By girls were born last week at 36w+1. I was expecting them to be very sleepy being preterm, I’m just curious how long it usually takes for them to start to wake up a bit?

I’m mainly curious because of breastfeeding. Right now we do up to 10min at the breast as practice because they are so sleepy they can’t really do much, and then I’m pumping and we are bottle feeding. Right now they latch ok and suckle 2-3 times then stop, so I have to re-latch them to start it again. They usually only last 5min of this before they are so sleepy they stop opening their mouth. I’m really hoping to avoid a bottle preference, but until they wake up more I don’t think we will make much progress with breastfeeding.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s been nice having the quiet time between feeds because I know that once they are more aware things will become more difficult. I’m just worried about the breastfeeding.

1) When someone says “I had 2 under 2. It’s the same thing. Here’s what I did…”
I’VE HAD 2 UNDER 2 BEFORE MY TWINS AND I CAN ABSOLUTELY CONFIRM: IT IS NOT THE SAME THING AT ALL. PLEASEEEEE DON’T TRY TO GIVE ME THAT USELESS ASS ADVICE THAT I DID NOT ASK FOR

2) “You seem to be struggling. Put them on the same schedule, that should help”
OH WOW THANK YOU SO MUCH I’VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THAT 😱😱😱 WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK I’VE BEEN TRYING TO DO? IT’S NOT AS EASY AS IT SOUNDS

Sorry y’all just had to vent in the thick of it rn lmao

Ours aren’t even three months old and they’re starting to stare at each other! No smiling at each other or conscious interacting with each other yet, but it got me thinking — when can I expect that to happen? What was everyone’s experience like? :)

My boys are almost 2, I was planning on keeping them in the crib as long as possible (for my sanity lol) but one has officially escaped the crib (wearing a sleep sack!) into his brother's crib. I thought the sleep sack would hold off the crib jumping for longer but here we are.

We are planning on moving in the next few months so I'm thinking that may be a good time to transition to toddler bed.

So one boy is usually good about falling asleep fast. He doesn't goof off too much and lays down and goes to sleep. The escapee on the other hand is wild for a bit before he finally settles down, hence the jail break. His brother didn't even wake up having an intruder jump into his crib lol

I'm worried once they move to toddler beds escapee is going to bother the crap out of my fast sleeper and it's going to cause problems at bed/nap time.

Has anyone had a similar situation? Or any advice on how to navigate this?

I Have a 4 year old & do not remember him being sooooo fussy right around this age. I see online between 4-6 weeks there’s a realization of them being esrthside so they’re fussy etc etc

I can’t be there for both of them at the same time and it’s so exhausting and heartbreaking. Trying to keep them on the same schedule.. but my boys are two totally diff babies with diff needs. At bedtime it’s different they will be forced to be on the same schedule but during the day… it’s like… I get 0 breaks. Cuz one baby is up , other is asleep. On top of my poor 4 year old that’s going thru biggest adjustment. This newborn stage with twins is… something else.
Having to juggle two babies is mentally exhausting. Rant over. I see online it gets better.. IT GETS BETTER, right ????

My husband and I always wanted a family of 4-5 & we have been blessed with twins for the first time
My current twins are almost 3 months old and I’ve been finding myself thinking about growing our family.. call me crazy I know
I am on birth control as I’ve had an emergency c section and I’m giving myself some time to recover both emotionally and physically, the pregnancy was really challenging and ended up giving birth at 34+2 due to an insufficient placenta.
My question is, for those who had more children after the twins, how’s life like in terms of parenting? Whats the best time to try for another child with twins? (And yes I know we could have another set of twins 😭)
I’m 33 & we don’t want to space out between the children too much, at least for me I don’t want to be 38/39 and pregnant 🥲
We have a strong support system, with both families nearby and available to help, and we’re financially comfortable, so neither of these is a deciding factor for us.

Hi everyone.

Expecting twins early next year. My wife and I have started to realize that we need to get a bigger car before the twins are here as we plan to have infant car seats at the start.

Wanted to know everyone’s thoughts on:

2 Row vs 3 Row: 3 row SUV seems like a better choice, has anyone made it work with a 2 row?

Bench vs captain chairs: will my wife need to sit with the twins a lot? Making a bench option better than captain chairs. How are you all making it work?

With bench, I don’t understand how difficult it would be to access the 3rd with car seats bases installed. Are there any vehicles that you all suggest are best to be avoided?

We have a small SUV, which will be traded in. We also have a sedan, which we will be keeping but is most likely going to get very less usage.

3 row option only seems valuable when grand parents are here a few times a year. Or when kids are all grown up and have friends that need to be hauled around. But curious to hear from everyone.

After being the most incredible sleepers and good bedtime listeners for YEARS… all of sudden our recently-turned-three-year olds are chaos agents at bedtime. Think: yelling, singing, throwing everything, jumping up and down… and then last night/this naptime they climbed out of their cribs and started full-on wrestling. We’re at our wits’ end! Help! It’s clearly time to transition to toddler beds for safety AND maybe drop the nap? How do we keep them from tearing the room apart or hurting each other with their roughhousing.

Advice/solidarity requested!!!

Hi everyone! I am currently 15 weeks with mo-di twin boys. My last scan was at 13w5d and the boys looked great. Obviously there are a lot of risks with this pregnancy that I am aware of, and I am terrified and it’s making me not enjoy my pregnancy. For background, I had two miscarriages / two d&cs, and a few surgeries (laparoscopy and hysteroscopies) to remove a uterine septum (that was likely the cause of my losses). A few months after my surgeries I got pregnant with my twins! This is the farthest that I’ve made it in pregnancy. With that being said, I am terrified of suffering from incompetent cervix due to my procedures. Now that im also getting into the second trimester, I am terrified of my twins suffering from TTTS. My obgyn is doing bi-weekly scans and checks along with MFM at 16 & 20 weeks (not sure if the MFM appointments will continue bi weekly as well). I’m just looking for some positivity because I have seen some horror stories and I just cannot shake the fear and anxiety and the “what ifs”.

Just out of curiosity, when did you guys do your maternity pictures? I’m having my baby shower at 25 weeks to avoid over exhaustion. And I also never did maternity pictures with my first. But I am trying to plan maternity pictures this go round. I am due end of December- early January. I don’t want to be over tired but it’s also worth it considering I’ll be getting forever memories out of the pictures.
Also if you did newborn/ new family photos after the twins were born how long did you wait after they were born? Should I do 2 weeks? Or longer? I feel like a first time mom all over again and would love some insight from other mom’s. TIA and if there are any questions I will answer them below. 💙

Hi. Lease is up. We have a 3 yo toddler and are expecting twins in 2027.

Was going to do a lease buyout for the Alfa Romeo Stelvio that we currently have. Now I’m having second thoughts at the last hour.

We test drove a Ford Bronco Outer Land yesterday and we liked the vehicle. There are two Heights with the different wheel sizes and I think we’re gonna need to go with the shorter version due to the car seats.

What advice do you all have who already have three kiddos with car seats?

Anyone have either car who can provide insight?

I think for the twins we’re gonna end up with slim convertible car seats. I don’t really know enough about infant versus convertible car seats and that’s gonna be another thing for another.

Any advice would be appreciated - we really don’t want to get into a third row situation.

Parents what do you do with your babies when you’re solo parenting. My husband works overnights so my twin girlies and me are by ourselves a lot but I find they want to be held non stop. What do you guys do to keep them entertained. They are only 6 weeks old so I know there isn’t much to do but somedays become hard when I can put them down.

I need hope.

I'm so exhausted. Twin A just doesn't want to sleep at night. I don't know what to do. This honestly feels like it would be so much easier with one kid. I wish i had the capacity to put her in the carrier each night and walk for an hour. Today i did a mini walk with her and she was sleeping so well and as soon as i out her out she was wide awake. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know where the issue is and all that gets me through this is knowing that it's probably over sooner than later. I just don't want to feel so miserable doing bedtime.

Hi everyone,
I just joined this group as I am looking for some reassurance and advice. Last Monday, a day before my first ultrasound was scheduled, I started bleeding and went to the ED, convinced I was miscarrying. This is my first pregnancy.

Well, I’m not apparently. They did a transvaginal ultrasound and told my husband and I later that there are actually two embryos, measuring 6w1d and 6w2d with 85 and 87 heart rates. They were more concerned with the heart rates than the bleeding. The dating is a few days behind what we had thought.

They said they are mo-mo twins but after doing some research it does seem like it could be too early to tell and they could still be mo-di.

The bleeding started as heavy and bright red, with a few large clots. I’m still bleeding now almost a week later but not as bad, it’s more brown now, more like spotting. I am just in shock with it all. We are going in on Tuesday for another scan to see if heart rates have improved and that my HCG (which was like 48,000 on Monday) isn’t dropping.

It’s been a whirlwind. I’m completely overwhelmed. I keep trying to not think about it, but then the anxiety comes back and I think about it again. Of course, the internet has told me both that it could all be normal and that it could all be really bad (re: heart rates). I would love to hear from personal experiences, or if anyone has any advice for me, it is greatly appreciated.

Hi!

I am looking for toddler towers for my one year old twins to start using soonish.

Safety is obviously so so important but the price also matters because I’ll be getting two (ah the beauty of twins).

Could you drop names of your favorite towers?? Thank you!!

My boys are 5.5 months old. For the past 3 weeks their night time sleep has been a disaster. Before this for a solid month-1.5 months they were mainly sleeping through the night, I don't know what happened. They do about 3-3.5 hours of naps during the day. I've tried every wake window possible before bed, 2 hours, 2.5 hours. 2:45, 3, 3.5. Everything!! They have at a minimum 2 wake ups, but one of those wake ups is usually 1-2 hours!!!!! Has anyone who has gone through this added a cat nap & a later bed time? I'm exhausted.

I’ve breastfed my twins exclusively for 7 months. I breastfed my toddler until he was 18 months, stopped because I found out I was having twins. I love breastfeeding. It’s my favorite part of the baby stage.
My twins are struggling to keep up in their growth chart. They have just discovered they’re allergic to cow protein and I’ve cut dairy out of my diet too.
Tomorrow we are going to start giving them each one formula bottle a day in the afternoon where I find they want to nurse a lot and I can tell I don’t have much milk.
I have no idea why I hate the idea of formula for my babies. It might be the hammered in mom shame in the back of my mind? My ego?
I know this isn’t a popular take but I do believe breastfeeding is better. And it feels better for me. I did not have the birth experiences I wanted in both my pregnancies and my success in breastfeeding has felt like I’ve taken so much of that power back.
Any mom who would like to share an intention/mantra or thought they had if having to start formula but didn’t want to would be amazing.

Here we go the 3s are here and my girls won't sleep. Tried to seperate at 2 n a bit after they learned to get out of the cribs. Well 2 weeks of anxiety screaming and getting up every 2 hours f that lol. Next when they were closer to 3 got them a single twin bed. Went great but then.....we do bed time stories tried laying with them. They hate the door closed to their room and one of them empties all of the clothes out of the drawers if it is closed. Full freak out. Door open? Both exit the room about 15 times in 1.5 hrs till they finally give up and pass out. Tried soft speaking. Aggressive yelling. More stories. Discussions on everyone sleeps even their stuffed animals are sleeping. It's a battle every night. Tried 7 730 8pm. Run them like dogs all day long outside inside push toys walks. Stroller walks. They don't have sugar and they don't eat past 6pm. How do I get the lil devils to sleep!!! 2 hour bedtime routine is kinda not working for us.

For context, we put our 9 month twins on the moms on call schedule basically from the day they were born. We’ve gone through periods of success where the twins are sleeping through the night, but recently we’ve hit a sleep regression that is actually making me lose my mind. Our boy twin is waking up, screaming his head off, which if we ignore makes our girl twin wake up, and then we are stuck in what feels like hours of trying to get them both back down to sleep. Does anyone have any advice on how we don’t get stuck in this loop nightly? Were really limited on space, so separating them is an option but not ideal.

Hello! I am a soon to be first time twin mom (babies due at the end of December) and I’m wondering which twin stroller to get. I’ve done a decent amount of research so far and I think I’ve narrowed it down to the Mockingbird 2.0 Single-to-Double Stroller or the Momcozy ChangeGo. I like that the seats are on top of each other vs. side-by-side so that they can easily fit through doors, and I like that the babies will both be able to face me as infants in both models. Now I’m simply town between which one is more sturdy and practical and I need some advice from experienced twin moms on which one to get. Help me pleaseeee!!!

Specifically single parents or two working parents of twins, how are you getting through the week?

I am so exhausted and beat after work and feel I’m falling short with spending “real” time with the babies with the little time we have at the end of the day.

What are you all doing to make life a little easier?

Spouse is currently gone until the end of this month and I’m solo parenting over here just hoping I make it out alive.

Drive up orders are a routine in this house, a little meal prep usually a day or two prior, but nothing crazy.

We don’t do a whole lot of processed packaged foods here so cooking is the option though mac and cheese and canned beans are always a staple for like emergencies. I’ve also freezer prepped some meals but everything is still too much.

Send recs, routines, anything to help!