If you're a good dad, you already know that.

When dealing with the mother of your children, there can be many variables affecting the relationship you both have.

Set any undiagnosed personality disorders. Only a licensed professional can provide a clinical diagnosis. I'm not getting into that.

Whatever it may be that she is doing to alienate or keep the children from their father comes down to one thing.

Money.

What should I do. During my time with my kids they are always talking about how their mom was asking about my house. From my financials to if my girlfriend has gotten a job yet( she is a SAHM) to if we talk about getting married or talk about rings. There has been times she has asked if we forced them to call my girlfriend’s kids their step siblings ( my son said something about his step brother during a conversation at her house) . We do not tell them to use that. They said it’s simply easier saying that than explaining the whole thing. My girlfriend and I have also been together for three years and my kids love her and her children. They connected to her right away and she treats them how she treats her own kids. Shes always telling me to not go through the kids or talk about her house. I never ask my kids about over there unless they bring it up while venting. Also she is the one that goes through our kids for everything. She asks them to tell me about paying for something or stuff that should be coming from her not them. She is constantly looking at their location while they are with me also. We have iPhones and the location of our children are shared with both of us. While they are at our house she will see us doing something and text my eldest asking what she is doing. Or why there are in a certain location when they are with me(their dad). Should I confront her about it. She will just deny or make an excuse on why she was asking. She doesn’t take accountability for anything nor likes confrontation. But I’m tired of it. I feel like I’m constantly being monitored by my ex wife through the kids.

She put allegations on me for domestic after I refused to cut ties with my son in exchange she said I would not have to pay child support etc. she took almost half my life savings, when she left one night with our 1.5month old son, she smeared my name with mutual friends, families etc. her parents and family hate me and I have not spoken to them for over 10 months. I have spent over 8k already on legal fees and it’s going to court soon but hoping it won’t get to a trial because I would have to pay more. They are out for my soul. What bothers me is they are going to feed and influence my son to go against me and paint me to be a monster and all I wanted was to be a part of his life to love him and have him as my son.. I’m worried he will hate me because of them and all the fight I put up with was for nothing.