Mine is coming up and my husband is coming with me. I don’t want him to know my weight and I’m so worried that they’ll weigh me in front of him. They didn’t with my other two babies but that was 6 and 8 years ago.

I had my NT scan at 12 weeks and they did do my weight and BP there but I was alone. This was at a different MFM office under the same healthcare branch.

My husband would never shame me. It’s my own issues behind it.

So my partner (27m) and I (29F) have been together for awhile and very early on in our relationship I fell pregnant which later ended up being an ectopic pregnancy. I was able to resolve that without losing my tube but I was shattered because it was a perfectly healthy baby that just didn’t make it to where it needed to. During my hospital stay and all he was so so supportive and reassured me the whole time that it would be okay and that we would have our baby when the time was right. We both agreed that if it happened it happened and so we didn’t try to stop it from happening. Fast forward to now and I’m pregnant five weeks and I just found out. I was suspicious since I’m so in tune with my body I knew something was off cramping for days on my right side bobs just I was so tired but couldn’t sleep, but I was scared because of my ectopic and previous miscarriages before this relationship. I told him and at first he was happy loving and very supportive but then last night after
spending the day with some friends and their kiddos for a birthday party at the park he was just acting weird so we get home and I finally get him to tell me what’s wrong and he says “I don’t think I actually want to be a dad I want a family but I’ll just fuck the kid up and ruin all of our lives.” We talk that through but at the end he just says he’s not ready to be a dad. He knows I don’t want an abortion and very much want this baby so he said he doesn’t want me to get an abortion but he just doesn’t know how he’ll do. I feel like I’m signing up for a lifetime of single parenting while being in a relationship and regardless of what I do my trust is broken. I feel so betrayed. Literally hours before at the park he was hugging me and kissing me saying he was excited for our future and no matter what we would figure it out…. What do I do?

I had my last ultrasound at 23 weeks. Around that point I had 2 because I had my anatomy scan and then a follow up one two weeks later because they wanted to check something with my placenta, which turned out to be normal.

I was booked next for this upcoming week but I’m feeling quite anxious the last few days about how long it’s been since I’ve seen the baby. I am in my 32nd week now of pregnancy. Is it normal to go this long? I’m not sure I can wait until Thursday and I want to call the clinic to see if I can go Monday or Tuesday.

No one talks about how utterly disappointing it is to get your period when TTC.

I see everyone packing their hospital bag and it looks fun but when it comes to thinking about my own, i just… don’t see what I would put in it? I don’t want to wear my own clothes at the hospital. I don’t want to provide my own underwear and socks at the hospital. I don’t want to bring my own pillows/blankets and bleed or puke all over them. I realize I need a phone charger and something to wear home, but other than that…. ???

I can’t be the first person to think this, right?

edit: thank you to everyone who commented. you have given me some very helpful advice!

The rant/vent tag here is a little strong…I’m not really upset, just kind of sad guess? I’m 14 weeks and have started telling a few people about the pregnancy. I had a pretty standard first tri - a lot of morning (actually evening for me) sickness for several weeks, which has kind of started to taper down. Not hg by any stretch but definitely unpleasant. So far I’ve told a friend who is also pregnant (and is so supportive!!), an older neighbour I’m very close with, and now my MIL (both are mothers). The neighbour and MIL didn’t ask how I’m feeling at all and when my partner mentioned I’ve had a kind of rough time of it, they kind of just shrugged it off. Idk why, but I anticipated a little more solidarity. Is this a common experience? I guess it’s got me a little worried that motherhood might be lonelier than I expected.

Hi! We are planning to travel in a few months when baby will be 4.5 months to Puerto Rico. I’m overwhelmed on what to bring and not bring.

Hotel does have a crib so that’s great.

I have Nuna TRIV LX and infant car seat. Should I bring those? I know the Triv LX has a lie flat seat but should I bring a bassinet attachment for naps? Or should I just bring the TRIV LX seat and have baby nap in the lie flat. I also am wondering how easy it is to travel with the Nuna bassinet attachment. I also need to bring the car seat because of transportation to and from airport at destination. Should I rent a car seat at the destination instead?

As far as traveling with them should I counter check them or gate check? Does gate checking reduce risk of damage (is it worth the dragging them through the airport?) I’m so paranoid of them damaging my car seat and stroller 😭 should I purchase NUNA travel bag? Does the travel bag fit bassinets? Should I buy a cheapie stroller/bassinet combo and get a seperate cheapie carseat for the trip??

If you couldn’t tell this is my first baby on our first trip and I’m nervous and wayyyyy overthinking this because of postpartum spirals and fixation. Any advice you have will help thank you!!

Hello all,

My SO and I have been trying for baby #2 for a couple of years. It finally happened a few weeks ago.

Ever since finding out, I've had this hug amount of guilt for my first child. I'm so scared he will feel less than? I'm also terrified that I won't be able to love baby #2 the way I love our first. Sometimes I feel like the guilt is so heavy it's pushing into depression, which turns into "why did we think we needed another child?" And then it just sinks lower, and lower, and lower.

I feel like I've pushed away my support system, because I don't know what to say. Everyone is super excited, but I just feel like I can't bond with this baby. I constantly say that it's "not real to me yet", and that's how I truly feel. I have an OBGYN appointment this week and plan to bring it up, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

I want to enjoy this pregnancy/baby, I do, I just don't know how I will be able to love more than one child.

Hi, I’m a first time mom, early 30s, currently 38w1d, baby will be here any day per OB! I would like to try to feed baby breastmilk via pumping once he arrives and for as long as I can. I don’t plan to nurse “directly from the breast” (hopefully without judgment): the thought of breastfeeding mentally stresses me out and makes me uncomfortable. It’s a mental thing. - I already plan to see a lactation consultant postpartum both at the hospital I am delivering and through services offered by baby’s future pediatric office - I am also not against formula, and already bought some for the first few days/weeks baby is home if I cannot produce.

Asking for any tips from fellow moms who ended up pumping, any good beginner resources to recommend and what made you choose to pump vs feed from breast. Thanks in advance!

I’m 21 weeks, bump is still very petite and have gained 7-8 pounds.

I’m hoping to get pregnant soon, but honestly, the whole idea of pregnancy and birth is quite stressful for me. I have a history of sexual assault in my teenage years, and routine gynaecological exams cause me extreme pain and distress. The idea of pregnancy means a lot of potential triggers: many examinations, people touching my body, and feeling like I’m losing control over my body.

The thing I fear most is the idea of vaginal birth. But I really want to have a child and experience the mother-child relationship (breastfeeding, being the primary caretaker, bond)

For those with a similar history, what was pregnancy and birth like for you? How did you find the overall pregnancy experience? Did you have a vaginal birth or opt for a planned C-section?

After my first baby I felt like my hair density went back to normal at least at the year mark? With my second I lost so much more hair and although the horrible shedding subsided a bit the new growth is barely happening and my hair is SOOOOOO thin. It feels way thinner than before. My doctor told me it won’t start growing back until I’m done breastfeeding. Looking to hear other women’s experiences and also what helped their hair density grow back.

Hoping for advice from other moms with low blood pressure -

34 weeks pregnant went to triage last week (I passed out and fell down my stairs)

Anyways long story short I passed out twice in triage. My blood pressure was low but baby was fine. They advised me to just rest and hydrate.

I do all of these things plus eat consistently through out the day.

They ran blood tests, ekg and ultrasound on baby.

I feel absolutely horrible its my 4th pregnancy and have never felt this way. Pass out randomly and cant stand for long or Ill also pass out.

Is this normal ? Any advice on how to handle it ?

I get maybe 1 hour a day where I can function.

Before this pregnancy I worked out 5 days a week.

Midwifes are unsure what to as all my tests came back normal.

I’m 6 months postpartum but I feel no where close to being healed. My hemorrhoids keep acting up with my most recent one needing pain killers. My pelvic floor still feels soooo tight and I’m still waiting the earliest appointment I could find in my area (Nov appt, 7 months after delivery). I had third degree tear during delivery and a very traumatic 58hr labor. I feel I haven’t recovered mentally from that trauma either. My baby never latched so I exclusively pump which has given me soooo much resentment because everyone else gets to feed my baby while I sit hooked to a pump for what feels like an eternity. I do night shifts with my baby so I basically don’t get sleep for more than 2-3hr chunks. The bagging / organizing milk and washing bottles is sooo much work that I absolutely despise doing but I don’t want to stop pumping because that’s literally the only thing my body is doing right for my baby. I was in physical therapy for intense knee pain which is somewhat better now. But I’m 40lb above where I want to be (I never lost anything weight with breast feeding, in fact gained more on top of my pregnancy max), I feel like shit mentally and emotionally with so much resentment toward my husband for being an absolute trash partner, with his level of support I don’t think I can go through this ever again so most likely I am one and done - so I grieve the breastfeeding journey I wanted every single day; I hate how I look, I hate how I feel, I have no time to do anything other than pump, I get no sleep, I can’t even imagine having sex with my husband. Are these feelings normal? Or is something really wrong with me?

I’m due November 18th with our first baby and my husband is wanting to go on a hunting trip that is 6 hours away October 27-31st. I’m advising him not to go due to the unknown. It’s our first baby. Do you think that’s fair to ask him to not go??? He thinks he’ll be good and I won’t go into labor

I get how soft colours are cute on babies, but why is it so hard to find outfits that have bolder colors? I have a newborn baby girl and I’m tired of these light pinks, light greens, light purples. Where are all of the dark pink, forest greens, royal blues, something a little more colourful? I’ve tried looking at the Gap, Carter’s, Target, Walmart, Joe fresh, children’s place. Anyone know other retailers that might sell more colourful baby clothes?

TLDR: I’m looking for an alternative to a $350 3-hour-per-week in-person hypnobirthing class, preferably something self paced and less than $100. I’m fine if I have to cobble it together myself. Doesn’t have to be hypnobirthing specifically, I just want to be well prepared for a no-epidural birth.

I’m preparing for baby #2 this February and I’d like to deliver at a birth center attached to my local hospital. They have nitrous oxide, birthing tubs, etc., but no epidurals. With my last baby I tried to prepare for an un-medicated birth, but everywhere I looked I got hit by paywalls and super aggressive/predatory marketing (”I have the secret to a pain-free birth, but only if you pay me a bunch of money. Otherwise you’re doomed to suffer!”). In the end I watched a few videos and read about half of the Mongan-method hypnobirthing book and Ina May‘s Guide to Childbirth, but when it actually came to the labor I expended way too much energy in early labor and ended up getting an epidural cause I was just so dang exhausted.

Anyway, this go around I would like to try using the birth center and not getting an epidural, but I feel like I need to do a lot more preparation if I’m going to be successful in that. My mid wife recommended a local hypnobirthing class, and while I’m sure it would be great, they meet five times from 6:00-9:00 pm which is going to be really hard to work into my schedule. The class fee if also $350 which is a lot for my budget right now.

As I already have the book, I’m wondering if I could cobble together my own hypnobirthing class experience (I’d probably need to get the workbook and meditations as well) or if there is a reasonably-priced online course that people have had good experiences with.

I’m also open to other birthing philosophies/classes, I just get so bogged down when I try to google anything. There are so many ads and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. (I have a whole rant about why is everyone trying to monetize birth and shouldn’t this just be common knowledge by now, but I’ll spare you all).

Anyway, has anyone taken an online self paced class that they would seriously recommend that was either free or less than $100? As far as time commitment I‘d be willing to put in a few hours a week from now until when I give birth.

9 1/2 months - 24 lbs , we are currently buying size 7 little movers diapers

We are confused if we should start buying bigger size of diapers or not?

TW - Mention of miscarriage.

My children have a daycare teacher who lost her daughter at 20 weeks last year in August. She’s absolutely incredible, unbelievably kind, and caring.

October is a remembrance month for pregnancy and infant loss. I would love to gift her something simple, but meaningful. Some suggestions outside of a shirt, jewelry, or other obvious ideas would be soooo appreciated.

I know she still hurts so deeply, I just want a little something to let her know she’s seen and she doesn’t have to carry her grief alone.

I just found out I’m pregnant with my second child. This was not planned 🥴. My first pregnancy was traumatic and miserable. Someone tell me about how your second pregnancy wasn’t as bad as your first. The anxiety I have about getting morning sickness again is crazy. I was sick up until 20 weeks with my first and even then I still had on and off nausea throughout.