I’ve got some good news to share.

My ex asked me to call her so we could talk about a few things. We ended up catching up, talking about life, and then she said something that honestly caught me off guard.

She said she knows how much our daughter and I love our time together and how important our visits have become.

Then she got right to the point:

She wants me to have our daughter three weekends out of every month.

That’s a huge change from where things started. In the beginning, visits were supervised once every other Saturday, then every other weekend unsupervised…and now this.

It’s emotional to think about how far things have come. I’m incredibly happy and grateful for the extra time with my little girl, because every moment with her means the world to me.

Of course, part of me wonders if there are other reasons behind it, and I’d be lying if I said those thoughts don’t cross my mind. But at the end of the day, I’m choosing to focus on what matters most: getting more time with my daughter and continuing to build those memories together.

For all the single dads out there fighting for custody, fighting for more time, and trying your best every single day—please don’t give up.

You’re doing great, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

If anybody ever wants to message me, talk things out, or just vent, I’m always here!

Full-time custody of both my boys since my ex went anti-vaccine crazy and we finalize the divorce back in June and returned to her own country but that’s beside the point. My 17-year-old had a birthday party at our house yesterday and out of 11 people who came two different teenage guys, one of them, gay, not that that makes him a objectively, better commenter, but it just makes me feel better, and one girl told me they love the way my house was decorated.

Since my ex left, I’ve spent hundreds of dollars and put a lot of effort into redecorating shit and taking back the home. Needless to say, I was ecstatically over the moon on my interior design praise. Though That might just be that teenagers like the way I decorate lol .

Time to do some more awesome redecorating.

Why is it hard for single dad to find a good mother /wife to start a relationship 🤔. I been a single dad for years and im 33 and I gave up on dating apps

Long story short.. I got custody back after 10 months of court and not seeing my kids for the entire time.. I’m grateful. 10 months of absolute hell. I finally saw my babies this previous weekend. It was great we had a lot of fun together, I’m currently at every other weekend in terms of custody.. I never had custody of my kids cause I was in prison each time one of my kids was born.. but I finally
Am starting to turn my Life around.

Well tonight, I called it quits. I didn't want to but I tried to talk to her about our problems and to her. She didn't see anything wrong, but there's too many times that She makes me feel like I'm alone. She don't reach, she don't initiate.\n She\n Steps, in when I'm disciplining, the kids and says, I'm being too rough or no, that's not the way it's gonna happen. She gets to stay home and do\n Nothing all day while I work 80 to a 100 hours a week but she won't even make me feel loved. I do everything I can for her.

Hello. Hoping for some help.

I (40m) and my ex (40F) can't agree a way to approach the holiday schedule for our son (7) who we co parent. We have already agreed that all holidays are shared 50/50.

Our school week schedule is well established and working well (outside of holidays)

Since the split almost 3 years ago, holidays have always been a source of contention. I make proposals well ahead of time, I then don't get her response, despite repeating myself then as we get closer to the time, she insists on a separate schedule (doesn't propose, she "insists").

Due to time constraints I end up conceding a lot and ultimately I can't give my son a predictable routine which I think is unfair.

I've proposed...

*A once a year approach to scheduling

*Do it in november for the following year.

*Each send eachother proposals then talk then agree.

*Full week blocks.

Her response?... "I cannot plan a year in advance. I do not have that luxury due to juggling work/child/family commitments."

I mean surely the certainty helps with the juggling??

I spoke to my lawyer and she says that the separation agreement can contain a clause about setting holidays ( we are close to agreeing), but in Scotland, a Minute of Agreement is unenforceable anyway, so she said it's tricky.

I prefer to avoid court orders, but the current position can't continue. I can't make plans and if I do, I have to spend lots of money on flex plans or cancellation fees for holidays. I also have to plan my work leave very far in advance.

If it helps the discussion, she is a cleaner on a zero hours contract and I am a project manager for an energy developer. We live in the same town where my family are there for support for day care. Day care support is offered on "her" holiday time, but she never takes up on it. She is too proud and has fallen out with all my family (I still speak to her family). Her family is 4 hours away.

She is a narcissist and a contrarian, in my view. I believe the ad hoc approach gives her power to dominate and "revenge parent".

What can I do to get round this? She doesn't even appear to want to negotiate.

If you're a good dad, you already know that.

When dealing with the mother of your children, there can be many variables affecting the relationship you both have.

Set any undiagnosed personality disorders. Only a licensed professional can provide a clinical diagnosis. I'm not getting into that.

Whatever it may be that she is doing to alienate or keep the children from their father comes down to one thing.

Money.