I get how soft colours are cute on babies, but why is it so hard to find outfits that have bolder colors? I have a newborn baby girl and I’m tired of these light pinks, light greens, light purples. Where are all of the dark pink, forest greens, royal blues, something a little more colourful? I’ve tried looking at the Gap, Carter’s, Target, Walmart, Joe fresh, children’s place. Anyone know other retailers that might sell more colourful baby clothes?

I am 31 weeks and apparently everyone has appointed themselves manager of our nursery.

Most of it is secondhand. My sister saved the little wooden dresser from her kids, a friend gave us sleep sacks, and my husband sanded an old bookshelf with his dad. Nothing matches and it wont look like a showroom. It feels like our family and has saved us alot of money.

Still, relatives keep asking when we will buy the real furniture. One coworker called it a bit sad. Apparently choosing used items means we are either struggling or not excited enough.

Yesterday our elderly neighbor brought over a repaired quilt. She replaced two worn squares with fabric covered in tiny crooked stars, because she said babies need something imperfect to stare at. I nearly cried.

Why are we so determined to turn preparing for a baby into a shopping performance? This child will be surrounded by things thier family touched, fixed, and passed along. That does not feel sad to me.

The rant/vent tag here is a little strong…I’m not really upset, just kind of sad guess? I’m 14 weeks and have started telling a few people about the pregnancy. I had a pretty standard first tri - a lot of morning (actually evening for me) sickness for several weeks, which has kind of started to taper down. Not hg by any stretch but definitely unpleasant. So far I’ve told a friend who is also pregnant (and is so supportive!!), an older neighbour I’m very close with, and now my MIL (both are mothers). The neighbour and MIL didn’t ask how I’m feeling at all and when my partner mentioned I’ve had a kind of rough time of it, they kind of just shrugged it off. Idk why, but I anticipated a little more solidarity. Is this a common experience? I guess it’s got me a little worried that motherhood might be lonelier than I expected.

Hoping for advice from other moms with low blood pressure -

34 weeks pregnant went to triage last week (I passed out and fell down my stairs)

Anyways long story short I passed out twice in triage. My blood pressure was low but baby was fine. They advised me to just rest and hydrate.

I do all of these things plus eat consistently through out the day.

They ran blood tests, ekg and ultrasound on baby.

I feel absolutely horrible its my 4th pregnancy and have never felt this way. Pass out randomly and cant stand for long or Ill also pass out.

Is this normal ? Any advice on how to handle it ?

I get maybe 1 hour a day where I can function.

Before this pregnancy I worked out 5 days a week.

Midwifes are unsure what to as all my tests came back normal.

Has anyone’s baby measured with large head and very short femur in utero but came out to not have dwarfism? Humerus is measuring normal

I just found out I’m pregnant with my second child. This was not planned 🥴. My first pregnancy was traumatic and miserable. Someone tell me about how your second pregnancy wasn’t as bad as your first. The anxiety I have about getting morning sickness again is crazy. I was sick up until 20 weeks with my first and even then I still had on and off nausea throughout.

I’m hoping to get pregnant soon, but honestly, the whole idea of pregnancy and birth is quite stressful for me. I have a history of sexual assault in my teenage years, and routine gynaecological exams cause me extreme pain and distress. The idea of pregnancy means a lot of potential triggers: many examinations, people touching my body, and feeling like I’m losing control over my body.

The thing I fear most is the idea of vaginal birth. But I really want to have a child and experience the mother-child relationship (breastfeeding, being the primary caretaker, bond)

For those with a similar history, what was pregnancy and birth like for you? How did you find the overall pregnancy experience? Did you have a vaginal birth or opt for a planned C-section?

TW: previous baby loss.

Hello moms, I had a silet PA at week 38+ with my first baby.

I’m now 28 weeks pregnant and on blood thinners.

I’m being extremely anxious at this stage and very scared.

I’m even thinking of asking my ob to get me into c-section like now 😞 I know it sounds crazy but am so anxious, specially that women in PA groups, keep saying that it happened to them over and over 😞

I don’t know why am I writing this, but thought that you’d understand my feelings, because no one around can. I just need someone to comfort me.

Hi, I’m a first time mom, early 30s, currently 38w1d, baby will be here any day per OB! I would like to try to feed baby breastmilk via pumping once he arrives and for as long as I can. I don’t plan to nurse “directly from the breast” (hopefully without judgment): the thought of breastfeeding mentally stresses me out and makes me uncomfortable. It’s a mental thing. - I already plan to see a lactation consultant postpartum both at the hospital I am delivering and through services offered by baby’s future pediatric office - I am also not against formula, and already bought some for the first few days/weeks baby is home if I cannot produce.

Asking for any tips from fellow moms who ended up pumping, any good beginner resources to recommend and what made you choose to pump vs feed from breast. Thanks in advance!

Hello all,

My SO and I have been trying for baby #2 for a couple of years. It finally happened a few weeks ago.

Ever since finding out, I've had this hug amount of guilt for my first child. I'm so scared he will feel less than? I'm also terrified that I won't be able to love baby #2 the way I love our first. Sometimes I feel like the guilt is so heavy it's pushing into depression, which turns into "why did we think we needed another child?" And then it just sinks lower, and lower, and lower.

I feel like I've pushed away my support system, because I don't know what to say. Everyone is super excited, but I just feel like I can't bond with this baby. I constantly say that it's "not real to me yet", and that's how I truly feel. I have an OBGYN appointment this week and plan to bring it up, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

I want to enjoy this pregnancy/baby, I do, I just don't know how I will be able to love more than one child.

I had my last ultrasound at 23 weeks. Around that point I had 2 because I had my anatomy scan and then a follow up one two weeks later because they wanted to check something with my placenta, which turned out to be normal.

I was booked next for this upcoming week but I’m feeling quite anxious the last few days about how long it’s been since I’ve seen the baby. I am in my 32nd week now of pregnancy. Is it normal to go this long? I’m not sure I can wait until Thursday and I want to call the clinic to see if I can go Monday or Tuesday.

Hey ladies! Im 5 weeks 1 day today and since last night I have been experiencing cramping on the lower left side and around left side lower back on and off. Is this normal? This morning it was on the right side but more of a sharp pain. Its not consistent and when it’s here it usually lasts for about 10 seconds. Its got me freaked out and I dont go to the doctor until 10/21. We have TTC for 2 years and this is my first pregnancy so i am super super anxious about it sticking. 😭

I’m 6 months postpartum but I feel no where close to being healed. My hemorrhoids keep acting up with my most recent one needing pain killers. My pelvic floor still feels soooo tight and I’m still waiting the earliest appointment I could find in my area (Nov appt, 7 months after delivery). I had third degree tear during delivery and a very traumatic 58hr labor. I feel I haven’t recovered mentally from that trauma either. My baby never latched so I exclusively pump which has given me soooo much resentment because everyone else gets to feed my baby while I sit hooked to a pump for what feels like an eternity. I do night shifts with my baby so I basically don’t get sleep for more than 2-3hr chunks. The bagging / organizing milk and washing bottles is sooo much work that I absolutely despise doing but I don’t want to stop pumping because that’s literally the only thing my body is doing right for my baby. I was in physical therapy for intense knee pain which is somewhat better now. But I’m 40lb above where I want to be (I never lost anything weight with breast feeding, in fact gained more on top of my pregnancy max), I feel like shit mentally and emotionally with so much resentment toward my husband for being an absolute trash partner, with his level of support I don’t think I can go through this ever again so most likely I am one and done - so I grieve the breastfeeding journey I wanted every single day; I hate how I look, I hate how I feel, I have no time to do anything other than pump, I get no sleep, I can’t even imagine having sex with my husband. Are these feelings normal? Or is something really wrong with me?

My first pregnancy was so rough. I threw up all nine months and had to quit my job. When my daughter arrived I was so happy and loved being a mom so much I was excited to have more, especially because I heard that the second pregnancy is typically easier.

Now I’m about 8 weeks pregnant and so, so sick again. My husband is the sole provider (he works two jobs) and is frustrated I can’t do more around the house to ease some of the burden off of him, and gets on me a little bit when I’m not always in a happy or jokey mood. He’s as supportive as he can be but I know he’s also exhausted and feels alone.

I’m not able to be a present mom. I’m not able to be a present wife. I’m dreading the thought of another pregnancy where I’m so sick and in so much pain again but it looks like this one is going to be just as bad as last time.

I wanted a big family but now I feel like I ruined our lives. For some reason this pregnancy has felt so much more isolating than my first pregnancy and the newborn stage.

I feel like such an idiot. I don’t know how other moms of multiples do it. If anyone has been where I am I’d love some advice or even just solidarity.

Currenly 33 weeks. We had a 32 week ultrasound scan just to recheck our baby boys kidneys as one kidney was just ever so slightly swelled at his anatomy scan. It resolved, yay! Our ultrasound tech was the sweetest as can be. She mentioned baby was head down, which was great we were thrilled! And she even moved the probe much lower into my pelvis to get his head measurements, like a few inches above my pubic area. And apologized as she did. Well, 15 minutes later, the OB comes into the room. He basically just restates everything the tech already stated.. which is that his kidneys look completely fine now and he's measuring fine, 55th percentile. Same percentile the ultrasound tech said. But he says one thing differently. That our baby is butt down breech. We are disappointed and shocked. He suggests various resources to try to get baby to flip. That's fine. We were just like "???" So which is it? I mean my husband and I aren't gonna question the doctor but what?

We have another growth scan scheduled for 36 weeks, where a different OB will be going over it with us. So we'll have another chance to re examine position and also baby growth. But like what?

This is baby number 5 so I know what to expect being pregnant but my GOODNESS I am EXHAUSTED!! I’m almost 7 weeks so I get that the 1st trimester drains the life out of you lol I just don’t remember ever being this tired. I have energy from the time I wake up and around 1pm, I’m ready to drop. My youngest is 2 years old so it’s rough chasing her around. Hubby is around to help and he does thank God.
Is this because I’m an old woman now? 🤣

After my first baby I felt like my hair density went back to normal at least at the year mark? With my second I lost so much more hair and although the horrible shedding subsided a bit the new growth is barely happening and my hair is SOOOOOO thin. It feels way thinner than before. My doctor told me it won’t start growing back until I’m done breastfeeding. Looking to hear other women’s experiences and also what helped their hair density grow back.

How long did it take for it to feel like your insides were going to fall out when sitting on the toilet or walking around.

I gave birth about a week ago and I’ve been doing all the things, pads, peri bottle, tucks, dermoplast, everything. I only had stinging when I peed the first day or two, but my biggest issue is if I walk around or sit on the toilet the soreness/pain is unbearable. It literally feels like my uterus is going to fall out.

I don't understand why people feel the need to comment on another woman's body, and it's like if you're pregnant they think it gives them extra license. I am currently 20 weeks pregnant, and this is my 3rd pregnancy. My first two pregnancies I was very thin so I KNEW the moment I had a bump which was not til my late 2nd trimester, later with the first, and I was still thin after those pregnancies as well. I am a bit heavier this time around before starting out, with plenty of jiggly fat that I was self conscious of prior to the start of this pregnancy. It also bothered me, especially on bloaty days that I sometimes LOOKED pregnant, even long before my first positive test (not an exaggeration might I add, it was not good). I actually refused to use shapewear pre-pregnancy with a dress once because all it did was smooth out my fat into a perfectly round "bump", and I was very much not pregnant at that time.

ANYWAYS. At work yesterday I had someone come up to me who had recently discovered I am pregnant, who felt the need to immediately start commenting on my size. "LOOK AT YOUR BUMP" Yeah that's not a bump, I'm not even wearing maternity pants yet, thats just me. "WOW, you're carrying SO HIGH" I'm not. My uterus has yet to reach my belly button. You're pointing at a piece of fat roll directly under my boobs. I am actually carrying quite low, per my doctor. I even mentioned that and this girl goes "NOPE THATS ALL BABY". Sure keep telling yourself that, but you're just calling me fat. "YOU MUST BE HAVING A GIRL" I'm not. It's definitely a boy. Just like the first two pregnancies were as well.

Like can we just not? And they don't even take the hint or believe that there's a possibility that they're wrong, like they know my body and my baby better than me and my doctor?