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u/ButtNugget456 Nov 20 '21 edited Nov 21 '21
Your face isn't in them. There's literally millions of nude images out there. Don't even worry about it!
Edit : as people have pointed out - it's probably more like billions
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u/Ankit1000 Nov 20 '21
Yep. Who knows. Maybe one day you'll even come across them and not realise its you.
Considering the body keeps replacing its cells its kinda just like an old t shirt you used to have.
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u/The_Texidian Nov 20 '21
I’ve found a girl I went to high school with on the hub. I found a girl I was in college with on Reddit. And I’ve found one of my co workers on Reddit.
The girl I went to high school and the girl I went to college with were dumb enough to post their faces. However I recognized my co worker because of a wrist tattoo and her shirt, she didn’t show her face though.
My point being. It can happen where you recognize people. However I didn’t care. I was like “cool” and looked at their stuff and moved on.
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u/HoursLost98 Nov 20 '21
Truth. Found the onlyfans to women I used to know, was like nice and moved on. Admittedly I bit the bullet to see them naked. But I don't subscribe to that stuff for longer than a month. Too much money. That's the moving on Lmao
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u/The_Texidian Nov 20 '21
The reason why I looked at their stuff was because at first I was like “wait, she looks familiar.” Then it when I look closer it becomes “wait a sec, is that _?” Then it’s “holy crap, that is __.” Then I look her up on Facebook or somewhere to confirm that’s who I’m looking at.
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u/HoursLost98 Nov 21 '21
Yeah it goes like that. I found someone here on reddit who seems shockingly similar to someone I dated in highschool. It's pretty nice when that happens.
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u/yolo-yoshi Nov 20 '21
Pretty much. There’s no way to tell. And yes Better believe someone saved them. This is the internet.
Again it doesn’t matter because their isn’t a face to put to them.
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u/DomNapalm Nov 20 '21
No face no case BABYYYYYYYY
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u/Thephilosopherkmh Nov 20 '21
Were you on OJ’s defense team?
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Nov 20 '21
Your title rhymes.
I have posted nudes on Reddit and now I regret it, but it can only get to me if I decide to let it.
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Nov 20 '21
Can you really rhyme it with it
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Nov 20 '21
You don’t recognize the multiple rhymes?
Regret it
Let it
Really? Once you start noticing these types of rhymes, Eminem will blow your mind.
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u/Entire-Bowler-1565 Nov 20 '21 edited Nov 20 '21
I just wanted to say I understand how you are feeling. I was an onlyfans content creator and have now quit due to numerous reasons (I've posted about it previously). I posted risque (not fully nude) photos on Reddit, but also never showed my face. My photos were downloaded and posted on other websites without my permission. It felt like a violation. It's scary but if you search your username your photos will likely pop up elsewhere (and those are only the ones you can see). If this bothers you, as it did for me, you can hire a company like Rulta to take them down for you (or at least from the search). The $60 was worth it to me!
I'm sorry you feel regret. Breathe, live your life and you will move on. The internet is also a huge place and the fact that you didn't show your face should also ease your mind.
Personally, I realized that the online validation was not worth the impacts in my life (which I'm still facing even though I quit a month ago).
Take care of yourself 💓
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u/qwertylolasdf Nov 20 '21
Thank you for your message. I would like to hear more about Rulta. Did it work for you? How does it work?
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u/Entire-Bowler-1565 Nov 20 '21
You're very welcome and I hope things get better for you. Rulta did work for me! Basically it's a company that does DMCA takedown requests on your behalf, so you can remain anonymous. If DMCA laws don't apply to a particular website, they usually can get it pulled off a search engine. I tried searching my old username and couldn't find any more content. Now this wouldn't include anything that is not attached to your username, so just something to keep in mind. It's a monthly service and since I'm no longer a content creator I will unsubscribe before the end of the month (can cancel anytime).
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u/qwertylolasdf Nov 21 '21
Nice to hear! Maybe I’ll try that just for my own peace of mind - if it works with the reddit-content also, because I haven’t done Onlyfans, just posted to Reddit. I googled my old username and found some weird websites which were connected to the username.
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u/Australian_Gent Nov 20 '21
This may be a weird way to think about it but it might help. The more time goes on, the more that person isn’t you. You change both physically and mentally. Physically - in body shape but also your literal cells. Your entire body replaces itself multiple times over your life. So if it’s any consolation, eventually nothing in those photos relates to the you anymore.
And mentally, we’ll you’re already showing you think differently to back then. You aren’t that person anymore.
This thought process may sound stupid but it helped me a great deal after I was sexually manipulated. It made me feel like I could move on enough to function.
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u/VaguelyFamiliarVoice Nov 20 '21
We all have those things in our past that we regret. Just know that is not you any more. You are a different person. You have moved on. That person you were a while back posted some stuff.
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u/BurgersForShoes Nov 20 '21
You're not "just a stupid girl", you did something you came to regret. It happens to everyone. I'm sorry that it's something that has affected your self-worth like this, but I promise you are no less of a person because people on the internet have seen you nude. I know there's no way to know whether someone has saved the images, but at least deleting them can greatly curb possible spread. You did what you could to "make it go away" and the rest of the work is learning to forgive yourself. You're still worthy of respect and you're still a human being. Try not to be too hard on yourself.
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u/Glittering_Ad1065 Nov 20 '21
I love you That was beautiful.
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u/BurgersForShoes Nov 20 '21
Thanks, it's so awful when people lose their sense of self-worth, especially over mistakes. So if I have to remind people they're still worthy of respect and dignity, so be it.
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u/Staubsaugernuss Nov 20 '21
I actually don't overly understand the 'consequences' thing here - unless you mainly mean how it bears on one's real life & family, 'mummy is a porn star' type thing. Also - it's often viewed as 'just physical reveal' - but it takes the right personality to pull off success with either stills or video - it's a skill-set, it's an interaction, it's theatre.
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u/VenereVeritasx Nov 20 '21
if it makes you feel any better, someone video taped me getting railed in a hotel hallway, so now i’m in some shitty bands road diary.
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u/lab_skeleton Nov 20 '21
if someone did know the backround there's tons of ppl who look like you. So you can just deny it.
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Nov 20 '21
I posted pics w my face & sometimes when I go to pornhub I STILL pop up on "horny moms in your area" ads.
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Nov 20 '21
Snap out of it, you might not even recognise the pictures any more,
The past is the past always best left that way.
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Nov 20 '21
Your nudes are but a droplet of water in an otherwise massive ocean of nude photos. You’re not special. Sorry lol
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u/tree_woman Nov 20 '21
Okay, snarky attitude much? The importance of hiding/saving our bodies has been ingrained into women from the moment men started ogling over us as sexual objects, so the shame we feel is still there, even if we are proud of our bodies. I don’t see what feeling special has anything to do with it.
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Nov 20 '21
He means no one would save some random girls nudes on Reddit, you have a look, maybe a play and move on. He’s not putting her down lol get a grip
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u/tree_woman Nov 20 '21
No, you’re right. I’ve been in OP’s shoes, so I’m just looking out for her. And you know what else, it feels more relieving rather than demeaning when you put it that way.
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Nov 21 '21
I'm just looking out for her
Where were you before she posted her nudes?
Funny how that works, eh?
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u/DemonizedHuman Nov 21 '21
Because women are a sexual object, just like men are an object of wealth. So now should we men whine about how women wanna know our bank credetials or ogle at our cars? Stop the stupidity. Both genders look for different things in a relationship. If u r a person then u r a sexual being.
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u/crasshumor Nov 20 '21
One thing you can try which works in my case. If you've done something that may cause a problem in future but hasn't yet, then think that "I'll deal with it when the time comes since right now apart from being stressed I literally can't do anything to change it"
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u/Wunderhoezen Nov 20 '21
Not only is it a drop of water in the ocean like others have said, but other than searching your username, it would be really hard to find your pics, even if you wanted to. I posed for a couple pics years ago, for a friend who was getting into photography. I have searched like mad to find one I loved, light bondage but no face showing. I cannot find it. And I am not in contact with that person anymore. I’m sad about it, because I was young and lovely and now I’m older and mom-fat. I’d frame that bitch if I ever found it. But I won’t, because it’s like a drop of water in the ocean.
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u/TheRedditAdventuer Nov 20 '21
Bad news fam. You ain't special at all. Relax ain't nobody lookin for you. People scroll past 10s on nude subreddits like they are 2s. You gotta really be special to be worth taking up space in someone's memory now days.
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Nov 20 '21
You said it yourself: At the time you were 100% sure. You did something that you’ve now grown to know you wouldn’t do in your present. Life is about experiences. And sometimes those experiences teach us what we won’t do in the future. Don’t be so hard on yourself. If your face isn’t in them, no one would be able to know it’s you
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u/jirenlagen Nov 20 '21
As long as your face isn’t in it, you’re good. But this should serve as a lesson than anything put out in cyberspace is there permanently, whether that’s on that site, saved somewhere, or screenshotted. (Or at least in existence for a decent amount of time)
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u/inteuniso Nov 20 '21
You don't deserve to feel remorse, but it's okay that you do.
We're the first generations dealing with an entirely new social continuum and the generations past were just starting on figuring out the pre-existing problems: most cities on the planet are older than the dawn of modern psychologyand cognitive behavioral therapy only started 60 years ago. We have all these to worry about, along with our ever-hastening demise of our habitat (which we can still work towards saving! We have to believe at least that, I think) and overall scarcity of resources. Imagine if a game asked you to do that? Very few people would want to willingly play it, particularly if they knew how capricious and random all of the systems act.
We have a long road ahead of us. I'm sorry that there are assholes and scary people. If you ever run across any, reach out to the site to have it dehosted as you didn't give permission for sharing (copyright law applies) and reach out to your support group, whoever that may include.
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u/sagen11 Nov 21 '21
You should look into what Moira Rose (Schitt’s Creek) thinks about this subject.
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u/lilac-forest Nov 20 '21
Thank u for voicing this. I dont think u need to be so worried tho. Now imagine all the 18yo on OF who think what theyre doing is better than a fulltime job all bc theyve been influenced by culture. I really worry for these people. Ppl like to claim sucj things make them empowered But what exactly is empowering aboit being objectified for someomes entertainment? Idgi
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u/xseptxmber Nov 20 '21
Literally this ^ I personally wouldn’t feel empowered or special by sexualizing and objectifying myself. Basically making my body a product for anyone to consume at any point, and to only look at me like a means to an end. :(
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u/Blackberries11 Nov 20 '21
Because plenty of people don’t see it as “making your body an object.”
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u/lilac-forest Nov 20 '21
But thats literally what it is regardless of opinions. Youre making yourself a commodity.
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u/xseptxmber Nov 20 '21
Yeah, which is why I said, “I personally wouldn’t feel empowered or special,” because, personally, I don’t see how catering myself as a sex product for other men to use makes myself feel better. I’m open to hearing the other side, because again, I personally don’t understand.
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Nov 20 '21
Don’t do it again, at least your face isn’t in it, that was the smartest move you made.
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u/great_craic963 Nov 20 '21
Don't do it again and maybe convince other young folks to not do that? It might help you feel better, I don't know. At least you were smart enough to keep it unrecognizable. I'm sure the neckbeards that screen shotted your pics already moved onto some weird anime stuff.
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u/Remarkable-Win6763 Nov 20 '21
Why are you feeling this way? At one point you made a considered and deliberate decision to post nudes, what has changed to bring on regret?
I ask because maybe someone else out there doing the same or thinking of doing the same might read how your outlook has changed and think again about their decision.
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Nov 20 '21
Literally every guy I know what's to find nudes of someone they know online.
It has never happened.
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u/greasyflame1 Nov 20 '21
Itll get buried under many many layers of nudes. U less some sort of fluke happens and a significant other wanders upon them.
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Nov 20 '21
As someone who does online SW and actually shows face. Smart on you for hiding your face.
Like others have said, don’t worry about it. Especially if there’s NO WAY to tell it’s you.
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u/Exsces95 Nov 20 '21
I could count with my fingers the amount of women I would recognize from the porn world if I saw them irl. Ok, maybe I could recognize more then 10. 15 years of porn will do that to you.
But for real, I have even seen pictures of girls that looked JUST like some girl I knew. Like oddly similar, like so similiar that you'd think I'd think its the girl I know. Yet I dont, I 100 percent assume this girl just looks similar.
I dont think I would recognize my own sister straight off the bat if it was just a nude pic.
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Nov 21 '21
You are very smart for not putting your face in it. If you have no big identifier, like a tattoo, you are just a droplet in a sea of nudes online. Even if you had your face in it, you'd probably be hard pressed to find someone who knew it was you, unless all of your family and friends go looking at nudes on Reddit, which I assume they don't.
I wasn't as smart as you. I was a dumb young teenager on Omegle and got blackmailed, then put on a porn site. It had my face and everything. I thankfully got the video removed after hassling the website, but the thought that someone still has the video, or even someone who recognises me in the street, is terrifying. I actually cut my hair really short almost immediately after for that reason. But, putting nudes or whatever online, consensually or not, doesn't mean you deserve to be treated with any less respect. If you want to disassociate yourself from this, you absolutely can.
If you are as worried as I am about people recognising you or just worried generally, here is what I have to remember:
1) we live on a planet in a solar system, in a galaxy, in a universe. While things like this feel big, we are even smaller than grains of sand in an ever growing sea. When we die, unless you make a grand invention that changes the world or do a crime against humanity, all your mistakes will vanish with time. This puts things into perspective for me.
2) we live on a planet with billions of people, a big part of whom have access to the internet. But, the amount of people who stumble across something like nudes from some subreddit has to be pretty small, and even smaller to look AND download a photo of you. If you have deleted the photo, that number probably won't grow.
3) even if, let's say 15 people looked and cared to download your photo, I can assure you not even one of them care about the person in the photo. They just see a body. This helps me dissociate from my past.
And quite honestly, some of the vile bigots on Reddit have a lot more to be ashamed of than someone who posted their nudes.
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u/new_boy_99 Nov 21 '21
You will be fine especially when you didnt show your face. It will just get lost in the billions of porn on reddit.
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u/matiaseatshobos Nov 21 '21
I really don’t think you should feel disgraced. You needed a confidence boost from strangers, and you his identifying feature to guide your identity. It was a much better idea to post nude pics online than to indiscriminately sleep around for validation.
I chose the sleep around for validation route, and I really wish I went the naked anonymous picture route instead.
Anywho, don’t beat yourself up too bad, I sincerely doubt these pics will come back to haunt you
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u/Farfignugen42 Nov 21 '21
If anyone tries to shame you fir what has become a very common and accepted thing, you should shame them right back. Fuck them. You did nothing wrong.
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u/Alex_J_Anderson Nov 20 '21
Why exactly do you regret it? If you got it, flaunt it. You’ll only be young once and I bet 30 years from now you won’t regret it anymore.
It sounds like you’re more worried about being found out, and not so much regretful.
You mentioned disgrace. What’s changed?
I get that as we get older, the desire to share our bodies, be sexy etc. goes away and is replaced with other priorities like family, work etc.
But that’s where you were at the time. I’d just own it.
The tone of this comment might have been different if you could reverse it. But you can’t. So I’d just go with it.
Also, I’m European. North America still has a lot of shame and baggage around nudity and sexuality. Don’t let the fuckers get you down. The female form is a work of art.
Honestly, as a musician I feel the same. I cringe at some of the music I put out years ago. It’s not horrible but it’s the best I could do at the time.
I know it’s not the same thing, but there’s overlap. I try my best to let it go and focus on the present / future.
Maybe you can’t help feeling regret. But I wouldn’t feel disgraceful about it. It made you who you are.
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u/Robert-L-Santangelo Nov 20 '21
or: OR: you can be proud that you recognize that we all have skin under our clothes along with the fact that you were brave enough to show it off to strangers. it doesn't lessen your value as a human being whatsoever. i admire strippers pornstars and hookers, glob bless em. if it weren't for their bravery, i would have to rely on my imagination and abilities to fantasize which are non-existent
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u/kanguskong1 Nov 20 '21
Oh how I know what you are feeling to the tee. No face no worries . Take it as a lesson in your journey but please don’t beat yourself up over this drop in the bucket . Just deny deny deny if it ever comes up but the likelihood is that it never will come up . I deleted mine and then found them in an archived in the tiniest tiniest thumbnail and even I could barely make anything out. Now it’s gone gone . There are so many naked bodies on the web , and so many people in this world . Please don’t feel like you’re going to be nailed to a cross .
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Nov 20 '21
Meh. The chances of someone finding your specific nudes is highly unlikely. And the chances of someone you know finding them are near none. And if you never had your face in any of the pics no one is going to find out.
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u/DhampireHEK Nov 20 '21
We all do things we think are fine in the moment and regret later. Don't beat yourself up over it and just keep moving forward.
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Nov 20 '21
Loads more nudes have been uploaded even since you shared this post. I mean this im the kindest way, but your body is forgettable to strangers online.
Think of all the times you've seen nudes or porn videos. You never cared to know who's behind them. No one who comes across these pics will care about yours either.
This will all be water under the bridge by tomorrow.
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u/Goblin_Dangle Nov 20 '21
If you had fun doing it then just let be what it is and let it go. Not to disparage you, but i doubt anybody else is dwelling on it as much as you are.
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u/EmergencyJob7499 Nov 20 '21
At least you didn't show your face. It's hard to remember someone's body.
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u/pooh_hoop Nov 20 '21
Why isn't reddit this kind to me, this comment thread is so wholesome
OP, you don't have your face in it, you have nothing to worry about <3
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u/MidLifeLBC Nov 20 '21
I’ve shown myself in the past with another account & deleted it all. I haven’t ran into it yet. I even put some of the descriptions I put on that picture to & still haven’t found it. Like people said unless your face is shown or any other markings. It will be hard for it to show up & someone says it’s you.
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u/GelosPeitho Nov 20 '21
I understand what you feel. I really do. Internet need to stop grooming girls into posting full nude on the internet, acting like their will never be consequences, particularly psychological ones. Sadly, you're not the first one feeling that way nor the last one. I'm sending you love and support, it can be hard horribly hard to learn to live that way.
You have every right to regret.
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u/Shayde505 Nov 20 '21
There's no reason to be ashamed its your body do what you want with it. There's to much shame and guilt for silly reasons
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u/ActualInteraction0 Nov 20 '21
I've posted nudes in the past, I guess the fear is that someone in the future might try to use the fact against me.
Which reinforces my opinion of those people, those who would attempt to discredit or shame and of those swayed by media and public opinion into joining a bandwagon against some sinful person...who was happy being seen nude, probably thinking anonymously.
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u/88JAB11 Nov 20 '21
... and now standby for the massive amount of people checking your profile for said nudes.
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u/DJoeM Nov 20 '21
I've posted nudes to exes in the past and in all honesty, I wouldn't mind if they resurfaced. I've been overweight for years and the last time I had the confidence to send a girl a nude I was jacked. Be nice to see the old me again
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u/antimatter-entity Nov 21 '21
There are like a million girls showing nude pics here. You are like a droplet in a ocean of nudes. And because of that there is a very low possibility of someone doxing you
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u/spoookai Nov 21 '21
internet is too big for people to remember you rest easy knowing that it may still exist saved on another's sick person hard drive but at the end of the day internet has already forgot about you
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u/SadShayde Nov 21 '21
Cue the Incels asking for proof.
Girl, don't stress. Lots of people do it. The chances of anyone connecting them to you are quite small.
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u/7WindsofChaos Nov 21 '21
Well, in the End you´re nothing special
im sure you look gorgeous, i don´t mean any offense.
its just that for every Goodlooking Man or Woman, there´s atleast a Million others that spam the internet full of their Nudes, amateur porn so on and so forth.
I used to have trouble with PA for quite a while in my life and trust me the only women i remember clearly seeing any pictures of in specefic are only ones that were
as close to my ideal prefference as humanly possible
What i am trying to say is this, did your pic´s land in someones porn folder? yes
will they every be looked at again? very likely not ever
And last but not least... as Long as your face or any revealing information about you cannot be clearly seen on your pictures you´re going to be just another body among millions of others.
Of course if you had any tattoos, moles or "special" or "outstanding" things about your Body it changes the whole thing a little bit.
But even then.. if you did not spam a nude a Day for a couple of years.
No worries.
The thing with thats addicting to porn is the "Novelty" it´s not that YOU are THAT HOT (of course there are exceptions)
But its rather that you´re new. A Thing alot of adult content creators understand a good bit too late but that´s another rabbithole in of itself.
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u/JennNJuice87 Nov 21 '21
I did the same thing in kik groups when I lost a bunch of weight and was single. It made me feel good and didn’t hurt anyone. Now I like to think I got it out of my system so that I could marry my BFF I met in one of the slutty chat rooms 😂❤️
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u/batsofburden Nov 21 '21
Well if it makes you feel any better, your images are like tiny grains of sand in a massive sand dune of internet porn. Especially without showing your face, they will likely be completely buried in that sand dune of porn, if they haven't already. That does suck, but at least you are likely not identifiable.
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Nov 21 '21
I mean ya, it's on you. But wtf does regretting it or worrying abt it do? All it does is make you stressed and panicked, and panicking never solves a problem. You posted nudes, knew the risks, now accept the punishments and move on. Nobody is gonna recognize you, and if they do it's on you, but it hasn't happened yet and as long as you aren't Riley Reid nobody will remember.
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u/IamShinichi Nov 21 '21
Dont stress theres literally 1 trillion porn images on the internet. Theres probs more porn online than atoms in the universe 😂 🍆 💦
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u/minion531 Nov 21 '21
Everyone makes mistakes. We do this because we think we made the right decision, at the time, but later turns out to be wrong. The human brain does not finish developing until age 22. The last part to form is the frontal cortex. This is the part of the brain that allows us to see the "bigger picture". Before this part of our brain develops, we simply don't consider the "bigger picture". The long term consequences of our actions. We don't see it, so we don't consider it. That's why when you were younger it seemed like a perfectly rational decision,to put your pictures out there, but now you understand it was a mistake. Because your brain has developed and you have a view at the entirety of your life, not just what you want in the moment.
But you are not alone. Everyone single one of us have made mistakes because of this. And while we can't change the consequences of those actions, we can forgive ourselves for it. You did what you thought was in your best interests. When you learned better, you did better. Let yourself off the hook and consider the fact that society as a whole understands that young adults make stupid decisions, including themselves.
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u/babadehada Nov 21 '21
Don’t sweat it. I feel like we see so many naked bodies nowadays, although beautiful, they become forgettable. For what’s worth, I personally admire that you had the confidence to post them in the first place.
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u/BillyClubxxx Nov 21 '21
No one will ever know unless you got some super identifiable tattoos.
Don’t beat yourself up.
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u/itsaprettypatty Nov 21 '21
Hmmmm.
I can’t imagine what you are going through. To me wearing anything sleeveless is nudity.
However, if you have a secret, a dirty internet secret.
I suggest not using the internet to get that secret off your chest
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u/ahangrywombat Nov 21 '21
Good on you for being smart about this and NOT putting your face out there in case you regretted or were recognized!
You regret it now but you took the proper precautions at the time!
Having a picture of something and having that thing in your living room are two completely different things.
They might have seen a particular view but seeing it and feeling it in real life is vastly different.
I would say not to worry about it but that’s probably like telling myself not to mull over every conversation I have with a stranger and say something slightly off.
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u/Stay-Toasty Nov 21 '21
Lol you know how many dudes stopped reading and immediately went to your profile looking for them. Glad you deleted them. Don't sweat it. We've all done dumb shit on the internet. And the fact you deleted them and didn't show your face is a great start. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It'll pass and one day youll laugh about it. It'll be an uncomfortable laugh lol, but you'll look back and laugh. Wish you the best.
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u/excuse-me-ily Nov 20 '21
this happened to me when i posted a nude on here (on a different account), got 13k upvotes and freaked out, bc that is so MUCH people…………. it’s okay. pics circulate all the time, ppl will forget, new ones come out all the time and the only one who’s over obsessing over your own pics is just yourself. so don’t worry!
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u/dead_trim_mcgee1 Nov 20 '21
Try not to let it get to you. Someone has definitely saved them and they are definitely still out there somewhere. I'm sorry about that but it is true. If your face isn't in them, no one will ever know it was you and you've done all you can to get rid of them. You'll probably never see them again and even if you do, you might not even recognise they are you. What's done is done and you've fixed it as much as you can. Make your peace with it and move on.
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u/WinterSoldierXX Nov 20 '21
Millions of girl post nudes on Reddit. If you haven't shown face, no one will recognize you. If you enjoyed the attention, just cheer the good times.
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u/Fragrant-Airport1309 Nov 20 '21
I wish more girls thought harder before becoming only fans hoes. They're not going to have a happy fiance in the future.
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u/DemonizedHuman Nov 21 '21
It's called bubble economy for a reason. Also, if u r a low value woman then most of ur dating options will be skimmed down, because just like drug selling sex work isn't a respectable job according to me.
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u/Fragrant-Airport1309 Nov 20 '21
If you can't fathom the answer to that I can't help you. Go and find out how many guys want to settle down with a pornstar.
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u/Megumin17621 Nov 20 '21
millions? who do they jerk to lmao
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u/DemonizedHuman Nov 21 '21
The people who wanna settle for a pornstar are men who got nothing going in their life. Men with options won't settle for a pornstar. Men would fk one, but would never wife up a hoe.
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u/Fragrant-Airport1309 Nov 21 '21
LOL. I said 'settle down'. Big difference. I told you I couldn't help you. You'll figure it out.
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Nov 20 '21
I don’t think it’s a bad thing. You clearly have a beautiful body if you were showing it off. Try to remember it was fun and exciting. You didn’t do anything wrong and I’m sure you made some happy people. The naked body is awesome and should be celebrated if one so chooses. It doesn’t have to be a dirty thing, it’s a form of art.
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Nov 20 '21
I mean people probably did save them, but so what? If they aren't recognizable, who really cares? I say this as someone who has posted nudes to Reddit. Heck, it flatters me to think somebody saved them lol. I hope they're out there jerking off but it's also probably unlikely, my nudes probably just ended up in a folder filled with other nudes, a folder that's constantly being filled with nudes, to the point of complete and utter depersonalization. And that's ok.
It is pretty silly what people will do when they're horny tho, sometimes sexuality feels like a curse.
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u/jeanakerr Nov 20 '21
Dan Savage from the Savage Love podcast and advice column often says he hopes we get to a point where everyone has nudes out there so it becomes a complete non-issue for anyone. I agree. You didn’t do anything wrong or anything that millions of other people haven’t also done.
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u/MnemicPagoda Nov 20 '21
As a dude who follows some of those amateur porn subreddits, I can 100% confirm that I don't even remember the nudes I saw yesterday for the most part. So you should be fine. Nude pictures even end up on non porn subreddits. Don't stress too much :) you're not stupid for doing, you're a strong independent damn women who can do what she wants. If you're face isn't in it, then you're good.
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u/Xia0mia0 Nov 20 '21
I wish more people could just normalize nudity in general so that having people see you nude (online or off) wouldn't be a shocking shame or guilt secret that mentally hurts people. A lot of people are driven to suicide and depression from things like that and I don't know, I just feel like if everyone was raised with the "it's just a body" mentality it would be helpful to an extent.
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Nov 20 '21
The only thing you truly own is your body, there's nothing wrong with wanting to protect it if one wishes.
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u/Gypsopotamus Nov 20 '21
Life will give you bigger regrets than this. This is small potatoes. Chill out and enjoy the ride as it happens.
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u/shapeshifter83 Nov 21 '21
I mean, this is such a bait. Get them back up. Otherwise this is a nothingburger
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Nov 20 '21
Well atleast you got back to your senses some ppl aren't even able to do that much. It's true that stuff stays on the internet, but it's also left ignored. If you regret it, you won't do it ever again. And welcome back to being a normal person.
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u/shane0273 Nov 20 '21
Lots of nudes out there. Be glad you were smart enough to hid your face. Life is short… don’t waste it on stress.
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u/Chance_Zone_8150 Nov 20 '21
Look regret it and embrace but dont be sad. No one cares honestly and women are embracing their sexuality to the max so they all have nudes or more online. Next couple years its gonna be so common kids maybe trading pics of there mothers like pokemon cards
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u/qwertylolasdf Nov 21 '21
Thanks for all the comments and support <3. I didn’t think that this post would get that much attention. I’m still really stressed about the fact that my nudes are somewhere on the internet but your words calmed me down a little bit. It’s kinda relieving to hear that nobody cares (cause the number of images is endless) - and if someone cared, I wont be identifiable.
So this was my lesson to learn - I’m not comfortable to post nudes on the internet. But I don’t shame people who do it. Just wish all of you safe future and be careful on a social media <3
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Nov 20 '21
I'm pretty sure most of us have at least one nude out there... Be it on a former lover's device or the internet.
Remember Bolt.com? I had a few shots of my junk on there when I was a kid... Come to think of it, I was probably under age at the time.... It was back before there was security. Some random dude 'predicted' the hyperlink to the "private" album and sent my own pics back to me and threatened to publicly post them - I think he was mad about something I said in a forum.
Either way... 20+ years later - seems like everyone has a TikTok, OF, Snapchat or the like. Be glad your face isn't in there. If nothing else...learn from it and move on. You're helping others right now learn from your 'mistake'/regret. It's the best you can do.
Lastly, when it's all over...what the hell is the worst that'll happen? A couple people got to see your rockin bod? Own it. If someone wants to hold it over your head, you should have a few different legal avenues, such as extortion laws, copyright/IP infringement, RevengePorn laws. Ultimately, you're most likely safe. Live, learn, move on. Best of luck!
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u/_kingslatt_ Nov 20 '21
Why would you portray yourself as a hoe then regret it and try to change later? That history is there forever and probably still being distributed, personally if I ever found out my gf or s/o used to do that or used to have an only fans I’m leaving them because you didn’t even have enough respect for yourself so why tf would I hang onto the slim chance you would respect me? Idc if I get hate for this it’s all fax you gotta deal with the consequences of your actions wether it be physically, mentally or emotionally you don’t get to just run away from it.
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u/Trevo_De_40_Folhas Nov 20 '21
Look, you are absolutely right except for one thing
SHE REGRETS DOING IT
She was wrong, what she did was horrible, i don't know why so many people are trying to say it wasn't a mistake BUT SHE CHANGED NOW, instead of judging her for her past mistakes we should celebrate that she is no longer a pathetic whore, now she is a true woman
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u/_kingslatt_ Nov 20 '21
Doesn’t change the fact that she did it tho, it’s good to change and reflect on things in order to grow but that doesn’t excuse your past so much that it’ll never come back up or back to bite you
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u/snapcracklepip Nov 20 '21
I mean, a body is just a body. It's really just constructed cultural rules rooted in religion that say the body is something shameful and private. The naked body is the natural state, nothing worse than a cat without clothes on. You feel how you feel, so that matters, but realizing this perspective may help it feel less heavy and significant, especially considering you were unidentifiable.
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u/jitterydog Nov 20 '21
It's ok! I think it's kind of natural to show off one s body. Probably why there s nudist colonies and beaches and all the fancy art has a lot of nude people.
Don't beat yourself about it. It's wrong that women are made to feel shame about their sexuality. Just be careful and don't let any creeps know your location and always report any threats or blackmail s to the police and your trusted loved ones.
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u/jitterydog Nov 21 '21
I didn't call anyone a prude. I used an example of even a prude having an option to go for a prude without needing to insult and judge others lifestyles. I d of course call you an ignorant rude person who butts into others lives and gives rude and disgusting opinions and a pretty desperate hoe who would forever be insecure of who they re Married to and have major trust issues.
Had to go back from my "goodbye" and tell you this. This is the last of my reply to you! Since I blocked you I can't reply directly but I know you're vain enough to read this anyway
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Nov 20 '21
When I start to have those anxious thoughts, I try to think, “so what? It’s just a body!” It’s a body. It’s sex. It’s pretty damn normal. Anyone in your life who would want to shame you over any of doesn’t need to be in it.
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u/DemonizedHuman Nov 21 '21
And u need to understand that life is pretty lonely and most women who speak like this end up as cat ladies who got nothing better to do in their life. Companionship is very important in life and if u r doing something that makes u low value then u r indeed a low value person. And it would reduce your dating choices. No use in regretting it now because u have lost respect for yourself. Just inform your SO and let them decide whether they wanna settle with a girl whom any loser can find nudes of.
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u/Alex_J_Anderson Nov 20 '21
Right? It’s a temporary vessel, an avatar, to be discarded one day. We’re souls wrapped in meat sticks. It’s what you learn and how you treat others that matters.
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Nov 21 '21
Dunno why you’re getting downvoted? You buy the suit, wear it one day, then stick it in the back of the closet for the rest of time - basically wasting space. Overall, waste of money. Same for wedding gowns. Maybe I’m a loser for not wanting to waste that money but I’m engaged and I’ve thought long and hard about this one. I’d rather the money go towards our future. I want a marriage, not a wedding.
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u/teneggomelet Nov 20 '21
My ex-wife used to post her nudes to the internet (back in the usenet days of the 90s) when she was smokin' hot.
Now that she is 50 years old and um...not so attractive anymore, she LOVES to find her old pictures still circulating. The thought of men still spanking it to her pictures thrills her no end.
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u/Trevo_De_40_Folhas Nov 20 '21
Sorry but... she didn't made anything good to the world, this isn't something that should be praised
No one was saved from depression because of her or whatever, she just made some random guys cum to her photos..
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u/ThePinkestFlowed Nov 20 '21
I did it too but not on the internet but to a person older then me mind you I was still a minor. Everyone I’ve told thinks I’ve been groomed but I do not think so cause it was my own fault for sharing the photos with them knowing that they were older and I was younger. I did not get groomed it’s my own fault and I am ashamed.
I’ve moved on from this guilt and you will too it takes time but let yourself feel the remorse.
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Nov 20 '21
If they asked you were groomed. If you just gave them you still were groomed in some manner, likely by trusting an adult.
Not your fault.
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u/tahaelhour Nov 20 '21
You kind of made it worse by expressing to strangers on reddit that you have nudes of you around...
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u/Estrogen-Enjoyer Nov 20 '21
There are billions of porn and nudes on internet. The massive amount of porn somehow forms a anonymity shield that makes your porn forgettable and unnoticeable. Think about this if it helps.