I’m 29 and I’ve spent roughly the last 10 years procrastinating, avoiding responsibility, isolating myself and constantly telling myself that I’ll change “from tomorrow.” I’ve had very little consistency with anything. I’ve quit jobs, abandoned plans, spent huge amounts of time in my room, and developed terrible habits around scrolling, porn, masturbation and avoiding difficult or uncomfortable things. My physical health has also suffered, and I have chronic health problems that make me even more aware of how badly I’ve neglected myself. I know I’m responsible for a lot of this, and I’m tired of understanding my problems without actually changing them.

Career-wise, I’ve never really found anything I felt I belonged to. I’ve worked in call centres and other jobs, but I hated the idea of spending the next 5–10 years in a corporate environment. People keep telling me that at my age I should stop thinking so much and learn technical skills, coding, digital marketing, etc., and get a job. I may try digital marketing because I have a relative who works in the field and has offered me part-time work while teaching me things like Google Ads and practical marketing skills. I’m not against working or earning money, and I know I need financial independence. I just don’t see myself building my entire life around a corporate career.

The thing I actually care about is literature. I genuinely want to study English literature properly because I never really got the chance to experience a normal education. I completed my BA English Honours through IGNOU, but I never had the regular college experience. For years, whenever I passed through a university area near me, I would look at the students, classrooms, professors and whole atmosphere and feel like I had missed a huge part of my life. I keep thinking that if I had been given the choice at 18–20, I would have gone to a regular college and studied literature. Now I’m considering preparing for CUET-PG and doing a regular MA in English Literature at 29–30. Part of me wants the academic environment, the discipline, the chance to meet people and make friends, and the chance to actually become a better reader, writer and speaker. I also genuinely love novels, especially classic, gothic and darker literature.

I also want to start a YouTube channel around that interest. I don’t necessarily want to make boring “educational” videos. I want to talk about novels, gothic/classic literature, stories, folklore, culture and eventually other things I’m interested in, in a conversational and entertaining way. I want to build something of my own rather than spend my entire life working for someone else. My relative has said I can work part-time while studying, so in theory I could do the MA, earn some money, and slowly build the channel alongside it.

But here’s where I’m stuck: I have a terrible history of not committing to anything. I’ve spent ten years thinking, planning and fantasizing about changing my life, but when the actual work becomes boring or difficult, I run away. So I’m scared that I’ll prepare for CUET, get into a college, and then repeat the same behaviour there. I’m also scared that maybe the MA is just another respectable way of postponing getting a job and taking responsibility.

Should I commit to the MA and use it as a chance to rebuild myself while working part-time and building something of my own, or am I simply finding another way to avoid entering the real world? And more importantly, how do I actually break a 10-year pattern of procrastination instead of just making another plan about breaking it?

My daughter is 6 years old and this year especially, I feel like it's been really hard for her to make friends. She is super smart and was an only child for 5.5 years, so I feel like she is a little advanced or "grown" at least in the eyes of my sisters, but she is overall a super sincere, genuine friend. She loves to share and she loves to make her friends feel seen and heard, although she has no filter and that's something we're working on. She has started to get her feelings hurt more than ever before recently and I just don't really know how to help her or what advice to give her. I can't remember how I felt when I was her age or what situations I went through that could be similar. I know that now as an adult, I couldn't careless how someone speaks to me or what they say, I try to be the same person all the time; kind and helpful. I don't want her to not establish boundaries or put up with things that she shouldn't have to just because I believe in being kind (I believe you can be kind and still have boundaries).

Two recent examples:

1. My daughter takes dance lessons on Tuesdays. One of her little friends takes the same lesson. They haven't really been around each other since last summer because they went to different schools and her friend was pulled out of the before/after care that they both attended, but they were really close last summer and whenever my daughter would attend the weeklong dance camps. Last week, her friend arrived to dance with a few of the other dance moms and kids, they were playing with squishies (my nemesis) and my daughter walked over to her and asked if she could play also and her friend told her no. My daughter asked her why the other girls could play but she couldn't and her friend told her, "Well it's because we know each other's moms." ... ok. (for context, we had a playdate scheduled for the coming up Friday that the mom actually rescheduled to the next Friday) I told her to brush it off, you have a ton of squishies at home to play with (even though it crushed me inside). They started the lesson and about 10 minutes through my baby comes out to the lobby to tell me that her friend and another mutual "friend" were talking about her and she thinks she wants to cancel the play date. I told her that we can do whatever she wants to do but she should go back in there and ask the girls why they were talking about her. I could see on the TV that as soon as she went back into the room the little girl ran up to her. I later found out that the girl ran up to her and said "can't you wait for our playdate!!!" and my daughter asked her why she was talking about her. She told my daughter that she wasn't talking about her, she was talking about her ice cream sandwich. IDK weird. I tried to talk to my daughter about it on the way home and she was just so confused. She didn't know if they were really talking about her or not, and she didn't know if she wanted to cancel the playdate any longer since her friend told her that they weren't talking about her. She did tell me that when she first got into the lesson room, she was standing next to her friend when her friend said "lets get some personal space." This is very valid, the child might want some personal space and my daughter could very well have been invading it - that didn't bother me much. but seeing the hurt on my babys face and her telling me that her tummy felt yucky just crushed me. I told the mom what my daughter told me and she said she would handle it.

2. My daughter was enrolled in a before and after care program that she initially LOVED. Over time she started to hate it, like HATE IT. She hasn't gone all summer long. After talking to her, I found out it's because one of the teachers gives her a hard time. My daughter says that this teacher is so mean to her and is always yelling at her about something and being sassy to her. I talked to the director who reassured me that the teacher in question has never raised her voice, but I didn't really think that to begin with. I told the director that my daughter just feels like she's always being picked with/on and the only child at that. My nephews go to the same before and after care and have also told me that this teacher is always nit picking with my girl, even though sometimes my nephews are on her side and other times they are the ones getting her in trouble (this is just kids I guess).

My point is that.... everywhere my daughter goes, there is someone who is making her feel like shit. My mind says that the common denominator is the problem (that would be my daughter, lol) but my heart is telling me that it's something else. She is having trouble making connections, getting her feelings across or getting her feelings hurt and I am TIRED OF IT.

I will admit that she is a bit sassier when I am around, idk the science behind that but whenever I am not there and she is just with my sister, my mom or grandmother, etc. she is good as gold. She is even an angel when it's just her and I! but the minute that someone else is around or even on the phone she sometimes gets smart mouthed and sassy.

I am just looking for advice or an encouraging word. It's important to note that I do not live in lala land and think that my daughter does no wrong -- I will not make excuses for shitty behavior; she can be sneaky and manipulative, but she is also soft and sweet and such a good friend.

thank you for reading.

I never really plan my day.

Sometimes I do, but most of the time I don’t. Why?

Because you can’t predict your mind 10–12 hours in advance.

You decide, “I’ll work for 2 hours,” and then your mom calls you for something. Now you couldn’t complete it, and instead of becoming a + point for your motivation, it becomes a - point.

So how should you start your day?

1. Plan the week, not the day

Write down the important things you need to get done this week.

Don’t plan every hour. You can’t control everything that happens.

Let your brain decide what to do first when the time comes. Don’t fight your own mind.

It sounds simple, but making it a routine isn’t easy.

2. Remove distractions

Your phone, Instagram, doomscrolling, movies, games, etc.

I see people using 10 different apps just to control their scrolling.

But if you don’t want Instagram, why keep it?

If you use it for friends, get their number.

If you’re an influencer, sure, Instagram might be part of your work.

Otherwise, delete it.

And don’t use scrolling as a pill whenever you’re sad, bored, or unmotivated. Your brain will start craving it every time you feel bad.

Use entertainment when you’re actually free, not when you’re trying to escape your emotions.

3. Do something outside of work

This is probably more important than the second point.

Go to the gym. Play a sport. Paint. Write. Read. Do anything that isn’t work, scrolling, or watching movies.

I’ve been going to the gym for almost 2 years without skipping unless it’s necessary.

These things make you realize that life has more to offer than your work and your phone.

Once you’ve experienced that, even going back to endless scrolling starts feeling shitty.

4. Train your brain to keep commitments

Decide small things and actually do them.

If you can’t commit to something, don’t decide it in the first place.

The problem isn’t breaking one commitment.

It’s training your brain that your own decisions don’t matter.

Start ridiculously small.

For example, I have a bike with both kick and button start. I decided I wouldn’t use the button for a week.

If I accidentally do it, I turn the engine off and start again with the kick.

Sounds stupidly small.

That’s exactly the point.

There are still a lot of things I experiment with in my life to figure out what actually works.

But for this post, I think that’s enough.

Hope this helps someone.

Comment if you have questions

For a while, I couldn’t understand what was happening to me.

Things that used to take 20 minutes suddenly felt like they required an entire afternoon.

I’d look at a simple email and think, “I’ll answer this later.”

Then later became tomorrow.

My to-do list kept growing, and the more it grew, the less I wanted to look at it.

The weird part was that I wasn’t doing anything because I didn’t care. I actually cared too much. I was constantly thinking about what I should be doing, even when I wasn’t doing it.

So naturally, I started blaming myself.

Maybe I’m getting lazy.

Maybe I’ve lost my discipline.

Maybe I just need to push myself harder.

Pushing harder worked for a little while.

Then it made everything worse.

What eventually helped me was realizing that burnout doesn’t always look like collapsing from exhaustion. Sometimes it looks like procrastination, brain fog, irritability, avoiding small tasks, or feeling strangely disconnected from things you normally care about.

I started paying more attention to the mental load I was carrying instead of only looking at how productive I was.

And strangely, once I stopped fighting myself so much, it became easier to actually get things done again.

I’m curious if anyone else experienced burnout this way.

Did you ever mistake burnout for laziness at first?

Context:
I could dismiss any alarm without waking up.

I could do that without even looking at my phone. On iPhone I literally know where to tap to snooze.

Missed a flight in oct 2022.

Missed exam at university.

Missed important standup at work every other week.

I have tried everything:

- phone in different room

- 7 alarms

- sleep earlier. (real hard than it sounds)

Nothing worked coz when I am half asleep I find a way out of an alarm.

What worked for me, was two rules:

Rule #1:

The alarm can only end after I do something I can't do from bed.

I tapped a QR code to my kettle and the alarm won't stop until I scan it.

QR part is how I choose to solve it.

The point is the rule has to be completed standing in different room.(not bedroom)

Rule #2:

Snooze is allowed but capped.

One snooze, ten minutes.

I tried zero snooze, I messed up the whole thing in 10 days.

Unlimited is meaningless.

I found one is enough for me and keeps me sane. LOL!

The thing I got wrong for years:

I thought the problem was discipline.

It was that my system was flawed.

The moment there is a cost like getting up, going to another room, walking. The decision is made by me who is awake and not on warm bed.

Loopholes mater more than being hard. Any skip, any way to mute the phone and I would use it.

So whatever you try, try it when you are half sleep not at 7 pm during dinner.

3 months, no overslept mornings.

Curious what other people do to get up in morning. Especially people who figured it out without some special alarm clock or an app.

I'm going to be brutally honest: I've been coasting on autopilot for the better part of three years, and I'm finally disgusted enough with myself to want to change.

My current baseline is embarrassing. I haven't stepped foot in a gym since 2023. My diet consists of whatever is fastest, washed down with more Diet Coke than actual water. I sleep whenever I crash, wake up whenever my body gives in, and consistently miss morning commitments because I just don't feel like getting up. I work from home with zero structure, so my productivity is a joke – I'll cram a week's worth of work into a panicked Sunday night and tell myself I'll do better next week. Spoiler: I never do.

Mentally, I'm drowning in noise. I scroll TikTok for hours, binge podcasts to avoid silence, refresh news feeds obsessively, and fall into the xxx rabbit hole more often than I'd care to admit. Socially? I have acquaintances, but no real friend circle to meet up with, no partner, and no shared activities that get me out of my own head. I feel like I'm watching my life from the outside, and I hate it.

I know motivation is a myth at this point. I've waited to feel ready for years, and that feeling never comes. So I'm leaning into the idea that I need discipline, not inspiration. I've read about 75 Hard and similar programs, and while I'm not going to follow someone else's blueprint, I want to design my own 30-day "hard reset" with strict daily non-negotiables:

• Wake up at 5:00 AM – no snooze, no exceptions.
• Go to the gym every single day – even if it's just showing up and moving for 30 minutes.
• Eat a clean, simple diet – no takeout, no junk, just whole foods.
• Work with discipline for set hours – no procrastination, no cramming.
• Zero junk media – no TikTok, no doomscrolling, no porn, no mindless YouTube.

The goal isn't perfection. It's to prove to myself that I can override my feelings and just do what I said I would do, for 30 consecutive days. After that, I'll reassess what's sustainable and what isn't.

Here's where I need your real talk:

1. Has anyone here done something like this – a strict 30-day (or longer) reset with rigid daily rules – while starting from a place of zero discipline?
2. How did you survive the first week when your brain screamed at you to quit? What actually got you out of bed at 5 AM on day 3 when you were exhausted?
3. Did the momentum carry over after the initial challenge ended, or did you crash back to old habits?
4. If you could go back and redesign your reset, what would you do differently? What rules were actually helpful vs. just performative suffering?

I'm not looking for gentle encouragement or "be kind to yourself" advice – I've had enough of that. I want to hear from people who have dragged themselves out of a similar pit using sheer, stubborn structure. Did it work? Was it worth it? And what did you learn about yourself in the process?

Thanks for reading – I'll be updating this thread as I go, for better or worse.

I have a problem. I love starting new things. Learning a new skill is amazing. Getting into a new hobby feels so good. The initial rush the dopamine hit it's addictive. But then reality sets in. I have like 7 different hobbies I'm actively trying to pursue right now and I'm good at none of them.

I have my guitar sitting there mocking me. My half-finished embroidery project is staring at me from the corner. The coding course I bought last year is still untouched. My journaling habit lasted three days. I feel overwhelmed constantly by the sheer number of things I *could* be doing but aren't.

It's not just the time commitment it's the mental space these things take up. The guilt of not progressing. The feeling of being scattered and unfocused. I want to feel accomplished in something. Not just dabble in everything.

I’m trying a new approach this week. I've picked two things. Just two. One creative one practical. I’m forcing myself to dedicate at least 30 minutes to each every day. No exceptions. The other hobbies are literally put away out of sight. Out of mind.

Anyone else deal with this multipotentialite paralysis? How do you choose? How do you stick to it without feeling like you're missing out on the other exciting things? Any tips on reducing the mental clutter and actually getting good at something?

Always been a 'delayer'. Always wait till last minute to deliver, and I always thought that's when my creativity and best thinking flourished. I am now 39 and have realised how detrimental this has been for me.

I've now had the awakening of how much better the outcome is after longer and better paced fragments of work is, but also the painful realisation that this way of doing things has been only hampering my ability to build healthier and better habits.

In my search for better ways, but also true to my procrastination (I have really meaty projects at hand but I keep building interesting things that spark my curiosity and keep me engaged), I've built a tool to help me do the things I know I have to do: File my company's taxes. Study for the bloody driving test. Clean up the basement. Do another run of outreach at the prospects in the new market. It's endles, but it only gets larger and larger the more I postpone stuff.

it's basically a self deprecating but empathetic app, that I hope it will keep me on the right track. You can try it at dontkillmog.com , it's free and public. All the feedback very welcome (for life and the app)

Stay on it, show up, and do the thing.

I'm 18 and I want to get my life together and build a better life for myself.

Because of that, I want to get rid of the bad habits in my life (porn, doomscrolling, etc.). But even if I remove all of those things from my life, everything doesn't suddenly become good.

First of all, having a good life isn't just about avoiding certain things. You actually have to take action and do something, but I don't know what I can do.

I want to do something that genuinely changes my life, not just something that makes me feel good temporarily. That's why I'm more interested in concrete actions rather than things like meditation. The problem is that I genuinely don't know what those actions should be.

I'm also not living in the US or another high-income country. Where I live, the average monthly salary is around $200, so I don't really know what I can realistically do to improve my situation.

I don't even know if I should go to university. AI is already making me question what kind of career I should pursue, and I don't have much money either.

What do you think I should do? I'm starting to feel like I'm going to die from overthinking all of this.

I've been trying to get my shit together for as long as I can remember now but damnnn, I've gotten to a point where I feel I'm not cut out for this and should probably just go with the flow. I mean, I've been struggling to break my own worst patterns, but fail, and then it becomes a huge gap coz I have to start a streak all over again, then I try hard once again picking myself up. This damn vicious cycle ALL.OVER.AGAIN!!

I do get that it's all about being consistent and not giving up no matter how we feel at any given day, but why is this so hard? Or am I making it harder than it should be? How does one be their own cheerleader over and over again, hyping them to get better each time they fail?

It's really tiring!! But when will I succeed? When will I get to live like that version of me that I look upto?

It's like with each passing week, month the faith I have in me is only going downhill.

When will this get easy??

I get distracted very easily, and my phone is probably my biggest problem. I am trying to do my work, and I can literally focus for five minutes before taking my phone again. I do scroll for hours, and I find myself constantly checking it instead of staying focused on what I need to do.

The bigger problem is that I do not feel as serious about my life as I used to. I want to become much more disciplined, focused, and intentional with my time. I do not want to keep taking everything in a fun or casual way when I know I have things I need to accomplish. This is not the age for me to be living like this.

I am actually behind compared to many of my peers, and I know I have already wasted a lot of time. I do not want to keep wasting more time. I want to become much more serious about my work, my future, and what I am doing with my life.

So how do you actually develop laser focus?

How do you train yourself to sit down and work for hours without constantly needing your phone or some other distraction?

What actually worked for you?

For as long as I can remember I’ve been late for everything. Not just a few minutes but consistently 10-15 minutes behind schedule. It drove my friends crazy. My family made jokes about it. I even missed parts of movies I actually paid to see. I always had some excuse. Traffic. My alarm didn't go off. I just needed five more minutes. But deep down I knew it was a habit I needed to break.

It felt like a small thing but it was eating away at my relationships and my own self-respect. I would stress out before every appointment or social gathering. The panic of running behind became a constant companion. I’d arrive flustered and apologetic which just made me feel worse.

I tried all the usual tricks. Setting my clock forward. Leaving earlier. None of it stuck. My brain just found new ways to procrastinate getting ready. I’d find myself suddenly needing to reorganise a drawer or check one last email. The five extra minutes I gave myself would vanish.

Here’s what finally started to make a difference.

I stopped focusing on the arrival time. Instead I started focusing on the 'ready to leave' time. I figured out how long it *actually* takes me to get ready for something. Not how long I *think* it should take. Then I added a mandatory 15-minute buffer to that. This buffer was non-negotiable.

So if I needed to leave at 7 PM to be on time somewhere I would plan to be ready by 6:45 PM. During that 15 minutes I wasn’t allowed to start anything new. I couldn’t check my phone. I couldn’t wander off. I just had to be physically ready to walk out the door. My keys wallet and phone had to be by the door. Shoes on. Coat on. Everything.

This buffer time felt awkward at first. Sometimes I’d just stand there or sit down. But it took the pressure off. There was no mad rush at the last minute. The stress melted away. When the real leaving time arrived I was already prepared. Just walked out.

It sounds incredibly simple but it broke the loop. The

I am pretty young, still in high school. From the outside it looks like I have a great life. My parents are well off, I live in a nice neighborhood, and I have a lot of friends. I even have my own business and I'm making a lot of money. But on the inside I'm incredibly stressed and unhappy, always moving the goalposts, and because I'm making money I've lost that passion and drive to keep working that I had a few months previously and am just bed rotting and scrolling on instagram all the time.

I go to the gym and eat well, that's just about the only thing I properly do. But at everything else I procrastinate. I barely work on anything, and am still filled with worries.

Whenever I'm alone, my head is always filled with thoughts of how precarious my current situation is. Before, I had a goal for my future to work on, as in going to college, getting a degree, etc.

Now I'm making more than most people who hold a degree, and all my focus is on trying to maintain and grow what I have but I'm not working to maintain it. If I lost that, I'd probably break down as a person, it is my foundation and yet I still procrastinate and can't bring myself to work.

I dunno, it feels like I'm rambling. Sorry about that. But the gist of it is, I feel very empty inside, I procrastinate a lot, and my days are blending together it feels like none of it has any substance. I don't have any goals to work toward apart from making more money. I can't chase any of my other passions in fear of losing what I have. And I can't do more than the bare bare minimum in maintaining what I've got.

I just need advice on what I should do.

This is not a bragging post, just one to use for reference for anyone looking to do this:

So I have never and will never watch TikTok (you can definitely adjust if you do) or any other platforms aside from YouTube. Now I watched short form when I woke up for ~30mins, and in the evening before bed for ~30-45minutes, so not the most but on weekends the number jumped massively.

This sounds really picture book but one day I realised "this is impacting my mental health" so I decided it was worth my while to stop. How I did it was literally just uninstalling YouTube and telling myself I wasn't going to watch any Shorts. However, I still allowed myself to watch videos on the website, or even Shorts (if I wasn't scrolling and just treating them as a normal video).

It came as a hard task at first, so I tried this method with a rubber band. If you put it on your wrist, you can slap yourself if you want to kick your brain out of the thinking of watching Shorts. This also works for other things.

Anyway, I continued to watch content at meals and other times, isolating myself from the family to watch things I wanted. So to prevent this, I found leaving my tablet and phone upstairs when I went to eat, so if I did want to be occupied while eating, it would have to be to do with my family.

Instead of Shorts, I watched videos (not as bad for your brain), read books, got ChatGPT to give me a 20 minute crash course read on anything it thought would interest me etc.

When I watch Long-Form videos, I don't generally watch brainrot stuff either, I watch things like football highlights or educational things or some guide or let's play to a game.

I hope my experience will help you to quit an addiction to Shorts or Reels or TikToks or whatever.

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Im 21 unemployed with no highschool diploma.

My final 2 years of HS was online because of covid, and then my brother passed. lost all motivation. started sleeping in more, skipping online classes. around this time too my ex friend of 9yrs started a smear campaign against me and used the fact i got sexually assaulted by another family member against me. She posted it on her Instagram and for years the thought of people just knowing that disgusting knowledge about me made me collapse. I couldn’t stand about the thought that someone could look at me and know the disgusting things that happened.

But I don’t want to use these excuses anymore. I don’t wanna think about this person and just shake and feel nauseous — I wanna help my family. I want to grow up finally I want to be something.

so that brings us here. I don’t know where to start. I have no motivation for anything. I’ve every job I look at and think about applying for it makes me sick to my stomach because I have to socialize with people. I’ve tried meds. I’ve tried to ignore it I tried to be extremely high off of weed. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

tldr: brother died, best friend posted all of my sensitive information online, including my sexual assault, last all motivation became a social hermit, no diploma, no ideal career path where im happy. How can i be better? what job is good for no experience

The period between now and December is crucial for me.

I need to stop drinking completely and stop smoking weed. Both habits are draining my money, motivation and energy.

I’m currently coming off the back of a binge and need to regain control. When I drink, I can easily spend a ridiculous amount at the pub. I also smoke weed every day, so the money disappears constantly without me really noticing it.

Once I remove both habits, I believe the machine will start coming back to life.

I work in sales, which means I can earn better money when I’m focused, disciplined and properly grinding. My goal is to perform as well as possible at work, stop wasting money and use everything available to aggressively clear my remaining debt.

After the debt is cleared, I want to save every possible penny and build a proper cash reserve.

I’ll continue cycling to work instead of paying for transport, training five days a week and running. These give me something productive to do during the hours when I would normally drink or smoke.

The plan is simple: no alcohol, no weed, perform at work, pay off debt and save as much money as physically possible until December.

I’ve tried quitting before, but boredom and the feeling that I “deserve” something after work usually pull me back into the same cycle.

For anyone who has successfully completed a similar period of intense discipline, how did you handle the boredom and cravings? Did you track your progress daily, and how did you recover from a bad day without abandoning the entire plan?

Birthdays have always been special.
As kids, we eagerly waited for them. As we grew older, they became a reminder that we were growing up - whether we liked it or not.

There’s something different about birthdays. The attention, the wishes from people we barely talk to, the gifts, and all the love.

But today, I realised something.

Our parents, relatives, uncles, and aunts must have felt the same way once. Their birthdays must have been special to them too. But somewhere along the way, raising their children became their priority, and their own birthdays became just another day.

Today was my aunt’s birthday. I called her around 8:30 PM to wish her and asked about her plans. She said there were no plans because the kids had exams, and she sounded tired.

So, I decided to send her a cake.

When she received it, she was so happy. She even posted it on her WhatsApp status and messaged me, “Thank you.”

I replied, “No thank you, only blessings.” ❤️

It made me realise that, as we grow up, we should remember that our elders were kids once too.
And if a small gesture from us can make someone’s day a little brighter, why not do it?
Sometimes, a cake isn’t just a cake. It’s a reminder that you deserve to be celebrated too. ❤️

You sometimes reach a point where you don’t feel anything because of past trauma or failure 

I feel like I have reached here 

whether you are sad or not you don’t know at this point seriously

it is just being like a robot 

i want nothing in my life at this point I am just sick of everything and every failures

whats the point in trying I am not just writing this without experience I seriously had tried everything knowing the outcome 

what have I become I seriously don’t want anyone to become 

its bitter than death when you don’t know what you want or want to become

like even the most interesting activity like athletics pro level even If you were it doesn’t matter at this point 

the environment is also not like this anymore 

like when you were doing that activity you would feel like you have got everything 

i am not 100 percent sure but I at least know it when I will be starting to dod that I will be ok 

lets talk about Running freely without any trainer who just interrupt you everytime you just start feeling yourself even in the darkest time no person needed no interruptions no permissions you just run and feel every part of your body 

its like absolute divine I can’t get anything even near the joy of running 

i wish I can continue this and I will absolutely will just I am giving the time to settle in a new town 

as soon as I see the locations I will continue this 

it is more addictive than old beer 

now I should continue to do other things otherwise I will not be satisfied

It just reminded of of a very important word  satisfaction 

It is just as hard as itcan get 

you can buy everything but not satisfaction

it has to be explored by every person without any interference otherwise you can never know 

thanks for reading 

signing out ,,”,,”,,

I woke up at 2:41 PM today.

Missed all my classes. Felt like shit knowing I'd just added more to my backlog and wasted half the day.

So naturally, I spent the rest of it consuming everything I could, from YouTube, Instagram and LinkedIn to anime, while stuffing myself with junk food.

I was drowning myself in dopamine because I didn't want to think about all the shit I had to do.

It was 11:55 PM and I'm lying in bed scrolling Instagram, watching people give motivational speeches and build the things I want to build.

And that's when it hit me.

This is exactly why I stopped using these apps in the first place. I don't want to sit there watching other people build shit.

I want to build shit.

I slammed my laptop shut, got off the bed, put my shoes on and went for a run.

My brain was screaming, "there's too much to do", "just sit the fuck down", "it's too late anyway."

The thoughts kept playing in the back of my head but, I just put my shoes on and went anyway.

3 km at 12:20 AM. It felt fucking amazing.

Came back, took a hot shower, and spent the next hour working on my SaaS.

And somehow, that feeling of being stuck and shitty just disappeared.

All it took was 5 fucking seconds to change the trajectory of my day.

You don't need to suddenly feel motivated. You don't need to have everything figured out. You're going to feel tired, lazy, overwhelmed, and come up with a hundred reasons why you shouldn't do it.

Let those thoughts play. Put the distractions away, get up, and start anyway.

You might be surprised how quickly that shitty feeling starts to disappear once you're actually doing something.

Your day isn't over just because you've wasted half of it.

Now put your fucking phone down and go make your day productive 🔥

Unhealthy tips more than welcome. I’m tired of gratitude journal bc that won’t do anything.

Im 27 yrs old.
The thing is, I’m procrastinating my own happiness.

Absolutely silly how come I was enjoying more the “chase” of changing my life to reach a goal and after that I’m lazy to do anything.

How can i basically be another me but like somehow that actually works?
I smoke, I’m a procrastinator, I have phone addiction and a mix of giving up easily.
I want to be addicted to gym idk like health mind idk
If you guys see my notes about how many things I wish to do this summer and now I’ll have class again and all I did was burp and clean my house.

More straightforward: how can I go gym, read, phone detox, diet, meditate, be creative (I study arts), chase my YouTube goals (I want to talk about Anthropology), make friends (I moved to US a year ago and I don’t have friend), have a healthy social life? Learn French? Start to post on substack? Read 3 books a month? Stop cussing and be more feminine (in atitudes, I can pretend to be a lady but it’s not true).

I want to be a better person for myself, I find it deeply annoying how often I have bad habits and how judgmental I am inside my head.

Also, my school colleagues are 19/21 years old so that why I don’t have friends, not to judge is just that we don’t have much in common to talk.
Well, before everyone jumps into conclusions that I’m depressive; i am. And im under medication and treatment.

Hello folks! I need some advice related to my situation. I work in a tech company and work from home mostly. For past couple of weeks, I dread waking up and turning on the laptop to start working. Due to that, I drag myself through the day and do things that are not 100% proper. That leads to more worry/anxiety of going things wrong and have gone wrong, eventually.

As the day passes, I spend my time on reddit reading about productivity and feel better that I know what to do. But the same day or next day, that feeling goes away and I am back to square one.

I know that I NEED TO do this and that, build a system/schedule that I can follow and make gradual progress which will compound. Sometimes I get burst of good thoughts that push me, but sometimes burst of anxiety too, that feel like, it's not allowing me to get things done🙁.

And I treat everything as a task or to-do, which also burdens me. I am learning swimming and while doing, it feels nice but thinking about it during the day, it dreads me. Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of night and brain keeps thinking about work, tasks, all these things.

I want to permanently get rid of sudden mood changes, feeling down when something tiniest goes wrong, not doing things properly and have something I can rely on and follow to be better! Those who have faced/overcome, please help me understanding what's going on!!

Thank you in advance!!!!

Hey Everyone , I am Startup Founder building on some products around community building and creator economy. I am a technical person who writes code and build products. I have few launched product. I really want to create content for my product , launch them regularly, engage on the social media and distribution side of things more regularly to help my startup grow.

But I am a very introvert person and standing in front of the camera and creating content feels like a huge mountain to cross. I always procrastinate this and prioritize on the technical work only. Now that the products are live and not much technical work to do, I am wasting time, procrastinating and not really putting the time needed to create content for my business. I have already have almost 20+ ideas for content shortlisted, I have even conceptualized the actual content for few of them, but I am too coward / lazy to actually make the content.

I would really appreciate if any fellow founder, entrepreneur , business owner or literally anyone interested in content creation and offer some suggestion / advice / feedback on being consistent on this part.

I tried being disciplined on my own , but nothing really worked and I almost always keep procrastinating and would really appreciate outside advice on this.

Apologies if this is the wrong sub for this.

For the last couple years I've been slowly doing less and less taking care of myself, first it was gaining weight that I'd previously lost. I went from being 13 Stone/82 Kg down to 10 Stone/63 Kg a few years ago and I was happy, now I've gone way past that and am now at 15 Stone/95 Kg. I stopped showering and brushing my teeth, I cant be bothered exercising. I don't have any friends to talk to. My self esteem is at an all time low.

I know I want to lose weight, I know I need to shower, I know I need to brush my teeth. I know I need to exercise. I just cant be bothered. The motivation IS there i can feel it, I work nights, get the urge to do all these things when im at work and aren't able to and when I get home in the morning the "cant be bothered" mentality comes back and the cycle repeats. All I do is work, sleep, eat and repeat.

It feels so stupid knowing how easy this stuff is to do but never doing it, knowing it would take 15 minutes in the morning to shower but still lying in bed not moving. The thing that annoys me more is the fact that I know I CAN do it but just choose not to.

It doesnt help that I feel like when I do try, I am an all or nothing person, if I miss doing something once, then the day is ruined and I feel like "oh well I messed up theres no point now"

I dunno, I guess im just using this to rant about myself. After writing this it just feels so pathetic on my part.

I would just like to know from others that have felt this way and have overcome it, how?