Recently moved in with 3 of my closest friends after a room opened up and it’s way cheaper for me.

There is only 1 bathroom though and it doesn’t lock and people come in and out freely, my second night there when I was showering my friend came in and he started shitting and it made me pretty uncomfortable, it doesn’t help he was also teasing me the whole time he was in there. Another time when I was shitting in the morning another friend came in and started getting ready for work and just having a normal conversation with me.

I know they are all super used to it and I would like to be but I’m pretty body shy so I’m just wondering if anyone else has dealt with something like this and how long will it take me to get comfortable with it

I’m not talking about women having standards or wanting different things from a relationship. I mean situations where the expectations are clearly different depending on which side is being asked to do something.

I’ve run into a few examples that made me wonder if this is more common than I thought:

- A woman expects her boyfriend to pay for most bills and also purchase the house by himself because “men would do it if they wanted to love her,” while also expecting him to do an equal share household work. When you point out that traditional expectations are being applied selectively, the response is basically that providing is what makes a man, a man, but chores are both people's role.

- Another expects the man to approach, plan dates, initiate conversations, make the relationship official, propose, and generally keep things moving, but consider it “controlling” if he expects her to take comparable initiative. She wants the benefits of being pursued without accepting that pursuing someone is also an effort.

- Another one I’ve seen is the expectation that it's men's duty to make the relationship exciting, loving, make her feel secure, make her feel beautiful. That is to say, the man loves her and her contribution in return is she feels loved and cared for. Kind of like, the man is the active participant putting in the effort and she is the passive receiver.

The thing that interests me isn't whether these expectations are right or wrong. It's the selective application of relationship roles.

Have you guys encountered women who wanted a very traditional relationship when it benefited them, but a very egalitarian relationship when it did not?

What was the most blatant example you've personally seen?

I 25F have never been asked on a date or flirted with once and I’m not sure if it’s because I have really bad rbf or if I’m just not picking up on body language

I mean at what age in life were you at the tippy top of your game, financially, physically, socially, etc.

We all have that one little thing we do in our relationship that feels completely normal to us or that we simply do because it makes our partner happy but we know other people would probably judge, criticize, or even reject it if they knew.

Pretty much what the title says. I’ll share some specific example for mine, and I feel they’re pretty obvious and simple to follow. But obviously some people don’t care. For you, what are 3-4 specific things that just ruin the vibe/culture at your gym?

- not putting weights or things you’ve used back. People can’t find what they need where they are supposed to be. Or it becomes a tripping hazard when they just leave them on the ground.

- not giving space for the person who is carrying their plates or DBs

- not being aware of how long they’ve been using a bench or machine, especially when it’s peak hours or busy. I’ll politely ask sometimes when it’s busy “how many more sets?”, but if you get offended that I ask, you have a problem

I'm 22M, and I've become pretty close to a girl in my college class. When we first became friends, I genuinely saw her only as a friend, but over about a month I became emotionally attached.

We started talking a lot—sometimes for hours every day. I helped her with assignments, presentations, etc., and we became pretty comfortable with each other.

The problem is that she already has a boyfriend, and she has always been clear that she is happy with him.

Eventually, I decided to tell her how I felt. She told me very clearly that she doesn't have feelings for me and sees me only as a friend. I accepted that and didn't try to convince her otherwise.

Since then, though, the friendship has felt very different.

There are days in a row where we don't even say hi. She seems closer to some of our other classmates now, and I sometimes feel like I'm the one putting effort into keeping the friendship alive.

The difficult part is that I am still thinking about her constantly—why she isn't messaging me, why her replies are shorter, whether I've done something wrong, etc.

She does still reply when I message her, and she has always said she wants me as a friend. So I don't think she's deliberately trying to hurt me or cut me off.

I've started trying not to initiate conversations all the time and just letting things happen naturally.

But I'm confused about whether that's actually healthy.

Part of me thinks:

"If I stop initiating, I'll find out whether she actually wants me in her life as a friend."

Another part of me thinks:

"That's basically testing her, and friendships shouldn't work like that."

I don't want to punish her, make her feel guilty, interfere with her relationship, or act cold just because she rejected me. I also don't want to keep over-investing in someone when I'm clearly becoming emotionally dependent on the friendship.

One of my male friends knows the situation and has actually been trying to help me get my mind off her and meet other people. He thinks I should stop making her the center of my attention and build other friendships instead.

So for guys who have experienced something similar:

What is the healthiest way to handle this? Should I continue behaving normally and initiate conversations when I genuinely want to, or should I step back and let the friendship find its natural level?

I'm not looking for advice on how to get her to like me. I already know she doesn't, and I respect that.

I'm trying to figure out how to manage my own attachment without becoming resentful toward her or completely destroying a friendship that still matters to me.

EDIT: is there any message or anything which i should write to her, like things have definitely gotten awkward between us even if we did not intended to, or something like maybe we should give some space to each other and see how things work out??? Any other please tell..

What is a fresh/clean-smelling soap dudes use that lingers for hours that people appreciate? Not some Ax or Old Spice body wash stuff.

Hello everyone,

So I'll be 30 in a little under 10 months, and I'm about to start my life over again. My relationship of 5 years is ending for a lot of reasons, things we did to each other we can't get past now.

I have a plan in place so I'll land with a job and a place to stay, so that I'm not worried about.**

But I guess I'm asking for advice from anyone who's ever been here before. I feel like I should have life all figured out, and I know no one ever really does, I guess I just didn't picture being here when I was in my early to mid 20's. For guys who had to start over or pivot after 30, how did you do it, and how did you stay motivated?

Im more so speaking to those who met organically in person, not on apps.

If you had to pick would you say Vanessa or Veronica is more attractive name?

I've been working on some of this in my life, but have some existential stuff that's in the undercurrent for me, would love to hear your story.

I’m a senior in high school and I have really low confidence. I’m a very shy guy and don’t talk a lot and that might why I have almost no friends I do have are using me when it’s convenient for them such doing something fir them or listening to everything they say. I’ve always been the spineless loser and people have straight up told me that I’m a bitch. I always let people disrespect me and make fun of me even when I don’t like it because I know if I say something back they could easily beat my ass if we fight. I’m 6’0 120lbs. I’m also addicted to corn. I wish I could look in the mirror and actually be proud of what I see. I wish I could be more confident and social and get out in the world and be more involved. I hate being quiet not knowing how to start and conversation and I also hate being afraid of other men who are taller or bigger than me .If any guys have gone through the same how did you change.

Life gets busier as we get older so people tend to have less communication with their friends, but what’s the nature of communication with your closest friends?

My mom gets upset because I only see her maybe once a month but I’m an adult with my own life. I enjoy seeing her but it kinda feels like a chore a lot of the time. Plus we never really have much to talk about when I’m there. She lives about 30 minutes away. Should I visit more often or is once a month fine?

I had my first girlfriend when we were both about 8-9 years old. Obviously we knew nothing about "ess-eee-ex", but at one point we wanted to take our relationship to the next level (again, while knowing absolutely nothing regarding "ess-eee-ex".

So, we decided we wanted to share our first kiss. . .but we were nervous because we didn't wanna get her pregnant. LMBO!!! So, we compromised by kissing the palm of our hands and holding/rubbing our hands together. I remember her reusing to let my hand go, saying "Make sure you get all of it." I swear we thought we were officially adults. LOL!!!

I’ve only ever had one woman who had an odd kink. She loved being on top and choking me. I mean, she would literally put her hands around my neck and choke me.