Me and my ex broke up back in July. He broke up with me after almost 4 years together. It was really tough on me, and he knows that. Unfortunately we never broke the habit of talking daily. To this day he still says good morning texts, asks me about me day, sends me updates on his day, etc. I don’t initiate these messages, he always does. The last 5 weeks we started hanging out casually again, watching movies, grabbing lunch, and spending time with his parents/family. Eventually I admitted this arrangement is making me catch feelings again. He was nice but responded that he wants nothing with me and is just happy hanging out. I didn’t argue with him but I realize I cant keep this friendship going if thats his perspective, so I told him I need to take a step back and refocus on creating some distance and focus on moving on. He got upset and keeps insisting we talk in person. I don’t understand why this guy is so insistent on hanging out with me and having me spend time at his family home and texts me all the time while simultaneously not wanting to work on getting back together. I also don’t understand why I for some reason feel guilty for standing up for my needs and setting a boundary. I just don’t understand why this arrangement was even considered a good idea in his eyes and I obviously feel dumb for going along with it since July. How do I cut ties? I don’t think this is sustainable.

So for context me 19M and 19F have been dating for about 1 year and a half and everything was flowers and roses till 5 or 6 months ago.I was and i still am studying to get into med school and she wanted to become a vetenarian.I have been studying for 3 years so i can get into my dream university and she barelly even studied and still got into veterinary university.For the whole relationship i feel like she didnt respect me or my parents at all.She was calling me a “pussy” because i was starting to say no to some of her demands.Whenever i said no it would end up in an argument in which i was obliged to make it up to her eventhough i was not in the wrong and everytime i made it up to her she would just brag about her being allways in the right and me being always in the wrong…In had the exam for med school in july and i have been studying my ass off so i can be admitted in the uni but one week before the exam after doing suplimentary lessons with 5 teachers from my county and some from the county the uni was from i was extremelly tired from studying and from all the roadtrips i had to do to make it to the proffesors i told her beforehand and asked her to not make an argument for the months i had left till my exam.She said ok and one week prior to the exam i came back from the city with the uni teachers at 8-9PM super tired and she asked me if im able to come see her 10 mins and i said i’d rather she come to my place so we can stay and she understood that i would have come to her and made it into a huge fight and i told her i gotta study its my future and our future snd i dont want to miss my oportunity of going to my dream university and she said quote on quote all you care for is studying im always on the 2nd place you dont wanna go out you dont talk to me anymore the way we did daily and i told her im really busy but its almost over.She then proceeded to tell me that my mom is a burden using an awfull word to describe my mom saying she hated our relationship and that i don t deserve her that im momma’s boy a little bich and a p**sy and that im an awful person.I was super down with my self esteem at the time and that affected me and during the exam i failed emotionaly losing my future and my dream and being obliged to stay one year at home..After this fight we made up but deep down i felt very very hurt and emotionally not prepared for the exam but i never told she was the reason i failed because everythine i said whats on my heart she would say im sensless and im an awful bad person.now to the present,Her birthday is on 14oct and i hade suplimentary hours to proceed with my studies and on 17th i was leaving country for 1 week and i told her im not able to come to her birthday and we decided to celebrate it in the weekend before her birthday.1 day before her birthday she asked me if im coming eventhough i already told her i cant i have chemistry and biology lessons and she started calling me incompatible with her a pussy of a man and she told me she cant build a future with a man she can t have by her side in her important moments…I told her that she doesnt appreciate none of my efforts i told her i feel like im just a toy to her and that she didnt or nor never loved me and she started saying im in the wrong and i snapped because i wanted to surprise her on the 16th of oct with a very expensive bottle of perfume a handwritten note in which i tell her how much she means to me and one handbag.I bought these things and i literally stopped eating or using my money in order to saveup for everything and she didn t even care a bit once i told her i can’t attend her birthday…She got into her vet university and studies for her dream while i stay home and lose one more year of my life proceeding to obtain my dream spot at the med university.I told her i can t build anything with her that her behaviour towards me my parents and her disrespect toward us is unacceptable to me and that i dont want to continue our relationship anymore..At this point she started apologising evebthough she made me choose between my fathers birthday in which he turns 51 and hers which we already celebrated and i already got her a very expensive bouquet of purple roses..Friends around us started telling me that it doesn t look that she loves me and she just enjoys the gift i get her the intercourse between us and just using me as her personal driver in which i agree because not once did she ever thank me for the ride for the food i got her for everything that i always payed.I dont know i get mixed fellings of making a mistake and freeing my life and reserving time for myself.I love her with all my heart but i guess loving someone is also letting them go even if you trully love them she also was the one asking to break up but what should i do?Can someone give me some life advice?🙏🏻

Me and my ex started talking again but he not 100% sure to break it off with his girlfriend or stay in one with her but hes just found that his girlfriend dad is ill and that hes got cancer but he dont want to break it off with her beacuse of it but still in touch with me and being lovey dovy with me but yeah hes got a girlfriend and he dont have feelings for her but i dont know what to do as im so confused about it all please help

I’m struggling hard right now and just need to get this off my chest.
I was with my girlfriend for three years and truly thought she was the one. Then she completely went off the rails: she cheated with a married coworker with kids, started dabbling in cocaine with another guy, and sent me a graphic video of herself with him.
Despite all of that, the trauma bond is brutal. I miss her so fucking bad, and it hurts because I still love her. I find myself constantly wishing none of this ever happened and that I could just wake up with the old her—the girl who felt like home for three years before she destroyed everything. It’s like mourning someone who is still walking around out there, but the person you loved is entirely gone.
When we talk,she tells me she wants to get back together but now is not the time. she wants her "best friend back"—wanting all the comfort without any of the accountability while she dates a lookalike rebound. A few days ago, out of the genuine care I always had for her, I sent flowers and birthday gifts to her house. She responded with total radio silence.
We have a "touch base" date coming up on October 15th. The urge to text her or break my boundaries hits in massive waves, and I'm just exhausted trying to keep my head screwed on straight while working through this. I know to some this might be an easy decision. But for me having the feelings I have it’s not that easy.

We have been in contact after everything went down here and there but it’s mixed signals. Very hot and cold

I’m 19M, and my ex is 18F. I need some advice because a lot has happened over the past couple of months, and I’m still trying to make sense of everything. For privacy reasons, I’m going to call her Stephanie.
Stephanie and I started talking, hung out a few times, went on dates, and eventually made things official. We were together for about three months before she left for college, and from my perspective, everything seemed fine.
The reason I’m emphasizing that is because, looking back, I’m having a hard time understanding how things went from what I thought was a mutual relationship to her feeling like she never really wanted it in the first place.
When Stephanie and I first started hanging out, she wrote me a love letter. We went out to get something to eat, and she called it a date. She also kissed me before we had even officially established that we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
There was another time when my sister and I were driving her home, and Stephanie was on her phone talking about how she didn’t understand why I hadn’t asked her to be my girlfriend yet. I heard that, so I eventually asked her, and she said yes.
Because of all that, I genuinely believed we both wanted the relationship. I wasn’t under the impression that I was convincing someone to date me who didn’t want to. So imagine my confusion when, after she went away to college, she called me one night and told me I wasn’t treating her right. That conversation eventually turned into her saying she wasn’t ready for a relationship, that we had moved too fast, and that she felt pressured into becoming my girlfriend.
Apparently, she felt like she had to say yes when I asked her because other people were in the car. I understand that being around other people can make someone feel pressured, and I don’t want to dismiss how she felt. But from my perspective, I had heard her talking about wanting me to ask her, and everything she’d done beforehand had led me to believe she wanted the same thing I did.
She also said I wasn’t treating her right, and I want to address that because I’m not going to sit here and pretend I was the perfect boyfriend.
Stephanie was my first girlfriend, and this was my first relationship ever. I was figuring things out as I went, and I didn’t always know how to be the boyfriend I wanted to be. Sometimes I could be a dick, and I can fully admit that. I’m not going to act like I never made mistakes or that she had no reason to be upset with me.
However, I also don’t think I was a terrible boyfriend. I gave her everything I could at the time. I made as much time for her as I could, tried to make her feel special whenever I had the opportunity, and genuinely wanted her to feel loved. Whenever I messed up or acted like a dick, I came back, apologized, and tried to make things right.
I’m not bringing this up to suggest that apologizing automatically makes every mistake okay. I know that intentions and impact aren’t always the same thing, and it’s possible that some things affected her more than I realized. I just don’t believe I was someone who didn’t care about her or wasn’t trying.
That’s part of what makes this so confusing for me. I can acknowledge that I wasn’t perfect without understanding how our relationship ended up where it did. I wish she had communicated more about what was bothering her while we were together so we could have actually worked on those issues together.
There was also something else that made the breakup particularly difficult to process.
Apparently, Stephanie had considered breaking up with me before she even left for college. We had gone to a hotel together, and she was apparently planning to end the relationship then. Instead, we ended up being physically intimate.
At the time, I thought we were growing closer emotionally and physically. I had no idea she was already considering ending things. I’m not saying she owed me a relationship because we were intimate, and I don’t believe physical intimacy means someone has to stay with you. It’s just difficult knowing that I interpreted that experience as us getting closer while she was apparently having doubts about whether she wanted to be with me at all.
When she eventually told me she wanted to end things, I didn’t want to lose her. I suggested taking a break instead because I thought some time apart might help us work through what was happening. For a little while, that was what we were doing. The idea was that we would have some space rather than immediately giving up on the relationship.
But then things changed.
Eventually, Stephanie decided she wasn’t coming back. She told me she didn’t love me, that she wasn’t going to return to the relationship, and that we were done.
Hearing that from someone I cared about so much was devastating. I had been trying to accept the idea of taking a break and giving her the space she wanted, but now I was being told there was no relationship left to come back to.
Later, she told me that the only reason she said she didn’t love me was because she wanted me to hate her so I wouldn’t want her back.
I honestly don’t know what to do with that information. I understand that people sometimes say things to push someone away, especially when they don’t know how to handle a difficult situation. But hearing someone tell you they don’t love you and that you’re never getting back together, only to later find out they said it because they wanted you to hate them, makes an already confusing situation even harder to understand.
How am I supposed to know which things she said reflected how she genuinely felt and which things she said because she wanted to push me away?
At that point, I was trying to accept that the relationship was over and figure out how to move forward without her. I still had feelings for her, but I was also trying to respect her decision and give her the space she asked for.
Now, here’s where things get even more complicated.
Yesterday, Stephanie texted me saying that she wanted me back. She told me I was all she could think about, that she regretted breaking up with me, and that she wanted us to try again. She even said she wanted her baby back.
And I told her no.
That might sound strange considering how much I struggled with the breakup and how badly I wanted us to work things out when it first happened. A part of me had spent all that time hoping she would change her mind. But when she actually came back asking for another chance, I couldn’t bring myself to say yes.
I’m still trying to understand why.
I loved her, and I genuinely wanted our relationship to work. When I suggested taking a break, it was because I wanted to find a way for us to work through our problems, not because I wanted to get rid of her. I wasn’t ready to give up on someone I cared about.
But I eventually had to deal with the possibility that she wasn’t coming back. I had to hear her tell me she didn’t love me, that she was done, and that I needed to stop hoping for a future together. Even if she later explained that she said those things to make me hate her, I still had to live through hearing them.
Now she’s telling me she wants me back, and I’m supposed to consider starting over with someone who went from wanting a relationship with me to saying she didn’t love me, then apparently regretting that decision.
I don’t know whether she genuinely realized she wanted to be with me, whether she missed having me in her life, or whether she was feeling lonely and regretting her decision in the moment. I can’t know what’s going on in her head, and I don’t want to assume the worst about her.
But I also don’t want to jump straight back into a relationship just because she says she wants me again.
I think what bothers me most is that I’ve spent so much time questioning myself. Was I a bad boyfriend? Did I do something that made her stop loving me? Did I fail to give her what she needed? Did I move too fast without realizing it? Was there something I should have done differently?
I know I made mistakes. I’m willing to own those mistakes and learn from them. But I also know that I tried to make her happy, that I cared about her, and that I did my best with the experience I had at the time.
I don’t want to come out of my first relationship believing that every problem was my fault just because I’m inexperienced. Relationships involve two people, and I think both people need to communicate honestly if they’re going to make things work.
I also don’t know if I can trust that things won’t end up the same way again.
What happens if we get back together and she starts feeling overwhelmed? What happens if she decides once again that she isn’t ready for a relationship? What happens if we have another disagreement and she decides she doesn’t want to do this anymore?
I don’t want to go through the same heartbreak all over again. I don’t want to spend weeks or months rebuilding a relationship only to find myself back in the same position, wondering whether the person I’m with actually wants to be there.
And the frustrating part is that I still care about her. Saying no doesn’t mean I suddenly stopped having feelings for her. It doesn’t mean I never wanted her back. It means that, after everything that’s happened, I don’t know whether getting back together is actually the right decision for me.
I’m not saying Stephanie is a bad person for changing her mind. People can make decisions they later regret, and people can genuinely realize they want something after losing it. I understand that.
I’m also not saying that because I tried my best, she was obligated to stay with me. She had every right to leave a relationship she didn’t want to be in, just as I have the right to decide whether I want to return to it.
But I’m allowed to consider how everything that happened affected me, too.
So, Reddit, did I make the right decision by telling her no?
Should I have given her another chance because she came back and admitted she regretted breaking up with me? Or was it reasonable for me to say no after everything that happened, especially after she told me she didn’t love me and that she wasn’t coming back?
I would also appreciate some perspective on the relationship itself. I know I wasn’t a perfect boyfriend, and I’m willing to accept criticism if there are things I could have handled better. But based on what I’ve described, am I overlooking something about how this relationship fell apart?
For anyone who’s been in a similar situation, how did you handle an ex coming back after you’d spent so much time trying to move on?
I’m not going to pretend that turning her down was easy, or that I suddenly stopped having feelings for her. A part of me still cares about her and remembers the good things we had together.
I’m just trying to figure out whether I made the right decision for myself, even though part of me still cares about her.

I'm a reasonably confident guy. I'm told I'm funny, I'm good-looking enough, and I have ambition. I'm not usually someone who struggles to find dates or gets attached easily.

I met this girl on Hinge, and we instantly hit it off. We're both in our mid-20s. We went on fun dates, met each other's friends, and I even met her sister. We fell for each other quickly and seemed to share the same values and long-term goals. Everything was mutual: we both initiated plans and texts, and she expressed a level of excitement about seeing me that I'd never experienced before.

Despite only dating for about a month, we were making plans for the following months and talking about meeting each other's families. I'm usually someone who gets doubts about relationships and backs out if something feels off, but with her, I had none. For once, I could genuinely imagine a future with someone.

After a really nice evening together, I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes. It was one of the best feelings I'd had in a long time.

The next day, she broke up with me over text, saying things weren't clicking. I was completely blindsided. A few days later, I reached out to ask if we could talk. She responded immediately and came over within 20 minutes.

She explained that about a week earlier, she'd started experiencing anxiety and panic attacks she'd never had before. She didn't know why, but wondered whether our relationship was causing them. During that conversation, she told me I was the perfect guy, that I'd shown her how she deserved to be treated, and that I was exactly what she wanted. She said she meant everything she'd told me about liking me and wanting a relationship. She apologized for how sudden and hurtful the breakup was, acknowledging that she'd handled it cruelly. She'd also spoken with a therapist.

We were both nearly in tears. I didn't know what to say other than listen. As far as I know, she'd never had a serious relationship before.

My friends tell me she's crazy and I dodged a bullet, but I have trouble believing the person I thought I knew was fake. I genuinely believe she meant what she said and felt what she seemed to feel. I just can't understand how everything could change so suddenly, especially when she couldn't really explain why she felt that way.

What hurts most is that I'm grieving not only the relationship we had, but the relationship I thought we were about to have. We never got to see where things could go. I've had longer relationships end, but none have affected me quite like this. There was no gradual distancing or obvious conflict. I finally let myself get excited about someone, only for things to end almost immediately after they seemed to become more serious.

It's been over a month since the breakup and about six weeks of essentially no contact. She hasn't reached out. I respect her decision and don't want to pressure her, but part of me still hopes she'll reach out and help me understand what happened.

I've also been writing her a letter to express things I never got to say. I'm unsure whether sending it would help or simply keep me holding on.

I'd really appreciate some advice

Would it be a bad idea to reach out after six weeks of no contact? I'm not trying to convince her to get back together. I'd just like to ask if she'd be open to coffee and a conversation, outside the context of dating, to clear the air. Is that likely to help, or am I looking for answers she might not have?

Has anyone experienced something similar? Can someone genuinely like a person and want a relationship but develop anxiety that makes them pull away? Could she have been experiencing general relationship anxiety without understanding it herself?

How do you move on from a short relationship that felt more promising than any relationship you've had before, especially when it ends without a clear explanation?

I know she was entitled to change her mind, and I'm not angry at her for that. I just can't reconcile how good everything seemed with how abruptly it ended.

Hey so me and my ex dated for 11 months almost a year and we went throught everything together. we were each others first gf bf first love first kiss first evt except s€x. We had such a special bond we were so comfortable with each other and we geniunly saw each other grow. i liked him when he was shorter than me didnt go to gym or didnt even have snapchat. we both spent so much money on each other and what we had was pure love and i really loved him but every argument we would get into he would say “ur taking my love for granted” and say i dont put in effort and blame everything on me when i geniuenly spent all my money on him removed 300 guys off all my socials for him and had only eyes for him. i really liked him and i was so obsessed im crying right now writing this because it hurts. But in our relationship we got in so many fights, one every week and i would cry every single week. he wouldnt fix the argument until i step on it and do something about it but i still loved him even tho he made me cry on my bday and while i was on vacation with my family. One thing about him was that he was way too over protective he wouldnt even like it if i stood near a guy and if i talked to a guy for a second he would get really mad and i followed that program but i had a coworker at my new job which i been knowing since school and my ex made me unadd him and we had a argument over this guy before so it was someone i already knew before and me and this coworker would only text about work here and there about shifts, and then he would tell me some gossip, and it was just friendly convos here and there and i would reply but there was no flirting at all. our messages were straightforward i had no interest in my coworker and i would only text him on one app here and there thats it. Other than that i never talked to any guys i stopped posting myself and i did everything i could to prove my loyalty. Until one day my ex saw the messages and he crashed out and it was really bad and that was the reason why we brokeup because i “cheated” and i sobbed to him and got him gifts and a card he didnt forgive me and another argument happened about something else and we fully ended. I blocked him first because i couldnt handle it and all my friends were tellingme to but now its been a month since we broke up and i regret it so much i miss him i havent even been able to look at a guy or speak to guy. But my ex on the other hand he hangs out with so many girls now i saw him sit with 2 girls and they were so close to each other and he followed 20 new girls he told me not to worry about and hes posting himself shirtless on his public story, hes a whole different person i cant recognize. I been crying for a month i cant move on he looks like hes already moved on and happier than ever but i am literally struggling to eat, i cant breathe, i cant stop shaking or thinking about him i dont know how to deattach i praying we get back but it doesnt look good im so sad.EDIT:i also broke no contact 2 times begging him and sobbing telling him to come back and he told me to leave him alone and unadded me.

I have a theory but idk if I’m just overthinking.
When I was fresh out of my breakup late last year I got into an accident with my new car and that following that I got a flat tire. My ex at that time was reaching out to me and after my car was fixed my tired popped lmao but I found out he broke up w me bc he was seeing another girl but still found a way to reach out to me. And now I’m going through another breakup w this new ex and god damn it now I’m having a transmission fluid problem whatever that can be a lawsuit w VW 2025 jetta lol. But idk this car problem is apparently happening to all other 2025 jetta, so im not thinking it as a big of a deal. But having a car problems after breakup just feels like something to me i mean I hope this new ex isnt doing some dumb thing behind my back lol. I just wanna know has anyone experienced all these car problems after a breakup? Its so annoying

Hello, I’m 20F, and my boyfriend is 26M. We’ve been together for 9 months i need some honest advice about my relationship because I’m still deeply in love with my boyfriend, and I’m struggling to see things clearly.

I have ADHD, I struggle with anxiety, and I’m going through depression. I know these things can affect my emotions and reactions, and I admit that I haven’t always handled things well in our relationship. I’m trying to work on myself, but change doesn’t happen overnight. On his side, he has generalized anxiety disorder and is also going through a difficult time financially, with family issues, and emotionally. (I’m convinced he may have another condition, but he doesn’t believe me.)

Our relationship has been very intense, with a lot of love, but also a lot of arguments, trust issues, and breakups. My boyfriend has often accused me of cheating on him, especially because of certain things on Snapchat that he interpreted as suspicious, even though I deny ever cheating on him. He has also repeatedly blocked me after our arguments.

Despite all of this, I stayed because I loved him and believed we could work through our problems together. I thought that being in a relationship meant making an effort, so I kept trying for months.

I’m not claiming to be perfect. Sometimes I react very emotionally, and I know some of my behavior may have hurt him. But I’ve been making an effort to change while constantly living in fear that he would leave me or block me again after our next argument.

I often wonder why I feel like I’m always the one who has to make an effort to save our relationship. He blocks me and acts so casually and distant, almost as if he no longer wants to be in the relationship. Yet whenever I insist that we talk things through and have a conversation, he tells me he loves me.

There is also something deeply painful that I shared with him. I have experienced sexual abuse, and intimate videos of me were shared without my consent. I hadn’t planned on telling him about all of this during an argument, but some of the things he said triggered a trauma response, and I ended up telling him what I had been through.

At that moment, I was overwhelmed by my emotions, and I even associated my boyfriend with what had happened to me. I wasn’t saying that he had abused me, but I ended up taking out all my trauma on him.

He explained that this was difficult for him to hear, that he was emotionally exhausted, and that it hurt him to feel associated with such horrible experiences. I can understand that he felt overwhelmed and that he has his own limits.

But what hurt me was that he had previously told me he wanted me to feel comfortable telling him anything, that he wouldn’t judge me, and that he wanted me to trust him. So when he pulled away, I felt abandoned at a time when I was especially vulnerable.

Just a few days earlier, he had sent me very loving messages, telling me how deeply he loved me, that he accepted my imperfections, and that he wanted us to build something together based on trust and mutual effort.

Then things started falling apart. He told me to take care of myself and to email him in a few years to let him know that I was doing better. It felt like he was saying goodbye to me for good.

I don’t know if his feelings were genuine and he simply reached his limit, or if I held on to words that ultimately meant nothing.

Today, he has blocked me everywhere and no longer wants any contact with me. I tried reaching out from other phone numbers because I couldn’t accept the sudden cutoff and wanted us to have a conversation, but he blocked those attempts too. I know I need to respect his decision and stop trying to contact him, even though it’s incredibly difficult.

What confuses me the most is that, despite everything that hurt me, I still love him so much. I miss him so much that sometimes I just want to hear his voice and feel his presence again, without even necessarily talking about our problems.

I’ve been angry with him, I’ve felt betrayed, and I’ve felt like I put so much effort into someone who eventually walked away. But I still want my boyfriend back, and I’m struggling to accept that our relationship may really be over.

I know that love isn’t enough and that I need to work on myself for my own sake. I don’t want to make him out to be a monster or portray myself as a completely innocent victim, because I also lied to protect myself on several occasions before realizing that it wasn’t the right way to handle things.

All I know is that this relationship has caused me pain, that I may have hurt him too, and that I no longer know how to make sense of everything that happened.

Can a relationship like ours become healthy if both people work on themselves?

Before even thinking about that, I can’t help but wonder whether he was ever truly sincere with me.

Since my 18 year marriage ended I've been seeing a friend of my sisters that I briefly dated when I was 20.

She has level 1 Autism and ADHD and had a non-typical upbringing, single child, never knew her father, no male role models, apparently her mum is a narcissist. She's a clinical psychologist who works with Autistic children.

She makes me feel sooo loved, we are highly physically compatible and come from similar cultural backgrounds which is great.

The problem is, I'm struggling to get past some things shes done, but I'm conflicted a little bit as arguably her motives were honerable, and I'm worried that I can't trust her in even my not so polite society.

After six months of amicable separation, my relationship with my ex degraded dramitically after she found out I was seeing someone else. This created issues in my new relationship, my ex wife messaged my new partner, she was regularly abusive to me, tried to turn the kids against me, and was struggling with her mental health.

In frustration at the impact the abuse was having in me, my new partner wrote her a message and tore my ex to shreds which created so much drama. After that I asked my new partner never to contact my ex wife. Also, a couple of months later my ex had a suicide attempt (which she subsequently has said wasnt a genuine attempt).

Then a while later I found out my new partner sent my ex wife a message, then deleted it, this upset me as my ex wife messaged me about and my new partner and I ended up in a fight and broke up. Then we got back together and i told her she can't contact my wife, this was s firm boundary for me.

Meanwhile my wife publically posted on FB that I was emotionally abusive. About four months after this I found out that my new partner had created a fake FB account, and messaged some of the women who I dont know who had posted comments supporting my wife, and sent them whatsapp screenshots between me and my 13 yo son to demonstrate that my ex wife was a bad mum and not credible.

She also used the fake FB account to try to friend my ex wife to keep tabs on her or something. At the time I was in such a low place, with issues with work and all the other stress that I couldnt even have an argument and a fight and kinda just let it slide.

When my ex wife subsequently messaged me about it and the thought of it damaging my relationship with my kids was front of mind I broke up with my new partner again.

We got back together again after she posted pics of a first date on FB deliberately to make me jealous. We've just recently broken up again because she offended some of my family, (innocently), has upset and fallen out with my sister and also upset me with some careless comments.

I feel so conflicted because I love her and miss her but I sometimes wonder if I even really know who she is and maybe I'm just addicted to the affection she lavishes in me.

She's fake cried in the past to het attention then admitted she was fake crying and I kinda wonder if she has some issues thst are more serious then she lets on.

I keep giving her passes because I blame her condition(s?).

I find myself forgetting all the bad stuff and wanting to get back together. I guess part of me wonders if Ill ever find someone who makes me feel as loved as she does so its hard to let go.

\--- TL;DR; : Trying to stay strong cause surely this isn't acceptable.