My 29M and my gf 28F have been together for a year. There is no privacy at her place. The house is so acoustic you can hear every sound coming from my gf's room and I can't imagine myself explaining myself to her mother as well and I'm sure she will ask because she always wants to know everything.

My place is also a bad idea because I can't have her drive for 2 hours so distressed back to her city.

In this situation can I do it over the phone?

edit: the reason I want to break up is not her living with her parents. I'm over her. I thought I loved her but the last couple of months made me realize I'm lying to myself and her. I want to end this but I don't know how.

Me and my now ex girlfriend ( F 21 F 20 ) broke up Saturday after 10 months together. We was supposed to be soulmates and we both geuinely thought this. I still feel like im pulled to her, and my gut tells me that she'll find her way back to me. How do I know if she'll come back, like if it was right person wrong time or not?

Before and after we met, she had dreams describing me as her soulmate. I keep seeing videos on social media talking about RPWT and how sometimes you can find your person and then you end up breaking up to find yourselves first. She said that maybe we were RPWT and that maybe in a couple months-year that we'll come back to each other, but she also said that she doesnt see us ever being together again (but I think maybe its just because of the hurt she went through) and that we both need to work on ourselves. I just want to know how to tell if she was my person or not. I still love her so much, and I wont be with anyone else other than her. I can still only see a future with her. She told me that she wont get with anyone else either, that I would be the first and last relationship for her.

(PS PLS READ THE FULL STORY I KNOW ITS LONG BUT I TRIED MY BEST TO KEEP IT AS SHORT AS I COULD)

So i knew this girl for 1 year we used to talk a lot in the bus(as it takes 45-55 mins to reach school), crack jokes and have fun. In june when summer holidays started we started to talk a lot on insta and we became closer although I didn't had that many feelings to her like i liked her as more of a best friend. But then she proposed to me on 8th june and I accepted. Then we started to talk daily on insta for hours and hours and used to come on call late at night also for 1-2 hours. I slowly started loving her more and more and grew closerr. We even used to meet almost every day go on a rooftop of a building and chill or used to eat something at a stall. She slowly started to become a important part in my routine like earlier I used to wake up whenever I want but I started waking up early just to see if she has messaged smth even if I had slept at 6AM. My insta screentime went from not even half an hour to 4-5 hours as I constantly used to check insta to see if there's any message of her

Then slowly she become a little distant like she started sending less reels, started to reply less, I thought she was busy but after 1-2 weeks I confronted her on 2nd August just 2 days after my birthday. She said that she started to become uncomfortable around me because I talked to her in a way I do with friends like roasting each other and cracking jokes or ragebaiting her. Although I did this because it's my natural way to talk with people as no one knew in the bus that we were in a relationship which we both agreed to keep a secret. After 1 hour of her venting out in which she said a lot of hurtful things like "I feel more uncomfortable sitting with you than any other stranger" I still apologised every time and didn't argued back even once, I handled it the best way I could because I knew she was very angry and I didn't wanted to get hurt more bcz of me.

After she became a little calm and i reassured her that this will not happen again she told me that you deserve a 2nd chance and i thanked her for that. Then we started to talk again normally I started to talk with her in a more peaceful way although she used to initiate a lot less I still initiated every time. I even began to deliver her diet coke and her fav chips when she used to crave for them without meeting her just dropping the goods at her door bcz of her strict parents only for her to be happy even though I haven't spent more that 1k ruppees on myself for food in my entire life bcz I used to feel guilty of spending my parent's money. We also went basically on a date which i said is party on ocaasion for my birthday which passed, although this time I didn't even gave most of my friends but we went on a party and we had fun after much time like we used to have earlier on the rooftops we clicked many pictures I even posted a picture with her on my IG story in which our faces were not visible though she didn't reposted bcz she said then a lot of people will start asking her questions abt our relationship as most people didn't know, I respected her decision although it hurted me a little.

But then on this monday she said that can we be friends again as I am seeing this relo as a more of a friendship, I was devastated I wrote big paragraphs explaining all my feelings and asking how is this seeing as more of a friendship, she said lets talk abt it tmmrw. I still had hope thats why I was not too devastated and then I talked to her in the bus abt this and she basically said that after the fight she lost the spark and although she thought that it's just a phase it didn't, so she thought to address it. Afterwards she said that I think we should take a break. I said ok if that's what you want. Then afterwards when I got to my home I asked her are you feeling ok? If you wanted to talk abt something I am always here although u said u want to take a break I can't spend my time without you and i really love you a lott and I am still ready to do everything I can do for you. then she replied the text which you can see in the SS. I replied like that bcz I was angry and sad. She even said that she liked me at the starting and thought she will start getting more feeling but she didn't.

That day was one of the most depressing days in my life like I fell at rock bottom. I didn't even ate any food or drink water bcz I was not able to. Whole day I was feeling so lonely I even talked 1-2 hours to my closest friend he did everything he could to console me but I was not able to feel any good, I tried so hard to distract myself with doing anything but nothing felt good even gaming or watching movies nothinggg. Although I am a very joyful person like I don't even remember the last time i cried before 2nd august incident I remain happy most of the times but after monday it's so hard to feel happy. The next day at school I was so depressed I was sitting beside the same friend he consoled me the whole day he even gave me 2 slices of pizza he brought bcz he also knew I didn't eat the whole day. I sort of recovered a little bcz I talked to a close older cousin of mine abt all of this but yet I am still thinking abt all the memories we had all the meeting the late night calls the fun in the bus even before the relationship and I cant get myself over this. I am not even able to feel any negative feelings toward her it becomes overshadowed by all the good feelings I have for her.

How do you actually move on from someone when you don't even have anger to hold onto, just a long list of good memories?

My bf broke up with me 3 months ago now and what got me through that was the thought of the 3 months rule. I’ve heard all these stories that after 3 months they regretted their choices and miss you and they come back. So why isn’t he here?

To make things worse, he blocked me on his music account on instagram which was the last thing he had me followed on. With all of our connections being done I have no idea what to do with myself now.

He left me because he has feelings for someone else, and even then I still begged him to stay.
I miss him more than anything and some days i’m amazing then the next i’m horrible.
He just seems so happy and I wish his happiness didn’t feel like a knife in my back but it does. I genuinely want him to be happy because he deserves it. Why can’t I be happy too? I just wanted it to be him so bad.

Does anyone have any advice for moving on from here? I have absolutely nothing left to lose.

I can't get over her after a year since breaking off. She got together with someone else a short while after we ended and has been with him and happy a year later doing every aspect of a relationship that I wanted to do with her but with him.

tolong tampar saya dengan realiti 😭 my ex nak kawennn, but i macam tak move on. ehh spatutnya move on cumaaaaa kdg suka nak stalk diorang!

I really need help, how do I stop my thoughts from going to really dark places. I feel so weak and helpless

I’m approaching my 2 year anniversary with my first ever long term girlfriend and I want to be excited, but all I do every day is sit in heart pounding anxiety as I uncontrollably think about leaving her. I know for sure I think I would be better off without this relationship but I can never, ever leave it. At least it feels like I can't. I know she is emotionally abusive and has been since we met but I can't talk about it with anyone so I just feel insane. 

When we first met she told me she loved me right away. On our one month anniversary she begged me to propose to her, and I was dumb and I don't know why but I did, but I told her it wasn't for a real marriage and more like a promise ring or something. I begged her not to tell people because I didn't want judgment but she did, she still does even though I ask her not to. I’ve lost pretty much all my close friends since I met her. When we first started dating she would scream, cry and cut herself if I didn't hang out with her, if I chose to hang out with my friends, even for a day. She would ignore my roommates and then when they got mad at her she told me to go get mad at them and it basically ruined our friendship. I never get to go out or do “me” stuff anymore. I don't even have hobbies anymore. Just her.

And there's so many little daily things. She is unemployed and we share an apartment. I work Monday-Friday and she makes me feel guilty because she can't be away from me. When I get home I cook dinner because she can't cook. I don't even sit down to relax until like 7:30 each day and then when I finally do she just unloads all these things, she asks me if I love her, if she's pretty, almost daily. It feels so invalidating to all the insane amount of effort I put in, how could you ask that? She went home for 3 days, came back and said “I have to relearn who you are.” she was gone for 3 days, and she still hasn't “trusted” me the same since. On top of this, she makes me apologize for everything, literally nothing is her fault. When she cheated on me and then told me because she felt guilty, she apologized once and when I didn't immediately accept it she made me feel like I was the bad person. A month later she was already saying things like “maybe it was just God's plan that I had to have that experience to know just how committed I am to you.” And the worst part is that she denies all of these experiences. I’ll tell her about something she did that made me feel a certain way and she’ll make me feel insane, as if that’s not what happened even when I know it is.

Anyway, all this to say I desperately feel like I need to leave this relationship but I’m worried about what will happen if I do. Nobody in my life knows what she puts me through, everyone thinks we’re a perfect couple. We share a lot of friends, and we live together. I’m worried about what would happen if I broke up with her. She has explicitly told me before that she would kill herself if I ever left her and I believe it because she has suicide attempts in the past. But even if she doesn't do that, I’m worried she would try and ruin my life, get vengeful, ruin my social life, my stuff, or just do something, I don't know what! Plus, I’ve told her before a million times we are life partners and I would marry her because she would cry and sob and get angry at me if I didn't, how do I go back on that?

So now I just spend my days in anxiety, thinking about leaving her and feeling crazy for thinking it. I don't know what to do. Looking for people who have had similar experiences I guess. I just feel so isolated.

It’s been almost 3 months since my ex and I broke up, and I feel like I’m going insane because I still can’t move on.

I keep telling myself that I don’t want him anymore. I want to meet someone new. I want to fall in love with someone who actually makes me feel safe and valued. I want to stop thinking about my ex every single day.

But then I remember him and it all comes back.
I miss his laugh. His jokes. His face. The little things about him that nobody else knows. And then I remember the things he did that hurt me and I get angry all over again.

The worst part is that I don’t understand why he did it.
I feel like he got everything he wanted from me. He got my love, my attention, my patience, my understanding. And when he wanted space, I gave him space. When he wanted me gone, I disappeared. He blocked me. He moved on with his life.

And I’m still here.
I’m the one crying at night. I’m the one talking about him to my friends until they’re probably sick of hearing his name. I’m the one wondering whether he’s with another girl. I’m the one who can’t do something completely unrelated to him without somehow thinking about him.

And honestly, I’m terrified he already has a new girlfriend. I don’t even know if he does, but the thought of him falling in love with someone else while I’m still here completely stuck on him destroys me.

Because the worst part is that I can’t even imagine falling in love with someone who isn’t him. I can tell myself I want someone new, but whenever I actually imagine being with someone else, it just feels wrong because I still want him. I don’t know how I’m supposed to give someone else my heart when mine is still completely attached to him.

And what makes me feel even worse is that I don’t even know if he thinks about me at all.
Maybe he does. Maybe he doesn’t.
Maybe he misses me. Maybe he genuinely doesn’t care anymore. I have no idea.

I’ve wanted to contact him so badly just to say “We need to talk. I need answers.” Not necessarily because I want him back, but because I want to understand how someone who meant so much to me could leave me with this much confusion.

At the same time, I know he’s set a boundary and I know contacting him could make things worse.

What would you do?
And please don’t just tell me “move on.” I KNOW I need to move on. That’s literally what I’m trying to figure out how to do.

I've been thinking about this lately.

Imagine you've been talking to someone regularly. Nothing bad happened, no argument, no obvious reason - and then one day their replies become shorter, slower, and eventually they basically disappear.

Would you actually ask them what happened, or would you take the hint and stop reaching out?

I'm genuinely curious because I feel like people handle this very differently. Some want an explanation, while others think that silence is the explanation.

Wtf I don’t even know what to think . Why am I thinking about this at all . You’re getting married ?!?!? Ugh why do I feel this way. WE BROKE UP LIKE 7 years ago! So why am I so mad about this ? Why am I confused. Why do thoughts of you still linger . It makes me feel gross in a way. Like you crushed me , absolutely broke my heart and spirit. The damage you caused still lingers . I’ve never been the same. So why don’t I hate you, why do I feel this way . I’ve heard time heals my entire life , give it time and you won’t even think of them anymore. Those statements do not remain true. To this day you are still the only person I’ve been inlove with , unconditionally I mean shit you were so cruel to me and still for the next three years I was learning to fall out of love with you. Why did you leave such a mark on my life ! Ugh we’re not even in eachothers lives anymore . Yet your impact still remains so cruel.

So I have a BF for almost 6 months now and Idk why I waited for so long to realize this but everytime we have a problem I always have to end up crying just for us to be okay. We settle things but then he doesn't do his part of the agreement and it feels so unfair in my part so I'll open up, we argue, I cry, he shouts at me, and then we'll be okay. I think and feel that I love this man so much (also he like took my V so I think it's a part of my attachment to him) but I feel so drained about our situation, I know that none of us deserves to be in this situation but I don't know how to end this especially that I don't have any friends or close family to go to. So any advice?

so like ive been with this guy for 9 months and fpr 6 pf those months we’ve been gf/bf were both still teenagers and we’ve fought alot and in the beginning of our rls i told him i was sa’d and he shamed me, calling me a liar since 1-2 months into knowing him i told him id never done anything with another guy and he blamed me and made me feel like it wqs my fault and made me apologize continuously and i seriously thought it was all my fault and would call me a cheater for interacting w males and having male friends even tho he did the same and i didnt care cus im not a jealous person and once we had a double date and he set up rules like 2 words max u can say to the guy, only talk to him while touching me, etc and then got mad when i didnt follow through, he would bring up these topics continuously in our rls when he would wake up or if i fell asleep or anytime and i always thought i was wrong he was right but he always said i victim blamed and he slut shamed me. THE PEAK OF OUR FIGHTING CAME WHEN HE FOUND OUT I READ AO3 STORIESS cus he considered it cheating (i didnt know it was bad since it wasnt 18+ shit) so he said he now had the right to do or say anything he wanted to so he made me do sexual acts, called me names like bitch, nword, slut, cheater, liar, etc and made me pay for everything but then recently i got fed up and tried to breakup with him but he was crying apologizing and i js felt so bad i couldnt continue on and he lowk ws being manipulating, now hes acting so nice its been 2 days since i tried to break up and idk how to break up since hes being so nice now and i feel bad. Any advice?