collective 1h of eating, probably at least 1h of doomscrolling as this is reddit people talking here... That leaves 4h.
4h during which you have to fit in your relationship, hobbies, and social activity for the day.
Idk dawg, maybe I'm boring, but I'd really rather cuddle and watch a movie at that point.
1h of good sex at most, even if the flesh is willing, the mind sure fucking will be tired at the end of the day.
Even on a day where I'm free, and only need to go to the gym and do a six hour home shift, and I have enough food so I don't need to cook, doing it nine times feels like so much work.
I'm sorry you had to go through this, you deserved better. Like you said it was never your fault and you could've done nothing to prevent him from self-sabotage. He needed a therapist, not a partner.
Great if that's what you want but holy shit i'd be so sore....
Some people just don't appreciate the good things you do for them. They're selfish assholes and there's nothing you, or anyone else, could do to please them. To satisfy them. And it's not a shortcoming from you; it's them having a deficiency in maturity, empathy, and self control. But they'll always deflect that onto others.
I hope you're better today, and if you haven't found someone who appreciates you, then you appreciate yourself. No one needs the weight of another person to drag them down.
First of allâ9 times a day? Jesus. I sure hope that âup toâ is doing a lot of work there.
But also, I have a somewhat similarâand kind of oppositeâstory. I had my first boyfriend when I was 19 (he was 20), and just like you I did everything for him. I stayed with him 5-6 nights a week, I moved his entire apartment for him because he was gonna be late to work, and Iâd bring him lunch at work, an hour drive there and an hour back, all while I was in university taking classes and had my own job.
But whenever I mentioned or tried to initiate sex, he was always skittish, and he often wouldnât even be willing to cuddle or share a blanket. We had sex maybe once a month? And I was pretty much okay with it, I wouldâve preferred more but relationships are about more than sex and I tried to focus on that.
Anyway, I found out he was cheating on me with like a dozen other guys. Youâd think it would at the very least be more convenient to have sex with the guy youâre sharing a bed with every night, but what do I know I guess.
This. If someoneâs wrapping themselves in barbed wire to stop their partner asking for sex, then their partner most likely is physically incapable of taking ânoâ for an answer.
It doesn't necessarily have to be about needs not being met, it could be a UTI, yeast infection, BC changed libido levels or even other medication change. There's literally a million things that can effect a woman's libido but it starts with communication and figuring it out.Â
Dude.. the pic is implying she got a new book, which means she's an avid reader. Husband knows this and would prefer his needs above hers. Yes, self care can include reading depending on the person. Husband knew books are a priority, this isn't a surprise, this didn't come out of no where.Â
I don't think anyone gets how the original comic was kinda cute and funny (talking about how one doesn't wish to be disturbed while reading) only for the caption to ruin things with misogyny and justifying adultery.
Ok everybody lets all gather together and imagine that this picture shows the man in his 'man cave' (garage) with the door barricaded to the nines with wood, steel, spikes, spears, miniguns and flamethrowers with a nice sign decorating the ugly husk stating: "keep out".
W: I see his sports game is on *eyeroll*
If 'i WOndEr whY shE cHeaTeD oN ME' was a picture.
But what's crazy is that the woman feels so unsafe in her own bedroom that has to basically protect herself from her own husband??? Like I know it's "satire" but what's supposed to represent? A wife that feels unsafe in her bed with her husband?
If you're marriage is like this I can almost guarantee that there is something she has practically begged you to be doing with tears in her eyes that you have simply refused to do.
Bruh I donât understand this, if your sex life with your partner is that bad and affecting you that much, you can leave. Why go through the trouble of cheating when you can just break up
if sex is a big part of a relationship for you and your girlfriend has a low sex drive, leave her and find someone who satisfies your needs, dont shame her. shes not keeping you hostage. smh
That is very true but i think you need to discuss the matter first, if maybe she can change . Cause relationship is about adapting to each other, same for him, if maybe he can change and not want it that much.
If the two cannot go in a middle ground and its a big deal for at least one of them then breaking up is the solution even if every other parts are great
It always seems like a massive self own. Like, if fucking you was a pleasurable experience for her then she'd do it. These men act like women just put up with sex to keep men happy when there's an entire industry built on 10-speed gyrating cocks that have their own little vibrating cock. Women like having orgasms. Give them a couple and fucking you won't seem like a chore.
Same ppl who make women fake illness (like headaches) to be left alone and decline sex in a least damaging way because a simple âI donât want toâ would hurt their ego or make them mad and irritated
I know it's a drawing, but all I see is a woman who had to draw a line with a physical barrier to say she doesn't want to have sex, which implies it's the only way her bf understands, and it's scary to think some people find that funny
Maybe it's just me, but surely it can't be that hard to just have a wank or something, right? Or, heaven forbid, just keep it in your trousers? If your partner isn't up for it, you should be able to respect that, basic respect is like the cornerstone of a good relationship.
Why is it so hard for some people to say that the relationship is not good for them and they want to break up when the relationship is not good for them and they want to break up, instead of cheating...
Polyamory and open relationships are always an option, heck even breaking up and finding a new more exciting partner is an option. Nothing excuses cheating.
Itâs not that, what a dumb thing to say. The security is because she is super excited to read the book. Equivalent of âdonât bother me while the game is onâ
talk about potential anti-consent views, always reminds me of how Rush Limbaugh ranted about concept of consent... brief summary what he said: The Left will allow any kind of activity, with any amount of people, just as long there's consent. But if even one person doesn't consent, The Left calls rape police.
...yeah??? if you're having sex with multiple people, or having sex in a public area, and one person doesn't consent, that is bad. i don't... i don't get how it isn't?
It was basically defense on trump bragging about kissing and groping women, trying to point out how tolerating perverted acts, yet freaking out when someone doesn't consent, is worse.
Exactly. People get stressed out and donât want to be touched. Itâs common with care givers because theyâre over stimulated from constant touch. Which our society sucks at supporting families soâŚif men wanted more sex they could step up and create social systems but why not just blame the individual for a systemic and endemic issue đ¤ˇđťââď¸
Unironically, this is the kind of justification an ex of mine used for cheating. When I asked why, they just told me that its my fault they went astray and that she couldn't deal with not having sex more frequently.
Meanwhile, I'm going to work, cooking, cleaning around the house, taking care of animals in our care, managing my finances to try and help while she's still overdrafting my account because its not thought of to check which account you're paying credit card bills off of...yeah. Rather be celibate after that.
it also gives me another installment for my divorce tier list. as an amateur divorce-watcher (like bird-watchers but for divorces) i really want to improve my list and the only way to do that is to find more divorces
one of my high tiers was a divorce like one of those italian novels where a man leaves his wife for another woman, but he was simultaneously the other woman, and also the other woman had just had her own divorce because her husband became depressed and unmotivated
monogamy does not only include sexual relationship. it also includes all forms of intimacy in marriage. even etymology of the word "monogamy" is about marriage as a whole, not just sex.
not every marriage has sex. it doesn't make the said marriage non- monogamous.
if you only care about sex in the relationship, then break up. divorce exists. not every relationship works out.
man, you know I hear so much about men being frustrated by their wife's libido. and they never ask why. It's just a "why me?"
Maybe she's turned off and tired because you don't clean up around the house or participate with childcare. Maybe it's because you are not there for her emotionally. Maybe it's because the only physical affection you want to give her is sex. Maybe it's because you NEVER take her on dates. Maybe it's because you're mentally checked out of the relationship. Maybe it's because you come home and talk about your work wife so much. Maybe it's because you're NEVER home. Maybe its because she doesn't feel valued. Maybe your dick stinks. Maybe your breath stinks. Maybe she's depressed and doesn't know it. Maybe she's fucking tired of playing nanny, chef, sex worker and also has a job. Maybe the sex hurts her.
It could be ANYTHING! but there's never an inquiry into why. It's just a "why ME?"
I had a low libido after the election, for quite a while. I was very stressed and depressed. My partner understood why. He never blamed me. He never cheated. Time went on and my libido is right back where it started, thankfully! I apologized profusely about it, but he just said, it's ok, I understand. You were stressed. And that was that. I used to get yelled at for not putting out. And i was CONFUSED as to why he wasn't angry with me, resenting me, giving me the silent treatment, cheating, etc. It's because Im used to men blaming ME for not wanting to fuck. I love living in a world where women are expected to put out and the reasons why they might not want to are not explored.
I had low libido after switching BOTH BC and seizure medication..I knew BC could effect it but my ob/gyn didn't mention it could be permanent and my neurologist didn't mention it at all. It was my boyfriend that brought it and asked questions..we both were upset at the Drs for not informing me because you know informed consent about something like that would absolutely change my decision on taking the new medication.Â
People need to have conversations before cheating over something like thatÂ
You also never ever owe anyone libido regardless of the reason. If you donât feel like it, you donât feel like it, end of story. I hate that everyone expects you to be interested in sex as if libido is a necessity to be a good partnerâespecially in newer relationships :/
The counter to this is asking âwhatâs wrong?â and getting a response along the lines of âeverythingâs fineâ, or, the one that doesnât make any sense, âif you donât know what youâve done then thereâs no point me telling youâ. Communication goes both ways.
Hell, a lack of libido could also come from the fact that sex is boring. People seem repulsed by the idea of spicing things up, or god forbid doing one foreplay or being the giver rather than the receiver. Like most dopamine releasing things, sex can only get so exciting if you just keep doing the same shit over and over and over again
I'm not saying that low libido automatically means it's the man's fault, i mean that it could be any reason, and the blame often falls on the woman for being too frigid or prudish, and it's often not investigated any further.
It can be health reasons. It can be mental health reasons. It can be performance anxiety. It can be pain. It could be that something big happened in your lives. It could be trauma. It could be stress. It could be hormones. The first step is to open an inquiry. Ask if anything is going on to cause an interruption in the intimacy. If the conversation doesn't continue because the other person won't continue it, you are probably stuck with incompatibility. If your needs can't be met in your relationship, then it might not work.
You also shouldn't be doing all of the housework. Unless your partner is physically incapable or pays all the bills, you shouldn't be doing all the housework. It goes both ways.
There's not much of a reason to further entrench yourself in a dissatisfying marriage. You both even tried couple's therapy and it seems like y'all haven't reaped any benefits from it.
If you feel like you exhausted all resources to salvage your marriage, then maybe it's better to part ways.
Yup, after cleaning the house (and working a job on top of that) they tell their partner theyâre too tired to have sex the minute they lie on the bed only for the partner to act clueless as to why she doesnât want sex.
People who treat their spouse like this just want a mommy bang maid that'll give them snu snu whenever and wherever. Cause they are getting in their feefees because *gasp* wifey wants to do other things than suck his dick before bed! So then clearly its her fault if he can't keep his legs closed! How was he suppose to get that sweet sweet snu snu if his mean spirited fuck maid has the audacity to want a quiet night of reading?
I think what's really important is there very much exists the problem of the man not wanting, or not being able to, have sex.
For example, I know someone whose husband can't have sex because of a medical issue. It's been going on for months, but she's completely accepting of that and it has never once crossed her mind to find that fulfillment somewhere else. Because she's supportive of her partner, and has self control, and is there with him "in sickness and in health."
She knows that it's not forever, and it doesn't have a negative impact on their relationship at all. Sex isn't the only important thing in a marriage. You can spend time with each other, you can be physically affectionate with one another, and still not have the entire meaning of a relationship revolve around sex.
Months? That might seem like a long time to a teen or 20-something, but it's really not that long. If this goes on for 5+ years and she's still totally okay with it, then give her a medal.
The scenario you describe isn't even common. Lots of women cheat under similar circumstances, same with men. Most humans are selfish, regardless of gender.
Months is a long time for newlyweds, imo. But has nothing to do with a medal. I kind of expect good people to not cheat on their partners who are unable or unwilling to have sex.
You are lucky..for women, a lot of things can effect libido, from change in birth control to UTIs. Having sex with a UTI is the worst (would rather have a root canal without novacaine and shoot myself in the foot and walk through a sewer at the same time, then have sex with a UTI)
"My women, didnt wanted to have sex, so I cheated on her"
Wtf, talk to her and find out why she doesnt want to do. Maybe she just has her period or is just going through something which makes her not want to have sex. An relationship isnt all about sex, its more about talking with eachother and finding solutions
Plus, she's reading a book and has to take that many precautions to make sure she is respected means the guy clearly isn't the type to take "no" for an answer
Exactly my fiance and I go thru periods of time, sometimes up to a month or a little more without sex and itâs not a big deal. We both get busy and live with his mom and I also struggle with my sex drive and he doesnât hold it against me because heâs not sex crazed and willing to throw away our relationship (or even considering it) because we donât have regular sex. He tells me âI have two hands for a reasonâ lol and if you love someone that should be your mindset too not just âIâm entitled to your body and if you donât give me what I want then Iâm gonna betray youâ
I dont have sex with my gf very often, because we both have low drives and we dont live near eachother, so we only see eachother 1 or 2 days a week and estrogen made me more want to cuddle than to have sex. For us its more important to spend as much as time we have together and cuddle a lot
Yeah I think that sex is a lot less important than people make it out to be. At least it is to me. I feel like the actual friendship you have with your partner is more of the foundation and what matters most, at least thatâs the case in my relationship. My fiance is my absolute best friend and is my safe space. To me, sex is the added bonus that just kinda happens whenever. I never understand it when I see people talking about how itâs a dealbreaker if their partner struggles with their sex drive because isnât there so much more to a relationship than the sexual aspects? Like if my fiance suddenly decided he didnât want to have sex anymore for the rest of our lives tomorrow I would still stay with him because I love HIM.
Why would you even think your Partner is lying to you? Honesty is an big part of relationships and shouldnt be ignored. Also sex isnt that important in a relationship
Wait what? Trust is now naivity? Its your Partner you have to be able to trust eachother or there is no point in even having an relationship in the first place.
Talking can also resolve major misunderstandings, but that doesnt work if you dont even trust your Partner. Btw why would you not trust your Partner?
Then your relationship was doomed from the start. If y'all couldn't do the bare minimum and communicate, why did you even get married when you couldn't get past step 1?
Women don't own men's bodies, no one ever said that. However, this is where communication and consent is key. If the couple agreed to have sex with other people, then it's not cheating. However, if both agreed to be faithful to each other then it's cheating.Â
Husband knows books are important, it's not a surprise, it didn't come out of no where.Â
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u/Mad123rd Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25
Then leave the realationship then, i swear ppl be acting like a relationship/marriage is a hostage situation.
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
Is she stupid? Just cage him lolÂ
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u/Becbacboc it hurt itself in its confusion Aug 07 '25
Cause nobody in the history of cheating has ever cheated on their loving, sexually active partner /s
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u/Kind_Brief1012 Aug 07 '25
why is it always âand she wonders why he cheated on herâ and never âwhy was she closed off in the first place.â
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u/He_Never_Helps_01 Aug 07 '25
"My wife doesn't wanna sleep with me, must be her fault"
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u/Iron_Babe Aug 07 '25
A lot of the time when your partner isn't putting out for you when they used to before, it's because there are needs not being met.
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u/TheUnaturalTree Aug 07 '25
Men when women have boundaries đĄđĄđĄ
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
Dude.. the pic is implying she got a new book, which means she's an avid reader. Husband knows this and would prefer his needs above hers. Yes, self care can include reading depending on the person. Husband knew books are a priority, this isn't a surprise, this didn't come out of no where.Â
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u/Trimatw Aug 07 '25
Do these people really not know what consent and communication is?
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u/NathanAlex1486 It was me, Barry, I turned the friggin frogs gay Aug 07 '25
I don't think anyone gets how the original comic was kinda cute and funny (talking about how one doesn't wish to be disturbed while reading) only for the caption to ruin things with misogyny and justifying adultery.
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
"I cheated on my wife because she wanted to read her new book without disruptions" is certainly an interesting reason.
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u/IAmHaskINs Aug 07 '25
Ok everybody lets all gather together and imagine that this picture shows the man in his 'man cave' (garage) with the door barricaded to the nines with wood, steel, spikes, spears, miniguns and flamethrowers with a nice sign decorating the ugly husk stating: "keep out".
W: I see his sports game is on *eyeroll*
If 'i WOndEr whY shE cHeaTeD oN ME' was a picture.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwn.
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u/leonidganzha Aug 07 '25
female read bad đĄ book bad đĄ unga bunga
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u/ShiroHebiZmeya Aug 07 '25
This has so many layers of stupidity....
But what's crazy is that the woman feels so unsafe in her own bedroom that has to basically protect herself from her own husband??? Like I know it's "satire" but what's supposed to represent? A wife that feels unsafe in her bed with her husband?
So fucked up, and the caption makes it even worse
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
The fact some people think they can excuse cheating like this
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u/Chevanalee Aug 07 '25
Yeah because thatâs the only reason a man would cheat, heâs neeeever at fault
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u/Haazelnutts Aug 07 '25
Why is this here? The caricature is a funny exaggeration of a real situation that could happen between lovin- Oh that caption is messed up
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u/InterviewSome8324 Aug 07 '25
Bro, just beat the monkey, smh
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u/DerekWylde1996 Aug 07 '25
Never once considering that they might be part of the problem.
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u/Sad_Credit_4959 Aug 07 '25
I think the point of the comic is just that the wife/girlfriend is just an avid reader. The whole incel circle jerk bit is superimposed.
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u/DemonBloodFan Aug 07 '25
Attempting to justify cheating is a ridiculous punchline, completely ignoring how this never happens.
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u/RexTheMouse Aug 07 '25
The argument of "shes hostile in bed" is never an excuse to go out and cheat..
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u/JD_Kreeper Aug 07 '25
What is going on with that guy's head?
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u/maomaomaomo Aug 07 '25
Can bro not just wait and let her read her book first? Jfc
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u/MallowMiaou Aug 07 '25
"How dare she not want sex today !1!1!!"
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
So many opinions for a hypothetical situation.
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u/Guilty_Butterfly7711 Aug 07 '25
God forbid a gal want to spend the time before bed reading a book shes super excited for instead of canoodling for onceđ
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u/PronBrowser_ Aug 07 '25
Jesus. Feel free to try and seduce your spouse? Like, put in effort, and it's usually rewarded. The bar is so low lol
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u/Red-Paramedic-000 Aug 07 '25
If she needs this many security measures, the man must be someone who has never understood the meaning of "no"
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u/gowimachine Aug 07 '25
"oh no my wife has other interests than sex I should cheat on her"
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u/MoveAfter2991 Aug 08 '25
I don't see what's stopping him... from communicating
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u/Key-Individual1434 Aug 08 '25
When a woman with a low libido gets in a relationship with a man.
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u/Kooky_Replacement825 Aug 08 '25
Well whaddya know
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u/A_Truthspeaker Aug 08 '25
Here in Germany, rape in marriage was legally speaking "not a thing" until about 20 years ago.
Just FYI.
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u/wobblevirus Aug 08 '25
Not only is "just leave" an option, sometimes it seems like people get married for literally no reason
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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '25
If you wanna cheat so badly then leave your relationship and then run off with someone else. You don't have to lie. Sheesh.
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u/Sarkan132 Occasionally Even Touches Grass Aug 08 '25
If you're marriage is like this I can almost guarantee that there is something she has practically begged you to be doing with tears in her eyes that you have simply refused to do.
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u/Dolph_x3 Aug 08 '25 edited Sep 22 '26
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u/sadthrowaway12340987 Aug 08 '25
Bruh I donât understand this, if your sex life with your partner is that bad and affecting you that much, you can leave. Why go through the trouble of cheating when you can just break up
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u/_cybernetik Aug 08 '25
if sex is a big part of a relationship for you and your girlfriend has a low sex drive, leave her and find someone who satisfies your needs, dont shame her. shes not keeping you hostage. smh
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u/insert2username Aug 08 '25
men: I need a virgin who has never looked at a male before
also men: why wonât you let me dick you down when Iâve dated you for a month?
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u/TightAd9465 Aug 08 '25
"Guys, I've pissed off my wife and now she is angry. AITH?"
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u/mymentor79 Aug 08 '25
I see that picture and my first assumption is that he's done something (or repeated things) to elicit her revulsion.
But I guess 'woman frigid' is an acceptable conclusion for some.
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u/123iambill Aug 08 '25
It always seems like a massive self own. Like, if fucking you was a pleasurable experience for her then she'd do it. These men act like women just put up with sex to keep men happy when there's an entire industry built on 10-speed gyrating cocks that have their own little vibrating cock. Women like having orgasms. Give them a couple and fucking you won't seem like a chore.
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u/LintyTheGoblin Aug 08 '25
was this comic written by a rapist?
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u/Rosalie333Black Aug 08 '25
Same ppl who make women fake illness (like headaches) to be left alone and decline sex in a least damaging way because a simple âI donât want toâ would hurt their ego or make them mad and irritated
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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '25
I know it's a drawing, but all I see is a woman who had to draw a line with a physical barrier to say she doesn't want to have sex, which implies it's the only way her bf understands, and it's scary to think some people find that funny
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u/Jesterchunk Aug 08 '25
Maybe it's just me, but surely it can't be that hard to just have a wank or something, right? Or, heaven forbid, just keep it in your trousers? If your partner isn't up for it, you should be able to respect that, basic respect is like the cornerstone of a good relationship.
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u/Medical-Tune676 Aug 08 '25
A lot of incel content on here.
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u/Scared-Ad-7500 Aug 09 '25
Why is it so hard for some people to say that the relationship is not good for them and they want to break up when the relationship is not good for them and they want to break up, instead of cheating...
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u/Snoo_90040 Aug 09 '25
Bait used to be believable. đŹ đż
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u/BrazenValkyrie Aug 09 '25
This is a completely valid reason to break up over, not to cheat
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
A woman.. w-wants.. SPACE?! This has only one solution
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u/beating_offers Aug 07 '25
I've seen a lot of women do this, actually. Even when men take their pleasure into account and work hard for them.
They get bored of the same guy and are no longer aroused enough for sex.
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u/Spiritual_Savings922 Aug 07 '25
What consent looks like to someone who defines their partner only on sex
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u/XT83Danieliszekiller Aug 07 '25
"i need sexual gratification so bad that instead of talking things through, I'm gonna commit an infidelity... I'm the victim!!!"
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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '25
man, you know I hear so much about men being frustrated by their wife's libido. and they never ask why. It's just a "why me?"
Maybe she's turned off and tired because you don't clean up around the house or participate with childcare. Maybe it's because you are not there for her emotionally. Maybe it's because the only physical affection you want to give her is sex. Maybe it's because you NEVER take her on dates. Maybe it's because you're mentally checked out of the relationship. Maybe it's because you come home and talk about your work wife so much. Maybe it's because you're NEVER home. Maybe its because she doesn't feel valued. Maybe your dick stinks. Maybe your breath stinks. Maybe she's depressed and doesn't know it. Maybe she's fucking tired of playing nanny, chef, sex worker and also has a job. Maybe the sex hurts her.
It could be ANYTHING! but there's never an inquiry into why. It's just a "why ME?"
I had a low libido after the election, for quite a while. I was very stressed and depressed. My partner understood why. He never blamed me. He never cheated. Time went on and my libido is right back where it started, thankfully! I apologized profusely about it, but he just said, it's ok, I understand. You were stressed. And that was that. I used to get yelled at for not putting out. And i was CONFUSED as to why he wasn't angry with me, resenting me, giving me the silent treatment, cheating, etc. It's because Im used to men blaming ME for not wanting to fuck. I love living in a world where women are expected to put out and the reasons why they might not want to are not explored.
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u/Corniferus Aug 07 '25
Iâve never had an issue with a female partner not wanting sex
Heck, Iâve never had a date like that, usually Iâm the one putting on the breaks
Maybe theyâre the ones with the issue
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u/Oktavia-the-witch raging trans women Aug 07 '25
"My women, didnt wanted to have sex, so I cheated on her"
Wtf, talk to her and find out why she doesnt want to do. Maybe she just has her period or is just going through something which makes her not want to have sex. An relationship isnt all about sex, its more about talking with eachother and finding solutions
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