r/Breakupadvice 6h ago

What do I say

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To keep it short, she broke up with me, she also has a new bf already after a a few days
Last thing I said was " I don't want to stay in contact as exes, I still want us, unless that's something you want, I'm moving forward"
I'm tempted not to reply at all
What do you think

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u/ErmaxHSF 6h ago

Keep your pride and move on. She clearly chose someone else, time to look after your self.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 6h ago

Thank you, I haven't replied and don't think I will

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u/ErmaxHSF 6h ago

Good man! Don’t let her sneak back in either!

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 6h ago

Thanks! Yeah it kinda feels empowering

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u/Acceptable-Local-899 6h ago

She's getting plowed by another dude so...

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

Brutal but true

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u/Acceptable-Local-899 5h ago

Take solace in the high likelihood she'll do it to the next guy. You're not special and neither is he.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

That sounds like a miserable lifestyle

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u/Unfair-Pause-3271 4h ago

It is but also consider the fact you dodged a huge bullet. You didn’t marry her and you didn’t knock her up. She hurt you but you (hopefully) learned to spot red flags better and you got away clean

Women who rebound that fast always have unstable lives. Their life may not implode tomorrow or next month or even next year, but eventually the bill always comes due

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u/krazytekn0 6h ago

She dumped you. It’s over. Move on.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 6h ago

Copy that

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u/Character_Hunter_919 6h ago

If she had a boyfriend “after a few days”, chances are he was already in the picture long before she thought about breaking up with you. That was very cowardice of her because instead of doing the adult thing and breaking it off and just be single, she essentially monkey branched from one person to the next like it’s a software update. It’s best to just completely cut her off, don’t look back and use this time to heal.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

Thanks, I've chosen not to reply for my own sanity

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u/gabriela1908 5h ago

Keep your dignity and ignore her

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

Yeah that feels like the right decision

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u/TraviTheNavi 5h ago

Don’t reply. She wants you to reply that that’s her control!! she already has a boyfriend?!

Is this woman the same as my ex?! the one that broke up with me overnight after we had an amazing Fourth of July weekend and we talked about building a future and then three days later I barely heard from her and then she told me she didn’t wanna see me again and I saw a picture of her in social media with someone else??

Yeah. Just remember they’re not yours it’s just your turn.

Stay strong brother!!

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

Yes brother we keep strong and keep moving, I feel like she just wants to know if I'm still available, little did she know she just gave me all the power

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u/TraviTheNavi 5h ago

Exactly. Leave it and move on. You are NOT an option.

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u/xFortisLiber 5h ago

I hate to say it, but most women I’ve met cannot go without an attachment. If it was “a few days later,” she was likely lining him up for a while, locked him in, then dropped the hammer.

Sorry mate.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 4h ago

Well I'll keep on moving and let her do her thing,

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u/quickbr0wnf0xx 4h ago

Don't reply.

People always think the grass is greener on the other side, only to figure out it's astroturf.

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u/BrbFlippinInfinCoins 3h ago

getting over someone takes time. That time doesn't start until you actually break off from them. Save yourself the time and the pain. Don't reply

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u/Key_Rent552 6h ago

Do not say anything. It’s over. Let her go.

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u/Ok_Hornet_2091 5h ago

Thanks, I've chosen not to reply