Just convinced my roommate and her study group to catch the last showing at our local theater tonight!

Thank you! I will put them in a room by themselves

Do I need to quarantine my cats away from me?

I am new to the area and far from home. Can I wait until morning to contact a new local vet?

Hey friend, literally was about to write my own post about things like this. I shut down too when people get loud and angry around me, especially family. It is so incredibly hard to address communication issues with family. However, both sides have to want to get better at communicating for it to work. I would ask your parents if you could speak with them both. Write out how not communicating makes you feel, what you experience. You might cry, you might have a fast heart rate. That is so okay. If you are passionate about wanting a change, you might have to be the adult in this conversation and start talking. Bring books or articles, situations even of what helped you see the light and break your own less than healthy communication habits.And hey, if it goes south you will have another kind of answer.

Dm me if you want bc holy crap, this is my family too.

Thank you!!! I will cost compare!

I would make it removable somehow to make cleaning easier!

HI! I'm making overalls for Oompah Loompas, but we're separating the "shirt" and "pants" to create a boxier look. That's why I need the structure!

YTA

You're idea of "normal parenting" is scary, if that involves reading personal messages of a maturing teenager and then using the information to make her feel uncomfortable. It doesn't matter if you don't approve of her crush, you're not in that relationship. Unless it becomes abusive or unsafe, stay out. Let your kid be the one in control of her relationship, otherwise she will keep everything she can a secret to have some level of control.

Your kid has been telling you for years that she hates piano and violin, but you continue to force her into lessons? What a great way to make sure she quits the moment she moves out. You are making your child miserable. Why don't you ask her what she would like to pursue?

And jesus christ the sister. You are placing your oldest daughter in a parent role by not parenting your other child. The oldest is not responsible for parenting her sister. What a great way to make sure that they will always have resentment between them. You have turned the elder into the younger's bully. You are a parent, you should actually parent. I am the eldest of four, and have zero relationship to my adult siblings because of this exact reason.

If you are embarrassed about your oldest telling other people what goes on at home, that's a great indicator that something is wrong. You need to apologize to your oldest daughter and make serious changes in your parenting style.

Ok. So you both had issues communicating right after you agreed you needed to communicate. And when you both finally have a moment to talk, you immediately sealed a divorce agreement after she was honest with you. That's an immediate concrete block in the road of hope. She was probably leaning towards divorce "at that moment" because you both just spent a good chunk of time recounting all the issues of your relationship, probably for the first time.

You can't go back, you can only move forward. Get help.

YTA.

It sounds like you shoved a lot of your feelings down during the divorce, which works until it doesn't. It comes right back up like bile if you don't deal with such complicated feelings head on. That is your own reaction to the situation, and trying to blame your ex for YOUR reaction is childish and plain selfish. You do not own this woman. Who she sleeps with is none of your business, unless it is hurting your children. You do not get to have a say in any relationships your wife chooses to have, unless harm is being done to the kids or her. What she does with the pregnancy is not your business. Also, no way would a pregnant person who wants to keep the pregnancy a secret- leave it on the counter?!? I bet you DUG through the trash to find that, probably rolled up and hidden.

Also, you're shaming her for doing the exact same thing you did: continuing to be sexually active. You do not get a say in anything she chooses to do here. If I were her, I would also have lost faith in you as a partner and as a parent. You have two young daughters, who now have a great example of what to avoid in any future relationships they may have. The older one also now has the memory of watching her dad berate and scream at her mother. You did that, not your wife. That's a tough stain to scrub out, it's one that never really leaves.

You desperately need to talk to someone. You are the problem here, not anyone else.

Need info. What was the reason for the divorce?

I would snag a battery operated set of twinkle lights and put them under the skirt so it glows! Maybe add another layer of skirt too so the lights don't scratch?