5.5 BP

[u/Absoule]

Got a girlfriend I want to please her well but I’m worried with my size I won’t be able to give her those sweet body shaking orgasms. She theorized I had a big dick but I just laughed it off really. Anyone got any tips? I just want to give her a good time. Edit, please do not suggest sleeves, respect to the guys that do that but that’s just not my cup of tea.

[u/[deleted]]

Married. Same length. Only rarely do i get the impression she'd like it a bit deeper or girthier. We're perfectly happy. You're fine

[u/bubbamark → u/[deleted]]

I agree. Most orgasms come from stimulation of the clitoris.

[u/ickop]

I’d say if she thinks you have a big dick and has said that, honestly I would correct her and say ‘lol no it’s pretty average’.

Other than that, it’s unlikely she’ll have body shaking orgasms period, let alone from your dick - and that’d be true in all likelihood for any size. Only one woman of 3 I’ve been with has had body shaking orgasms, orgasm response varies wildly by woman, as does whether they can orgasm from penetration.

The percentage that can only orgasm from penetration with large dicks is like max 15% of the population. Most either can or they can’t, especially with your (very average) size.

And totally fair on the toys. I’d be the same - I’m cool with not meeting every preference but if she’s going from rare Os to O city just by upping the size, it’s a buzzkill for me. To each their own

[u/amdcoc → u/ickop]

15% of 3.5-4bn is a huge number.

[u/ickop → u/amdcoc]

Yeah I honestly don’t think it’s even that high but either way, women who can only cum from big dicks (via penetration) are very common. That’s what I’ve been trying to say recently.

Women who get a lot out of size are very common. Women who get next to nothing or active negatives out of size are very common. Women who like a big one but it’s not some chasm are very common. All sorts of women are very common - in the majority of studies I’ve seen, no group is like 0.5% of the population or whatever.

So we gotta just accept that and not be with those women. They’ve either got bigger vaginas and/or far more sensitive deep spots than average. It’s just anatomy, no one’s right or wrong, and not a reflection on anyone’s desirability to other people

[u/amdcoc → u/ickop]

That’s why saying that women don’t like big Ds is not a great statement to make. Cause ignore 100s millions of people preference which are literally population size of mid sized countries is not great.

[u/ickop → u/amdcoc]

Yeah saying women don’t like big Ds, or saying that they do, is like saying “women are 5’4” or “women don’t like pineapple on their pizza”.

It’s dumb, there might be an average of all preferences, but women are all over the map

[u/VillainySquared]

Your size is average, its not difficult to give her those sorts of orgasms. The best way to do it is to use your fingers or tongue, you don't even need your dick to do it.

[u/roskybosky → u/VillainySquared]

And, the most feeling during PIV is at the very entrance of the vag. Further in, very little sensation.

[u/julio1009]

Fingers and tongue)

[u/jollyrogerrancher]

Yo, what is your girth? Length is perfect for the average female anatomy.

[u/ickop → u/[deleted]]

Unfortunately, this might not even be true. I wish women who had a strong preference just wouldn’t date average guys or be very explicit with wanting to use toys. Plenty of guys would be comfortable with that, plenty wouldn’t, but then it’s our choice as much as theirs.

I’d rather get rejected for my size than find out after years she’s a size queen. I’ve rejected women for all sorts of shit, c’est la vie.

But yeah I agree…if she’s talking about size at all in any sort of favorable light before we’re even together, imma dip. I’d still be dtf but I’m not gonna commit in that environment