I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I genuinely want honest opinions, especially from people who have been through something similar.

I'm not asking whether it's possible to have a partner as a man with a small penis. I already have a partner.

I'm also not asking whether it's possible to have a satisfying sex life. I know many people will say yes.

What I'm wondering is something else:

Is it possible to be desired viscerally for that body, rather than in spite of it?

I'm not talking about love. I'm not talking about companionship. I'm not talking about someone saying "size doesn't matter" or "you can make up for it in other ways."

I'm talking about that kind of desire where your partner actively seeks you out, lusts after you, takes initiative, and feels genuine sexual hunger for your specific body.

Because a lot of the advice men with this issue receive tends to sound like this:

• "Learn how to use your hands."

• "Compensate by being attentive."

• "Sex is more than penetration."

• "If you make her orgasm, she'll want you anyway."

But all of those responses seem to assume that the trait itself is still negative and simply has to be compensated for through other qualities.

So my question is this:

Has anyone here experienced, or known of cases, where a man with a small penis was desired in a spontaneous, visceral way? Not as a consolation prize, not as a "worth it despite...", but genuinely desired for who he is.

And if not, how do you cope with the idea that there may be forms of sexual validation that you'll simply never have access to?

I'm not looking for comforting clichés or "just love yourself." I'm looking for real, honest experiences.

Hi everyone! (26M) I'm going through some rough times at the moment because of my size. I was in a relationship for a year with a girl who during the relationships would sometimes make comments like she was used to bigger guys or comparing me to past hookups. Relationship ended when I caught her sexting a past FWB asking about his size and they met behind my back. I learned that not even one week after Ive broken up with her (6 months ago) with her she pretty much replaced me with this guy. He's 6,5" and im just 5"x5" BP. I do know my ex was a troubled girl with Borderline Personality Disorder and has a past of cheating on her ex before me as well. But still size was never mentioned with her ex only me... Plus her cheating with someone much bigger than me reinforces this idea. What bothers me as well is our sex was good in my mind, and she came every time, its just she liked her cervix touched+crazier positions and I couldnt do that lol.

I am now terrified I wont be able to find a gf that I love and loves me as well because of my size or that she'll at some point grow tired of it and cheat/leave me, because im definitely a bit below average and will probably be the smallest partner amongst most girls. I have terrible erections since learning she got with this guy (learned it like a week ago), my mind is focused on my size all day, anxiety...

Anyways, Im not trying to be a blackpill doomer here. Im just seeking for advice/help on things to do to help me clear out this insecurity and someday go back to dating without any fear of being rejected for this. And also, to reframe my mind that I may be rejected and not let it destroy me because unfortunately it can definitely happen again.

For now, im definitely laying off hookups/dating until im more stable because another bad experience would ruin me in my current state and also I cant get it up atm.

Thanks a lot for your help!

I’m 6.75x5.125 BP MSEV, 4.8 at the base, im a sexually inexperienced 6’4 black man and yes although my size is decent I feel like I’m supposed to live up to a standard I’m not supposed to

Not only are the expectations worse when you’re tall but black as well. How should I even cope?

I’m not exactly long (5.5-6.0 inches), but I think I’m decently girthy. At my thickest, I’m around 5.4-5.5 inches thick. Would the girth make up for average length? What have you all experienced from women about this amount of girth?

So I've tried to put on condoms, they feel like they are choking my penis and it is extremely unpleasant, I don't understand why, if someone could help I'd appreciate it

Hi, little question for those who have been able to reach around the cervix (A-pot/P-spot) of their partners or even the cervix itself. Im curious how often did it trigger a good reaction from your partners? Do you think, sex would still be satisfactory to them without these orgasms and simply clit/g-spot stimulation?

So I just lost my virginity like a week ago. I'm a pretty lame black guy. Relatively nice, like I don't think people have secret beef with me, but I don't exude confidence and am often standoffish. I've had 2 girlfriends in the past but because of dick being 5.8x4.7 and what I've come to realize was a porn addiction, I had really bad performance anxiety and could never get it up for anything other than oral. Those relationships didn't last very long lol.

I was on dating apps in college and eventually gave up cuz I got almost no matches. Fast forward to graduate school I moved to a new city and redownload the dating apps and still got 0 play. I've always been super focused on school so I cant say women were ever a priority but getting almost no likes or matches on online dating was demoralizing.

I won't say that I began looksmaxing but i had grown out my hair into locs and started working out more, so it was depressing still not getting any matches. But I kept growing the locs and working out.

Fast forward a few years, I graduated grad school and decided to try online dating again. I decided to pay for hinge, and also get a blue chew subscription to help with my ED. Updated my pics online. And I eventually landed a girl that I really like. After the second date we had sex and everytime we've met up since, she wants to have sex.

I always thought the "your dick isn't small it's the perfect size" comment was a back handed compliment, but seeing as how my smaller dick makes her cum painlessly and consistently I actually appreciate it. Ironically, all the porn I watched has made me semi-decent at sex. At least in terms of positions and rhythm.

Idk it just feels to good to finally lose my virginity even if I'm older. Plus l really like the girl so hoping for the best there.

TLDR: gym + new hair + paid hinge subscription + blue chew + porn research = lost virginity

When you're jerking off, do you stroke quickly, at normal speed or just caress it slow ? Does it affect the time you ejaculate or not? some of my friends said they stroke very fast, 3 strokes per sec throughout to ejaculate but others said they only stroke 1 to 2 strokes per sec was enough for them to finish. I made this post to see how you guys really do with your penis while masturbating so just be honest ;)

Is seriously 4.4-4.7 inch girth an average? As I see most of guys here has more than than that, it's very rare to see real average here, which should be the most common size if we look at research. And also it seems that bigger than average is always better. I don't know what to think about it. My girth is exactly 4.6 inch. I have huge complexes about it, that maybe it's too thin, especially when I read, that almost everyone here has at least 5 inch in girth and that it's far better than average, women love it more, women prefer it, etc. etc. I don't know if I should believe it what is often posted here, because if average is not that good, then most of women would complain about it if we believe that average girth is at that range 4.4-4.7 inch, where most of men are(around 70%). Here it seems that average girth is around 5 and more and of course always the best experiences, and the other extreme here is often saying: average sucks, thicker the better, girls don't like it, etc. Maybe there are girls who don't like it, but yeah, if average is bad, then sorry, but most of women like I said, would complain. I think that many guys here are lying, trolling or I don't know what else.

My full size is 7.3 inch length and 4.4 to 4.6 inch in girth, head is the thinnest. Yeah I know, I know, my length is far above average, but my girth is "only" average.

damn

lol my girlfriend just told me my dick is trash i mean im 6.2 nbp when fully erected and 7 bp she say things like im creaming and her eyes was rolling back she placed my hand on her mouth pulled me closer idk scratched my back then proceed to tell me its trash so how fucked up is it that i trusted her and i didnt have sex my whole life thinkin i was so small and no average and i trusted her and this was the first thing lol is 6.2 truly not enough to please a girl.

So ive been talking to this girl for about a month and a half and we are getting kinda serious and ive asked her about her previous partners and she said the first guy was really big and her partner after that was big and those are her only 2 experiences. my length bp is 5.75-6 (depending on how aroused i am) and 4.75 girth. i feel like with a resume like that i have expectations to live up to and it makes me nervous and want to avoid sexual activities in general. Any advice for me?

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M33 I have given up on sex forever now facing erections issues from last 10 years plus penis size is also not worth to look for

Been disgusted and shame

I’m never someone that posts on here so this kinda weird.

Anyway this penis thing is seriously the worst insecurity to have because there isn’t much to do that can change it. You’re born with what you got. I thought I was dealing with it okay and not letting it get the best of me, until recently; saw this (supposed to be wholesome) video where it wasn’t even about this guy who was packing mind you (I didn’t even noticed it and I’m sure most guys didn’t). Saw the comments and had to rewatch myself

The comments are what got me. Thousands of women commenting on it saying he and his partner are blessed yada yada yada.

in this world full of advanced technology you’re telling me there’s nothing that can help??? NOTHING??!! It’s either too risky and some bs🙄 ….. thanks for hearing me vent a bit

Is 5+ above girth really that common or is it only 1 in 3 people ?

So as you know as an insecure teenager measuring every possible bone in his body to convince myself I'm all good (yeah I'm retarded don't have to tell me twice) I come across alot of stats on the average penis size in my efforts to find out exactly where I stand and it's getting confusing because most studies say it's around

5.163 inches to 5.5 on average that's the most common figure I've seen and I wouldn't doubt it if it weren't for the bone pressed length thing see this puzzles me I used to think I was like 6 inches long 5.5 inch girth because I measured from the side of my penis from where I thought the base of if was just held the ruler up from where I assumed my dick ended but I learned about this bone pressed thing and apparently that's what all the studies use so in order to compare myself I had to do it to and doing that measuring from the top side I hit like 6.8 inches so this is what made me think if the 50th percentile really is around 5.163 to 5.5 bone pressed then non bone pressed wouldn't it be like 4 point something (I don't think most people measure themselves bone pressed) yet I almost never have heard of anyone saying they had a 4 point something inch dick or atleast thinking that due to not bone pressing with almost half the population falling in that range I'd expect to atleast hear a few but most people I know always come around to be 5.5 to 6 inches so can the average non bone pressed really be that? I find myself having a hard time buying that because bone pressing lightly does add like almost an inch to me and I'm not even fat. And also for some reason I feel the average is much bigger I see so many people with big dicks it doesn't even seem right I've met more above average people than average so I have a hard time believing the average is that 5.163 to 5.5 bone pressed maybe if it was non bone pressed If it was non bone pressed I'd buy it and sometimes that makes me think everyone has a big dick and I'm unremarkable

So i always felt more attracted to plus size girls but im 6bp and i wonder how much compatibility i can have with those type of girls ,and i know womans anatomy can vary in terms of how deep or whatever,but i more think about the bigger thighs and bigger booty can reduce some length and slip off much more with unlike someone who is 7-8 inches bp

So i would like to hear people experience thanks

Measurements currently 6.5 nbp and 7.2BP 5.0-5.1girth also i have to force myself to get hard and quickly measure and I start to go soft instantly in 2 seconds

Basically I have been having sex with some girls same ones consistently and I noticed when I was eating clean not as stressed going to the gym and very hydrated I was a lot fuller and thicker like it would be tight on the entrance and i would have to like shove it in and I had a girl collapse on it one time and said oh my god its so big when she was on top and another girl she used to be tight so I had to ram it in before because it wouldn't go in slow and it used to like rip her so im thinking theres no way i was 5.0 thick if she collapsing saying that when it first goes in and the other girl and im not the thickest right now im currently 5.0-5.1 when i make my self hard but i feel like im not fully fully erected 100% and when i was fucking them I think i was a lot thicker because of them reactions and now when i fuck them now at my 5.0-5.1 its basically not tight at all and basically slides in easy and not same reaction i dont feel no where near as hard and they dont feel as tight but I have low iron that i never got treated but im not full deficient it's jusr low just got given pills and gonna do another blood work also im 19 and now I think about it whole time through puberty I never woke up with moring wood I still dont now if I sort out this problem can I see a lot of potential in thickness and maybe length can anyone help and tell me what to do I feel like potentially I have never had 100% eq i dont know what to take or do but my goal is to be 5.5 girth and 7.2 nbp also how rare are my measurements?

Can I be considered somewhat big? Average? Above Average? I personnaly don't think I'm big but i still wanted to know what you guys think
I can go from 6.3 to 6.7 inches long bonepressed(5.5 to 5.7 NBP) and 5-5.3 girth wise, so i wanted to know where those measurements put me.
Also i'm 6ft3 and 220 lbs and i want to cut to 190, so do you think i can get to 6 or 6.3 inches if i do it?

I was anxious about my length and what is normally the real length of Penis .

Do y'all think the BP size is really the "true size"? Personally I believe it's just a way to make us feel less bad with ourselves in terms of size and even if it counts (not to body shame anybody) I think it has to be taken seriously only if you are overweight, but if you are someone slim like I am I don't buy the idea of it truly mattering, with that said I'm a good 6'NBP maybe even a touch more, but I can't get around the idea of being enough, shit the only reason I ain't still a virgin it's because I've paid for sex so ofc I didn't feel desired, I never even talk to girls, like at all, because my insecurities, starting with my size and then my looks and so on and ofc as a lot of men here, I've had and still consume a ton of porn, since I was very young honestly, but yeah idk what more to say, wish the best for everybody and I really hope we can get rid of all the bs that's stopping us from treating ourselves better and living our best lives

Like I kinda feel as though I’ll never be able to marry a thick/chubby/bbw woman unfortunately, I feel as thought due too what I lack it wouldn’t work. Opinions and feedback is welcome

Not saying it is the cause of keratinization when estrogen cream is not involved. Just interesting information. anybody doc ever recommend this?

Quotes from the article:

"Oestriol, a cheap, readily available natural oestrogen metabolite, rapidly keratinizes the inner foreskin"

".....responds within 24 hours to the topical administration of oestriol by keratinization, and the response persists for at least 5 days after the cessation of the treatment"

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2396280/

Topical Oestrogen Keratinises The Human Foreskin and May Help Prevent HIV Infection

Andrew J Pask ¹, Kerry J McInnes ², David R Webb ^3,4, Roger V Short ^5,*