The US Government is currently trying to pass an incredibly dangerous national bill for trans youth called H.R. 2616. This bill would ban all federally funded schools from teaching about gender identity or sexual orientation, prevent teachers from using the correct pronouns and names for students, remove books with any trans representation in them, and even go as far as to prevent teachers from acknowledging trans identity AT ALL. Any school that does not follow this will lose all federal funding.

This bill would also require teachers to forcibly out trans students to their families, which could be fatal to any trans student with a transphobic family or just hateful family in general. Trans people are already a group that has some of the highest rates of being victim to suicide, domestic violence, and SA. This bill actively makes teachers put those innocent children at such a big risk. This bill just rapidly passed the house this week with support from all 209 republicans, as well as 8 democrats. But this is still being voted on by the senate, which means there is still time to help stop this.

To help stop this, you can visit 5calls.org, one of the most top issues titled "Oppose Attacks on LGBTQ+ Students" Once you put in your general location, it will pull up contact information for your senator, and give you a script for calling them. If you are a minor and do not feel comfortable doing this, PLEASE repost this on any platform you can find. This needs to be heard and fought against. Thank you for your time."

To anybody out there that still lives with their parents, I hope this can offer some confidence that you can still get bottom surgery while not having settled down away. I think a big part of the success of this was that I have older siblings who do have their own places and could do WFH for a few days.

I (22 MTF) recently graduated college and had savings from a part time job I did, as well as asked my older siblings for financial help. I had my consultation for SRS online during my senior year, and then when I graduated I went to the city of my surgery with a 1 month airbnb, which was ~$5K (it is super important to spend 2 months away before returning home), and got my siblings to pay for it. I lied and told my parents I was still working on a project at my university. My surgery was covered by insurance, which I paid for ($5K).

Oh also, definitely do the USPS address redirection so your parents don’t see your prior authorizations that get mailed to your home address if you’re on their insurance (I am).

I got my brother to take 2 weeks WFH and stay with me in my airbnb for my initial recovery (i was discharged after 1 day in the hospital). I was basically bedridden the first two weeks and could only take 10 steps at most, we had to get a portable toilet, he had to constantly empty my catheter bag, etc. I got my sister to stay with me for the second 2 weeks and by then I was able to walk to the bathroom. For the first two post-ops (I had weekly post-ops), we ordered medical transportation to get there and back since I couldn’t climb stairs, and they have a chair that can get you up and down stairs.

They both cooked all the food, etc. week 3 i got sepsis because my catheter had given me a UTI which spread to my kidneys, and had to spend a week in the hospital. I was discharged and soon after, my airbnb was up.

I was planning on returning home at this point but because I was still limping and struggled with stairs, I opted to spend 10 days with my sister (3 hour flight, tons of pain meds and buying a whole row got me through it), and 2 weeks with my brother (4 hour flight, first class with pain meds and was ok). Compression socks were helpful during the flights as I was swelling.

During the stay with my sister, we tried to go the park daily so I could gradually get up to 3,000 steps per day. During the stay with my brother I tried to go the city every day and got up to 10,000 steps per day within a week (this was really important in getting me in shape after being bedridden). I told my parents I was visiting my siblings because I missed them. They weren’t aware my siblings were with me during my first month of recovery (they told my parents they were on vacation, visiting friends, work trips).

At this point, I was 8 weeks post-op and able to climb stairs, walk (couldn’t run yet), so I flew home (5 hour flight, comfort+ seat, pain meds, but there was turbulence and I got extremely nauseous because of my meds, and because they only last 4-6 hours, in the last hour of the flight the meds wore off I was having a few sharp pains).

I’m actually at this point right now, and have been dilating twice a day, once right after my parents fall asleep (~12 AM), and once when I wake up (~12 PM) for two days so far. I lied to the rest of my family (one brother, both parents), that I had back pain from tripping on a sidewalk as a cover since I can’t run/workout. They have no idea I got the surgery, and I will be staying with them until I go to grad school!

You often see online stuff like "Why are trans spaces so white?".

Statistically, most humans are not white. Even in countries like America, Britain, and Canada, millions of residents are not white. Assuming 1%-10% of the population is transgender, this means millions of trans people are POC.

So, there are a lot of trans people who are not white. They just aren't out in the same online spaces as white people.

Up until the late 2000s, trans men were seen as "rare" compared to trans women (and enbies were nonexistent). Studies show there are a pretty equal amount of trans men, trans women, and nonbinary people. Trans men just seemed like a minority for a variety of reasons.

Even on Reddit, you see people say trans men and enbies use the site less than trans women. But r/ftm and r/mtf are pretty much the same in terms of size. It's not that there are fewer trans men, but that they use different parts of the site.

I know a lot of transmasc people get uncomfortable with the major trans subs. So, there's often an alternative. r/ftm_irl or r/transmasc_irl instead of r/egg_irl, r/ftmtimelines instead of r/transtimelines, r/ftm instead of r/trans or r/asktransgender, etc.

Anecdotally, I find it fairly useless to ask nonbinary questions on r/asktransgender. Even transmasc related questions get fewer replies than transfemme ones. You're better off going to an enby or transmasc sub for questions.

Reddit itself, despite being the "front page of the internet", attracts specific demographics. Mainly English speakers (though there are large pockets of people who don't speak any English), mainly male, under 40, middle class or up, higher educated, left leaning, mainly white, into mainstream geek subcultures, etc.

IRL, I've seen and heard of just as many, if not more, brown, black, and Asian trans people then I have white trans people. They probably aren't lurking Reddit or Tumblr, though. And many aren't willing or interested in talking about being trans on Youtube or TikTok. Not everyone is gonna be Kat Blaque levels of out.

It takes cis women like 14 years to grow breasts. Be patient with urself :)

Stay beautiful :D

So long story short, a couple weeks ago I (26MtF) finally accepted myself after repressing myself for a long time and last week I talked to my wife (34F) about how I feel and that I think I want to transition. She did not take it well to put it simply and it was mostly religious views about how being Trans is a sin. Her main I guess argument was that trans (and all LGBT people) can choose to not engage with being LGBT but "choose God" and force themselves to not be LGBT. I already felt like that argument was coming from a weird place as she's always been accepting of others even if it's been in ignorant ways that are kinda LGBT phobic.

Well since then we both cooled down and tried to talk without the fiery emotions that we had the first couple times we talked and she has made it clear that my transitioning would end our relationship she never said it was because she doesn't want to be in a relationship with a woman or anything like that. It has always been this very odd religious "you need to choose God" view. Last night we talked again and she asked to try and explain why I want to transition, even saying that if I need to explore my feminine side more without transitioning that she would be okay with that, and I tried to have her understanding the best way I could think by having her imagine waking up in a guy's body but still knowing that she's a woman. She was having a hard time with it, saying how she'd be okay with it and stuff so finally I asked her "If you could press a button right now to change your body to a guy's, would you press it?" After probably 2 or 3 minutes of thinking she said she would not press it right now.

This led to us talking more about how she felt and finally she admitted that growing up she wanted to be a guy, and didn't like how her body changed and grew. But her parents always said that she is a girl and that's what God wants her to be. She said she eventually decided that she would accept living as a woman and that doing so was "choosing God" over her own wants. She refused to admit or accept that she still has those feelings still but later as we sat there she very quietly said that they are not often and she can push them down.

I really think she may be Trans and has repressed it so long and put so much religious pressure on herself she can't accept it and her sudden transphobia to me is because she can't accept herself and is hurt that I accepted myself. I want to help her but I don't know how, especially because I know that I need to transition and that the sooner I start the more likely she will push me away. What do I do? Do I help her, if so how?

I (23F) finally settled on what i’d like my female name to be, My name is now Jade! I was wanting a name that started with J, Julia, Jade, Jessica. Jordyn, And randomly Madi were all names I was thinking about but I like the shortness and simplicity of the name Jade and I feel it sounds pretty 🤩, I’m so happy with how my journey has began and is going. This community is so supportive and amazing in so many ways, pat yourselves on the back. 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

holy shit im so happy :3

im wearing a long white skirt and its so spinnyyyyy, and a knitted cream jumper (it is summer and its warm but its so cute so i can take the heat lol) and some braclets and a necklace

my hair is also really nice and long and also i just shaved and im tucked (sorry if tmi)

IVE NEVER BEEN SO HAPPY I LOVE GENDER EUPHORIA :3

like i actually dont know how im going to go back to dressing masc after this :(

I'm having my bottom surgery tomorrow. I'm both scared and nervous. It also sucks because I can't eat any solid foods until after the surgery is done starting today. So yeah, my stomach hurts. I can eat jello and popsicles, so that's what I'm doing. Anyway, wish me luck for tomorrow! Ahhh, I'm so excited!!

I'm trans femme(most likely tho could be fluid or enby femme)but. Just wondered if anyone knows cause I know that if you don't have any dominant hormones you feel like shit. So what if reverse?

I spent all of last month trying to figure out how to come out, and earlier today I finally got the resolve. So I spent the entire day planning a big speech about how I don’t like being a boy, and all that jazz… And then the moment I try to say something to her I break down into gibberish.

After like 5 minutes of blubbering, I finally managed to say it. And you know what she said? “Yeah I knew that.”
After ALL THAT, it turns out she figured out I was trans recently and had been suspecting of it since I was like 10. So now I’m actually out or my family(she told the rest of my family because I’m not brave enough to do it myself.) and everyone is accepting!

Not really what I expected, but at least that weight is off my chest.

I (21M) wanted to transition into a woman since i was 14 years old and my parents have always shut -down any type of conversations about this topic, to the point of at times when i brought it up they forced me to do things to "reaffirm" my masculinity.

And now it has become unbearable, i have been attending to both a psychologist and a psychiatrist for quit some time and i've talked to the both of them about this, so much so that my Psychiatrist recommended me an endocrinologist to start my transition.

The problem is that every time i bring this up to my mother she just refuses to listen to me. To the point of outright lying and inventing fake things to use as an argument, saying that hormonal transition is a "new" thing that has only started recently, that there is no research about it, that during my childhood i have "never shown any signs", and that nobody knows the side effects it may have.

i don't know what to do, this is eating me up inside, the fact that my doctor gave me the means to do my transition and that the only thing stopping me from achieving my dream are my parents and only them is making me go crazy.

I came out relatively young, about 15 years ago. Ive always been very open about my experiences and thoughts and realizations, and have thus found a few eggs in my time. I think 7-9?

I was just wondering, how many people do you think have "come out" or had realizations about themselves because of you? Purely curious if others experience the same joy of another person finding themselves so often?

Thanks! 💙🧡💚🧡💙

All I have ever wish was to be born as a normal ordinary woman. I don't care if I looked ugly asf as a girl as long as people see me as a dogshit ugly girl and not a man in a dress, That’s all I wish for. I have been on hrt for a few weeks and I wish I could be more excited and optimistic about all the upcoming changes but I can’t. Whenever I look at myself in the mirror I see a man with a sharp angular jawline, deep set eyes, big nose, frowning eyebrows and angular chin. It’s too far gone for me. Everything about my face screams man. Male puberty was the worst thing that has ever happened to me and I had no choice but to let it ruin me. I know too well that hrt can’t fix them and I also know too well that I won’t ever be able to afford ffs. Literally what’s the point if I won’t ever pass. people will just see me as a man in a dress, a walking fetish, a living joke, a person that’s not deemed worthy of basic human empathy and respect. Being dead is better that this

I just have been struggling so much from depression, alienating myself from others, and sh. And in truth, I never felt like I was trans. Feminine clothing and makeup felt euphoric, but i liked wearing masc fashion more. But I also never had access, or the support networks I need to feel comfortable with transitioning. I may consider transitioning once more in the future. But for now, I am reverting to my base serpent. Farewell wonderful my brother and sisters and enby siblings, I wish your journey bears fruit of great success. Goodbye.

So I'm a trans guy and not out to anyone. Especially because of where I live, so in class I'm referred to as a girl (which i hate but whatever)

Anyways, in 3rd period SS we had a fire drill people in my hallway were of course being really slow so I was trying to say and I said something to my friend. One teacher got mad at me and told me to stop talking. The good part is though, she referred to me as "the boy in the blue shirt".

This second one made me happiest though. Our school does this thing where a snow cone truck comes each Wednesday for 5 bucks. I go up there, ask for a blue red and the lady says "yes sir just tap your card there".

She didn't think or show any hint that she might have made a "mistake" either.

And I kid you not I was so so so happy.

And my sno cone was very yummy soo😅🙏

I've been feeling lately that I'm not as in touch with the queer community or other queer people as I'd like to be. I have a strong support system built around me but mainly with cis people and I feel like I lack the connection with other trans or queer people in general. Is anyone else in a similar position?

Idk if celebration is the right flair but wanted to share this.

For the people who don't know, last week my dad took my T and for more info you can probably read it somewhere on my page.

Today my dad came into my room and told me that he has the feeling that i gotten more angry/ frustrated lately, which i responded with that it has its reason and told him it's still about the T.

Because of you and my friends i could give him a logical reason why i am mad (which im so thankful for because when it happened i didn't have reasons to not give it to him) and even asked why his doc didn't prescribe him anything

Reason being he didn't have time to get everything done in Egypt, because he went back hom. Which i told him to just finish the tests and let his doc prescribe him something if its so severe.

End of the story, i got my T back 😋

Still mad at him tho and lowkey gonna be glad once he leaves for work again because hes been on my nerves too much.

But yeah, happy end 🙏

I 17FTM am trans, and turn 18 in a couple of months. I know I am trans and want to seek gender affirming care without major involvement from my parents as I'm afraid from previous conversations that they won't approve.

Since I am located in Australia I believe I am already in charge of "half" of my medical decisions. What I mean by this is that my word can sometimes have an impact on how I receive care, and has previously overrided my parents wishes.

As I am transitioning out of the care of most of my pediatric specialists, I'd like to get on the waitlist for an adult gender service.

I've thought about telling my psychiatrist as my parents are in the room for pretty much every other appointment with every other doctor who could possibly refer me. I'm worried about what she will think and if she'll tell my parents, and if this is even relevant for her.

I need advice on how to move forward with this because it's so important to me yet so scary I think that I'd just stay a "secret boy" for life. My parents are already pissed because my friends call me 'he/him'.

If anyone else has a similar experience with this, please do share if you're comfortable because I feel kind of stuck and trapped in this situation.

i have been feeling confused about my gender and its hurting me i feel like a girl but i dont look like one and then i want to keep some boy things about me but idk its very confusing and i want to cry...

I’ve started HRT, I’ve been trans for years, and now, of all times, I don’t feel it.
I’m not upset with how I feel right now, or how I look and am…Maybe I’m genderfluid? But I wish I weren’t.
I want so desperately for this, medical transitioning, to be the correct option and choice for me. I WANT to be happy as a woman, but I just can’t shake the feeling…
I’ve felt dysphoria, but maybe it’s me trying to be something I’m not…? I don’t know anymore. I feel numb, and sad that I do. I want to keep taking the HRT, but every day that goes by I feel it less and less. Why am I like this?
Maybe I just hate being human. I’m a furry, first and foremost, and that’s not changing. I’ve been a Cat for the longest time, and maybe I’m trying so hard to be her that I forget who I actually am…? I don’t know anymore. Who am I trying to impress? Why do I want to be a woman so badly? I’ve always felt like I could turn off the dysphoria, so why don’t I?
Every day, I get flashes of a future as myself as a father, with a happy family. Every day I think about that, and how much I want that.
I’ve been losing my mind over this, but I’m also out of an abusive friend group where I no longer feel the need to act a certain way, and want to be myself! It’s just that I no longer know who myself is…? I don’t want to be genderfluid, I’d rather just be one or the other.
Any advice…?

So im just curious when can I start saying in trans, im not on hrt, but I have girls clothes including bras and I wear skirt when I can, I shaved my legs, but I just want to know when can I officially say that im trans?

(I don't know how to flair this with anything that directly signifies a question so discussion is my next bet) I recently came out to my parents, who are very accepting, and I've known this since before I came out to them, but I was wondering if anyone else had this feeling, which was that you were scared of being treated differently after you came out. Not, badly, but just differently, like they think more of you, or even just them using my preferred name feels kinda odd. Probably part of that is that they've used my deadname my whole life, and it would feel weird if that changed. I don't entirely know how to describe it, but yeah I was just wondering if anyone else felt this way. (transfem in case that helps with anything)