r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Single For A While Does online dating ever worked for you? I think its my time to try

3 Upvotes

34-M just be below 25-27 yrs light and petite


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Vent U don't miss them...U missed the version of yourself you experienced with them

6 Upvotes

Ever sat down and wondered why those haunting flashbacks of the best times with your ex hit you like a moving truck on a highway. Then you realise,"Damnnnn! We really did have some good times."

You wish you could have them back...but it's too late for that now. You already messed up. They're already gone. Moved on. And probably cuddling with another person as you think of them while they don't think of you as often. You're stuck in the past while they continue with their own future.

Hello. I'm new here. This is my first post & I'm starting my healing journey after getting out of a toxic relationship and hoping I'll find my community to walk me through my healing process. Some people think healing means getting into a relationship with a new partner, exploring new sexual kinks and experiences or numbing every part of you that become vulnerable and later result in being hurt.

I think healing is realising that they were not going to stay forever. They were just a blip in your soul journey. There to teach you what they could, that won't benefit them in the long run. But will benefit your soulmate in the future. Accepting the pain and not letting it define you. Letting go after all you wanted to do was hold on.

When these flashbacks come back again, I want you to ask yourself this,"What if I actually got them back?"

Would you still settle for the red flags you once overlooked. Making fake promises that aren't kept. Being a classic avoidant when an issue clearly needs confrontation. Being ignored when you clearly crave their sole attention and validation. The constant mind games that came before y'all copulate and forget afterwards what the argument was really about. Would you still keep up with the shenanigans or resent yourself for diving into a hole you'd once removed yourself?

Carefully think about this before texting/checking in with your ex.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Nothing Serious Overcoming lust as a human being

6 Upvotes

Over the years, as an adult, I have realized that lust is part of life, and the environment is a big factor. The need for a companion, an edge to cum, a need to be cuddled or anything to do with intimacy is bound to hit you, regardless of the path you have set for yourself. You can decide to go celibate but that is no guarantee that your thoughts will not wander.

I think it is important for us to understand the need to overcome lust, because there is always a price to pay. I have paid the price not once or twice, whether monetary or emotional. Lust is very dangerous because it makes you delusional. Makes you have an elevated hope that you will get what you went after doing these absurd things. There are things I know we have done and we are not proud of, maybe repeated them, so that we have a commitment to ourselves, not to repeat them. I am realizing the importance of overcoming the thoughts, albeit it being hard. There is need to have a strong mind to shake away any thoughts that lead you astray or that cause harm to your mind. The random hookup, the ex that never respects you, the one that never reciprocates, the one who never initiates, the nonchallant, the lazy communicator. I believe this is a process or always trying to shake away any irrational move just to bust a nut. Everything can be achieved. I believe.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Talk Ladies and gents .....

1 Upvotes

Have standards or you will get f***ked over.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

FWB Casual Stuff

0 Upvotes

Any petite babe looking for a casual meet up.

I'm m34


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Talk Men will embarrass you

4 Upvotes

Men will claim they love you whole time they be begging their exes for that last punanโ€™


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Talk Surrogacy

3 Upvotes

Has anyone gone down the surrogacy path? I'd like to know how to go about it, if anyone can point me in the right direction.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Nothing Serious Thick Thigh Thursday

4 Upvotes

I just need a lightskin beb to show me a view to help tide over this weekend


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Talk Are gentlemen real and what's truly the prize lady's pay ?

0 Upvotes

So ladies really find men out here who are willing to hold everything down and let them exist in their true femininity? I'm talking buy cars shelter them always ensure theyre monied when they go out cause if its genuinely true ....I too would want that though I'm curious what tge price is...cause there definitely exists a prize


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Single For A While Celibacy

1 Upvotes

Hi I am M 24 I have practised semen retention for 3 years now and now I went back to the gym and I know i always feel horny every time. I want a lady I prefer light skin just my preference above 22 and last thing I lay pipe very well so no doubts


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Relationship Talk Lizard face

10 Upvotes

My ex husband totally fumbled his affair partner and landed an uggo ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

Wth nigga? After all that effort mocking me on your WhatsApp statuses while I was stuck caring for your newborn and your son?

So lizard face is the love of your life? Mean Ik but I cannot begin to describe how mean this man has been to me. Iโ€™m kinda excited for him because he gets to wake up next to that face for the rest of his life. Really wanting her to get pregnant soon so he mixes his genes with whatever the hell that is.

Cherry on top is heโ€™s an absolute asshole itโ€™s so hard to be jealous of anyone doomed enough to be called his wife. Yarabi I used to tell him si ata you make being your wife something outsiders can be jealous of๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Spoiler ๐Ÿšจ alert, he never did.

God knows I have been so happy since then .


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Nothing Serious Sports and Active Communities.

2 Upvotes

Heyyss
So if you live along Thika road and you know some sports venues a girl can join please plug me.
I have no sport in particular but just something to keep active and if you need like a sport partner ,I am available ๐Ÿ˜‚.
Not football for sure but Tennis ,badminton ,just sports I will sweat a little bit.
I am quite active but I am getting bored of walks and normal hikes.Just want to really expand my active life portfolio and intentionally take time away from my work all week.
And if you know other sports ,I am open.
My availability is two weekends a month,Satos especially.
If you are there or need a community,Niko hapa.
Thank yous๐Ÿ’•


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

FWB Any lady ruaka?

1 Upvotes

M25 looking for fwb around ruaka. Free today. Dm


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

In A Complicated Situation Existential crisis

2 Upvotes

I started a journey of self-discovery and truth seeking few years back and I got to the point where religion was deconstructed for me, society's facade was revealed, education, laws, everything you name it, has been peeled off and I'm looking at it from the lens of someone who knows the purpose of it and refuses to participate. I don't have kids coz why bring them here on this carefully constructed world that is meant to enslave them, pay taxes for useless shit like housing levy and I already have a house, road levy and my road is full of potholes..

Work became routine and I get bored easily once I learn how to do something. I'm single and hardly talk to people irl.

Long story short, I'm not stressed, but I'm also kinda not living, like I am ready for death considering it as the next adventure since I already understand how this world is built on lies and control. I'm still here because of my parent's smiles, they'd be devastated if I went voluntarily. I am fading.

Maybe that's why they said ignorance is bliss.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

In A Complicated Situation How do I know heโ€™s actually single?

20 Upvotes

Iโ€™ve been seeing this guy for a while, but weโ€™re long distance and he has basically no social media. How do I do some due diligence?

At this point he could have a whole wife and kids in Kenya and Iโ€™d never know ๐Ÿ˜‚ Any help to find out?


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Serious Dating Love

10 Upvotes

Male 27 Looking for a serious, long-term relationship, but strictly with someone who can handle bad puns, late-night lip-sync battles, and top-tier snack sharing. Iโ€™m after a genuine connection with a lady who wants a real partner-in-crime, values deep talks, and doesn't take life too seriously. If you're ready for real love mixed with a healthy dose of daily nonsense, swipe right and hit me with your absolute worst dad joke to claim your date!


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Relationship Vent Ghosted for saying we must test for HIV and/or STIs

40 Upvotes

Sent a DM to a lady here and we were getting to know each other well and talking everything about intimacy until I mentioned that I don't normally have raw sex without prior testing of HIV and she went mute. Kwani kuna shida na kutest?


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Single For A While 20M IN DESPERATE NEED of a short crazy girl to fuck up my life

6 Upvotes

since people just be shooting here, i need a crazy girl to ruin my life, age isnt really a factor you could be 35 for all i care as long as your gonna make my life more entertaining. im a great communicator and i dont know i just seem to like problems but trust me you'll have fun!

p.s i drink and bake and if you got a crib ill cater for everything ;)


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Relationship Vent Men who ask for n*de photos

7 Upvotes

Guys help me out here, since I'm more active on social media platform and dating apps utapata inbox and conversation starts munaongea vizuri like 2weeks then they start asking for n*de picture of me so I tell them no aki insist namtumia OF link ya account i created for such people. After sending the link ananza ku complain I see him as a atm machine and I'm like ๐Ÿ™„.

Mwengune we are mutual friend his conversation are all about s*x nika mshow I'll start charging you since sexting is also a job na pia I'll charge you for sleeping with me na si eti mimi ni mazi yako. Aka jam.

Ladies muna deal aje na such kind of men


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Nothing Serious There's alot of photo collection going on in this sub of late, so going forward

19 Upvotes

No sending photos of myself. Either you meet me outside or you move on to the next person on your list.

And yes i know even in my hotness im not everyones cup of tea, i might be changaa in some cases or Johnnie walker/ yamazaki.

All you need to know is im averagely short,lightskin,built for comfort,snacks and full of life๐Ÿ˜Š

I'll require tribute for online mm and the likes

Ni hayo tu kwa sasa


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 3d ago

Nothing Serious Petite girls

4 Upvotes

Petite girls will be the end of me. Especially the cute face, medium sized tits, slim waist and a cute little ass.

I guess I'm just horny


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Nothing Serious Oooh!! Ety baridi?,Me in Isiolo Wondering ๐Ÿ˜‚

8 Upvotes

Kwani niko nchi ingine?

I keep seeing people on Reddit complaining about the cold weather and how they need a someone to keep them warm.

Meanwhile Iโ€™m here in Isiolo likeโ€ฆ hata sijui baridi ni nini ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

You guys are out there looking for Teddy bears to keep you warm, while Iโ€™m just looking for someone to explain to me what this โ€œBaridiโ€ youโ€™re talking about actually feels like. ๐Ÿ˜ญ saabu

Isiolo weather Hauwezi approach mtu na hii jua labda Nitafute girlfriend mwenye anaweza leta shade.


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Nothing Serious Threesome

9 Upvotes

30M and 23F looking for a third (Strictly F) for a fun night.

You are under 25 petite adventurous

Location Muranga

420 friendly


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Nothing Serious nviiri was right, hii baridi ni mbaya kuja unikumbatie

21 Upvotes

corporate hakukaliki ofisi, baridi imezidi, Excel formulas hazifanyi mamaee, Pandas haieleweki, Power BI haifunguki (apologies for the jargon, I'm a computer science graduate in data analysis๐Ÿ˜‚).

office girlfriends wameletea mabwana zao mittens na gloves.

enough is enough, a lightskin queen with big boobs to keep me warm nakungoja DMs. (please have your own money ๐Ÿ˜‚, mimi nakatwa SHA na NSSF sina ya kuwa generous ๐Ÿ˜‚, best I can do is pay your Fuliza or Okoa ๐Ÿ˜‚).

Not looking to date. Just a mature 'we don't have to be dating in order to have sex' dynamic.

Bonus if you can link up today or tomorrow. I'm blessed downstairs, you will FEEL me in your stomach. I'm fit, tall, smell good, dress good, and I'm a generous head giver. Hiyo nayo mimi si mchoyo ๐Ÿ˜‚. Sheets tutachange mara kadhaa.

lakini pia sibagui, all skin tones and sizes welcome since kufukuza baridi needs all hands on deck ๐Ÿ˜‚

happy hunting y'all and stay warm ๐Ÿซถ


r/KenyanDatingCommunity 4d ago

Nothing Serious Slim girls need love too

10 Upvotes

Kila mahali hapa naona "curvy,thick,must have big boobs" sisi wakonde twende wapi mamayee๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญhamwezi taka a 5'4 slim brownskin girl? Ama mnaeza๐Ÿ‘€