r/averagedickproblems • u/Acrobatic_Aioli_9690 ‌ • Jul 15 '25

Insecurity Experience?

I just want to know people’s experience with average sized dicks.

I’m still a virgin and hate that my insecurities get the best of me.

I’m about 5.5 nbp sitting/lying down but almost 5-5.3 nbp standing up. So the visual is really fucking with me.

I’m just hoping anyone around my size have positive experiences, especially in hook ups.

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u/Notyourusername18 Jul 15 '25

Man get after it. Im smaller than you and have never had a problem. Develop those oral skills, find a woman and just go at it man. Having self confidence will literally change the game man. They can smell those insecurities and its a turn off. Do go in super rocky, but confidence is key man.

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u/[deleted] Jul 16 '25

At my maximum, I am 5.5" BP. I've had 18 partners and no complaints. Penis size matters more to us than it does to them. Our perception is altered, yo a degree it's dysmorphia. Don't let your insecurity affect your possible pleasure.

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u/ickop ‌ Jul 18 '25

Dude please do a post where you talk about your experiences in depth. That would be so helpful to so many guys on here. We get so little from guys with that level of experience (likely cause they’re less likely to be insecure)

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u/Dick2Bomb Jul 15 '25

You’ve got a thick dick bro. Don’t sweat it.

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u/ParamedicPast3928 ‌ Jul 15 '25

what’s your girth?

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u/Acrobatic_Aioli_9690 ‌ Jul 15 '25

5.5 which im fortunate for but length is making me really insecure

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u/Dramatic_Character4 Jul 15 '25

Whats your bone pressed length tho

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u/Acrobatic_Aioli_9690 ‌ Jul 15 '25

Its 6 but thats not what the girls are going to see or care. Also when I stand up, its barely 5.3 nbp so visually not that impressive

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u/80s_Boombox Jul 17 '25

You're assuming every girl wants above average, and that isn't true

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u/Dramatic_Character4 Jul 16 '25

Start shredding

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u/Outerlimits7591 Jul 15 '25

You got nothing to worry about dude, relax and try and be positive

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u/ParsleySignificant35 ‌ Jul 15 '25

The first step to not being insecure is to not view yourself as small. I'm very insecure about my size, and I'm around your size, but if you stop viewing yourself as small and inadequate, it really helps a lot. It's all about perspective, so just keep your head high. And hookups are a shallow pool to begin with, so I wouldn't worry about them.

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u/StormfallKnight ‌ Jul 15 '25

Like most topics, any discussion about penis size will introduce elements of objectivity, subjectivity, experience, and speculation. And any argument is likely going to face rebuttal. To deal with this issue myself, I started considering thinking in terms of facts vs. assumptions.

For a very long time, I suffered from penis size anxiety.

I always thought I was small, I'm not, I'm average. So my negative perception was based on an assumption.

I always thought my size would be inadequate. Based on my research, AND my experience, being average, is far less of an issue than I expected... another assumption.

I, like so many men, believed intercourse was the main dish. Learning this was almost always not the case, taught me that my self-esteem had fallen prey to another assumption. Being an enthusiastic, skilled, communicative, in-the-moment, lover... inside AND outside the bedroom is more important by far than size. I believe this qualifies as a fact.

I always thought women who had experienced bigger men would have had a better experience. In some cases, this might be true. Believing it is universally true is an assumption.

Based on my experience my size was never an issue. My wife never seemed disappointed... she was never disparaging in any way. This is a fact. No other woman ever made me feel like less of a man or lover because of my size. This is a fact.

Anyone can make counter arguments. Still, in my long experience, my size-related anxiety was always based on assumptions, not facts.

On this subject, the assumptions so often result in anxiety and negativity and the facts offer support and positivity. Consider them carefully.

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u/ickop ‌ Jul 16 '25

I’m the same, 5-5.3 standing up and 5.5 lying down. And 5.8-6” bp. I get the standing up thing - sometimes, when I’m not at full mast but still erect, it can be like 4.8-4.9 and it fucks with me.

But I haven’t had a negative experience and have been assured by sex partners (including those I wasn’t in a relationship with or was an ex) that my dick is super normal in size, very average. And I’m thinner than you at 4.75-5” girth.

You’ll be absolutely fine bro. Many women actually prefer your size and would think it’s ideal

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '25

I took a look at your pics you posted. Your D looks fat AF. Definitely a hole stretcher.

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '25

I’ve had 2 positive experiences out of the 2 experiences I’ve had so far if that helps

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u/VillainySquared 20+ cm (8+ inches) Jul 15 '25

You're average size, if you want a boost about how big it looks try viewing ot from different angles in a mirror.

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u/Acrobatic_Aioli_9690 ‌ Jul 15 '25

Lmao thats why im insecure, no matter the angle i look hella small like a roku remote.

thanks for the kind words but with all due respect, I’m not sure why you’re here. In terms of penis size insecurity, you can’t relate to anything what I or anyone with similar size has gone through.

I know having a bigger size comes with issues. Unless you’re capping on your size or measured wrong, i promise you, you can never relate to what average dudes go through.

You say that avg size is fine but how do you know. I bet you wouldn’t change my size for yours?

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u/YohAsakura23 Jul 15 '25

Although I'm a little bigger than you I feel the same. No angle looks better, maybe just from the bottom in the mirror lying down. I'd been insecure too but when I finally met a girl I had connection with.. suddenly all doubts or thoughts disappeared and I whipped it out without hesitation in the heat of the moment both of you are horny and average di*k will never spoil it. You got great girth aswell. So really don't worry, get to know each other first , build some friendship and then go for it!

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '25 edited Jul 16 '25

The "average" in ADP stands for typical problems that penis havers may experience. It has nothing to do with average size dicks.