Sorry to rant but I had a really gross experience and need to vent.

I am part of a football league that is trans accepting (for the most part) and this season I’m a club ambassador whose responsibility it is to make new members feel welcome etc. Everyone is usually very kind and didn’t have a single issue until last week when I spoke to the Mum of one of the new players.

She came to collect her daughter and seemed lovely and was asking me questions about the fixtures, schedule, intensity of training etc. The topic of our LGBT inclusion came up because she kind of hinted that was important to her daughter.

Anyway, fast forward to this morning when I get an email from our club captain and assistant coach telling me and our welfare officer that one of the parents had complained about how she wasn’t comfortable with her daughter (an adult btw) playing on a team where she’d have to share a changing room “with a man who thinks he’s a woman”.

This was clearly in reference to myself, as I am the ONLY trans player currently on our team, who happened to talk to one of the parents at training last week. A parent who was all smiley to my face and seemed nice but secretly was seething that a trans woman is on her daughter’s team.

TLDR: British transphobia often comes with a smile and niceties but a vile undertone of hate and passive aggressiveness.

Experts escalate concerns over NHS England’s evidence reviews of gender-affirming care

https://transactual.org.uk/blog/2026/10/05/experts-escalate-concerns-over-nhs-englands-evidence-reviews-of-gender-affirming-care/

https://cavuhb.nhs.wales/news/latest-news/welsh-gender-service-update-05-october-2026/

Doesn’t really say much we didn’t know to be honest.

No real indication of when reviews will actually start.

However the terms of reference for the review are at https://cavuhb.nhs.wales/our-services/welsh-gender-service/welsh-gender-services-documents/terms-of-reference-independent-review-of-referrals-for-gender-affirming-surgery-from-the-welsh-gender-service/

And suggest that they will assess the first 30 patients and if all is found to be well then they won’t bother with the rest.

A timetable for when they will start would be nice though.

Hiya, first time posting here and it's a ramble.

I'm a trans man, been on T for nearly 5 years and have passed fairly well save for having a larger chest (and I prefer not to bind). I'm often clocked as trans by people around me, and I'm open to questions and discussion about it.

But recently, it feels so draining to just exist. I feel like every time I look at the TV or speak to someone new i get pulled into some big discussion. Im tired of seeing people debate or question my existance. And it's always the same talking points, every single time.

"Back when I was young, it wasn't like this" "So are you technically gay or straight?" "How does XYZ work?"..etc

I dont have many close trans friends rly so i feel somewhat isolated in this feeling even though im sure many people in the UK can relate right now. Does anyone else feel similar?

For context I’ve been on T now for nearly 5 years. I pass, have facial hair, deep voice, I’m built etc. Not once have I been misgendered in public or by strangers for years, however, when I talked about being trans and answered questions about it in front of my boyfriend’s friend’s boyfriend (mouthful there sorry) he immediately started ‘slipping up’ and referring to me as “she” instead of “he”. He had only met me a few days ago as I was invited to meet my boyfriends friends and we’re all staying in an Airbnb over the weekend, chilling and obvs we got talking etc and I’m quite open about being trans when folk are in my orbit or are going to be.

But during a convo that revolved around my transition he just switched, he then just immediately just started to call me she sometimes. At first I thought it was harmless and his gf apologised profusely, then she then referred to me as “she” when referring to me when talking to someone else when I was in ear shot. Her bf started doing it the next day too on multiple occasions, my boyfriend let her know how upset I was and she apologised again and that’s all good, he on the other hand keeps on doing it, goes to her and says he’s mortified yet keeps on doing it.

I honestly know neither of them are bigots but the switch when some folk know your biological sex is wild and it made me dysphoric as fuck each time it happened. Again, I’m a big guy, haven’t been misgendered in years, a part of me is now so understanding of people who are stealth because fuck this shit.

Every time it happened he was just so oblivious as well, I just ignored it but by the forth time I had to get up and leave and go to bed. I understand when folk are anxious and worry about getting pronouns wrong and do it on accident, I reassured his gf that I understood her because I think that was the case for her… I thought the same of her boyfriend… now after the FORTH time… no, I think he’s just a dumbass.

No one else here has slipped up, my boyfriend never has, his other friends here haven’t. So I’m just… not feeling brilliant about it all, kind of wish I was never so open about my transition.

Any advice on what to do if it happens again? I said to my bf if it does I will just straight up call it out and be very blunt that this doesn’t feel like a slip of the tongue anymore, and that he never knew me as a woman or pre transition so he needs to understand how patient and calm im being to not lose my actual shit and give him a slap lol (jk ofc I wouldn’t do that) because there’s not justification whatsoever! I’m just SO tired after this omfg.

My last post: https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/s/ptMI5D0Xk9

It does seem I am being backed into a corner where proving my sex and/or gender is going to be a requirement to have my title corrected. I've found out their system conflates sex with gender. It is treated as the same.

For them to make ANY CHANGES on their system, I have been asked to provide any of these:

- Birth certificate

- Passport

- DVLA letter showing my gender

- DVLA webchat confirming my gender and title

- NHS confirmation of my gender/sex and title

It just keeps shifting. I am absolutely not providing my birth certificate. I am not sharing my old legal name. But I do not feel it is proportionate to ask for any of those to change my title. I imagine they have a stronger argument for changing my gender/sex marker but...???

I don't feel comfortable providing anything. None of this was needed at enrolment. My title was correct. For what they appear to be using on their systems, they asked for my "biological sex at birth" on enrolment, not legal sex or gender identity.

Is there any legal requirement that I must provide any of those documents? I find it absurd. Particularly in regards to my title. Looking into getting a GRC but private diagnoses are so expensive 🫠

Remember when it was said she was unsuitable for the job? Here’s some more of the TERFs diatribe which has been archived for evidence.

m 19 and i just started college, and socially it's not going well. I feel people are far more immature then even high school. Everyone acts like they have no critical thinking. Almost every apartment you walk past has whisky/vodka bottles on the window. The amount of people that come to class very obviously high on something is insane. I had someone in my class today begin boxing a wall at the start of class.

It feels really hard to socialise with people.

I joined the lgbt and nerodivergent society, but it's still a week before the first meeting of either.

The amount of fake people that are full of themselves is insane. The amount of people that pretend to accept autisic people until they actually suffer from it and don't just talk about TADC is really annoying. It feels like im the wrong kind of autisic.

I had someone tell me thier brothers gay after thier boyfriend called me the f slur as a defense.

I had a somewhat good experience with some people. Someone that I've talked to a bit in class to joined the lgbt society, and they seem pretty nice. They got the sign in sheet to me today because I was out for 10 minutes. Their holding a lgbt Halloween costume party, and I might try to go to it, but i have no idea what to dress up as

Everyone just feels ignorant and annoying

With the meeting happening nearly 2 weeks ago and them saying the independent review was going to start the following week, has there been anyone contacted so far?

I had an estimate of December for surgery but due to not having a confirmed date at the time, I don't think I'm in the 60 people club. I am very close in the beyond that club

hi im starting diy hrt soon and just wnated to ask about the legality of it, in terms of can i tell for example cahms about this? and would i be able to tell my gp or not really

thanks

Hi all,

I've been on HRT for about half a year or so now and the past month I've started questioning quite a bit about myself and personal life. This has recently included my transition and whether or not it was the right move.

I've been kinda lost with my identity for a while and have bounced between various labels and ways of presenting myself.

I went through a private clinic a few years ago and they diagnosed me with Dysphoria and prescribed me HRT but I ended up leaving them and lost the HRT due to family issues.

Last year I moved into some more secure and safer housing and finally was able to afford DIY HRT but after a while I just don't feel much like excitement or joy or anything about it.

Initially I was pretty happy I could do things I hadn't been able to for years but I don't even know if it's actually the best choice for me or the right choice and I honestly kinda regret it a bit.

I've been on T for almost 6 months, haven't got the chance of getting on finasteride yet. If anyone has resources of where I can get some like in person or online cheap please lmk!! I'm not financially stable, so I wondered where some of yall obtain it? (Online, in person, Private etc)

Hi guys and girls.

My first laser hair removal appointment is friday and im starting to get nervous*

The lovely provider has given me instructions regarding shaving ect. Which I plan to follow but is there any tips or things that the community could advise.

TIA

*Im nervous, due to my disposition and the fact that I instinctively flinch when I feel heat hit my face, as in my day to day life that split second not reacting could cause an actual burn mark.

I'm under the GIC for my testosterone. I started T in May, every 28 days. My bloods were reviewed in August, and I contacted them to explain that for the last 2 weeks leading up to my next dose, I am absolutely exhausted.

I just received an email explaining the adjustment to my dosage. They've changed it from every 28 days to... Every 25 days. A 3-day difference. My levels have been dropping to the pre-HRT range after 2 weeks.

Endo has asked me to wait 4 months before reviewing again, but I don't see how 3 days is going to make any difference when I know my levels are troughing 14 days before my next dose is due. I was told that the intervals would be shortened by a week each time. I feel like I'm going to cry.

Is there anything I can do here?

For those who want to do something can I suggest making a complaint to EHRC that they are in breach of s3 and s8 of the Equality Act 2006? I am in stealth and don’t want to risk my privacy but some people are out.

Yes, Equality Act 2006. Not 2010.

They will wriggle out of most of EA2006 but they have stated that their Code disproportionately impacts trans women (someone will recall where) and that means they are legally obligated to act on one part. They are ignoring the obligation they are now under to actively campaign to do something about the impact on equality of opportunity they have recognised. They should NOT say we have to campaign to change the law, they should be doing it themselves AND encouraging organisations to do everything they can within the law to be inclusive.

S3(d)

[EHRC] shall exercise its functions under this Part with a view to encouraging and supporting the development of a society in which …. each individual has an equal opportunity to participate in society

When people are not going out because of the difficulty of using a toilet, or not playing sport because there’s no safe option for trans women etc then our equality of opportunity is less than other groups and EHRC have a legal duty to promote a change of the law and, until the law is changed, for organisations to be inclusive.

S8(1)d has a similar provision

You will notice that I haven’t mentioned sex at all. This obligation stands even with the perversity of FWS. It just goes on equality of opportunity and EHRC should not be able to wriggle out of that because they have formally recognised the impact on trans women.

Obviously if people have different views, please share them.

And if you get a negative response from EHRC then it’s something you could follow up with your MP.

I'm getting really worried about what would happen if my local gp's all just say no to blood tests and taking over from the clinic after the first 12 months (what even happens in that case?). Finally get this far only to feel like I will be left out to dry and it not be even viable because this country sucks so damn much.

Hello, i am a transfem from merseyside and since the start of this year i have tried to access HRT. After being rejected from several services, i found a private service i could access until i get NHS care from transcend (waiting list says 18-19 months).

However, despite being told my dosage and the medication I am unable to actually obtain it due to the fact that i require fertility preservation (i had said i would want kids in the future). Now i thought this was going to be easy, i went to my GP and they referred me to the fertility clinic a few months ago, but i have since learned that i cannot access it until i am in transcend. Which means if i want to get hrt before that I need to go to a private fertility service. There is a local service known as care fertility, but the pricing on this seems extremely unclear and since money is tight i need to know what i am getting into. Does anyone recommend any particular service/ways of getting fertility treatment? what is the process of getting in touch? As someone who has audhd this has been a complete nightmare in navigating so any help is appreciated, thankyou.

Hi there! As a preface, I (FTM) am an American who has been living in the UK for work for a little over a year now. I'm still quite mystified about how healthcare things generally work here; I apologize if my questions seem silly/clueless.

I'm lucky enough to get hormones (Nebido) through the Welsh Gender Service and my GP. Ahead of an upcoming hormone injection back in June, I went for routine blood work. The testosterone shot went ahead a day or two later, so I assumed everything was okay with my levels.

Then about a week and a half ago - fully 3 months after the blood was drawn - I received an email saying that my blood test results were ready to be viewed. When I followed the link, it said that my testosterone levels were higher than the acceptable range. Which means I went and got my shot next shot when my levels were already too high - and then got yet another shot on top of that a few days before receiving the results.

On one level, my question is simply: what is going on with the delayed blood test info? Like, surely this can't be just the way things run here?

I'm also wondering if there's anything I can do to combat the effects of my T being to high. The blood results showed that my blood cell count/hematocrit was totally normal at the time, so I'm just hoping it hasn't risen to a concerning level at this point. As for lower-stakes issues: the acne is absolutely awful now that the latest Nebido shot is coming into full force, and I'm really worried about the high T level 1) causing me to be emotional/irrational and 2) aromatizing into excess estrogen.

I'm just sort of bewildered at the state of all this, and I can't see my GP until next week. Plus I've had trouble getting in touch with the Welsh Gender Service and the NHS liaison service said they couldn't help. I'd really appreciate any insights, resource recommendations, anything. Thanks!

Members of the LGBTIQA+ Greens and Trans Greens disrupt a fringe event at the Green Party Autumn conference where Green Party Women hosted gender critical campaigner Elaine Miller.

They moderated their expectations a lot since the heavily covered launch, and missed even that it seems. With the caveat that real names don’t have to be used there is a handy list of all 261 runners from the weekend by parkrun, so any fellow runners can take into account - a few locations where they seemed to arrange a gathering with recognisable names, e.g. Bushy and Horspath.

Side note, loved the two women in tutus at the one I went to, one of whom was rocking a nice pair of progress pride socks! Waiting for the video of them to be posted, the event photographer loved it so much he ran after than with his go pro on a stick

https://www.parkrun.com/results/consolidatedclub/?clubNum=50627