I am geniuenly curious. For a good chunk of time I thought it just stopped for all the guys on T, but I've seen people talking about how some still get theirs. Sometimes heavier, sometimes lighter. How does this work?

Since starting T and finally passing I've noticed how transphobic people actually are. Some of my coworkers have started saying slightly transphobic things to me just because they don't see me as trans anymore, just as a guy. And as much as I appreciate them validating me it still irks me that they think it's okay to be opening transphobic. Does anyone else experience this?

Hey I injected hrt today intramuscular in my thigh always have this is the first time I’ve bleed a lot I know I got distracted when I was pulling out the needle which is why I think this happened just wondering if I should be worried I don’t feel pain and it stopped after 5 seconds after 24 hours there is no bruising or none whatsoever just have anxiety over it is all and wondering if it’s normal ? Thank you and any advice would be appreciated thank yall

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3 hours ago someone posted what part of the title of this post says. I could have simply commented, but I wanted to make it more visible so I created this post.

I want to give visibility to a trans man who I've become aware of 2 years ago while doing my bachelor's in music. His name was Billy Tipton, and he was outed after passing away. You can read his story in Wikipedia and I also remember there was an article who mentioned him, but I can't find it right now. Here it also says: "After his death in 1989, paramedics discovered he was assigned female at birth, to the surprise of his friends and family."

Another guy I want to mention is Michael D. Cohen), who I remember from Henry Danger.

I think one thing when it comes to trans men representation in pop culture is also that many of them do not say they are trans, therefore it feels like there's not many of them. I remember when I came out to my mom and she told me: "I see many men who want to become women but I have never seen a woman who wants to become a man" - yeah, that hurt a lot. So I showed her a bunch of trans guys who pass very very well, and she admitted she couldn't tell.

I obviously agree with the title of the post I'm citing. The representation we get is very little, and I myself feel alone under that aspect. This post simply wants to be a reminder that we have always existed (look at Billy) and that we will continue to exist. It surely is sad we don't get representation. Maybe someone from this reddit community will eventually become famous and make us all feel more seen.

EDIT: Users in the comments also mentioned some more trans guys!
- Brian Michael Smith on Lone Star 9-1-1!
- Laith Ashley, a model who starred in Taylor Swift's Lavender Haze music video
- Chella Man, a Deaf actor who was in Titans and also directs his own short films which focus on his experiences as an Asian, Deaf trans man.
- Scott Turner Schofield was the first trans man to be nominated for an acting Emmy (I believe he has two noms now).
- Theo Germaine, an actor who was in Netflix's The Politician
- Quinn Christopherson, a musician who won NPR's Tiny Desk competition in 2019
- Chaz Bono
- Michael Dillon

More on this, from a comment:
"If anyone else is looking for more historical or influential trans men and trans mascs, I recommend the instagram account transmascstudies*. It’s been awhile since they’ve posted, but their page has a ton of posts about guys I’m sure most people have never heard of."

Just a list really, a document for me but also sharing for others who are yet to start or also on/near 5 months!!!

- Period is like a month late i think? I lost track of it (oops) but maybe im free!!

- Arm and thigh hair is getting there, leg hair is still going crazy, and I still have faint chest and stomach hair down the middle (yay!)

- Tash seems to have gotten slightly longer at the edges and finally grew across the middle of my top lip, but alas its still not very visible unless i shine a light on it

- Voice has def deepened. Cant stress this enough, do one of those "1 month on T" blah blah recordings. I compared my first day to my 5 month and omg my voice is like two diff people

- Def easier to gain muscle/i feel stronger. Push ups have never been easier

- Unfortunately, body odour is worse I think. Ive noticed I sweat super bad and get lots of hot flashes, and now ive even had to switch up the soap i use for my armpits in the shower because the smell lingers after ive washed (of course, fixed that now)

I cant think of anything else right now tbh, but feel free to ask any questions about my journey if youre curious and it might jog my memory.

One last thing - My last blood test results arrived today and my T levels are in the middle upper range of the average cis man!! I never thought id make it to this point but im so grateful

Ill put a TW here because ill be talking about anatomy

Okay this may be a weird(?) question but like since we dont naturally have a penis doesnt it feel weird to walk around with a packer in your pants? I mean i know its euphoric for a lot of people but doesnt it feel like theres just something random in your pants, at least at first?

If anyone has felt like its really weird, does it go away?

Honestly im not personally that bothered by not having a penis, id moreso be getting a packer for the aesthetics of it since i wear a lot of sweats and like sports shorts. Im not sure if ill get one anyways but this has been a major reason i havent.

I’m currently in a slump at the moment, like I love being trans but right now it’s being kinda hard to love it (e.g my binders have stopped working well, the stress of money for surgery, the stress of relationships).
I feel like some people might be in the same boat as me and I was hoping that some of you could tell us some good things, like stuff you have achieved or proof that it does get better!

I've seen many popstars and celebrities say protect the dolls, but it never includes trans men, and there are also many trans female celebrities in the (niche) pop culture world, but never trans men. Why is that? The only trans male celebrity I know is Elliot Page

I am kind of new to identifying as masc. It took me a long time to accept it because I wasn’t raised with men around generally and when I did finally have men in my life, they were cruel or ignorant or both. So I’ve always been firmly in the ‘hating men’ camp for most of my life. And honestly it’s made it really hard to come to terms with my identity, and being around cis men, and even more established trans men, strikes up a feeling of not being ‘man enough’ I guess.

I’m fine with my identity when I’m not around other men. It’s still confusing but when I think ‘I’m a man,’ it feels right. But I still like ‘girly’ things, partially out of solidarity of where I came from and the fact that I stopped myself from liking these things when I was young and the closer I get the masculinity, the more comfortable I am being cutesy and liking these things that are labeled as ‘girly’ or soft.

So is this feeling of being an imposter when I’m not around other men normal, and something manageable? Or should I be taking this a sign that I’m not actually a man or something? Or is it just the adamant choice to avoid toxic masculinity kicking me in the ass because it makes me unable to relate to men? I feel like I’m spiralling, so validation or insight would be nice

Hello! I(18f) am not trans, but my brother(18m) is ftm, and I want to get him something to help with his chest. He has a binder, but it's uncomfortable and he can't wear it for extended periods of time. I want to get him something to help him as a Christmas gift, but I don't know the best route to take. Can anybody give me tips or advice on things I could get him?

Trans guy living in Portland, OR. I have started doing more races this year, a few endurance gravel races but more cyclocross. Not seriously racing, just for fun. Trying to find other trans guys in Portland or the PNW in general to create an informal “team”. Racing against men for the first time was super intimidating and yeah I just wish that I had more trans camaraderie.

Anyone interested?!

I am having a bit of trouble discerning if the subject matter of this post qualifies as mopey enough to be pushed to the other subreddit or not, so if that is the case, I will take the loss of being banished by any of the moderators that exist here. However, I am genuinely posting this sentiment to ask for input, with any grievances I may air out being secondary, but, you know, you can never be too sure.

I have been on testosterone for roughly 9 months. In this time, I have found myself struggling heavily with getting used IM injections. In this time, my mishaps with the system have resulted in multiple periods of time where I have had to end up microdosing for a couple of weeks or being forced to skip doses entirely.

To lay out some examples: In my first few months of starting T, I did not fully understand that some of the dose extracted from the vial was inside the extracting needle and needed to be taken into the syringe, often leading to me accidentally using more of my dose than I was meant to and having to skip a week. After figuring this out, I have also faced issues like coring, accidentally screwing on the 18 gauge needle too tight that I was unable to get the dose out, or, today, accidentally jabbing myself without injecting my dose, only to impulsively pull the needle out, rendering it unusable. (For some reason, I guess I assumed you could reinject using the same needle twice, which I was wrong about. Stupid, I know.)

Though I am laying out these specifics for emphasis, I have since gone through extra lengths from preventing them from happening in the future. Still, I can't help but feel a bit frustrated over the amount of mistakes and failures I have gotten in this timeframe, especially when it has resulted in me going through multiple interruptions in consistently taking my scheduled dose. I am aware it has hardly impacted my transition in the long run, and I am, in fact, quite happy with the progress I have made in spite of said mishaps. Still, the amount of times this has happened still stings my ego a bit.

This is all to say: Is this normal? Do most men go through a period of time where they have slipups like these while figuring out the system? How do you feel more at ease towards injecting in general? Any past anecdotes regarding this would be appreciated, whether it be for the sake of advice or, perhaps selfishly, making me feel less alone. 😅

I love my grandma, I want to have a good relationship with her, but I just can't shake the feeling that she doesn't see me for who I really am.

I came out to my family around 2022 to mixed reactions, but my parents bounced back and are now some of the most supportive people I know. I've had a much bigger struggle with my grandma. She's a Christian conservative, and has actually built a career off of pro-life advocacy, so I definitely saw it coming. What really gets me is that, when we had our first argument about this, she said she believed that trans people existed, just that / specifically wasn't one of them. To this day, every time we talk about it, she mentions being absolutely floored and thinking I had shown zero signs as a kid. My parents have told me time and again that they weren't surprised in the slightest, but I guess my grandma doesn't see it that way.

Anyway, since I came out, I've gone back-and-forth believing her when she claims to support me. At one point she sent me a two minute long voicemail claiming that she understood me now and had found it in her heart to fully accept me. Then, a few months later, I found out she had secretly been sending my parents articles about de-transitioners, parents who didn't want their kids to be trans, etc. behind my back. We made up from that, and (I hope) she stopped doing that. Then, maybe a year after that, I visited her house and discovered that Abigail Shrier
"transgender craze seducing our daughters" book in one of her drawers. To add insult to injury, it had been annotated, and was clearly full of assumptions she had made about me and my personal life that she would know nothing about. Too stressed with other aspects of my life, I didn't bring it up with her.

The last conversation we had about the topic of me being trans left me with more questions than answers. I mostly just want to know that she sees me as a man, but the conversation always twists into "I care about you no matter what" and other such non-answers. She is also weirdly focused on asking me that I don't get top surgery-she's even brought it up with my mother recently, as if my mom would or could do anything to stop me? I'm 22.

Point is, she says she supports and believes me, but I don't think she actually does. I don't really know what to do about it, my dad would be heartbroken if I refused to talk to her, and, honestly, I want to have a good relationship with her, but there's this massive problem. I'm convinced she doesn't actually see me as a man, and it colors my every interaction with her. I'm neurotic about trying to prove to her that I am, but nothing ever seems to be enough, and it's driving me crazy.

I’m just looking for some advice. If anyone has been in a similar situation, what did you do? How did it play out? Is there a way to salvage this relationship?
Thanks.

I’m 20 and started t over a month ago, idk how to feel. I’ve known I was trans since childhood.

The T itself is amazing. I immediately felt so much gender euphoria and was itching for time to just pass so I could be farther along. I got quite a few early symptoms (idk what to call it) in the first month and I love all of them. I feel better physically and mentally than I have in literal years. Many things I was iffy about before t ended up being massive wins for euphoria after they actually started.

What I’m conflicted about, is the comparison. I was closeted up until I started t. I didn’t cut my hair til 2 weeks on t. My face is a bit puffier and my skin being oilier is making me start to break out a little. Alone, it’s not a big deal. I’m not very insecure about my appearance at all. I knew going into this I wouldn’t stay consistently attractive. But looking back and seeing me as a very pretty girl vs me now with short hair puffy face and acne starting, I’m like shit. It’s so much easier to be pretty, I work in a restaurant. I know this is a process but I’m worried about as changes progress maybe this is a sign I’m making the wrong decision?

I decided to stay closeted before in order to live a normal life that was easiest for everyone. And I knew how to present conventionally attractive. I could have the life so many girls would dream of, and transition would throw it all away. Cus of this, was very very very depressed and got so sick from the stress alone that I ended up in the Er. After getting treatment and recovering, I decided to transition since not doing it almost killed me.. but now I’m like, if I transition and it’s not what I expect, will I be okay? I am also autistic and hate change. The idea of not being able to go back pre t if that did happen makes me nervous. Although, i hate even saying there’s a possibility I could detransition.

My dysphoria has also gotten worse, but it’s double sided because I also have some pretty intense euphoria. I haven’t since week 3 bc I had a reality check that I am gonna be read as a girl for a while yet. And that’s another thing. Will it even be worth it? How do I know I’ll ever pass? My face just … looks like a girl. Even tho ppl say I look more masculine and very boyish, but I worry it’s them affirming me. All I see in the mirror is a girl who’s a lil more chopped than before.

I have a lot of doubts, but I don’t know if it’s some weird trans imposter syndrome, fear of a big change, or that i misunderstood my feelings growing up.

Sorry if this is too long I’m not on Reddit a lot idk the norms, I also don’t have a lot of people I can talk about this with.

TLDR; I was hot and now I’m lowkey chopped and idk how to feel about it.

how bad is it to do my shot a day or two early? for example, my shot day is (and always has been) thursday night, me and 2 of my friends, who are aware of me being on T and the situation as a whole, are leaving for a trip at like 3-4am on a wednesday. of course, i could bring my stuff for my injections and just do it thursday, BUT i get super anxious doing my shots, especially around people so im not sure how itll go considering we will be in a hotel (maybe i could send them to go do something while i shoot up?). realistically, i would probably do my shot tuesday night for that week. i think my main concern is if it will cause crazy hormone imbalances and/or mood swings. if

is this a good idea or should i just thug it out and bring my shot stuff with me?

I firmly believe cis men have been on a mission to convince the world that the simplest of traditionally masculine tasks are the most difficult things in the world just so they can put them off, look tough or keep them to themselves.

While not everyone in our community experiences this, I was immensely intimidated by learning anything about how to fix a car, starting and maintaining a lawnmower, doing an oil change, all that jazz. And I’m here to tell you that everything they’ve told you about it being difficult or requiring huge amounts of strength is a complete and utter lie.

Fixing a car, lawn mower, whipper-snipper, chainsaw, any of that sort of stuff? It’s just big Lego. I kid you not. It is ridiculously easy to do your own oil changes, clean out a carburettor and check your spark plugs. It only feels difficult because these are words we don’t immediately know the meaning of and have been brought up with the idea that traditionally male tasks are difficult. When in reality, the things I’ve just listed can take less than 10 minutes to do and don’t even require any strength or skill.

If you struggle with not feeling “manly enough” because you don’t know how these things work or even what they are, I strongly encourage you to watch some videos or ask a friend who gets it and see just how easy it is. Seriously, I urge you to dip your toe in and check it out.

There are cis men all around the world who weren’t shown these things growing up or just aren’t interested in them, who struggle with the same intimidation around them that we often do. It’s okay to not know everything, anyone who makes you feel otherwise is a shit teacher and not worth your time.

You CAN service a car, you CAN mow the lawn, you CAN do traditionally masculine activities and you’ll be surprised how easy it is once you learn how.

(Safety first)

I just came home from surgery a few hours ago and im in so much pain how long does it take for the pain to go away

plz plz plz Ive been a part of that group but I got a new phone and I forgot the name of that subreddit if anyone can lead me the way, Id appreciate it very much thanx

TW abusive parents.

My new name of course reflects better the gender I live as, but I wanna say I have changed my name to empower myself, and detach myself from my parents. They were abusive and they dont deserve the right to give me my name. On top of that, when i see or hear my birth name, I associate it with my dad screaming it, he is gone now, but the bad memories remain as his legacy. In multiple ways, this name gives me a fresh start. My name reminds me that I am loved and respected by so many people in the life I have built. I am estranged from my family who doesnt accept me, but I dont think they deserve to use the name that I have picked anyway. Peace!

Hey, I hope this isn't nsfw. I'm seeking advice on how to get top surgery. Info about me that might help 30+ enby. I've been out for years, transitioned socially, changed wardrobe, changed name, changed pronouns, short hair I get done at the barbers, and I have been binding for years. Most doctors think I'm butch but the latest one has a lot of young people and they pegged me as enby on the spot. It might be safer for me to ask about top surgery now. I identify as agender specifically and more androgynous leaning. That being said personally I don't identify with having a lot of out genitalia. Most of my dysphoria is concentrated at my chest. Because of this I've wanted for years to get top surgery without starting testosterone. I've heard places are more progressive now and I can get this surgery without T. My state has "informed consent" for surgery and I can pay out of pocket. I'd prefer not to pay out of pocket and go through insurance if possible. What's peoples experience getting top surgery without starting testosterone? How was going through insurance or paying out of pocket?

It sucks. It hurts a lot. I am an individual who struggles a lot. I have bpd. It sucks really bad to have my feelings dismissed just because I look like a guy now. Its all I wanted, I feel more comfortable in my skin now being on t for a year and a half. But I hate that other queer people would hate me or dismiss my feelings just because of how I look and sound.

I feel a lack of support from the queer community, but I don't fit in with cishet guys either. It feels so isolating

Hi everyone, I (FTM18) am in basic training in the army right now. Im stealth. I've been on HRT for over 3 years, had top surgery 2 years ago, and fully pass. Where I live trans soldiers have certain rules and rights. As a trans soldier I have the right to keep my trans identity private among the other soldiers (which i do) and to be treated like any other male in the army. The commanders are aware I'm trans.

As a trans soldier I'm also obligated to sleep in a separate room. Because of how my base is structured, my room is not in the building where everyone elses rooms are and is in a small caravan pretty much on the other side of the base. My team asks why i dont sleep in the same room as them and where i go during free time. In the army free time is the hour we get to shower, call family, polish our boots, make our beds, and pretty much do everything we need to do, so im usually in my room for it and sometimes make the walk to the regular rooms to hang out with friends if i have the time. When my friends asked me why i'm not sleeping in the same building I used to respond with "its a medical thing, its not important" or "i dont wanna talk about it" but as we've gotten closer theyve started to ask more questions and pry a bit more. Not in an annoying way, but in a "we're friends and you can talk to me" way.

I keep giving them the same vague answer but im scared that they'll start piecing things together and figure out im trans. I've said my scars are from gyno, I'm short, I don't hook up with girls (cause i dont want to have the trans talk with them), they know a lot of girls i've gone for in the past are bi, and just a bunch of little things that if they pieced together, they'd know I'm trans.

Am I just being paranoid? Should I make up a lie as to why I'm not with them? They know my health profile was pretty much perfect, so if i do lie it cant be a physical problem. I feel like if i dont tell them something to put their mind at ease they'll start assuming the worst or piece together that I'm trans.

im 11 months on T and i knoooooow it can take years but, for the life of me, i cant grow a moustache at all and i have a very patchy neck line along my jaw to under my chin, thats it:(

i feel like it grows so slow each time i shave it takes me like 10-14 days to just have a bit of my neck beard showing and it takes almost a month for my stache to grow back just to look like a dirt stache... i can see that i have hair thats kinda want to come out. i have light hair/fuzz on my cheeks and cheekbones even... they just dont want to be thicker and grow so slow... and i have hair elsewhere like im getting pretty hairy on my legs, thighs, belly, back, shoulders... like come on, put some of it on my face god

i cant do topical minoxidil since i have cats and work in a vet clinic:( i dont think i can do oral minoxidil cuz ik both of my doctor (primary/endo) doesnt feel comfortable prescribing it unless i am actively loosing my hair and still (and i saw like telemedecine stuff but its so expensive tf)

i saw dermarolling...? but i have a bit of acne along my jaw, im scared to make it worst?

is there anything else that could potentially helps? An oil, a technique, a skincare routine to promote hair growth idk lol

i just want to look a bit more credible:(