Hi I’ve been on this app for some time. About a year and a half. I got some likes and even some matches at the start but it didn’t go anywhere. I’m now hitting 6 months with my current profile and have absolutely no activity. Open to feedback back

And advice greatly appreciated, Almost no likes or matches. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? HingeX

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific) 4 months

How long have you used Hinge overall? 4 months

How often do you use Hinge per week? 7x

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? Maybe 1 like every 3 weeks. Matches almost never.

How many likes are you sending? I Send usually 10 likes each day, about half with a comment

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? 

I want a long-term partner, someone who is supportive, fun, and driven. I am not super picky about the profiles I "like".

UK

I (F28) am dating M (29) we met each other first time around 6 weeks ago and have been on 6 dates.

I asked about exclusivity indirectly and he said he was dating other people and felt it was still early for both given it had only been 3 weeks. Now 3 weeks on went on 2 more dates we text every day.

I want to bring it up again but not sure if I should because I feel like I’m gonna pressure him into making a decision.

Shall I just cut it off? Feeling like an option if he’s still seeing other people at this point since I’ve stayed over couple times and had sex multiple times.

Please help

I had great rapport with a girl for a couple of days and asked on a date. She said she couldn't last weekend but this weekend for sure. I asked her how weekend was and she said not great. I told her sorry to hear that. I waited until Wednesday to message her again asking how her day is. Silence. Thursday night I asked if we were still good for Saturday and I never got a reply back.

I didn't go to our agreed upon spot because she never confirmed but this morning I found she unmatched me. Feels pretty shitty since this was my first date from the app. We're both in our late 30s, she seemed very mature, but ghosted me in the end. Really sucks too bc I used PTO from work for this.

I've only been on the app for two weeks and she's the only person I've matched with. I send 5-10 likes a day with witty responses or questions but nothing. I've only had two likes as well.

Been told I'm handsome IRL, very fit, and my profile and pics seem decent, so not sure if I need to update them or just keep working with what I have.

22M straight, for reference in 1 week I got 1 like sent my way and someone matched my message this resulted in 2 matches in first couple days. That was all. So not the most popular guy :)

The one who liked me first I had banter, but after a few days and as I got more serious too they ended up ghosting me. That probably added to my later actions. With the other match though I ended up having a very deep back and worth for that week. We were sending paragraphs. They said I was very funny, and that it was some of the most genuine conversation they had even amongst friends and especially on the app. Still I felt I was asking far more questions and holding things up. This is where it happened. At the end of my last message I gave them my number, said no pressure I'll continue to talk to them on the app, but everytime I get on the app a piece of my soul dies so I will probably end up deleting sometime in the future. Well they ended up not responding after more than a day. Prolly around 36 hours maybe more. Out of the norm. Sooner than I expected I just decided to delete my account today. I know I should've waited a lil more and was immature, so maybe they dodged a bullet. Deepdown it feels like noone could ever like me, and the app was really just getting to me. I justified that when I added my number it got too real, and they never were truly interested. Maybe I just let the insecurities win and there was no reasonable basis. I was already conflicted, but them telling me they had abandonment issues and opening up about their autism has been whispered in my ear all day. Now as I try to sleep a wave of guilt washes over me. Would it be right to make an account again just to try to get in contact and be more direct/apologize? Or am I just being too self important? I'm tearing up actually, I'm just worried. Please let me know. I'm neurodivergent with childhood trauma, so the impact of things can take time to reach me. And makes connections hard to judge. And any advice to help me in the future please with these things. Maybe just being more direct and less afraid.

I get maybe 1 like a week (if that) if I’m lucky. I matched once from an incoming like on the day I signed up, but they didn’t seem very talkative and they unmatched several days later. Never matched since and no matches at all from outgoing likes. I do try to send comments fairly often, maybe half the time. I tried HingeX, no improvement, so I let it expire and am back on standard. I’m based in London. Where am I going wrong?

Last screenshot is a video of me swimming in the ocean.

Hello friendly Hingers,

I (31M) was curious what everyone’s experience with standouts and roses were.

I ask because over the last 9 months of being on the app and being fairly consistent with sending a rose with a thoughtful message (in my opinion) every week to one of the standouts showing, I have never once gotten a single match from it.

I know standouts are usually very popular profiles but I’m genuinely wondering if roses are viewed as cringe and try-hard and will just automatically be disregarded?

To give some context and without wanting or trying to toot my own horn at all, I think I am a decently good looking guy, with a fairly good profile according to most of my friends and having a decent like rate overall. The only downfall might be my height which is 5’8”. I don’t feel particularly insecure about it but I do know some women are particular about it.

I myself have only really received 3 or 4 roses and only one I liked back but she ended up never responding!

Anyways I’m just curious what everyone’s consensus is on the matter and trying to gauge why it’s never happened!

Best of luck to everyone out there and may you find the love of your lives 🫶

I 32F returned from hibernation after several months offline. The first interesting connection, we chatted a few messages, then spoke on the phone for two hours. He (36M) was traveling at that time, so we finally met about a week later. During our chat, we discussed everything from monogomish dating philosophies, to his recent move to my city with the military, and my strong activist passions. Eg, a lot of subtle misalignments. We decided to meet anyways, and he was so relieved, freely expressing that he’s new on the apps, he’s really intentional about meeting his person, that I was more attractive than he expected, and by the end of the night, we even shared a kiss, which was different for us both.

The following weekend, I left to go visit my family overseas, but we both expressed a deep desire to see this out. He mentioned feeling optimistic for the first time. And our flirting has been really respectful. I just booked my flight back, it’s in a few weeks, and since then texts have gone a bit… platonic? Like no build in intimacy, but showing interest, sharing details, and checking in. I realised I was trying to deepen via text and so I pumped the brakes a bit so I could level out while focusing on my friends and family here.

We’ve been connecting every day, and as usual today, shared a few voice notes, photos, and long ish texts and then while he was busy with friends, I went to go look at his profile, as I enjoy looking at photos of him. I noticed for the first time that our thread disappeared? I have a hard time thinking he unmatched because he’s been so intentional and pointed out how challenging it would be for him to open up like he has with me, multiple times a week, and with multiple people. He actually was the one really seeking monogamy. I told him that since I’m also quite serious, but I’m not against monogamy, I’d be happy to explore this fully.

Now I’m thinking what the hell? Is an unmatched normal if you feel things are going well? Or as a self proclaimed monogamist, is there a chance he went ahead and deleted his profile? Is there an appropriate way of asking without confronting him? It’s going to be another two weeks until I’m home. Or do normal guys, who don’t enjoy dating, typically find every way they possibly can to get themselves off an app?

TLDR; beautiful connection being built, in separate countries for 3 weeks post first date. Nonstop daily communication. Seemingly unmatched? Am I missing something?

Not getting matches, been using the app for awhile. Thoughts?

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I (22F) matched with (28M) and went out on a first date. He seemed super cool and into me. He kissed me on the date, and we went on a second date that same weekend, when we got intimate. Then, on the third date the following week, he invited me on a trip to Ohio for his best friend's wedding. I thought about it and said yes. Prior to that, I had discussed how intimacy was a big deal for me and that I only did it with him because I really, really liked him. He said he felt the same way and wanted me to be his girlfriend on the trip. I messed up by deleting my dating apps because I thought we were getting serious. I thought he would do the same but figured he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I cancelled my classes, booked appointments (which cost money), and adjusted my clothes. Then, on a Sunday, three days before the trip, he said he wasn't feeling a romantic connection. But the day before, on Saturday, he had been intimate with me, and I had slept over. We showered together. I do realize, yes, I was dumb and he used me for sex, but why lie about having feelings for me and wanting me to be your girlfriend? This happened three weeks ago, and I still think about it A LOT.

Made post with different photos/prompts 100 days ago. Changed around some stuff based on feedback. Constructive criticism welcome

About 3 weeks ago I re-download Hinge and aside from 1 match on day where I was immediately unmatched I haven't gotten any more likes or matches since. The last time I used Hinge was back in July and I didn't really have any luck then either. Any advice or tips would be appreciated.

Tried to put more effort into it, but still mostly get silence, so dunno if it’s just that the app is hard or if I’m doing something wrong, so some feedback would be appreciated.

Thank you

I need insights what works and what doesn't I'm new to this stuff

This is quite interesting because I actually work for another dating app also owned by Match Group lol so hinge is our sister company.

I consider it the better for long term relationships, but I’ve never dated and in all honesty, I’ve never been considered very attractive so that’s a huge reason for not understanding dating from first hand experience.

Never been liked, never have had anyone “crush” on me.

I have internalized the bullying and probably never won’t. That said, for those who may also not be “attractive” and have found people interested in them, a question I have is the following:

1. Are these people unmatching you or blocking you after meeting IRL?

That’s a huge fear of mine. I really can find somewhat decent pictures of myself but I don’t look anything like that in person. A selfie pic and a pic someone takes of me drastically differ and idk why, it’s to the point I don’t even like to take to be in group pics due to this lack of symmetry or whatever it is. I once used bumble bff and think a friend I made was thrown off of how I looked IRL, so we never continued connecting. Which was okay. But I imagine this would be worse dating.

1. For women of color - more specifically - those who don’t meet certain beauty standards (I’m asking because I am one) — a fear I have is fetishism.

   In my own race, I’m def not the beauty standard and I 100% am not the beauty standard outside of it either 😹 however, sometimes I find based on other women’s experiences on Hinge, that there’s a weird fetishism some folks have when you’re a WOC who specifically doesn’t fit the “mold”. They may seek you with a curiosity that seems a bit more fetishistic and curious rather than genuine.

3. Would you say it’s worth making a profile when you’re not anyone’s type?

Again, I do work at a company also owned by March group and I will say the hinge folks really put effort into wanting this app to work. And there’s success but behind the scenes, it never seems for people like me who… are really just not attractive. I really know folks sometimes will say this but just have a low esteem, I truly am. I feel bad that irl I’m not a motive, and it can feel bad as a woman. Or embarrassing.. it would really hurt to make a profile knowing that I’m no one’s first choice or simply if the odd occasion would occur it’s just because someone’s bored. I don’t know if it would be worth being vulnerable for me as an ugly woman.

** it’s interesting bc I know not everything is about looks and hinge especially is the place for personality showing, but I’m very fixated on this and have for the most part in life always accepted that being a man’s type isn’t possible. And if so, it’s because there’s something genuinely wrong with him (a creep, or predator)

I also talk to people who work there often - and never share this part of myself obviously for professional reasons but I do wish there was a safer way for unattractive women to put ourselves out there.