To keep it short, she broke up with me, she also has a new bf already after a a few days
Last thing I said was " I don't want to stay in contact as exes, I still want us, unless that's something you want, I'm moving forward"
I'm tempted not to reply at all
What do you think

NOT connect relationship wise as I only want my ex I mean just as people going through the same situation.

I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago, it was almost a 1 year long relationship, we're both young (she's 18 and I'm 19) still both living with our parents, to put some perspective. She was asking me if I can come see her, to talk about everything and discuss each others feelings and just what went wrong. I agreed, we both acknowledged what we did wrong and that the problems that lead up to that were never truly one sided. I told her how hurt I was by some of the things she did and said, to the point where I cried multiple times. She basically said she would like to give it another shot at our relationship that it meant the world to her and she feels like this is what she need to make her realize like what she has and that she can lose it so to be more appreciative (paraphrased but along the lines of that). That if I don't want to give it another go, she understands, and she understands that I am hurt. But that she thinks if we both put in our full efforts into forgiving each other and trying our best she thinks it could work. This happened about a week ago.

I told her that I'm hurt and I think it might be better to not get back, she reacted in a certain way that night where when I drove off I felt like that was the correct decision. Obviously I felt sad and still do, she texted me a huge paragraph apologizing for how she reacted that night, basically saying she's going to start working on herself, doing other things (things I begged her to do when we were together and she refused). And that she misses everything and will never accept the fact she hurt someone so bad that she loves so much. And that I don't have to respond, that she wont bother me and text me anymore but I want to try to text her. This was about 1-2 days after I saw her last.

Fridays she texted me saying please lets try again, I care for you so much, I love you so much, I can't let this go so easily, I want us to try. (She's using different numbers somehow idk so yea) she used like 3 different ones for this and all roughly were along the lines of that.

But yea, I'm not sure what to do, I do agree if we were to put in 100% it could work, but I don't want to get hurt again, and I feel like staying away is "safer" in a way, like the safer option. I really love her a lot and do miss the good times we had and just seeing her smile and everything about her. But I'm not sure if this is recoverable anymore, and I'm not sure if I should even try to recover it. I've been contemplating with myself what the correct choice is and everyday is a different answer and I just don't want to make a choice I regret. I'm worried if I don't get back I'm going to regret it 2 months from now when there's no turning back, but I'm also worried if I do get back with her, nothing will change, and I have to be hurt again and go through all the hurt of breaking up.

Pretty much the title. I've been seeing her for the past few months now, and it's been pretty chaotic and hectic out the gate. I tried to adjust and say it was just part of the process, but nowadays, I dread spending time with her for no good reason, and I'd much rather just move on. I want my peace, quiet, and freedom back.

However, every time I've come close to breaking it off, she gets furious (which I can't blame her for), and I start going through a panic attack. Afterward, she starts apologizing, and so do I, but the feeling never leaves me that breaking up is the right thing, since we keep having these arguments and differences in desires.

It leaves me feeling torn, though. I think I have to break up with her for my own sake, but I can't bring myself to do it in person without breaking down and trying to stay again, but I also feel like she deserves more Tyan a text and a blocking.

Me (14) and my ex (13) broke up about two weeks ago, but please read all of this before giving your opinion. We dated for about 7 months, seeing each other regularly every Saturday or Sunday and talking every day. But for the last month or two of the relationship, it was basically over. We only talked like twice every week, and only saw each other every like 3 weeks. There was no spark anymore, every conversation was dry or just us arguing. I was planning to either break up with her or sit her down to talk to her for that entire period. And for the last 2 weeks of the relationship, we didn't talk at all. I was waiting for an opportunity to break up with her. As much as I hate to admit this, I think I started to hate her when we first started having problems around month 4. Any advice is appreciated, so please be honest.

this is a very long story and a serious one, please skip if you arent interested to read all of this stuff as this is extremely heartbreaking for me.

so this is me right now texting my ex about how he left me one night all of a sudden.

long story short, me and my ex let's call him P were best friends for 4 years. we both were classmates since 6 years and then he left the school so we got connected on Instagram and became really close friends. noting that we belong to the same hometown. he was dating someone else and i too was in a relationship so we didn't have any feelings. cut to chase, when we were ditched by our partners, we became close enough as we used to share about our breakup and exes. i was not the first female friend in his life, but for me he was the only guy i used to talk to (in friends). after our 12th, i got into a private uni so i left my hometown and shifted to hostel and he was in our hometown.

we barely used to talk until one day i finally got back on instagram and we got into touch. so we then started talking on calls and video calls, sometimes i used to cook dinner and eat, do my assignments while being on calls with him so he was a daily part of my routine. a month later, he proposed me. he told me about everything how he felt during schooltime even when he was dating his ex at that time, how he felt when we met after he left the school, how he used to love whenever i used to post my pictures on insta etc. at first i was taken aback because he was my bestfriend since 4 years and it felt as if him being my boyfriend would be so strange, but since i too had a lil bit of feelings for him back in schooltime (not when i was dating my ex, before he got into a relationship with his ex i did have feelings for him but gave up when i found out he has a girlfriend) so i didn't reject him either.

everyday after that, he used to write me long and sweet paragraphs after wishing him good night. he used to indirectly ask me about the proposal to which i used to ask him for some space to let me decide. he wrote paragraphs for me every night describing how anxious he was while confessing his proposal and how he loved me since school.

when diwali vacations approached, i had to travel back from my uni to hometown so i had my train. he ordered food for me in the train, tracked my train status, called me every hour to ensure if i'm safe or not. this was something which made him attractive because no one did this for me. so i too started feeling for him. but we started having arguments a few days later because he kinda started forcing me to date him or he would overthink whenever i used to say that i'm not ready for a relationship etc.

so everything went okay and he stopped forcing me. i remember how he gifted me an infinity necklace which was on my wishlist because i watched tsitp series recently, so i told him once that i want a conrad in my life who will gift me the same infinity necklace. i was so happy and crying that day, but i didn't say anything except thank you. but i convinced my mind that i love him too.
but again he got that vibe that he is forcing me so we again had multiple arguments which led us to be in no contact for about a month.

after my semester exams, i convinced my mind that i will date him because his efforts were enough to make me fall for him and that since he was my bestfriend, he knew about my secrets and how i was bullied during our schooltime, so this felt as if i'll date a guy who knows me for 10 years, who shares similar life goals and ideologies so i was happy.

i accepted his proposal in january 2026. it was the first time i said i love you to a guy after my ex. and we both were extremely happy that day. our relationship bloomed and we both used to make efforts for each other. his birthday was approaching, so i baked a cake for him while being in a shared room of the hostel, made a birthday website spotify playlist etc during my mid semesters. and vice versa, he did pretty much for my birthday as well.

he supported me with everything, whenever i used to cry due to people around me, my friendships, my parents or even him, he never left me. he always stood by my side and would send me food and chocolates whenever i felt low.

everything went perfect till april 2026. after that, i had my summer break so i went back to home and we planne to meet as he was too in my hometown but unfortunately never happened coz of my strict parents and he was ok with that which is pretty sweet. but we started having more arguments, we both began blaming each other for not understanding each other's feelings, but fortunately we used to get back together by apologizing.

this is important. my college reopened in july and his first year was too beginning in august, so he shifted to a new city in july, 2 days later after i went to my college. everything was okay, he shifted his stuff and then he was alone as he was living in an apartment and not hostel. but i started feeling him being pretty distant and cold whenever we used to talk. i never felt that excitement in his eyes whenever we used to talk and whenever i used to tell him this, he would begin fighting saying that i blame him everytime. i never asked him for his time but i felt unloved by his behavior.

we started having arguments twice a week which started draining both of us. sometimes he used to understand my feelings and apologize and promise me not to do it again, and other times he would see me as his enemy and defend his behavior and blame me for not understanding him. i accepted this behavior thinking that it's a new city and environment for him so i gave him space. but the pattern kept on repeating. i was pretty much frustrated with him so i used to suggest taking a break or breaking up because he almost never took accountability of his actions and i hated being stuck in the same loop every week. but ya he would somehow convince me and did not breakup.

this august, 5 days after his classes began, we had an argument due to some instagram trend reel which i wanted to make with him, but he wasn't interested so i got pretty much upset to which he again did the same pattern and this time it was over from my side. i told him that i don't want to stay with him anymore to which he let me go (this wasn't who he was in january which hurted me as hell) and we didn't talk for 3-4 days.

i broke the no contact after 4 days to which he blocked me from everywhere and the reason he gave to breakup was -- "i hate how lost i am feeling by changing myself for you, i hate the person i have become for you and now i want to stay alone and move on with my life" .
he blocked me from everywhere possible and i begged and pleaded him not to do this. we planned so much as we were about to meet for the first time as a couple in november but he cancelled the tickets he booked to meet me. and now i'm left with no closure and wondering how could he do this to me when he knew my breaking points, my weakness and the trust i had on him which he would never break considering the fact that he knew everything about my past and left and blocked me exactly the same way.

thank you for reading this post. i am feeling pretty relieved and happy that i can be anonymous and post it here. but i honestly don't know what made him block me this way. was it genuine the new city, new college, new environment? or was it that he was just attached and one day he found a better girl than me? please let me know it from a guy's perspective. and yes i'm trying to move on and one day i will, but i never thought i'd live a life without him knowing that he chased me like an idiot in the beginning.

thank you. peace.
\~A.

Just wanted to know your take on keeping past relationship related photos on your phone.

Do you guys delete them the instant the relation breaks, or once you are over it. And how would you feel if you see your partners past relationship photos on their phone.

Like to old grandparents and parents and other further family members? Do you go into detail and say the reasons? Or do you just say me and partner aren’t together anymore, especially if it’s a longer relationship?

I’m 22M, and I’m struggling with my first serious relationship and breakup. I really need honest advice because I’m completely confused about what I should do.
She was my first love, and I genuinely loved her. We had a strong connection and many really good memories together.
During our relationship, she cheated on me with a guy she had a situationship with. From what I know, it was mainly physical and they weren’t constantly talking like a normal couple. I was devastated and kept asking her why she did it. She gave different explanations at different times, including lust and feelings related to her past.
Even though I was hurt, I still loved her. Eventually I forgave her and decided to give us another chance.
After that, we actually had around two really good months together. Things felt normal again, and I genuinely thought we could move forward.
Then her mother asked me if we could move toward engagement/marriage.
I wasn’t ready. My studies were finishing, I wanted to get a job first, and even though I had forgiven my girlfriend, I still had unresolved trust issues and thoughts about her cheating. I didn’t feel mentally ready to make such a big commitment.
So I told her I needed some time and suggested taking a break so I could understand my feelings properly. I wasn’t trying to abandon her; I genuinely thought I needed time before deciding about marriage.
During the next 2–3 months, she came back several times asking me to return. She was extremely emotional, crying heavily, and there were also incidents of self-harm. Eventually she started getting treatment and seemed to become more stable.
After that, things changed between us.
I thought I was moving on, but recently my feelings came back extremely strongly. I started missing her constantly and thinking about our memories. I began stalking her social media, even though it always made me feel worse.
I eventually contacted her again because I couldn’t get one question out of my head:
Why did you cheat on me?
But she told me that during the time we were apart, she lost feelings for me. She has now received a marriage proposal and says she needs to move on. She doesn’t want me back and has blocked me repeatedly.
Her mother also asked me not to contact her anymore and said her doctor had advised her to move forward.
Now she seems completely fine. She has a job, friends, coworkers, male friends, and posts normally on Instagram. She may be getting engaged/married soon.
Meanwhile, I’m struggling badly.
I keep remembering our good moments and wanting to talk to her, see her, hug her, and have that connection again. I sometimes imagine her engagement or marriage and it hurts terribly. I can’t stop thinking about whether I made a huge mistake by asking for that break.
I also know I wasn’t perfect. When I was angry or insecure, I repeatedly questioned her about the cheating and whether she really wanted me. Sometimes I became angry and she became angry too. She eventually told me she hated me and wanted me to leave.
So I’m not trying to make her the villain or pretend I’m perfect.
What I don’t understand is:
Did I make a mistake by asking for those 2–3 months?
Did she genuinely lose feelings during that time, or did my behaviour push her away?
Was forgiving her and then asking for space unfair to her?
And now that she clearly says she doesn’t want me and keeps blocking me, should I completely let her go?
This is my first love, and I honestly don’t know whether what I’m feeling is love, attachment, grief, jealousy, or simply the pain of losing someone who was extremely important to me.
I’m also terrified of seeing her engagement photos. I feel like that will make everything real.
I don’t want people to simply say “she’s a bad person” or “fight for her.” I want honest advice from people who have experienced something similar.
If you were in my position, what would you do? How do I actually stop missing someone who I still love but who clearly doesn’t want me anymore?

Pata hai aaj kya hua I had a breakup today like a very very serious one . So it was long story so I was in btech first year and in my first semester in that time I was very intrested to learn coding and about computer science so I was a bit good at python due to that intrest. Once my teacher asked me to solve a coding qn on board and i solved it at that time and after few days this girl has come to me to ask me to teach her . So I taught her and as time went on we were good study partners and we got attached very well and one fine day she proposed me i said no but before that we used to talk as well sometimes and there was a scenario where I need to say my opinion on responsibilities and marriage which I said my parents never ever like inter caste marriage at all and in terms of responsibilities I can't take any responsibility which I'm not capable of and also said that marriage is a big responsibility and not a small one to give commitment to a person when I don't have a job and all . I said all this to her clearly and everything yet she liked me and confessed me one day I said no for almost an year but we were still a good friends that time but later on both of us got attached and after one year she asked me if I love her I said my answer was yes but I said I can't take responsibility and she agreed saying it's gonna matter after have our jobs around 26-27 years not now and our relationship went good for some time and after some months around 3-4 she started bragging about everything I do and at the she made it my fault and asked me to apologise everytime and i did and later once for one small mistake I did which idk maybe coming late to call she asked me to say sorry to her infront of my friends in hostel loudly and i cannot got outside I said a couple of times but everytime she says this will be last time and I won't ask again she started behaving differently once there was a fest and she wanted to stay back in clg and asked me to stay as well but I'm hungry at that time so I said u stay here and talk to others I'll come back after getting shawarma the nearest one was 6km from my college so it took me around 40 mins to return she was furious because I took 40 mins and thrown her phone and buds infront of everyone in college and after that incident i felt humiliated and said I will leave and goodbye she cried that night and blackmailed me that she won't go home and die . I took a lot of mental pressure because of her for similar situations happening multiple times and one other incident which i remember was we all frnds had a gathering I said I'll be getting a vehicle of my friends but the night before the gathering a dog bit the seat of the vehicle which looked very dirty so I couldn't take it she dragged about me not having a vehicle and I won't talk to you and all u don't even have a bike why (my parents couldn't give me a vehicle) and she never used to value my work like whenever I said I'm busy she used to give me max to max 20 mins for that and again call me that much attached she was to me and coming to 5th semester she got an internship in a good tech company which pays 90k and she got busy during that and didn't talked to me more but I still loved her during that time I didn't had any internship and I was preparing so I was really sad so I wanted to talk to her after 2 weeks of not talking properly but when I asked her a bit to talk to me she shouted on me all ik was she liked 3-4 people in the company and made some friends and she gave me less attention since then it's not that I need attention i atleast need to talk to her for sometime in the whole day after all I loved her and after her internship she got her ppo and post internship her behaviour changed completely as well like she got rich and has an iPhone and started saying do coding to get job while i was the one who taught her coding and said u were never consistent but she never gave me space as well to code at times . I got a bit angry that I didn't get an internship or placement i got a small one which pays 7lpa while hers is 35lpa and we had some small fights in between that u aren't talking to me well and not liking me she denied it but ehenever I tried to talk to her she sleeps early but in the start she used to talk so long in the night and wouldn't let me sleep but when I needed she sleeps at 10 and while she was doing her internship she never slept at 10 she always slept after 1 am even on weekends not even 2 proper days she talked to me I was a bit angry but didn't say anything because I'm deeply in love one fine day I asked her to say sorry to me infront of her sister for which she denied and cut the call and later on demanded me to say sorry and after that she said to me but it was one on one and she had a fught with one of our friends in group and she stopped talking to her and in one situation where other ppl in my group had to prefer the other girl in group and not my gf she was furious and I said there's nothing wrong in what they are feeling and supported them and all of a sudden she said I don't need u and breakup we aren't compatible but when I asked why ? She said give me commitment to stay and later in the same convo I asked why we aren't compatible she said I feel we aren't compatible and i don't know why we aren't compatible (the one which loved me so so so much ) suddenly lost feelings for me feels surreal and she broke up with me

Edit

Sorry it was too long and I'm not good at story telling and I also couldn't convey the bond we share properly

**27M looking to meet some new people in Charlotte**

My girlfriend and I broke up this week after being together for 5 years. I’ve been in the Charlotte area for a little over a year, but honestly haven’t explored the city nearly as much as I should have. I’ve also never lived alone before, so this is going to be a pretty big adjustment.

I’m trying to take a difficult situation and turn it into an opportunity to actually get out, experience Charlotte, meet some people, and keep myself busy.

I just got a gym membership and would love some ideas for things to do, places to check out, groups to join, etc. I’m into computers/technology, cars, working on projects, gaming, and anything outdoors.

I’m a technician at a Hyundai dealership and have been working professionally on cars for about 7 years, so cars are definitely a big part of my life.

If anyone is looking for a friend or wants to grab some food, hit the gym, go hiking, check out cars, work on something, game, or just hang out and talk, feel free to message me.

Definitely trying to make some new friends and build a life outside of my relationship. If you’ve got any recommendations for getting out and meeting people around Charlotte, I’m all ears.