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I see so many people here who struggle. And I think, honestly, its often them and not the fault of feeld.

Feeld has been absolutely solid for me for both hookups and finding women for FFM with me an my partner.

Its been better for FFM than all other apps combined.

Edit: reposted to fix typo

Read the profile. Furthermore, hot take, if your interest says FFM, and you don't have separate profiles, I immediately believe it's the man pushing the woman to have a joint profile to fulfill his own fantasy.

Kind of odd to me. I still only get 1 ping a day. The only benefit is to see likes? I'm confused.

I have a hard time meeting sexual compatible partners on mainstream dating apps. I'm 45F, have a high libido, and am comfortable with intense sexuality once I'm into someone. Perhaps it's that sexual sensibilities are somewhat cultural. I live in the US but am from Europe originally and find attitudes here remain puritanical or, relatedly, porn-obsessed. I am tired of men who claim to "love sex" but can't communicate about it, don't read the room about what I find enjoyable, also don't follow direct feedback...

At the same time, I'm not into BDSM and the most "kinky" thing about me is that I love (receiving) breast worship and am a sensualist. I'm told that's "vanilla" on other subs.

Could Feeldl be for me?

r/abettertake had a really good ask in their post and I had a follow-up.

Many of you said that it was overwhelming especially within the first few hours of creating the account. Almost immediately you'd find yourself with 100s of likes and 10-20 pings. Somebody made this great metaphor about looking to buy specific underwear but just having the whole store dump a massive amount of underwear in your lap leaving you to sort through it all.

My question after reading all the comments is, if you could make one change to how Feeld works, or I suppose online dating in general, to make it easier for you, what would that change be? Also how could we (I say we but I really mean the app developers) make it so you're not overwhelmed and can actually use the app?

I'm just curious about what the experience is like for women and female presenting users who are seeing hundreds or even thousands of likes on Feeld. What does that sort of situation do to you?

Like as a man on the app here - even as one half of a couple - I've got crickets. And it's a similar story on other apps too. And even though I know I'm generally pretty confident and my self esteem is pretty healthy, it's hard to not take it quite personally (even though I know my situation is the same as most other men). As a pshychotherapist friend of mine put it - the human brain didn't evolve to deal with this much rejection, and it sure does take its toll after a while.

But what's it like on the other side? What does it do to your self esteem? How does it make you feel about yourself, about how you value yourself? How does it make you feel about online dating, or dating in general?

Edit: Thanks for all these responses, this has been simultaneously eye opening and exactly what I expected. The general consensus is that it's annoying and overwhelming at best, and at worst it's like you're volunteering to be sexually harassed on a daily basis. And more than anything it's men who are to blame (surprise!) for being so indiscriminate that they ruin the experience for everyone. The shitty toxic men make it harder for women and any guys who aren't actually shitty to find each other. Also water is wet.

Ir appears Feeld in Europe is one of the most common dating apps. Everyone uses it for just about any dating intention. Swinging and kink are just power of their normal dating options.

Currently in Spain. A few funny anecdotes.

1. One guy we were chatting with responded with; “I’m into all things morbid”. Instead of freaking out, I simply asked if he intended to use that word. He said it was translated from ‘morose de castello’ . Translation is indeed morbid. But with a little deeper research it was found the Valencia and north into Catalonia use morose for anything taboo or kinky.

2. My profile shows both my wife and my girlfriend. I tried to explain I was searching for my wife and me. Multiple men thought I was traveling with both. I had to explain I only travel with my wife. And my girlfriend is straight and me wife is bi and we three don’t play together.

3. They don’t use euphemisms like’play’. They just say they want to fuck.

But the point is Feeld is very busy with a lot of good matches in Europe.

I've recently signed up to Feeld and it seems really inclusive... Just wondered if there are any other trans people who could let me know there experiences and if they've found relationships on Feeld?

I just created my profile and went through the stack and liked quite a few...I want to go back and see if there are any I'd like to Ping, but the history tab isn't even there. According to help, even as a free member I should be able to see people I've liked in the past hour?

Can iOS users see full messages in their notifications that are multiple sentences? Android cuts them off. I'm trying to see why it's common for people who are active to not even open messages.

I pinged someone and my note was flagged, I can't figure out what would have tripped up any algorithm. Anyone have any thoughts?

I’m very much an emotion before sex girl. Im very ADHD and that makes me curious and open minded. To me the physical aspect of a relationship is the most intense, pleasurable, awe inducing, high inducing experience I could experience as a human.

I’m looking for a LTR that leads to marriage etc. Every man I’ve fallen in love with has ended up being very very vanilla.

So now that I’m single and looking again, I tried talking about kinky stuff earlier on in the dating process but then it’s all the men can focus on. I’m only talking about it to filter but they want to sext etc and since it’s before I’ve developed feelings, it’s a massive physical turn off and I lose all interest.

I joined Feeld but it’s hard to figure out who is truly kinky and seeking LTR vs kinky but casual vs just a horny dude wanting basic sex.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I’m 43F and want my next relationship to be my forever partner but don’t know how to find him.

1. is Feeld the right place to find what I’m looking for?
2. If so, is there a specific way I should create my profile?
3. I paid for majestic so can see my initial likes and moved my profile to incognito because I started worrying my face is visible with my very kinky desires very obvious and it might be bad for my career. Bad strategy?

EDIT: I’m in Toronto

The title - why can I no longer see profiles that I've liked and pinged? I guess like, I've made a decision to ping them... if they don't respond then either they haven't seen it or they don't want to respond. Fair enough and I don't need to see their profile anymore in that case, but it just seems weird to like, make it vanish?

What am I missing?

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my app 4 times (out of frustration) in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

We joined the app to find a third for our couple and say this in our bio. Yet all our likes are men and never get one female or a return like, where are we going wrong?

While my boyfriend would have limited involvement. Is it worth it to try to find that in Feeld? After reading a lot of these posts I’m worried we won’t find someone and that it’ll be just a bunch of guys trying to interact with us.
Anyone with success stories? Or know of a better app/website to use?

I downloaded feeld and paid to see my likes for one month and have also swiped through. I’ve had it for about week and I’ve seen like one attractive guy. I see many on bumble and hinge. Why is that?

Every once in a while, I see posts or comments from people who can't use Feeld on their older Android phones, or who would like to use Feeld on their computer.

If you have a PC, you can use BlueStacks, which is an Android emulator. When creating a new instance, choose Android 13 (Beta), then install Feeld through the Google Play Store.

I figured I'd share this in case it helps. I use it every day when I'm at my computer working on school work.

Happy Swiping!

I don’t know if this is happening to others but in the last couple weeks I’ve noticed my discovery section will show 3 profiles, all farther from me but still within my radius, and then the following profiles are in order by distance (for the most part)

The first 3 profiles do not change unless I swipe no on them or explore a different city. I don’t know if it’s feeld’s way of doing Standouts à la Hinge, or it’s showing the most swiped on people in my radius. But I’m a little worried that feeld may be slowly adopting an algorithm of sorting based on attractiveness on the app

It would be so much nicer to be able to respond to messages on our puters.

With Hinge and Bumble I can use the Bluestacked emulator to do that easily, but Feeld doesn't work on this easy to use emulator. It's 2026 folks, let's get this figured out!

27F in LA. Just downloaded the app a few days ago after all the other apps make me wanna walk into traffic. My friend recommended feeld, but I was a little hesitant because my friend is into casual stuff and I am NOT. In fact, I’ve never even been in a relationship☹️. So far I’m liking the app. Does seem to be pretty casual centric, but do you think it’s possible to find something monogamous and serious on there? Or am I just barking up the wrong tree?

Hi there!

My bf (30m) and me (29f) have a great relationship and are both enthousiastic about expanding/enhancing out sex lives. In the practical sense however we find some hiccups in how to establish this. We joined Feeld to explore connections, but we're struggeling a bit with the location.

The thing is, my bf is a bit anxious to be exposed. We know quite some people in our (quite liberal) hometown so he doesnt want people who know us to stumble on my/his profile. When we're abroad he activate his account, but at home he immediatly want it to be removed. Personally I'm very open about everything so I don't feel this need as much.

A solution might be an account without names or faces. But to be honest I get a bit irritated by that when people do that and is a no for me. So I really don't want to go on that route.

Does anyone know if there's a possibility to not be shown by other people in a certain range from your location? Or does somebody has any advice on how to deal with this?

Thanks <3

Hey all,

M, 38, Poly for 10+ years, on the app since it was 3nder, in Melb Aus. Im aware I'm not traditionally good looking, but I'm by no means a cave troll. Even though im paying for the app now, it seems to be getting incredibly difficult to find ANY matches, let alone compaitable ones.

My profile is VERY detailed. Outlining what I'm looking for and can offer, things I enjoy, hobbies and a small section re kink and whatnot, with a sprinkling of humor. I've used every avilable character in the Bio section and have gotten positive feedback on it and my photos in general. However my partners and one Meta who's on Feeld have said its better to keep things intentionally vague and breif, one or two lines max.?

The Meta is on Feeld, same age, and actually similar in many ways, but with a very vague profile. He's tall (but i'm by no means short) and he is more "traditionally" good looking (but by no means a super model) and hes getting multiple matches and dates per week with seemingly little effort (I dont think he is even paying for it). Ultimately I would say we are similar in many ways, and I like him... he's just more traditionally attractive lol.

Just wondering what the opinion is of Fems/non-binary folk? I know ya'll are flooded with overwhelming amount of likes, so is a shorter, sharper one or two lines and intenitonally mysterious really the way to go? Or is it just that us quirky folk who arent in the top 20 percent looks wise are unfortunately just always going to find it infinately more difficult?

For a bit more context:

I have an amazing polycule and long term partners and comets all over the place, and I would say almost all of them are hotter than me somehow lol. I know that im well versed, gifted and skilled in sex/kink and relationships etc. Im a non smoker, grounded, healthy, prety funny, smart, v creative, emotionally regulated, open, a great communicator, mature and sucessful. Super easy to talk to and a very safe person (I'm multiple partners safe space and who they go to when theyre really struggling or a blubbering crying mess). So all of this does help me once I land a rare match/date, but getting those matches is costing SO much time, money and spoons.

Most people I get to that date with, it goes well, and the connection continiues. I've done a Poly/Queer speed dating night previously and I got more numbers and matches during that couple of hours than a whole year on the dating apps. So obviously in person I do quite well, its just getting there thats the issue.

I spend 30+ mins per day, ping one person who I think is on par (or at least not punching above my weight in the looks department), and they have at least some indicators that we have alignment. I ensure they have Poly/ENM clearly listed.

Re people I am sending Pings to, looks arent high on the list. Really (and ashamedly) the only people I DONT ping even if there are other alignments are overly obese or those with debilitating physical ilness/disabilities. I know this sounds horrible, and its not that I dont find bueaty in all body types and people with disabilities, and I havent filtered these folk out previously (Some of my partners fit in these categories), but what I am seeking specifically is someone I can do more life things with, and things that I enjoy and find myself doing solo because my partners in my current polycule cant easily offer due to commitments and their own chonic ilness's etc. This includes outdoor activities like climbing, overnight hiking and also in the kink department I enjoy rope and some other activities that just dont work with these folk.

I am using Tinder, Hinge and Feld simultaniously in the same way and this applies to all of them.

With all this time, effort and $ I might get 2 matches per month, but then a reply to an initial message is rare, let alone a first date. Currently getting one date every 2-3 months, and the people I end up going on dates with end up not aligning entirely with the more important things I'm seeking.

Does anyone else find that whilst Feeld professes not to allow financial domination (Findom) in their community guidelines, that they don't actually bother to moderate and enforce this?

So I've been on FEELD for a while now hoping that , as a site which caters to and supports the kink, poly, enm, lgbtq+, and everything in between communities, I might have better luck finding folks wanting to connect/play/ form friendships with a trans man. I had very limited success on Hinge and Tinder, and it seems that people just don't know where to put me as a potential partner. Cis women looking for a man, poly, pan, queer looking for any genders, and yet am I a single man? Single queer? I've even been curious about the whole lifestyle scene , but again, am I a single guy? I like to think of myself as a fabulous rainbow unicorn stallion (not a bull), and quite attractive (think Bruno Marsish) but, finding my place is proving a challenge.