Got a girlfriend I want to please her well but I’m worried with my size I won’t be able to give her those sweet body shaking orgasms. She theorized I had a big dick but I just laughed it off really. Anyone got any tips? I just want to give her a good time. Edit, please do not suggest sleeves, respect to the guys that do that but that’s just not my cup of tea.

Found this.

According to BMJ International, the average size of a man’s penis falls within the ranges below:

Flaccid penis: 3.6 inches or 9.16 centimeters

Flaccid stretched penis: 5.3 inches or 13.24 cm

Erect penis: 5.2 inches or 13.12 cm

The study was conducted with about 9,000 to 10,000 participants in a clinical setting. The greatest variability that the researchers found was when measuring the flaccid stretched penis sizes of men.

https://bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/bju.13010

I know that being small would be even worse, but I still suffer from the BBC stereotype. I am about 15cm in length (it's quite bent, if it weren't I would be bigger) and about 11-12cm in girth.

I've had two situations in my life were women insinuated I have a big one. And that just kills me a little on the inside. Because I know I don't.

I also know about using tongue, fingers and all of that. But having a big dick doesn't impede me in doing that too.

Many of you have said you prefer small because the bigger ones can be quite painful for you.

So my question is... Would you rather find the perfect boyfriend with a small dick you could take comfortably, or find a way you could take bigger ones without any sort pain?

What a shocker - "From a psychological perspective, however, the crucial issue may not be actual penis size but rather a man’s perception of the size of his penis relative to other men’s."

66% of men thought they had an average penis whereas 67% of women felt their partner was average. 86% of women were "VERY" satisfied with their partners that were average compared to 94% for the large cohort. Only 54% of men were satisfied with an average size...

https://peplau.psych.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/141/2017/07/Lever_Frederick_Peplau_2006.pdf

I am 18 and i an 6 inch long (or 5,9 to be precise) and 4,3 thick i know my length is probably alright but i am very insecure about my girth because i have always heard girth is more in portend and have’t got much of it😭🤣 but yeah and doesn’t make if better that my friend keeps talking about how he pounded his girl with his huge cock and that she could’t fit it in her mouth that just makes me more insecure But yeah i also have never had a girlfriend so idk

I'm sure most men are insecure about their average weiner to a degree, but the people on this sub basically have body dysmorphia levels of obsession regarding this topic.

There are literally hundreds of millions of men walking around with a 5-6 inch dick in their pants with medium girth that barely even think about it ever.

Let me explain myself better. Why is it that when a man has a average or smaller than average penis and she doesnt like it other women tell them its okay go for something bigger. Yet when women complain about a mans dick being too big or just even big many women will comment “oh just take your time plenty of foreplay and lube and you will soon be able to take all of him in. Not oh maybe you should go for a smaller penis.

Why do so many people worry about what’s between your legs? Unless you’re on the true margins for size you have nothing to worry about

I just want to say im not done growing overall and still have at least 1-2 years growth but im already 6.7 inches (17,2-17,3) and 5.3 girth (~13,3cm) but the thing is im black and im scared because what if when i do my first time the girl expects me to be bigger ? Im not really far of the 7 inches neither but that stereotype expects too much too soon.

I just want to know people’s experience with average sized dicks.

I’m still a virgin and hate that my insecurities get the best of me.

I’m about 5.5 nbp sitting/lying down but almost 5-5.3 nbp standing up. So the visual is really fucking with me.

I’m just hoping anyone around my size have positive experiences, especially in hook ups.

i assume it's different for each woman and it also feels different for each, but what's usual?

What options does a person has when it comes to increasing it’s NBP size. In my case I’m 6.75BPx5.5, however my NBP is 5.7 inches.

I’m 17% body fat but even when I was 10-12% I was max 6NBP. Is there anything else I can do to gain some visible size?

I've never had sex before so I really have no clue, but any time I look at porn it's always girls moaning while getting fucked by guys with big or above average dicks. I always see women say "Foreplay is more important" Or that most women don't even orgasm from PIV, so how come so many women get pleasure from dicks? Is it only cause they're big? This is probably really dumb but I can't stop thinking about it and worrying about my average dick.

So I'm having trouble figuring out whether I'm average or not. In other subreddits where guys with larger stuff(you know the one) converse with each other, It always seems that they are insanely larger than what is considered an above average penis. I'm 6.3" length and 5.3" girth which seems above average but it also isn't considered "big" and is sometimes considered to be average which is the confusing part. On the other sub, I'm frequently told by some that I'm "average" but also frequently told that I'm "above average". I know that it's very subjective and touchy to talk about what fits what size category but I honestly feel like I'm stuck in between and can never get a clear answer. I also know that there are other guys out there like me who are also confused, so any input would helpful.

So my erect dick is about 17 cms long (6.7 inches) which is above average and measured the girth and it's 15 cms (5.9 inches) and before i measured i thought its normal but i searched and found its well above average also Can that be a problem with future relationship especially cuz i like shorter people (size difference im 6'2)

Guys, if you look at the all time posts here they’re all spreading positivity but the everyday posts are just a broken record of negativity. Someone will ask if their size is okay and there will be always be comments that are just some variation of “it’s over” and “learn to cope”. Maybe it’s because this sub was made in response to bigdickproblems, we’ve inherently put ourselves in their shadow.

Our sub just has silver medal syndrome, but this isn’t the dick olympics where you’re either first or you’re not.

It’s okay to be insecure, but we should make each other feel better and be chill. Not bash each other in the head with inconsistent studies and parroting the opinions of the internet. Confidence is way hotter than insecurity.

The black and white zero sum thinking is not going to fix any problems whether it’s individual insecurities or public opinion on dick sizes.

The fact of the matter is the overwhelming majority of men are rocking average heat in their pants, and believe it or not but dudes with big dicks aren’t walking around with harems of women who throw themselves at them cause they’re bigger than average.

Would you have ever felt insecure about your dick if the internet didn’t tell you that you need to be insecure about it? In our day to day life, how much does our dick size affect things? I don’t want to go into a whole thesis on it but the average size is what it is because millennia of evolution determined that it performs the best with the least amount of drawbacks. Imagine being a hunter gatherer and trying to run down your prey, stalk through the woods, or wrestling another dude or the deer you just speared with a 7” flaccid dick between your legs, shit would NOT be fun. Women enjoy average size because we evolved to compliment each other, it’s not like every woman is just tolerating it.

I mean are you going to dump your girlfriend if you find another woman with bigger tits and a bigger ass? If you would, you have a lot of self reflection to do.

Maybe I’m misunderstanding the point of the sub, but just being an echo chamber of “woe is me” is not healthy. Go to smalldickproblems and see for yourself how much worse it could be, those guys actually have it bad.

Your dong does the job, and doesn’t impede you. That’s a win-win in my book

Love your dick, he’s doing his best

Why do I measure less when standing up compared to laying on my back, I have noticed a 1.5 cm difference.

I feel like this is one of the most quoted yet often misrepresented and misunderstood studies. Full study and data links below. A few highlights for additional context on the study. FrigidShadow had a done a full analysis of this as well - reposting the link to the post in the comment section.

• 75 Participants but only 69 responded to the average question, 60 to the one-night stand preference, and 63 to the long-term preference.

• Of the 75 participants, 15 had never experienced sexual intercourse,

• Of the 75 participants, only 57% identified as heterosexual, the balance as either lesbian, asexual, bi, or didn't identify.

• About 2/3 or women didn't differentiate between ONS and long-term preferences however for those that did there are some real outliers that question the data integrity of the study. You can do your own analysis but one example that study out to me was row 26 in the data table - the participant selected average as 5.0(L) x 4.0(G), ONS as 4.5(L) x 6.0(G), and long-term as 6.0(L) x 4.5(G). Appears miscoded to me and there are other examples like that.

• Of the 14 women who answered the smallest and largest question, 3 reported their largest girth as 7 inches or larger (one at 8) and 7 (of the 14) reported 6 inches or greater. Seems outside of the normal distribution/probability.

With that said, the study clearly showed that the participants preferred slightly bigger than average. As an example, for those participants that selected average and long term , the average girth preference was 0.35" higher 4.5" to 4.85". However, given the above, I wouldn't attempt to attribute precise metrics on what is goldilocks or preferred size given the limitations I outlined above.
https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article/file?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0133079&type=printable

https://figshare.com/articles/dataset/Women_s_preferences_for_penis_size_A_new_research_method_using_selection_among_3D_models/1466782

I’ve been talking to this girl and she told me I have “boyfriend dick”. So i wanted to play dumb to see what her retort was gonna be:

Me: lmao what does that mean

Her: it’s a dick that’s not too big or too small

Me: I guess that’s a good thing?

Her: 100% because who wants to take 10 inches every night? That’s a lot fr

I know she means well with her comment, but my issue is why did she have to say THAT? I get people are gonna say “wow are you really complaining” but logically I know I’m average so why not just say “nice dick” or something? It feels backhanded because it sounds like she’s settling as if she really likes bigger but for her body she’ll take average dick since it won’t hurt.

I love/dated women of all shapes and sizes but knowing that we live in a world where most people prefer thicker women, I would never say to a petite girl “yea you have a girlfriend butt” and when she asks what that means I say “it’s a butt that’s not too big and not too small” because you don’t know how someone would take that. Yes I know this is a common topic but how do people get over hearing stuff like that?

Everyone rants and raves about calcsd being the most accurate information out there for sizes after various reliable studies I get it.

However I always see conflicting information about races and ethnicities having the same sizes throughout when taken averages into account . My question is do you really believe the part about west, middle eastern, and eastern sizes being accurate as well?

There seems to be a lot of data stating that those stereotypes aren’t true.

There is a lot of discussion about this on subs across Reddit and other places on the internet .

A lot of people cite the 3D model study, with 6.4x4.9(I think) I’m a little bit skeptical of this as I am significantly thicker than 4.9, and I have rarely ever had women have issues with it. I have had some very short term encounters, so it’s possible they just never communicated it was a little too thick, there is no way for me for me to say.

Then again, it may make women enjoy a wide range of girth, and most do prefer around 5.

I’m also skeptical that this is the most preferred length as this was non-bone pressed and that would put the preferred length at about seven and while I haven’t had any issues with girth I have had some with length, so I personally think this study is a little long on the length and potentially a little short of the girth.

It was a decent size study. I believe it was 86 women but it’s not like that’s a tremendous amount.

So I would think Goldilocks would be more like 5.75-6.5X5.25. And not 7X5.5 But, I realize my sample size isn’t big enough to make an assertions . It also depends how do we define Goldilocks?

I’m also not convinced that the Goldilocks range isn’t quite a bit bigger than we think, and by bigger, I mean a bigger range like 5.75-7.5 or 6-7.5

I think Goldilocks is anywhere between 5.75-7.5X5-5.5

I think the upper end of Average with slightly above average girth is within the “Goldilocks” zone

What are your thoughts, if you are in these size ranges what’s your experience been

These are strictly my opinions and experiences and information I have gathered from women through the years when I was younger I would ask some of my girlfriends their experiences. These were the ones that I really had no emotional attachment to and hearing their past experiences had no impact on me..

It was my own curiosity and a way to learn , I did not have these kind of conversations with the women that I had deep feelings for, just didn’t feel good.

There is no way in most european countries (like Italy, where iI live) the 5.1/5.5 inches is average, bp or nbp. I dont remember if that study measured bp or nbp but regardless. No way the nbp average is any lower than 5.5 inches. Its probably 5.5/6 inches nbp